So I'm the kind of person who doesn't really struggle to talk to people. I'm quite confident, I can speak to most people I meet and I'm not too bad at making people laugh. I can socialise temporarily on the basis that it's a quickish interaction that won't need constant management for it to succeed.
I have a small and close group of friends who I have known since school. We are very fortunate in that we can see each other every few months and things will still be great. We live a fair distance from each other, so we have to plan in advance.
My issue is - when it comes to making new friends and arranging hangouts, I'm just the worst. Not only do I avoid making the initial suggestion of arranging something, but if I do manage to suggest an idea, I sit in total anxiety regardless of the outcome.
It's like I'm terrified of potential rejection, or that person avoiding hanging out with me. I feel really social at times, so start trying to arrange more things and by doing that, I make myself a ball of anxiety to the point where I feel so bad about myself that I don't feel worthy of seeing people.
How can I get over this, and learn to ask people out without the fear of rejection?
>>18490884
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N-o2nnDF_So
Changed my life
>>18490884
STOP struggling to make friends or you'll become people's asswipe you only need to BE in a lot of social situations and you'll click with the right people.
This is who you are and you don't need any coaching mind crap.
Life is spiraling downhill. My girlfriend (ex now) recently cheated on me after being in a long-term relationship, I have no friends because they've all moved out of state, huge pay cut at work and now I've been having to dig into my savings just to pay bills (still looking for something that's worth a damn), and my financial situation has put me off yet more time from being able to afford community college. All this while helping my mom out with her bills just makes me believe that after my already shitty life since childhood, that at 22 my adult life has been nothing but huge disappointment and heartache.
I've been fighting every day just to see something worth living for, little instances of enjoyment like a new video game coming out or hanging out with friends, and I actually was incredibly happy with my ex before her fuckup and was super optimistic about getting into school since I was making a lot of money, was independent, treated her like a queen, and then things with my job, social life, and relationship all simultaneously collapsed.
What hope is there in living if year after year the world just proves to you that you're not meant to be happy? I've just been thinking about killing myself lately and I don't see what incentives there are not to.
>>18490806
>I actually was incredibly happy with my ex before her fuckup and was super optimistic about getting into school since I was making a lot of money, was independent, treated her like a queen
There you have your reason to live. You were happy once. It's not about the girl, but the fact that you were happy. You can be like that again if you sort your shit out at one point.
Do you know how many fucking whiny asses post in this board every single day who literally say that "I dunno what makes me happy lol"?
I actually love your post simply because you admitted that you know how happiness feels like. You can repeat that. Now you just have to go into short period on surviving, living one day at once. You will find a more deserving woman soon. Just don't fuck your shit up with a drug addiction, suicide attempt (that could fail and leave you crippled). If necessary, call the suicide hotline, see a psychiatrist.
>>18490806
>My girlfriend (ex now) recently cheated on me after being in a long-term relationship
Sneaky bitch cunt
Find some satisfaction in your job and don't worry things will pick up if you're patient.
>>18490947
Yeah, trying to. It just sucks at work right now because one of our tip lines were removed (things I won't get into, but it's reduced my wages significantly as a bartender). Trying to find another job but so far I haven't had call-backs or their employees make such piss poor wages that I couldn't survive off it it any better (if not worse) than I am now.
I'm just hoping something turns my life around soon. Things are looking bleak.
I don't know where to post this but I'm posting it here anyway.
There is no pain. But yesterday during mid-erection before masturbation, when the penis is in that not-hard-not-that soft phase, my penis was bent to the right in a very unusual angle. Almost more than 180 degress in angle. Scared the shit outta me.
But then, I continued taking it further, reached full hard erection, reached orgasm and masturbated.
After this happened, I'm so so scared.
Can anyone tell me if this is normal or not normal? I don't know what to do now.
A girl I know very well and who is one of my best female friends doesn't talk to me anymore.
The reason is that I made a phonecall to her by mistake and she overheard a conversation I had with a friend on her vocemail (what are the chances...). In this conversation we were talking about a friends who is going through a rough patch with girls. My friend was telling me I should try to motivate him more because he often feels like my advice is actually pretty harsh. Since I didn't agree with my friend I said it's wrong, that I even tried to convince him to ask my female friend out, since my friend was attracted to her, but always hesitated to ask her out...
She heard that. I wasn't implying anything vulgar about her. Just that she shared many interests with my friend so he could have ask her out.
Shortly after that she didn't answer any of my call. Even though at first she said she didn't listen to the message and seemed amused when I told her not to listen it for the sake of my friend.
She's not your typical 23 years old girl btw. She's catholic, interested in philosophy and arabic, travels in Irak, Syria and other places frequently to help persecuted Christians, but at the same time she plays electric guitar, drinks and smokes a lot, goes to concerts, rides a motorcycle...
When it comes to boys she probably never even dated. She thinks she should be friend for years with a guy before they'd end up together. She's opposed to casual sex and premarriage but not judgemental about it. She doesn't like being considered in a romantic manner by guys, especially if they're trying to befriend her for this reason.
Anyway we've been very close since I met her 4 years ago. She still answered to some of my texts after this stuff happened, though she wouldn't answer when I try to invite her to have drinks with friends, etc, like I used to do. I'm not sure this is related but could it be that I sounded like I was trying to hook her up with a friend ?
Shortly before this story, she already started not answering many of my texts btw, and apologized for it shortly after, basically she was very busy at this moment.
And she did answer to some of my texts/FB messages in the last days but basically doesn't answer any of my invitations to go out.
>>18490787
>She thinks she should be friend for years with a guy before they'd end up together
Maybe, I say, maybe, she might have feelings for you and got hurt when she found out you didn't see her in the same way.
