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Did I create a missunderstanding? 2017-09-13 05:13:03 Post No.18718549
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Did I create a missunderstanding?
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I met a woman and asked for her number after talking with her for a bit. After trying to ask her out by doing some random stuff and failing because neither of us has much time on our hands for anything else, I decide to ask her if she is in a relationship.
At this point I thought that my interests would be obvious, but she just answered yes and "kind of seeing somebody" and if I am in one. I tell her "no" and that I was interested in her in which she answers with "okay, but do you still wand to do [insert random thing here]?".
I told her no, for obvious reasons, but did I do something wrong here or is it her who doesn't understand the situation? I just feel like something is a bit off with the whole thing.
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>>18718549
You made yourself pretty clear. But it might be that she lacks people she could hang out with and was seeking to friendzone you and to hang out as a friend. Or it could be that "kind of seeing somebody" is not official yet and she would have liked to keep you as a backup plan in the case that nothing comes of it. Who knows.
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>>18718569
So what, should I still hang out with her just to try and see if it won't bother me as much as I thought?
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>>18718576
It sounds like you're already bothered. Talk to other woman while you're at it. And don't invest time on her unless she reciprocates
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Everyone I've brought into my life is toxic as fuck, I can't see a way back to being normal. 2017-09-13 05:12:02 Post No.18718545
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Everyone I've brought into my life is toxic as fuck, I can't see a way back to being normal.
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>be junior in college
>fall for fraternity meme first semester freshman year
>end up spending thousands just to spend time with probably the worst people i've ever met
>quit after two brothers beat the shit out of each other over a cocaine deal
>now isolated and lonely as none of my friends in the fraternity will even speak to me for quitting
>unsure of how to socialize with non fraternity types
>haven't spoken out loud to anyone who, for example, loves video games or nerdy shit like anime, general internet culture things
>always loved these but never had anyone to talk to about it
So the problem
>recently struck up a conversation with some guy who approached me while I was waiting between classes
>asks me about game on my laptop I'm playing, Hearts of Iron 4
"Oh it's cool, you control countries during WW2..."
> for some reason that is super difficult to say, flail desperately for a minute or two until he thinks I just don't want to talk and he leaves
>now thinking about how I've wasted 2 years of college not building any meaningful relationships
How do you talk to people if you only know how to talk to ChadBros, but fucking hate ChadBros?
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Man youll get over it. Just explain that shit when you meet someone. People will be understanding. Everything will seem more normal with time.
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>>18718545
>approached me
Jealous.
Can you elaborate a lil more on your interactions with others? With different types of people?
I'm a lot more starved, grateful for even a quick look on the train home.
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>>18718560
lol ^ this for social suicide
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So I am 23 and still live with my mother and grandmother. I have always been "babied" as in never had any REAL responsibilities to deal with. I currently work two part time jobs, one which I asked to take me off the schedule for awhile for x reason. When in reality it was just to have extra time to spend with a girl I was dating. I don't even make enough to pay my fair share of the rent/bills even though I'll buy something for myself or go out to dinner with my gf or something. Hell, I even give other coworkers my hours just so I can be off and do nothing at home all day. I know I a huge dick for doing this. I feel terrible but I can't get over the fact it doesn't matter what I'll do they will always pick up the slack. Looking in the past I noticed that I always tend to take advantage of things or people when given then chance. However when it was just my mom and I, I made sure to pay all my bills.
Of course I don't want to live with my family forever and would love to move out. But I can't shake the fact that I'd end up having to give up more of my free time of which I do nothing of importance. Of course if they literally kicked me out or if we were in a position where WE would be homeless then I would definitely start picking up my share and work more. But since we aren't there, I feel there is no point. Every job except Sams Club that I've worked has been tedious as hell and the hours go by so slow because the work is so mundane. I'm a bitch. My ex who was in the states for a few months would very often be asked to work 14+ hour shifts at McDonalds because they needed her and not once did she complain about it. Yet here I am wanting to kill myself after a short ass 4 hour shift. I need a job that keeps me active and moving rather than walking around a store all day scanning barcodes and changing prices.
How do I change myself?
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>>18718506
You need a lot more than just a new job op lol.
