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>finished university in 3 years
>going back in September to get a diploma in Public Relations, can afford
>paying off student loans within year
>successful career so far despite being young, got promoted already in the span of six months
>had basically two full time jobs and 70-80 hour work weeks
>get out of bad relationship
>no desire for another relationship or even getting emotionally close to anyone, not even family or best friend anymore
I hate to admit it, but I'm turning into a workaholic. I basically think about work 24/7, yet I feel like there's more to life. But then again, for my age, I'm already making so much money and I'm just about to start saving for a down payment on a small condominium, already have a decent car, and I have no financial worries.
Everyone at work likes me, my manager tells me that he sees good things in me and is mentoring me since he's planning to leave a few years from now so that I can take his place as department manager. I'm succeeding wildly at my job, and I've been shifted around different departments, almost like they're vying for my work to make their projects look better.
Anyway, despite all this you'd think I have out of the roof confidence and that I finally found something I'm passionate about in life? Nope. I fucking loathe every day of it and wish I could just become some lazy ass pandering politician already. I mean, I'm already writing monthly columns in my newspaper to get my name out there and volunteering with two or three companies on my free weekends.
BUT STILL I'M UNHAPPY. WHY /ADV/ I THOUGHT THIS TYPE OF SUCCESS WOULD MAKE ME HAPPY ;-;
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Can't seem to cut my borderline father out of my life because I feel sorry for him. My mother and siblings keep telling me that he's a wreck and he's sorry for everything. I know I have done mistakes as well but I just can't forgive him although I said I have. I feel like my childhood was abusive. There wasn't any hitting but there was lots of hair and ear pulling, extreme control and emotional manipulation/abuse. I feel like I should just cut contact with all of my family. What do you think?
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>>18489991
It's natural you feel like this, but he is a grown adult man and responsible for his actions or choices. I think what you can do is to indeed cut ties a bit with your family and live your own life.
Be grateful for your parents for keeping you fed, clothed and under the roof to raise up, but acknowledge they did fuckups, either from not knowing any better or having personality issues.
Just learn from the mistakes of your parents and try not repeat them as you start a family one day, OP.
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Thanks, anon.
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I live in a block of flats which I'm pretty sure has residential parking. Some dickhead workman parked his van behind my car and i reversed into it by accident on monday. There was very minor damage to my car and his. I'm talking a scratch at worst and that's it, but I considered it his fault for parking like a twat where he shouldn't have, right behind my car where it shouldn't be parked.
Because the damage was so insignificant that you couldn't even call it damage, I didn't report it to my insurance or let the guy know because some people are cunts and just try and milk it from nothing.
This guy seems like he's one of those because my mother overhead him talking about it this morning, asking other residents if they knew who it was etc. He knocked my door this morning and I haven't answered but I'm going out to work shortly so I'll have to confront him.
I don't know if I should just lie and say I don't know what he's talking about since there is no damage or evidence it was me, or take the risk of confessing since he was overheard this morning saying he's going to try and get me to pay for a fucking paint scratch and that he's already called his insurance company. If he's going to get me to try to pay does that mean his insurance wont?
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Fuck him and his insurance. Just lie about it, he'd probably win any court case if you tried to defend yourself.
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>>18489978
You can not hit a parked vehicle. It is your fault for NOT paying attention. You can either own your mistake which might entail a hit and run conviction or keep quite and never admit to it.
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youre a woman arent you?
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I'm going to go out and look for a street prostitute for the first time. Anyone with experience have any advice? It it like GTA where you just pull up and they hop in? How much do they charge? Where do I take them? Do I kill them when we're done so I can get my money back? (kidding)
Help me, m9s
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>"How bad is my idea, from 1 to kicking Hitler out of art school?'
Unless you want genital warts, AIDS, Syphilis, Herpes, something previously undiscovered that swaps your asshole and your penis, PID, and about 10,000,000 other things, don't fucking do it. Seriously, it's better to die a virgin than to have your dick LITERALLY rot off!
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>>18490024
But if you're gonna anyways, your best bet is traps. They're generally more likely to have standards.
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>>18489974
Literally not worth it. $50 for a shitty half hearted blow job and a life time of STI
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>Know this girl, thought she was odd so I tried being nice to her and be friendly.
>She'd never want to hang out with any of my friends or even me.
