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25 yo virgin
I don't crave sex or love but I always wanted to experience intimacy, being able to be close and affectionate with someone
I need someone to convince me it's not really that good and it's mostly in my head
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>>18493290
>looking for women on the advice board
Go to /soc/
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>>18493293
Read the post again
I need someone to tell me how it's not really that good and I don't need it
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>>18493290
Bump

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I woke up right now and my eye was in pain, there's a white dot on my eye.

Does it heal by itself, or do I have to see an ophthalmologist. I also have a bad habit of sleeping with my contacts, not the cheap ones but the soft 30 day ones, so that might also be why I got the ulcer, but should I see a professional?

Anyone have past experiences with it? No google answers please, I read through all of them, prefer personal experiences.

Thanks /adv/.
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>>18493268
>sleeping with your contacts on
Your eye probably got infection and if left untreated, you will go blind.

Enjoy shitposting while you can actually see the memes. Soon it will be obly text to speach.
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>>18493714
He still have his second eye i guess. For now at least.

So go back to sleeping with contacts, OP.
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>>18493268
Ophtalmologist

Ulcers on contact lenses wearer's are a bit different
You should go to the ER, an observation on the microscope is way more informative than the naked eye...if not, go to the pharmacy and try to get moxifloxacin eye drops, should cover most bacteria..unless you have acanthamoeba, in which case bye bye OP

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I've been depressed for half of my life. I'm 24.

I'm finally coming out of being a completely useless sack of shit, but I've lost so much in the time I was too depressed to get out of bed.

In the recent months of trying to get my shit together I've found that I no longer know myself. I don't know what I like, I don't know what I want to do, I don't know what kind of person I am or who I get along with. I'm a stranger to myself to the point where if what I'm doing takes my own decisions I'll just stagnate.

The things I coped with as a teenager no longer give me those brief moments of happiness. I used to be so creative - I dedicated the past year to getting an English Major but I'm no longer sure if I can or like to write.

Everything feels so stale. Everything I do feels tedious.

tips on self discovery and not feeling like such a wage slaving indebted pile of nothingness. What gets you feeling creative? Got any tips for sparking your own personal interest?

Help me out /adv/ I don't want to be a zombie anymore. Depression meds can only do so much.
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You can start by doing things because they're necessary or you think they're the "right" things to be doing.
I've been in a position similar to yours, and while the problem has been dealt with and resurfaced multiple times, the only way I've managed to make headway against it is by carrying on normal activity until something presents itself to you, or you discover something you like you were previously unaware of.
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It sounds to me like you're still a bit depressed. Honestly the best thing to do would be to get professional counseling. Other than that, you really just have to start getting busy. Work, gym, try and new things. Be open to people, but don't reveal all your issues at least not from the start. It takes awhile to dig yourself out of depression. It took you years to get where you are, it may take the same to get out. You won't always see where you're going but you just have to push forward. It's good that you understand there's a problem and are willing to change. Now all there is, is to do.
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>>18493247
You literally described my life.
I wish I had advice. I'm seeing a therapist since 3 years ago but he just gives me advice I could get on the internet (except for a few interesting random details maybe) and keeps telling me to look for new activities to try, but I can't find interest in anything.

Been jobless for sometimes now. In SE Asia.
Have bank loan. And literally there is nothing I can do right now.
Anyone know away or an online job to get 100$ in a short time ? Please... Help me.
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>Left my software job 3 weeks ago, tired of the work and team
>been applying for kitchen jobs, got a trial shift on monday

What other jobs could I go for, either with or without a CompSci degree? I've never tried anything else apart from software dev, and it's not really a passion of mine.
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>>18493237
I suggest you to be 1 month full blown neet, adopt some sport like swimming and read this
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Occupational_burnout

You probably like IT, you just took it too seriously. After a month apply for new jobs (maybe different type like admin, db, web, 3D, low level hardware something else) and learn how to not take your job so seriously.

I know dudes who implements features so SLOWLY it hurts. And when you ask them why, they reply
>so i dont have to start doing something else

Learn to chill. Throwing your experience (and degree?) away wont help you in the long run.
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>>18493245
Not against going back in the future at some point, but I've never experienced any other kind of job, and I think enjoyed more the fact that it was comfortable rather than because I wanted to do better at it.

Kitchen job I've gone for because food's a hobby and I wanted to try something new; actually be a bit busier and feel more useful, you know?

What I'm not sure of is what else to go for if it falls through.
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>>18493303
>feel more useful
Your usefulness for society is measured by your income in the age of capitalism. Yes that means being football star, anorectic fashion model or politician everybody hates is more useful that being doctor saving lives.

Try getting yourself into teaching. Try being lecturer at uni. Maybe telling kids about stuff will work better for you than actually doing that stuff.

