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Get busy doing other shit. You won't have time so you won't fap

>>18720056
But I'm busy doing a lot of other shit, college started again and I'm getting more into actually doing sports. My mind just keeps going back to it even while I'm busy and these thoughts are filling my mind and occupying it till I came.

>>18720060
And yet here you are

Check yourself before you wreck yourself bro

>>18719988
I recommend moving on sounds like it will not end well in the longs run.

>>18720001
>>18719997
not as simple as that. She's my date to a welcome back ball on campus. We fucked the night I asked her. We also made plans to go to an amusement park.

I can't go 5 minutes without her coming across my mind. I am truly in love with this girl. I want to help her and make her mine rather than just leave her.

You're not a virgin either and you're going to turn down the love of your life bc someone used her the way someone used you?
Hmmm

>>18719876
You need to work on you first you sounds like you have some very deep psychological scars. I really recommend getting someone you can talk to. Most universities have this for free.

I would say stay friends with her for now maybe hold back on dating till you can sort yourself out.

When you finally do you will know for you what the correct path is.

>>18719876
Given your initial reaction to when she told you she wasn't a virgin anymore, I would suggest going to therapy. You need to get to a place where you can move past her sexual past, but more importantly your own.

You were out of the picture. She was trying to move on. She met a guy. He lied expertly, made her feel safe, secure, and loved. She gave her virginity to him, only to realize she'd made a mistake. He'd manipulated her and built a relationship on deceit. You need to figure out why you're essentially punishing her for this and seeing her as a disgusting person. If you met someone and told them the story of how you lost your virginity, all the pain you experienced, how would it feel for them to basically spit in your face, call you a manwhore, and tell you to fuck off? You wouldn't deserve that treatment, just like she didn't deserve to be treated the way you treated her

Of the two, education since it is steady paychecks, a very cookie cutter career path, and a 'respectable career' among society.

I genuinely cant name what you would do with a Soc degree, apart from things like academia, publishing or working some family services in city hall.

education. sociology degrees are dime in a dozen. they're only useful, however, if you intend on going to grad school for a behavioral science career, like counseling. there's not much you can do with a degree in education, besides teach. it's a major in nothing, that doesn't really prepare you for any grad program.

>>18719597
I should note, that you need to be sure that you want to teach. take an early field exploration course in education, if your college/uni has one, as soon as possible. the assignment for that course is to go clock in hours at a local classroom. You should have a good idea after spending 30-40 hours observing/tutoring, if teaching kiddies is what you want to do.

-- I'm actually an education major myself, and I'm getting buyer's remorse, but I only have a year left, so I'll just see it through, and then figure things out later.

How do I start enjoying blowjobs? My girlfriend loves them, but they don't do anything for me.

I literally cannot tell her (or any other woman I've been with for that matter) how to make it more enjoyable for me. Everytime I'm being sucked my dick just goes limp eventually and I'm never even close to climax.

It's like I lack the vocabulary to tell them what to do. How do I help women (and myself) figure this shit out?

>>18717912
I envy you

Why are women mean?

>>18719839
I have type iii adhd, ive been driving for 14 years with no problem. No tickets no accidents, and i drive like 30,000-40,000km a year.

I had one incident early on with forgetting the parking break and getting out of the car. Managed to.jump back in and stop it. Thats something anyone can do if not thinking straight.

The thing with adhd is its not a disability or problem or tardation. Its just an extremely stimulant hungry brain trying to take in everything at once. If it isnt fully stimulated, it wanders.

Driving requires attention to thousands of things at once. Its highly stimulating. Its perfect for an adhd brain.

Call.the little errors newbie mistakes. The only thing id say is make it clear as fuck to your brother he cannot have a smart phone accessible while driving. That is one thing that is very dangerous to have in a car for a person with adhd.

If it was really that much of a problem, believe me, insurance companies would have lobbied decades ago to have their licenses revoked.

>>18719865
>>18719839

>cant take in outside world when watching tv
>can he drive

Actually ill tl;dr my.last post by saying this:
Tv is highly stimulating.
So is driving.

He should.be as hyperfocused on driving as he is on tv.

>>18719839
When i was a kid I had terrible adhd, I actually feel like driving is one of the things that helps my adhd because its fo im just like laser focused doing fun shit in my car.

>>18719865
Yeh ididnt even read htis post but I have to agree.
Heres the difference between adhd and autism

Autism think about it, they actually have an extra chromosome. Theyre not equal to people intelligence wise the vast majority of the time they are legitimately "retarded/mentally handicapped." Adhd isnt that way, people with adhd are just a little weird. They have normal chromosomes, there brains arent any different, they understand all the social cues normal people do and there intelligence is exactly normal with the population.

Autism =/ adhd in any kind of way. even thoug people with adhd act a little retarded some times it's NOT A MENTAL DISABILITY AT ALL. NOT ONE BIT.

Youre good and fucked. Buy vehicles with cash in the future. Hopefully you learned your lesson.

>>18719655
I'm well passed that. I'm asking how quick the process will be as far as retrieving it

>>18719665
If you pay what you owe you cna literally go get it tomorrow.