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>>18718521
10/10 solid advice.
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Set 3 goals
1. Financial; get a fulltime job you enjoy and are able to do for years
2. Social; Find something you both enjoy doing and benefits you socially like joining boxing classes or whatever
3. Independence; Find a place to live by yourself, rent an apartment or anything. Living with your mom at 23 isn't healthy.
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Is this girl crazy? Medically? 2017-09-13 04:34:22 Post No.18718476
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Is this girl crazy? Medically?
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She's 22, I'm 24. She has a very childish appearance and is very attractive so I guess she doesn't look like a hardened criminal you'd see on TV. She also has a funny sense of humor.
With this being said, she's crazy.
She has no other friends. The only people who like and comment on her things are her mothers friends and family. Not that this makes her crazy, lol, but she herself has admitted to me that she has no friends and that she doesn't want any. However, when it comes to men, she's been around the block. She tries to sleep with married men for the thrill of it.
I learned after becoming her best friend that there's an older man who has a restraining order on her, and now she's trying to ruin the life of another guy who broke her heart.
She also casually jokes around about killing herself and talks about death as if she's excited. She reads a lot of material pertaining to the afterlife.
I know this is all a big red flag to stay away from her, but she's actually very nice to be around.
What can I do to help her?
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>>18718476
You're actually one of her targets/victims so you should slowly start ghosting her.
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>>18718482
maybe but I have never wronged her.
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>>18718476
Get the fuck away from her.
I dated a crazy chick, she tried to ruin my life.
She probably did in some respects.
Try to put her down softly, because she'll probably make a big deal about it.
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i impulse bought some tobacco and i remembered how much i find cigs disgusting
im regretting wasting my money but wondered is it more harmful to chain smoke until im all out to stop myself from getting into a habit or not?
what do?
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You can't chain smoke a packet of tobacco. You'll get sick after three cigarettes in a row, especially if you don't even fucking smoke. Just try to sell it to someone you know who smokes, recoup some of your cash. I mean you may discount it or they would just go to the store.
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>>18718454
Just fucking throw the pack away.
Why is this a thread?
Come on.
Don't you have self-discipline?
That shit will kill you.
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>>18718454
i guess if you chain smoked all 20 you would definitely associate cigarettes with bad feelings
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I was involved in circumstances I'd rather not get into and then I got fucked over by the Witness Protection Program equivalency in my country. Now I'm supposed to make due with a new identity. Whilst I have no trouble finding employment, I am troubled by the prospect of 'no future' and 'dead-end jobs' for the rest of my life. My attempts at resolving this by asking them 'why the fuck doesn't my new identity have any sort of educational background' have not gone very well.
I've looked into it a bit and I figured that maybe I should get a GED (apparently there are testing centers here), but does it actually count for anything? I was planning on studying in Japan to become an accountant, but I'm not so sure I'll even get accepted anywhere with a GED.
Is there anything I can do or am I fucked?
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GED and go to tradeschool yo. Good luck
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>Is there anything I can do or am I fucked?
if you had no education before entering the program then why would they give you a fake education for your new identity?
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>>18718447
Uh, what?
Go to a community college or whatever equivalent there is. GED students and poor people make up the majority of those.
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Hi adv. I've come to you confused about a situation with my girlfriend. We've been together for 3 years and I keep thinking we don't go well together. We have no interests in common (she barely has any to be fair), and our views on life, politics, society vary greatly as well.
But I'm not here trying to convince strangers why I would break up with her. Actually, the thing is even though I think about all of that, when we're together we always get along well and we have fun as a normal couple would. Then as soon as she leaves I start thinking these things again.
We usually only meet on the weekends so I end up stressing over these things all week, then meeting with her thinking "i was silly, we're fine" only to continue thinking it the monday when we're not physically together anymore.
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>(she barely has any to be fair)
that's girls 101. Girls barely, if ever, do they have any genuine interests and valid pursuits in anything, pretty much.
Anyway what you have is basic falling out of love. Happened to me and anyone who's ever been in a relationship. You probably give too much a fuck for your own good.