Washing dishes will work for first 7 days. Do you do sport? Swimming works best for me. Maybe you just need to balance the brain VS muscles tiring ratio to feel ok.

>bonus question
What does your gf think about switching careers like that?

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so i'm deciding right now what to study at university and i'd really like to study pharmacy. however my problem is that to be a pharmacist you need to talk to costumers all the time and need to have crazy social skills and i pretty much have 0. i have no friends and never talk to anyone outside of my family and i have no desire to change anything about that. i guess it would be pretty risky to start studying it if i don't even know if i could do the job. so my question is: can i learn how to talk to people in a few years? and if yes, how should i do that?
my other option is to study something about computer science and hope to get a job as a programmer or something but i have no idea if that even interests me. also is it even true that you can work all by yourself as a programmer or is it just a myth?

TL;DR can everyone develop social skills? and if so, how?
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How difficult/easy is it to become a pharmacist?
Is there any point in a very old fag who has never been to college to try for that or is it futile?
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>>18493196
HA. There is a big difference between communicating for work and actual socializing. In fact, they're totally different. I have great customer service skills, make my living in customer service, and have 0 friends and no gf.

You'll develop those work communication skills with some practice. Afraid I can't help you with actual socializing
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>>18493201
from what i've heard the courses are very difficult but once you have the degree it's pretty easy to get a job because pharmacists are needed everywhere. i live in germany though so it might be different where you live.

>>18493207
that's nice to hear!

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>wake up having slept 5 hours
>fall asleep again
>sleep 5 hours
How the fuck do I stop doing this?
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>>18493170
I see no problem.
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>>18493170
10 hours sleep sounds dank
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>>18493170
Extreme tiredness can be a sign of something wrong with your body. Check with a doctor.

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Lost my virginity years ago, i was drunk, it was shameful and i didnt cum. Spent all these years watching a lot of porn and jerking off a lot too. I met a girl weeks ago, we had sex last wekeend, i was drunk too, althought it was really good i didnt cum, but i was worried about this the next day. Yesterday we met again, i jerked off the day before, i was horny as fuck and thought i was gonna finish in a few seconds but no way.
We tried 3 times, she was satisfied but i wasnt, she is worried that i dont find her hot enough, and im worried about everything. What should do, don jerk off at all, any tips? I dont want to masturbate today but my balls hurt like a motherfucker.
Thanks and sorry for my english.

Pic unrelated
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No more masturbation
Lay off the alcohol
Realize girls like you, just do your best
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Bamp

Are my close circle of friends are moving away from me?

This started about 2 years ago when a group of friends who had some mutual friends in our group merged with us. They're good and smart people.

But for a while now there's been reoccurring moments and acts of passive aggressiveness that make me think that primarily one or two of them have a hidden agenda.

It could be something like everyone is invited and goes to a day out except me because they some how forgot to ask me about it. A while ago I didn't do something minor and one of them just constantly shut me down whenever I tried to talk for the rest of the night even by referring back to it when it became irrelevant. Sometimes I get a cold look when I try to crack a joke too.

For context I'm 18 and it's the final year of highschool with the inevitable outcome meaning that we probably won't see each other much after this year. Recently they've started to hang elsewhere at lunch etc pulling most of our group with them for no apparent reason and it leaves our original spot with barely anyone. There's no real reason to dislike me and I get along well with everyone including my friends (who are still nice) but I think it's because of me not being a 'sheep' and going along with all the changes they keep implementing (mostly from one guy) like some of my friends tend to be since I've had this occur before in primary school of all places.( I've also heard the one guy say I'm 'so-so').

What finally pushed me to make this post is that not too long ago we had our prom and I wasn't included in a single group photo because none of them bothered to fetch me and apparently the 'one central guy' told one of my best friends that I wasn't in the squad anyway.

Thoughts? I have a lot of work at the moment so I've been by myself most breaks now and at places like the prom I've hanged out with various others but I'm not really a close member of any other social circle to the same point as my current one.
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>>18493163
Geez, I mucked up the heading.

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>28 kv socially retarded, etcetera etcetera etcetera
>You know the deal

Getting old (and desperate), thought about aiming for more realistic standards. Trouble is, seems like all the "homely" girls in my age group are in relationships and quite a few are now married. I saw a WIIIIIDE woman with a wedding band.

So where does this leave me? Every other single girl is 7+/10 with zero common interests (and I'm about as attractive and sociable as a brick). Is this hell?
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>>18493159
Lower your standards, but don't stop going after attractive women too. Play the numbers, swing at every pitch and you might hit a fastball by accident.
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>>18493171
>lower your standards

My standards ARE low, like 1/10 low.

>Play the numbers, swing at every pitch and you might hit a fastball by accident.

I think you might be misjudging the gap between me and the available girls. Like by a lot.


