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Well OP humans are social creatures so that's a perfectly normal thing to feel and it's a primary motivator for almost everyone.
Just remember that life is inherently meaningless as we are nothing but matter suspended in space and our relationships to others is all we have to give ourselves the illusion of purpose. Enjoy!

>>18719517
>that's a perfectly normal thing to feel and it's a primary motivator for almost everyone.

Well, that certainly is a powerful proposition..

But, as far as I can tell, any sort of assurance you can feel operating under this paradigm is not real confidence. Your confidence and peace of mind here is entirely dependant on the capacity for you to be positively perceived in any given social/societal scenario. Your emotional wellbeing is at the whim of the fickle judgement of others. This does not strike me as efficient, or strong at all. (Incidentally, this happens to explain my social successes and failures, unsurprisingly).

So, everyone apparently does it, but does that really mean it's a good or healthy thing? That *I* should be doing it?

I had this revelation while I was on acid. I was always questioning whether my actions were sociable and agreeable to "society". The problem with that thinking is that "society" is not a single entity therefore there is not set rules (apart from hard rules like no murder/stealing, etc) that will please every single being on this earth. I spend a lot of energy trying to please this invisible group that we call society. So its a waste of time to even worry about it unless a situation presents itself to you.

Here watch this episode of recess where TJ learns he can't please everyone:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pPoTDCDb5_M

>>18719451
>until I find someone I'm actually attracted to

This is important. If you ask me, you shouldn't have sex with someone you're not even attracted to just to get it over with.

>>18719456
The guy is 25 and has a woman who is genuinely attracted to him.

Are you kidding?

Go for it OP.
You will see that you will gain a lot of comfidence after it

>>18719451
Consenting adults...

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>I'm young and people constantly talk shit about it. Imagine being black and being called nigger every day with smirks and laughter.

Being personally discriminated for being bald is not on the same scale as being systematically discriminated for being ethnically black.

>How can I live with this?

You can't.

>I consistently show how much it bothers me and most men usually back off from intimidation but women don't until I outright threaten them. And no, I can't pretend it doesn't bother me. It does.

Don't threaten other people. It never makes them want to help you or care about the problem that upset you.

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>>18719304
Do you shave your head? Cause I have clear balding spots like i have a front recession


im even taking a picture because I want other young baldies to see this and just know the truth.

it's all good boys dont worry. It's all good. In fact older women think it's sexy and the ones who dont dont say shit you know why? Cause young girls literally cant resist a balding man.

BALDING IS HIGH TEST BRO. When women see a balding head especially young all they can imagine is how hard and thick your cock is.


pic is of my balding pattern. Also notice how the crown and top of my hair is thinning more. This is a 1 cut.

>>18719982
Oh I just want to reemphasize that balding

LITERALLY IS HIGHTEST. Thats not a joke. This is the reason men go bald and women don't it's because build up of testosterone causes mens hair to fall out.

>>18719265
One.

>>18719265
Desu, if your marriage partner isn't your first, you're more likely to divorce

>>18719265
If you have to make this thread, you already know it's too many

IMO go to /r/theredpill and read up. A lot of it is guides, scripts etc, but there are some real nuggets. Search for trp book compilation and read the book of pook. I also liked attraction isn't a choice

If you aren't bad looking, just adopt a 'so, entertain me' attitude towards women (especially when out) and you'll come across better

>>18719253
Find someone half-decent. Stop having such high standards anon. You're not as decent looking as you think you are.

Who gives a shit? Just be honest and safe.

>>18719248
if my boss told me that id end up banging her

>>18719251
Yea, that doesn't apply here.

Seems similar to 'the hinge that squeaks gets the grease'

>>18719134
What did you do when you sperged on her? Need the details in order to help you.

>>18719134
I know this will sound cliche, but,
Grow up.

>>18719134
>girl is nice
>she's the one

Christ, all it takes to melt your heart is tell you that you can tell me anything.

Train. Jump under a train.
Do it while dark so the train conductor doesn't have to see much.

>>18719102
>>18719102
>my parents can no longer help me
>time to kill myself

Did I just read that correctly?

please don't. you may not see it right now but there are so many wonderful things in this world and your parents love you. you have so much value and people would miss you so much if you died(especially your parents). please, don't do this. you deserve life.

>>18717953
Have you tried being rich?

>>18717953
SHHTACEY!!

>>18718008
Yeah didn't work out so I stopped

>>18717877
There are multiple levels of clingly. To prevent you from becoming the unhealthy unbearable type, dont allow your life to become this cycle:
>sleep
>work / school
>bf
>sleep

You ALWAYS have to do some other activity / hobby you can do alone WITHOUT bf so he actually has breathing space to sleep, eat, fap, brush teeth and rank up in csgo.

Texting you bf memes is ok, but DONT GO MAD when he doesnt reply within 5 seconds. Keep texting to minimum and rathet ask him out on date or netflix.and chill so you can rape him later.

Good luck!

Not a guy but as a general rule, if you're sending texts and not getting replies, don't send another one.

>>18717877
Lol get off the internet you micro dick fag.

>>18717580
you just have to tell her flat out: Look, video games are like a sport and when you play together you have ot be a team and team mates have to be honest.

