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>>18491953

>What do I do

Stop talking to him.

Unless you worded your question wrong, I don't see a problem.

>>18491953
Insult him profusely. Send him pictures of you sucking someone else's cock. Show up at his house just to shit on his lawn.

You are exes - cut contact or neither of you will be able to move on.

Keep your mind occupied and all that good shit. Also keep in mind the pain is temporary. The vast majority of the human race went through or will go through this at least once in its lifespan so hang in there.

It sucks man. Right now, you need to let your emotions take their course. Like the other anon said, almost every single person goes through this at least once. It'll be hard now, but as long as you focus on bettering yourself and learning from the experience, it'll get easier and hey, maybe one day you'll be happy things worked out the way they did. Chin up dude, you're not alone in this.

>>18491944
Know that there is no other course to take with the ex.
A lot of depression sprouts from the anxiety that comes from the uncertainty. Rest easy knowing this segment of your life is over and the next is beginning.

Ride it out, relearn singleness, and stay active. Cold showers and pushups, mate. You'll survive. We all do.

Lmao bro
Just do 2 year cc, get internship or do code camp, you should be good.

You're gonna learn WAY MORE in 3 months of internship than 4 years of college. And get paid for it.

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>>18491901
Bro you should apologize to that mermaid you went out with. Try to explain to her that you're just kind of an autist but you (You'll have to genuinely work on that about yourself). Let her know you mean well but not too well yet. But definitely glad that she's alright. Watch how she reacts, and try to catch up with her in person another time if you can.

If that works out, move on from your friend.

>>18491931
So just apologize and then ask her if she wants to go to dinner again or wait a bit? Oh and my high school friend I told her that I cancelled other plans to be with her and she said she didn't see it working out since we're far away and then told me to not even go lmao

>>18491962
Nvm it was a misunderstanding lmao still coming over but """as a friend"""

Just fuck both of them

>>18491871
I dunno, that seems like risky business. I think OP should just settle for one of them

Yeah I don't understand why you can't sleep with both. If you fuck the girl this weekend you may still have a chance with the first girl. If you don't fuck the 2nd girl you may or may not still have a chance with the 1st. Might as well give it a shot?

>>18491849
I'll talk to ya, got an email or something?

>>18491853
Not OP but does anything ever come out of this...
Its nice of u guys to offer to talk but I've not once managed to keep a discussion going with people from here. I feel like making friends is just not possible if you didnt manage to keep any from school. Not even online.

>>18491864
OP here, same. I've tried making friends online but always drift away or just stop talking one day. I want friends irl

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>>18491845
I like the girl, and I'd love to keep her as a friend. We get along great, and should we stop talking, I'm just going to go back to studying and working all day. She has spent a good third of the time we have talked speaking about all her other guys and how little they cared about her, and all the sex things. Now she is acting and calling me "her" this or that as if we were on the path to becoming a couple. I have tried, several times, to joke AWAY from the topic, I do not return her possessive words with my own, and I do not keep in constant contact, I return texts when I can, or frankly, when I feel like it. I have a text waiting for me now.

Today, she tells me she received a fuckbuddy text for a hookup. She tells me she declined, but only because she grew jealous of the guy for having several girls, and that if it wasn't for that, she would be fucking him because, apparently, the man is pretty great in bed. It took all of my patience to not tell her to reconsider her decision and go have fun with her stud, because WOW, that could NOT turn me off harder if it tried. In what world would I want a legitimate crush or date tell me she was a weekend fuck for someone and they wish they were an everyday fuck? If she is interested in me in that way, what was the point in mentioning that? Had she mention that first day, I would not care, but it's even more unsettling after all these hints of wanting to be a couple. I could never, I wouldn't know how many more are still messaging her any day. In any case, instead of telling her to party, I told her we needed to immediately have a talk. I intend to tell her that she is great, and fun, and pretty, but we will not be getting any more physical than we are already, and to dispel any notion of a relationship beyond friends.

