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Anyone ever have any luck with sites like Plenty Of Fish or OkCupid?

I'm new to POF and gotta say its pretty brutal in every way yet I still keep trying.

Its hard because you have to look at your profile page as if you were someone else and scrutinize every detail because you know you'd do the same if someone messaged you. I absolutely cannot stand taking photos of myself either.

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Does my boyfriend really love me?

>am asian
>dating white guy
>friends and family both don't like him
>brother says I am just a fetish fuck for him, sister says she swears shes seen him out and about with other girls
>parents want me to date asian boy
>my best friend says he is a player that's just tasting the rainbow
>he has admitted to me that he has cheated before and had many gf's but that he really loves me
>went through his phone and there were some flirty texts with girls and mentions of me from his friends that were vaguely racist

what do you think

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>there is literally no reason anyone over 18 or 19 should be a virgin unless there is something incredibly wrong with them
How do I find what's wrong, and fix it?
This is seriously fucking with me.

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Ok so in the beginning of this summer I took the entrance exam for the university that I wanted to go to, and I got in. However, the quota for the major that I wanted was filled (it was like thirty people or some shit), so I choose another one.

I knew that my parents were able to basically nepotism this problem away, however I thought that I had moral integrity or some shit so I decided to become content with this less useful major that I was now about to study.

Fast forward two months before university is about to start, and my parents start suggesting that they use their connections to just move me to the course that I wanted, which would be more useful to me in life. After they pestered me with it for a bit, all the while making it clear to me that I didn't have to do this, I accepted anyway.

Although I'm pretty sure now that my mother got the process in motion before she asked me so maybe I could have refused it and still got it in the end while keeping my moral integrity. rip

So now I'm a bit ashamed, and afraid that someone will notice that theres one extra person that wasn't in the quota. They could figure out that it's me by looking at the test scores and concluding that I couldn't have enrolled, but that requires digging up pdfs on the shitty university site, or maybe just finding it on their pc if they have it handy. I know that a friend of mine at another university looked up some of the people on the ranking on fb, so maybe someone will do the same for me, and I'm worried.

Whats the chance that someone finds out, 4chan?

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Hello denizens of planet /adv/. Age 15-21 I've festered in cyclical thoughts not unlike circles of hell. Tunnel vision? Yup.
These thoughts are about: past traumas/mistakes, body image issues, replaying events in my head, hating myself, death, etc...
And I hate going outside. I like nature but stinky towns, cars, streets, and cities crush my spirits.

My confidence+charisma has gotten so bad that my desire to find a good friend or three to comfortably own a house with and have fun is unrealistic now. Goddamn, how is a crippled and half-deft Eeyore like me ever gonna make more genuine friends?? My childhood best friend has a bf so she's probably gonna get married...fml.

Neglected, abused, fat because I had to cook my own meals from age 4, I was always a ruined human being. I had speech therapy until 5th grade when I became an advanced student. The school thought I was "Normal" and was kicked out of therapy. So, yeah, on top of being socially retarded I speak like a retard. Naturally I've grown to avoid social situations and grew socially anxious.

>my insecurity is pretty accurate. I am incompetent in many ways, and I can't bee myself because there's no one to be

I've never properly built an identity up. Used to be devious and loved to banter with my few friends, usually in a good mood, a reader/drawer/photographer, and confident. College devoured that all alive. Being a kissless autist to begin with it was already debilitating, but in college I became self-aware and egotistical (focused on myself) to a crippling fault. Yes. That's common. I just don't fuckin like it. Like you've guessed, in college I made no new friends and just feel like an alien...except a totally mundane alien, like some sort of ugly little doll full of fluff.

Life worsens to unbearable constraints. I miss my hobbies. I miss laughing and my sense of humor...I miss waking up in the morning feeling alive and ready to conquer the world. I miss the facade of freedom.
What the fuck can I do?

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Getting a PhD in Physics

I graduated in May with a BS in phyiscs to start a job in the semiconductor industry (intel). After 3 months here, the job has gotten mundane, and granted I dont hate it yet but I can see myself growing to hate it very soon.

I'm thinking of going back for a PhD in physics. Should I re-apply immediately? Or should I wait a year to reapply with some industry experience on my resume. Would it look bad if I only stayed at a job for this little time? On the other hand, the job has an R&D title on it so it may look nice on a resume before aplying to grad school. But this also means I'd stay here for at least 2 full years before starting graduate school

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Like the title says, I'm lonely and usually the most satisfying way to jerk off is to beat it to videos my LDR ex sent me. We "broke up" around 6 months ago and though I was a wreck at the time, my mental health has improved significantly. But ever since I met her, I couldn't get as turned on by anything else. Again, I've improved, I can at least get hard to porn or other girls now but... I don't want anything else.

We still Skype from time to time, and I'm fairly good at hiding how turned on she makes me without her trying. But she knows I'm still very into her, but the breakup was pretty mutual because the distance was killer plus other reasons.

Also, on a semi related note, I'm lonely as fuck when I'm alone. Although I see friends on weekends and shit, I feel intensely lonely nightly - probably since I got so used to talking to her every night, and though I still talk to her some nights, she's obviously not always around. I'm open to meeting someone new, but I was so attracted to her that I find I compare everyone to her. Plus I'm not exactly drowning in options anyway. How can I reset my libido, and stop relying on her to cure loneliness?