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>>18718424
Physical touching releases all kinds of feel-good hormones in the brain, so it's really not a wonder you feel this way only when you're apart. But really, you've been together for 3 years. It's plenty of time to form an opinion whether she's someone you'd like to spend the rest of your life with. If you have doubts, it might ultimately be more fair for both of you, if you break up and have an opportunity to find someone better suited. Even if it feels like you're doing fine, when you're together, is it enough in the long run? Or maybe you could try to see each other more often and see if these feelings dissipate/increase?
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Anyone with similar experiences? Or someone who is also with someone completely different from him/herself? Can things work out?
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To my utmost horror, I discovered that my BMI is currently at 31 - my lifetime peak. That shouldn't have come to me as a surprise honestly since I've been overeating a lot recently while rarely ever exercising. This probably stems from overwhelming apathy or depression that plagues my life, but that's a different story and I'll omit it for now.
Being a fatshit is not a fate I want to embrace, but I don't have enough willpower to diet or exercise. Getting up in the morning and attending to everyday stuff drains enough energy from me. Perhaps being slim would help me break this wretched cycle and at least build meaningful relationships with others (tfw KHHV). Fatshits inspire virtually zero romantic interest in women and rarely exceed a walking comedic relief for male friends. I'd rather die than live this nightmare.
I'm willing to risk my health or life to lose weight fast. I'm too socially retarded to procure DNP or ephedrine. Any other tips?
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>>18718416
just stop eating you fat shit.
everyone makes losing weight into some kind of spiritual rocket science voodoo but its not.
Literally starve yourself until you get to the weight you want.
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>>18718416
> overwhelming apathy or depression
Welcome to planet earth, enjoy your stay.
My advice is to deal with it.
Eating disorders stem from emotional problems.
Understand what your trigger is, and control it.
I hope you're listening.
When I was about 18-19 I was around 50 pounds overweight. I realized why I was overeating and changed my lifestyle.
I cannot stress to you enough, that it's emotional.
Sort yourself out.
The food industry in the western world feeds off the insecurities of people, so to overcome them, you have to overcome your insecurities.
Good luck.
Eat to live, not the other way around.
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Research low carb high fat diets like keto or atkins and come back and thank me in a year when you no longer have a death sentence.
t. guy who lost 150 lbs this past year because of keto
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Hey adv, i'm a very anxious guy (no mental diseases or anything) just anxious.
Yesterday i made a big mistake, i was with my girlfriend (3 years together, almost 4, i'm 24 and she is 22) and a stupid thought crossed my mind "what if she lied and she wasn't a virgin?"
I tried to forget the thought but i couldn't as i remembered that she didn't bleed when we first did all that (but we did have a lot of problems that time because she was tight asf and it was hurting her a lot so it was a shitty first time). I tried to assume that her himen maybe got broken in some of our first games (mostly fingering and shit like that).
So i asked her, she immediatly got mad and broke up with me arguing "so you never let the phone off when you are with me and you never tell me who you talk to, but 3 years without trusting me?"
I tried to calm her down and i kind of did it, i went home to sleep, etc.
Today i receive a message from her saying "you disappoint me, do you really expect me to be with you despite knowing that i feel nothing but disgust towards you"
"Yes, you were right, i lied, i lost my virginity to Celina". (she used to have a gf before knowing me but she always told me they never did more than kissing or tit touching).
Do you think she is messing with me? How can i know?
What do /adv/? My world is falling apart and i'm trying my best to not break down at work :(
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Your girlfriend is a dumb bitch don't get back with her
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Don't talk to her bro. This probably sounds like shit advice but at this point to talk to her anymore is playing her game. She knows you'e fucked up right now. Just send her one more text and be like, "I'm sorry, I know I ruined things a bit. I hope you get over it, I am trying to. If you want to talk call me".
Don't do anymore communication via text. She can be fucking with you like that and over the phone / face to face you can tell when she's sincere.
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>"you disappoint me, do you really expect me to be with you despite knowing that i feel nothing but disgust towards you"
damn that's harsh
>"Yes, you were right, i lied, i lost my virginity to Celina"
ouch
just give it time, don't say anything to escalate the drama, just let the situation play out.
Its probably over, but maybe she is just being an asshole.
How many of you deal with overbearing or controlling parents?