But if you dont pay what you owe asap I guarentee you will never get that car back.

They dont give out free cars to people who dont pay.

Lots of people can be assholes. For lots of people, it's easier to laugh at people and make fun of them and keep others at an emotionally safe distance. Not many people bother to use their empathy, and not many people realize that what comes easily to someone may not come as easily to someone else. Our society preaches getting laid and fucking plenty of people. It's not wrong whether or not you wait to have sex, but it is wrong that society puts so much pressure on people to behave a certain way. Those who ridicule you for not adhering to society just don't realize they've bought into a game created by humans, a game that doesn't matter because we all just turn into dirt whether we adhered to society's standards or not

>>18719553
I'm a cripple. As in "don't leave the house, not allowed to work, can't even legally drive" cripple. I didn't lose my virginity until I met my wife. In WoW. 8 years ago when I was 26.

There is nothing wrong with having standards as long as you're not an asshole about it. I needed a chick who could deal with the sheer magnitude of bullshit that comes from my being a cripple. Not too many of those in California.

>>18719561
So what now? I feel empty. I'm not required by this world, and there seems to be nothing of interest to me in it anymore either.

It's like i'm contemplating an abyss, just looking down on it. There's nothing there.

Wake me up

Stop giving a shit.

Lie to yourself using cognitive therapy. It goes like this:

You think
>I was happy when i listened to this song together with her
>I would be happy if i had her with me right now
>Therefore i should try to get back to her

Change it to
>I was happy when i listened to this song together with her
>This song is fucking good
>I would be happy if i shared this song with other people
>Therefore i should meet more people

Rationalize, you know what you should aim for.

Either way, who gives a shit. A song is a song, your past is your past. People come and go, everyone dies and so will you, and guess what, it's always alone, for each of us. You're lucky you even fell in love with someone and could share some time with her, you'll fall in love again. It's not like you're some faggot who doesn't even find a measure of interest in anything, and who has only loved a couple of people who were already taken, like myself.

If you really can't climb out of the pit to a normal, insipid reality, visit a psychiatrist, ask for antidepressives. Fluoxetine is the shittest, cheapest of the bunch, 20mg every day for a year, and after that take one every two days for a month or so to remove it. They start to work after 2 weeks of taking them, they don't bring you happiness, they pull you out of the pit to a normal and insipid life so you can build upon.

>>18719622
>its not like you're some faggot who doesn't even find a measure of interest in anything, and who has only loved a couple of people who were already taken, like myself
Tell me about that

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>Do you ever feel that you're missing out if you are not dating?

>Please share your experiences and how you have dealt with it.

Get a pet instead.

I have had sex but never a relationship. I think deep down I know I don't want anybody. I don't know why. I want friends I just don't want some girl to girl my life all up.

>>18719449
Yes this is called being a human and your dick telling your brain to breed. Much like all animals on this earth. I am in the same boat as you. But i am confident and secure in my own body that i don't need to if i dont want to. Or that it will happen eventually.

Well first of all why can't you have her? If she has a boyfriend then you could probably just make do with finding another girl that you like on the same level. Don't act like not having the girl you want right now is the end of the world my man, it won't turn out nicely.

>>18719432

she lives across the ocean. It's not common to find really cute girls who share the same passion as me. She's totally the type of girl I would want, and since I've only ever met one other like her. It kind of makes my infatuation worse

>>18719426
This happens to me all the time. I'll be really into a girl but they're either taken or not interested. I'm starting to think maybe I'm the problem. What's up with you though?

>there's no way I'll be this kind of modern, self-esteemless cuck.
>I'll just leave and tell her to make it quick

Yeah dude that'll show em. Running away like a lil bitch at the first sign of a threat.

You want my honest advice? Stand there, hold your girl close, and be civil. You'll impress her and look like less of a beta cuck afraid of any competition.

>>18719397
So amongst your tribe, you have to respect your gf exes and isn't even allowed to shake their hand. Could you tell us more about the traditions of this honour culture?

>>18719430

I'm not afraid. If I shake his hand he'll probably talk to me and ask me questions. I'll probably tell him that I'm not interested in talking to him, that would be awkward and my GF would probably be upset even though she wouldnt be much surprised. I want to keep this civil.
Besides I don't think he will come to say hi to me. I think he'll keep his distance and say hi to my gf when I'm not around.

Hahaha fucking retard

Nice knowing you OP.

>>18719368
what?

You can't. The drugs only work for as long as you take them. My grandfather still has his hair at 81. My grandmother's brothers are all bald. I'm going bald. Just accept it.

>>18719358
not balding yet

just that there might be a chance.

>>18719377
Well, I would say appreciate what you've got, whilst you've got it. Grow your hair long.

>>18719245
bro what ive learned from my years of depression and developing schizo: cry
seriously, cry it out. crying purifies your heart

>>18719271
I do a lot of crying, I just end up feeling like it was a waste of time, because something comes along and makes me cry more. Thanks for the thought though, I hope you are doing better. And I hope you have a wonderful night.

>>18719245
Take an hour walk. Power walk. Trust me anon it works.