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How the hell do I make friends in college? There's a lot of cute girls that I'm to pussy to talk to, and I don't interact with anyone. I usually just try to get my school work done.

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I need some advice 4chinz

>me
>member of sports club committee for many years, also member of peak body for sporting clubs
>new members come in, take over using identity politics and driving agendas which go against clubs core ethos
>leave club committee as new committee is really gud at delegating, not so good at actually doing
>make innocuous post on fb (no names or identifying features) poking fun at new committee's methods and lack of adherence to proven policies and procedures
>no responses; personally or online
>am censured at next peak body meeting for making post. Prompt PB to instigate a Social Media Policy
>reads: "You must always represent yourself and [X] appropriately EVEN WHEN POSTING FROM YOUR OWN SOCIAL MEDIA ACCOUNTS"
Quoted verbatim.
>told that failure to sign or comply with document = vote of no confidence and immediate dismissal. No grounds for appeal.

To me that essentially says that my personal posts on any social media will be judged by my peers and acted on beyond the scope of my constitutional rights.
So /adv (particularly those of you who get off your fat smelly arses and actually do something voluntary) - would you sign?

>inb4 noice blogpost m8.

Previously posted on /pol with responses of
>faggot >>/adv

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So I matched with this girl on tinder. She was fairly cute but airheaded. Easy to talk to though. Sometimes I don't respond when she messages me about random shit. This really upsets her.

When we finally hang out we have sex. We were both pretty into it. After sex I got bombarded with texts from my friend, in which he said he needed a ride home from somewhere because he got towed. He's been going through a lot lately.

"Hey, I'm sorry. I have to go help my friend out. I'll text you later tonight."

IMMEDIATELY goes crazy. "You never respond to my texts, you ignore me, you only wanted to have sex etc." I have to talk to her calmly for 20 minutes while ignoring my friend over text. I finally tell her she's right and I'm an asshole and I'm sorry. I say I'll treat her better or respond to her texts or whatever. I get her to leave.

She hasn't texted me yet. I just got home from my friend's place after dropping him off. I've got anxiety and now I'm really stressing out because of this girl. I feel like she's going to explode on me at some point in the near future.

I also get very nervous that she might be pregnant (she's not on birth control) even though we used a condom with spermacide.

I don't know, I just need someone to tell me what they think of the situation. I can't focus on anything rn.

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>tired as fuck but have a test tomorrow for college algebra
Should I study now or in the morning ?

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I have interacted with him and played roles with him in the past. I told him yesterday how unhappy I was with the lack of attention he gives me and how selfish he is. He gave me the ultimatum he will fully submit to me and let me control his whole life IF I tell my friends he's my sissy bitch and show them pictures of him. I'd love him to be my bitch and have such control over him but I'm scared how my friends will react and judge me. Need advice please we are early 20s.. file for attention lol it's not me

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I'm experiencing money problems right and I didn't have any food so I shot a mainah, defeathered it, gutted it, roasted it with spices as I would a chicken, and ate it.

This happened about a week ago and I'm not feeling sick or anything; is this a feasible way for me to stave off hunger?

There are no laws protecting birds in my country and mainahs and pigeons are extremely numerous so no one will miss a few of them.

Can I contract any diseases from eating these wild birds that eat anything they come across?

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I'm going to preface this by saying I am genuinely here looking for help. Not judgement; not shaming. As someone who has few friends and probably no confidant, this is where I'm turning.

I am 34. I have two children; a six year old boy and a three year old girl. Both brilliant and athletic, and both adore me. My estranged wife and I have not been normal for maybe... two years. I love her because she is the mother of my children, but I have no romantic feelings for her anymore. We don't sleep in the same bed, we rarely have sex, and being in the same room with one another ultimately leads to a fight.

Jump to four months ago. Have intimate encounter with a woman much younger than me, after a ton of flirting and romantic tension. We realize we're falling desperately in love. I was not a lossless virgin before I met my wife, so I know the difference between lust and love. Things keep heating up. My wife and I grow further apart, and she starts to come apart at the seams. I don't like lying, so I admit to her that I am involved with someone.

Come home from work one evening a couple weeks ago (she's a stay at home mother) when she picks a knock down drag out style fight with me in front of the kids. She reveals to me that she has been cutting herself- she has circular gashes all over her stomach. I am in shock. Immediately inform her that A) another incident will lead to me having her committed and B)will lead to the instantaneous dissolution of our relationship. Things have been quiet for a couple weeks at this point- I am still seeing the other woman. We are slowly making plans to be together, but I am running into three major roadblocks when I am putting this together in my mind and on paper.

How far can I use the leverage of her cutting herself to ward off any fanciful ideas she has about alimony?

What is the right way to do this without destroying the relationships I have with my children and my family?

Finally- how do I make her end it? Cont..

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my fire alarm is low on battery, I've already stacked furniture and pressed the reset button with an umbrella. It goes silent for ten minutes and then goes back to beeping. I need advice on how to get this thing to stop. I'm 5'3" I can only do so much.