>tfw live with grandmother
>she pretends to be passive and agreeable
>acts highly subversive and controlling
>tfw can't stay out late before she turns on alarm
>tfw she completely loses her shit when I stay out late
>tfw this is getting in the way of me getting laid
Do you guys have any ideas about what to do, other than moving out?
I can't deal with roommates for long periods of time before I go into an autistic rage and try to fight them, so having a roommate is out of the question.
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>How many of you deal with overbearing or controlling parents?
560,002 of us.
>Do you guys have any ideas about what to do, other than moving out?
You should move out if you want your independence as an adult.
>I can't deal with roommates for long periods of time before I go into an autistic rage and try to fight them, so having a roommate is out of the question.
Such are the human problems of this perverse world. There is no escape from our problems but only lesser evils.
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>>18718369
>I can't deal with roommates for long periods of time before I go into an autistic rage and try to fight them
What the fuck, man? Maybe you and your gran deseve each other. But yeah, moving out is probably your only option. Old people are set in their ways and deaf when they choose to be, so negotiating with her is probably useless. Anyhow, if it's her house, it's sorta her right to set the alarm whenever she wants to.
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>>18718383
>Maybe you and your gran
Naw, we hate each other.
The only reason she's keeping me around is because she knows I have a trust fund and she's hoping I take care of her when she can no longer wipe her ass.
I'm sticking around because I don't want to pull the trigger on buying a house, because I don't want to squander my inheritance.
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Hey /adv/, today’s my 18th birthday so I am a full adult now. The problem is I don’t know what to do with my life. I am going to a stressful school to get a shitty graphics design degree. I’ll be in this school until I’m almost 20.
Since I was 13 I’ve been wanting to kill myself and it’s really the only path I see for myself. I don’t have an answer whenever someone asks me what I want to do or what would make me happy.
I just recently visited my long-distance boyfriend in the US (I’m from europe) and it was the first time in ages that I was happy. Not only being with him but also the country itself. Everyone’s really friendly and I enjoyed the culture. My boyfriend tells me it’d be no problem for me to move to him and get my GED there but that would piss my family off.
Besides, I don’t know if I’ll get better once I move there and I feel like I’d be putting his life on the line by burdening him with my immigration and the marriage. He’s already having trouble paying for his tuition and sure if I managed to get a job I’d be able to help him out but that’s a big if.
But also, killing myself might ruin his life just as much with how attached he is. And I guess marrying young isn’t that big of a deal to him since he’s a bit older than me and all of his high school peers are already married, a lot of them with kids.
>Tl;dr: should I take the risk and move in with him or should I try to bite through school and most likely kms?
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No one likes being alive, it's stressful and shitty.
Deal with it like an adult.
20 years old is extremely young. Look at it this way, you'll have a degree and be able to get a job with decent pay.
Most people are having trouble finding decent work period.
A relationship that young will never work out long-term.
Consider your future, stop being a bitch, and get the degree.
Also, I hope you're a woman, because being gay is your first mistake.
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>The problem is I don’t know what to do with my life.
We can't figure that out for you.
>I don’t have an answer whenever someone asks me what I want to do or what would make me happy.
Neither do we.
>Tl;dr: should I take the risk and move in with him or should I try to bite through school and most likely kms?
You should do what you think is best for you.
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Turned 18 in April and I recently finished school, so I'm in a similar boat. Let's break this down bit by bit:
>Since I was 13 I've been wanting to kill myself
I'm sorry you feel that way. What makes you want to kill yourself, other than the stress of life? I've considered it a few times, but the thing that's stopped me is telling myself on all the things I'd miss out on that I always wanted, e.g. finding my soulmate, having children, etc. in addition to a quote that keeps me going "Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem - it doesn't get rid of the pain, it just passes it on to someone else" Don't kill yourself, anon. Life is shit but it always gets better, trust me on this. If things are terrible now, it means they can only get better. Besides, suicide would only bring to your boyfriend and your family - don't put them through that, it's god awful.