Just tell her you dont mean to hurt her feelings but theres certain things you wont play with her if she wont accept criticism. But at the same time dude your wife probably just loves playing with you so maybe you could lighten up a bit =/

>>18717580
Play RTS games, put her as the forward base and use her as a human shield. Keep feeding her units but make sure the fight is constantly around her. Either she'll get good through the rigors of e-tactical combat or the stress will get to her.

No more of that fairy tale MUH TOLKIEN 1488 HWYTE ELVEN WORLDS and certainly none of that sid miers crap.

I got my wife into games by smurfing with her on SMITE arena mode. Maybe try that. New SMITE acct will have you two paired up against literal retarded toddlers so at worst youll be able to carry.

>>18717534
can't really tell based on looks...

Offer to suck his dick and find out.

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>>18717534
>dopey face, check
>left handed, check
>bad choice in smart phones, check
>SJW manlet tshirt, check

doesn't look gay offhand though

>>18716425
More context OP. Were you jerking off to pictures of her or something?

If you were just jerking off to porn, she'll get over it without you even talking about it.

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You have to fuck her, mate. It's the natural course of action.

>>18716429
No, I was fapping to pictures of one of her friends.

She's gonna tell her, isn't she? What the FUCK do I do?

I don't even want to get better any more. I just want to motivate myself to get it over with.

>>18715918
fpbp

I broke up my 8 year relationship and have been sleeping with someone 20 years my senior. Part of me thinks he is using me and another part just longs for a companion. He's the second man I have ever had sex with and I feel disgusted and disappointed in myself because I don't love him and a goal in life I had was to only give my body to one man. Nonetheless, it's my second "relationship" and I can't stop because the unknown and discovering dating again thrills me.

2/3

To the incident.
A group of us had all been partying, and decided to crash at my mom's house because it was closer, and I still have a room there. It's cramped and we all just lay on the big bed. The boyfriend is drunk and immediately passes out, and I start sharing some very deep issues im having in my relationship, in the dark, on the bed, whispering. Like the rock he always is he lets me know Im not crazy, these are valid issues, and just reassures me like he always seems to do when I'm a mess. I fall asleep with hum cuddled up behind me.
I'm half asleep and feel a hand near my breast under my shirt. I'm so tired I just figure his hand strayed or something, I don't think too much about it until after what happened.
I wake up out of my sleep and feel something's wrong. I sit up and my lower back is wet and slimy. I go to feel and it's cum. The bed is also wet. I run to the bathroom to check and there is some cum on the back of my pants up top. I am positive at this point that Chris has masturbated on me. I have no idea what to do. I clean my pants and put them away, and then go in and try to clean my bed silently while they sleep. I felt sad, angry, confused, shocked, just every emotion. I decided I would just sleep and confront him in the morning, see what he had to say.
He acted like his normal joking best friend self in the morning and I even fell into it acouple of times because that's what we do. He was about to drive home when I stopped him and asked what happened last night. He says what do you mean. I tell him I woke up to cum on my pants my back and the bed.

3/4

His explanation pisses me off so much, because he prefaces it by saying this is going to sound immature "but I got horny being beside you so I started to pull my dick out to jack off, and i was so close to you i rubbed it on your back, but I didn't cum, I squeezed as hard as i could and put it back when i started."
I get really angry and scream wtf. I shouldn't have to tell you not to pull your dick out when I'm around, nevermind when I'm sleeping. And I don't know if you thought you were stopping yourself by squeezing but you def came on me, and after i just explained my relationship problem to you, and actually texted a friend right after about how you were my best friend for listening, you think its a good idea to do this.
Theres just horror on his face, and he says he intitally was going to masturbate in the bathroom, and he didnt mean anything mean he was just so turned on. I was furious, and then I asked if he thought I was awake, and he said no. Then I asked if he thought I was too flirty with him, did he think I wanted that, and again he sheepishly said no. I almost wanted him to say yes to both just as some kind of rationale, but he said no with hurt in his eyes. I started to cry even though I didnt want to in front of him, and he tried to touch my arm and I threw it away. He tried to apologize again and I gave him the most hateful look I could and said leave.
About an hour later he texted me. He said that he's always found me attractive (hes said this before) and he was so close to me emotionally and physically that night he just got too turned on and that his plan was to just masturbate next to me, but he must have cum before he could stop and I was so close he rubbed it on my back. He said he never ever wanted me to have been that hurt by him and that he was sorry. This was four days ago and I haven't responded since.

4/4

I don't know how to. I legitamitely think I was his best friend and I know he was my best friend. We are so alike and have gotten together great for two years, we have been through each others breakups with others and friends, and the one constant is we always have each other. He has literally talked me down from suicide before, driven half a state to get me out of hairy situations, I will not listen to anyone saying he was not my friend, and that this was some sort of two year plan on his part.
But my trust is so betrayed, and x100 because it was the most trusted loved person I know. But what he did was so wrong. I just don't know what to do. I have only told my boyfriend who says that I need to cut ties with him, but he's never liked him anyways. I've tried hanging out with other friends but they don't compare with what me and Chris had this whole time.
I'm not sure how to proceed. Just no contact. Factor in the fact that I loved him so much for two years and this is the only time something like this has ever happened. I dont know what to do