OR
She could just don't like the idea of you settin up people for her
>>18491435
Yeah the thing is I never set her up. I was just saying it wasn't true that I was wearing my friend down, because when he told me he actually liked that girl, I told him to go for it simply because... why not ? It was really clear in the talk I had with my friend that this was more about me telling my friend to go for it (he didn't btw) and that I was mad at him for never trying anything with girls, always finding false pretexts not to act. She was barely mentioned.
I dunno if she has feeling for me. I consider her a friend, I have a GF, she knows appreciates her.
It's like a balloon getting filled it feels weird, doesn't hurt but weird, sometimes I feel front of my chest pushint out so idk what is normal anymore ....
>>18490778
Dude you totally have cancer.
Do your eyes also close every few seconds? I got that and I think it's epilepsy.
>>18490785
Don't fuck with me I have anxiety or some.
>>18490778
I don't understand how you could be old enough to write and still not understand what lungs are, while posting a picture of lungs no less.
Basically to make a long story short - my GF left me a few days ago out of the blue. At the same time my ex-GF decided to see me (we're going to meet in a few days).
This shouldn't be a big issue but I'm starting to get sick of feeling any sort of affection towards women. Not because "I HATE ALL WOMEN DUHH!" but it's just that every single relationship I'm trying to get up not only falls flat on it's face but it makes me generally more miserable. And also I think I just suck at making any meaningful relationship with somebody because I have nothing good to offer from myself.
So /adv/ - how does one get rid of a need to love somebody? How can I finally say that I'm done and carry on with my life semi-normally without this thing being on my back?
>also - 21, M, Europe (my English suck so bare with me), four relationships, 3 of the, ended with them cheating on me
>any additional questions you may have will be answered but that's quite obvious
dont beat yourself up op. maybe you're just not in the right place at the right time to meet the one for you... as simple as I can say it.
sarge
What could this be? I was on antibiotics to for chlamyida, but it hasn't cured it. What else could it possibly be?
Im starting college at AU in DC this august, and have been thinking about what major i should pick. I have been thinking a lot about CompSci since it interests me, but the school is ranked 2nd in tje world for international studies. My father, who is a very successful lawyer wants me to go into international studies, but it seems like a meme degree. What should i go with?
Why does everything related to childhood bring me on the edge of tears and how do I avoid it?
This might not be the best place to ask that but anyway. I'm a functioning humain being, my high school years were sometimes kind of sad but now I'm okay and I feel good about my life overall. I don't remember much about my childhood, I'm not nostalgic at all from it: I don't really care. I know it was not a really happy one (parents divorced, family stuff in general), but nothing crazy or extremely violent.
My problem is that I'm overemotional when I am confronted to some cute silly things of childhood. A shitty kid drawing, a kid falling or not understanding something that seems very clever to adults, any bald childish thing will almost bring me to tears (when it comes to real life at least. It doesn't affect me in fiction, or not as much). I can't explain it. I don't really believe in psychoanalysis but I think it would help me. What can you tell me, /adv/?
Need help /adv/
Did a lot of Coke and alcohol last night, like 1-2am
Haven't been to sleep yet
It is now 8:30
My stomach feels fucked
1) Am I gonna die?
2) Should I go to sleep or just pass out in the afternoon?
Any help appreciated
>Condom broke during sex
I'm so worried right now about the potential for me to have just gotten a girl pregnant because of this.
She seemed much more relaxed about it than me however, and has taken a morning after pill. How long until I can rest assured that she isn't pregnant? If her next period is on schedule, is that the best sign?
How the fuck do you manage to break a condom while cumming?
You realize that the morning after pill (when taken within twelve hours) is more reliable than a condom you didn't check under a light source, right? Don't worry anon.
>>18490641
This happens a lot if you don't pinch the tip of the condom as you roll it down to leave space for the ejaculate. A lot of people don't know that they have to do this.
Is it normal to feel the front of chest? like the front chest?
>>18490624
as opposed to the rear chest?
>>18490624
You talking about feeling the bone/ribcage in the middle of your pecs? If so yes and no. It depends on your chest insertions / genetics. Some people have insertions that go all the way to the middle and have very little gap while some people have a big gap. You can't fix it.
So, even though this thread has a religious coat of paint, I don't think solutions for my problem are necessarily restricted to religious answers, so not really looking for some edge debate or whatever.
I've been serving in Children's Ministry for about two years. I have been interim youth pastor, I've gone to 3rd world countries to host and teach vacation bible school, I've been a counselor at summer camps, and all that. Never have I done something more rewarding and fulfilling and worth my time. Super hard at some points but always worth it.
The worst part is that as I grow attached to my kids (especially in temporary settings like overseas and summer camps), it brings me such pain and sadness that I may never see them again. For instsnce, me and my co-leader really got to minister and grow close to some really awesome guys this past week at a summer camp, and then when it was over, the kids and us leaders were super sad to see each other go. It still saddens me.
It's hard because, one, it's obviously never ever appropriate to keep in one-on-one contact with a kid, period. It's an excellent first step in safe guarding against any kind of abuse that sadly (and infuriatingly) happens occasionally this field. But two, after spending so much time with students, I want to see them grow up and, from a religious perspective, grow close to God but also see them develop into the awesome adults I know they'll become.
I guess my question is how do I get through the depression and sadness that comes from saying goodbye to people (kids and adults alike) I may never see again?
what's the general procedure for this? the person selling these two tickets seems totally legit, but I don't want to take any chances. she's asking to do it through paypal. they're e-tickets that you print out.
any experience with this?
>>18490511
If it threw ticketmaster transfer opetion go for it anything else5050 probably a scam
>>18490514
it's just this university girl with a very legit facebook profile.
>50/50
do you mean half first, then the other half after she sends me the tickets?
How do I stop looking angry? I'm not angry.
>>18490494
eyebrows