I'm just wondering that all the "homely" girls can't be in relationships can they?
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>>18493189
They're not, you're just really that dumb

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Hi, guys. I truly want to get vengeance on a piece of shit that I have the bad luck to know, from many years. I cannot take it anymore. I would gladly beat him up but he is such a subhuman that he would sue me just to obtain some money. Many people hate him even more than me, but they will be useless for helping.
How can I hurt him somehow?

ITT: how to get vengenace without being suspected or connected.
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>>18493130
Ignore him and live your life instead.
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>>18493130
"Living well is the best revenge"

As long as you continue to stew over him, he keeps winning. Get on with your life and you defeat him.

And as a bonus, you being happy and successful will drive him crazy
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I'm a 5'7, 19, almost 20 year old male, how can I make myself look younger? I want to be mistaken for a middleschooler or something. I'm scared of looking/being old. I think I'm pretty short, I feel younger than people my own age when I'm out around them, but I want to make sure I look that young too. I keep trying to shave my face and body but it all grows back so fast and it hurts when I try to do it every day. Even right after I shave I can still see little black stubble around my chin and by the end of the day it's even worse. There's also this really annoying shadow thing on my upper lip that makes it look like I have a mustache even when I shave it off, I hate it and I want to get rid of it. I don't have any money and I'm afraid to ask for Nair or post pictures. Please help.
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>>18493088
Why would you want to look younger than 20?
Do you aspire to become one of the dudes like pic related or something?
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>>18493092
No, if I can't actually go back to being that young, I at least just want to look that cute and young. I don't want to date anyone, I'm scared of being and looking old and I want to be small and cute.
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>>18493116
Looking mature is attractive to girls. Why would you want to look like a twink? Sounds like some gay stuff I am not able to relate to.

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Is anyone else probably schizoidal?

I finally worked up the nerve to see a psychologist today and I'm like 100% sure the guy has me figured out. I'm either a narcissist or a schizoid – honestly, at this point in my life, I'm just too tired to really care about the difference between the two labels, but we have a follow-up meeting in 4 days and I feel like this will be the longest 96 hours of my life.

What the hell can I look forward to, here?
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>>18493051
The common misconception is that introvert means shy and lonely when in relativity it means you enjoy the company of yourself more than others and prefer activities on your own. I identify with you a bit, a person said I have narcissistic personality disorder. Do you like being alone? I am assuming that you went to seek 'professional answers' because this is a problem for you?

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Well, shit. I've been going out with this girl (two dates so far with no kissing or anything) and felt it wasn't going anywhere, so offhandedly invited her over for movies and dinner thinking she'd say no. She fucking said yes.

Any general advice? I'd like to try for a relationship with her as she's friendly enough and attractive. I've never actually had a girlfriend - I've done some kissing at parties and such but that's it. Obviously I'm planning to cook something simple but tasty, and to pick out some movies that might suit her taste, but I dunno what to do on the personal level.

I haven't been flirting with her or anything the first two dates so I honestly thought she'd say no and I could take my experiences and try again with another girl.
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Well you definitely need to flirt with her now. You should only get attached to a girl and think about a relationship after you fucked her.
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>>18493014
Is there like a flirting 101 guide for someone who's absolutely trash at it? I've developed a sense of humour (she finds my jokes funny) but I've always been pretty bad at expressing myself otherwise. I'm terrible when it comes to initiating physical contact in a non-awkward way, for instance.

Are there some low skill, low effort ways to flirt that an introverted nerd can pull off?
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>>18493041
Overall, the thing you don't want to do is being friendly with her. As in, show, at least a little, that you're into her. Not in a macho annoying way, just in a "i'm a functioning human being that has sexual needs and you tickle my pickle" kind of way.
Because if you act too friendly, that's how you end up in "the friendzone".
I know it's weird and it can be unpleasant to try to actively show you're into her, but if you're being friendly and completely asexual with her, nothing will happen

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"best" friend has cancelled four or five times on me now and just never fucking replies even though "last active 1 minute ago" . Shit thing is that I wanted to see her because I'm starting to like her, and I know she liked me too a while back.
What do I do? I want to keep holding this friendship together but she's making it real fucking hard.
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>>18492955
>I'm starting to like her.
>I want to keep holding this friendship together.
Pick one and only one.
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>>18492963
Agreed, you can't have both you selfish bastard.

Also if you do end up confessing your feeling, its going to change the whole dynamic of your friendship and things will never be the same again.

But by the sound of your post, sounds like shes not really interested in you. Or even value you that much. Maybe even taking you for granted. And if shes like that now, how is she going to react when you actually tell her?
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Being friends with women is a bad meme, give her up and move on. Next time you meet a girl make your intentions clear and establish yourself as a potential partner immediately.

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