>I don't have an answer whenever someone asks me what I want to do or what would make me happy
No-one ever does our age and that is completely normal. There's only a rare few who know what they want to do (or think they do) with their career - most people don't figure out until they're in their 20s. I thought I knew what I wanted to do, but recently I've started to doubt my prospects since I failed school and didn't get into University. But I'm currently looking into apprenticeships and finding alternate routes - there are always solutions to problems. As for what you like or what makes you happy, I can't exactly help with that. Is there anything you like to do that puts a smile on your face or you find therapeutic, like a hobby? Your boyfriend is great, but doesn't exactly count as it's a conditional stimulus that isn't in your control. For me, I really like to cook and I have done so since I was 9 - I always offer to prepare dinner and when I'm sad, I just find myself a really challenging recipe and get to work on it.
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Hi /adv/. Is there any way to train my boyfriend to lick my pussy and do dirty shit to me without me asking? I've talked to him about it before, and he gives me dick when I ask most of the time, but sometimes I just want him to surprise me and bend me over and eat my ass without me implying so. It's not a huge problem, but it's definitely something that would make me happy.
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>>18718335
>train my boyfriend to lick my pussy
disgusting
anyways, just make a deal with him that for every time he does it you'll give him something he wants.
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Just fucking tell him what you want jesus christ
Don't expect a relationship to work with 0 communication
This is why you have more exes than friends
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>>18718335
Let me fill you in:
Us men are not mind-readers. We're not whimsical like women.
You have to tell us when you want something to happen.
Just sitting back and hoping isn't going to do anything.
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>This is why you have more exes than friends
I don't agree with that. I think that it's important to have general social awareness and skills, rather than just trying and failing with multiple people.
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Is asking for a PC when 23 too inmature? 2017-09-13 03:06:39 Post No.18718297
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Is asking for a PC when 23 too inmature?
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So, first let me say, I would love to work but I'm currently finishing my studies and it does consume most of my time. My father is a good well-known educated and working man and so am I, he has a really good salary; should I ask him that favor and give the money later or just wait for a year to be able to work? It won't make any trouble to him in any way but I just don't want to be unpolite with him by just asking for things suddenly, I wasn't raised like that and have a little trouble with deciding what to do. Pic unrelated (I do hide my powerlevel from my family though, special wardrobe on my apartment)
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I mean I think you should save up on your own for the pc. Especially if it's for games or something frivolous like that.
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>>18718307
Yeah you're right, I'll get it myself in the future through my own sacrifice, games won't go anywhere
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>>18718297
Tell him it would help with your "studies" and that you are willing to pay him back for it once you get your first job.
I am extremely lonely and am wondering if, well this stripper has taken pity on me. I go to a strip club and get private dances, for a while it was with a number of girls, but I took a shine to this one whos stage name is Cherry. Shes kind of a chunky oddball there, still holds her own tips wise because of her huge ass she can twerk, and her love of costumes and playful nature. I have been getting private dances from her for a while and the last few times they have become, a bit more. She recently started putting my hands on her body, letting me touch her all over, even when shes completely naked, shes let me finger her a few times. I don't know whats prompted this though, my friends say shes getting me ready to offer "full service" one of my friends says she probably sees me as a sucker (I tip her a lot...) This last time she rubbed my dick through my pants a little with her hands. I'm so confused. Could she really like me? or am I delusional and she just wants to whore herself for extra money? Shes told me her real name, and tells me about herself, like how she likes computer games, and built herself a computer, that she went to school for digital art, and that shes trying to go back for computer engineering. Would a stripper tell a customer all that they didn't like?
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last desperation bump
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Do NOT build a relationship with that type of person. Just stop dude, this is unhealthy as shit. Find some legitimate people, she's using you for money. The entire job is manipulation so she can get more money.
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First of all I like the pic. Second tfw no stripper gf. But srsly you should just keep doing what you're doing maybe shell ask to fuck you or hang out outside of the club... And fuck you.... Could be win win bro I envy you as a 22yo virgin with ppp
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How often are suicide rates among disabled people?
I might be next.
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100%
theyre all at least mental
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>>18718278
I wen to a school for kids with disabilities.
About 40% of us had "that" story.
So yeah, it's more common than it is among the general public.
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definitely higher than for ableds, dude
I was chronically suicidal before I was visibly physically disabled, though.
It's amusing that only now people think it would be justified