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>>18491848
This really doesn't feel easy, because she isn't mean to me, she talks often, and she thinks I'm hilarious. I think I'm just another 4chan man who is steeped under twelve layers of irony and lame in a lot of aspects, but something clicks with her. For example, just two days ago, she had a horrible day at work. I had no idea, so it didn't stop me from playing dumb and sending her jokes and banter. She tells me the next day that I had no idea what a relief I was and that I was the highlight of her day. I can believe this, considering the timing. But this is the person who I will be rejecting, in her eyes. I didn't and I won't use her, but I'm not interested in fulfilling this image she has of me of being a "different guy" from the others. Maybe I am, maybe I'm not, but I feel like I'm going to be letting down a really nice girl who just, has/had a lifestyle that I don't belong in.

Am I right in meeting up to clear the air? I understand wholeheartedly why people communicate everything through texts; It makes life so much easier and you save everyone the trip and embarrassment. She keeps asking if she's pretty and she texts first often, and from her own words, it's clear she has self esteem issues, and I'd really hate if I had to put a deeper dent in her own self image. She already is thinking that this meeting is a date, and is throwing the texts about cleaning her place and asking if I have plans for the next day "just in case". I already told her nothing sexual will happen, but that's exactly how things got to be where they are now. I will talk, she will make a flirt, I keep a distance, she closes the distance. I just want her to find someone else to sleep with that isn't a jerk, and for us to keep talking and joking with each other. It works well so far for us, I want to continue what we have.

I know this is 4chan, and this sort of problem and advice request is begging for a battle of the sexes, but I just hope people understand where I'm coming from.

You're loving it, aren't you

Don't reject her, instead talk to her about her behavior, and how it might repel guys she wants to be in relationships with. During the conversation she will realize that she'd made a fool of herself, and retract any advancements towards you. You don't even have to acknowledge the fact that you suspect her to want a relationship with you, just talk to her as a friend, and she'll probably be the one 'rejecting' any prospects of the two of you as a couple. Soft guilt trip (patent pending)

>>18491836
talk to him and be straight
bro its just pussy you will get over it. Do something to get your mind off of her. You don't want to kill yourself your just sad, don't over think your pain.
>its gonna be alright.

>>18491846
His problem at the moment is that they broke up during exam time, and he had his exams pushed back due to getting a note from his psych
His exams are a week from now so he's started to study again, but studying is reminding him of her since it's one of the things they did together and also what he was doing when it turned to shit

The reason they broke up was a combination of her missing social cues (she has low level autism) and saying shit via message that could be taken as combative or hostile (she'd say she didn't mean it that way), and him having anxiety issues and being clingy. He thought it was fine to share all of his insecurities with her, but they were too overwhelming and rather than tell him there was an issue she bottled it up until it blew up (she's also got a fear of conflict that inadvertently caused conflict because of how she tried to avoid it). Even though they still loved each other she refused to give him another chance because she didn't see it working out

They've also got a mutual friend group that he's trying to stay a part of, but it hurts him a lot seeing her message the group and acting happy or normal, or saying things that undermined his situation (eg she said "don't be pessimistic" to the chat when the reason she didn't want to try again was because she was pessimistic herself (that's how he sees it at least)). He doesn't want to leave the group because then it's easier for her to move on, plus they're also all his friends that he still cares about staying in touch with

Combined with a few other unrelated issues everything's really stressful for him right now and he just wants to disappear but can't

>>18491836
he doesn't sound very red pilled

Can you swim? There are a ton of J1-visa lifeguards: it's one of the most popular uses of the visa, and it's summer work.

I look at my present and realize how much more there is to fix now compared to then

>>18491815
Sounds cliche but you don't live in the past you live in the present. I realize my past, I regret a lot of things i've done, but I can not change it.

>>18491862
fuck that, I live in the future and try to make the present reflect the future I want.

Learn Bluegrass music instead, faggot

1) install imagemagick
2) convert -quality xyz foo.jpg bar.jpg

>>18491794
>>>/wsr/

not trying to be a douche but there are billions of people on earth and your infatuation with her will decrease over time due to seeing so many new faces. not trying to insult your feelings. if it hurts you that much to think of her or it drives you to such desperation then try to do healthy things to avoid her

>>18491712
>too early
just kill that right now be yourself

>>18491712
>a few hours ago
No. You need to let go before you can become friends.