>Whatever just let her be and try to be nice.
>Whenever we'd have a party she'd never come but we'd invite just to be kind.
>Things between us were always odd, I'd say "hey" and she'd just say nothing and stare.
>She later files a complaint against me at college because "I make her uncomfortable."
>Go to a meeting, she isn't there we talk it out in 15 minutes. Everyone chuckles at the absurdity of the claims.
>Forget about her, she's insane.
>Weeks later I find out she's trying to date my one friend.
>She refuses to be polite to me, but she's trying to get into my social circle for that guy.
Forgive the blog. She has always been "cutesie" and talkative around him, but around anyone else, she's a total cold person. What should I do in this situation? My friend has this weird "Japanese Fetish" and is super blind to how two faced she is.
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highschool dating is just like that, don't give a fuck about her, she isn't your GF, you don't have to like her, just treat her as respectfull as any other human beeing but ignore her otherwise.
Respectfull distance
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>>18489972
Maybe you are creepy.
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>>18490422
Assuming everything he said is true and he hasn't left out anything major (which I think is pointless to speculate about on anonymous board, because I'll never know the truth, and worst case scenario, somebody gets advice for something that isn't actually happening), I can't see how he could possibly be the creepy party here.
They invited her to parties to be nice. She didn't have to go if she didn't want to. She went, but was weird about it.
It sounds like OP isn't insistent on hanging out with her or anything. He greets her, and if she's cold, he moved on. That's standard social behaviour.
Methinks the girl is just all messed up inside.
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Is it appropriate to ask if someone has a boyfriend?
I met this girl a few days ago, and I'm thinking of asking her out. But, she seems to have a really close guy friend. I don't know if theyre romantically involved, I haven't seen anything to suggest such beside being extremely close, but id feel like a dick if I made a move and they were. Is it appropriate to just, straight up, ask if theyre together?
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>but id feel like a dick if I made a move and they were
Why? You don't owe shit to that dude, or that chick, for that matter. You want to get your dick wet. So go after what YOU want. No one gives a fuck what her friendzone dude is doing or thinking. The absolute worst case scenario is that they are together, and you say "Oh I'm sorry I had no idea" and you move on with your life. Zero dick about that.
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>>18489938
Eh. Most of the time I'm with her, were in a group, and he's usually in that group. I just don't wanna look like a Chad fuqboi.
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>>18489933
You don't have to go full PUA with the "FUCK YOUR GUY FRIENDS IMMA KEK THEM ALL" attitude, unless you are some dumb Chad who only wants to sleep around.
If you want something long-term, and you spend a lot of time with her, she will eventually tell you. Girls are really up-front about that and will tell you if they see you are interested in them. If you hang out with her a lot and she doesn't tell you, either you are friendzoned or she really is single.
I personally don't believe the friendzone thing. Just grow a fucking pair and do a romantic gesture. Establish some physical contact. If nothing comes up, it's cool, she is not involved with any of the guy friends.
I have literally tried to kiss some chick who hung out at my place I hardly even knew, and she told "sorryIhaveabf" and that's how I found out and cut the deal. If you ask first, it will always be awkward.
I've recently had to come to terms with the fact that I've been in a toxic relationship with someone very close to me. I cut them off, although not easily. this is the person I would talk to every night about my feelings and shit, but they also caused so much stress on me that I ended up relapsing. now I feel lost, numb, and confused and I don't know who to turn to or what to do. music usually helps but it hasn't been doing much since. what do, /adv/?
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It's good to talk about your feelings with someone, it's a positive coping mechanism. You just realized it was the wrong person you were talking this with. I suggest you browse internet to find a good friend who you can talk this to, until you find someone new in real life you can trust again.
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Since I was ejected from a psych hospital a few years back, I've felt completely dead inside. As if i had died and went to Hell. Maybe I'm not in Hell yet but I'm definitely in the waiting room. Seems like nothing I do matters. Life doesn't matter to me and neither does my afterlife. I suffer from schizo-effective disorder. It's like schizophrenia but with bipolar disorder or depression attached to it. I live in a group home for mentally ill people. My life is not terrible but not necessarily good. I believe in being spiritually well more than being materialistically well.
What can I do to make things matter again. I fear death will come grab me one day and I will have no way to escape.
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>>18489843
I've had severe panic attacks in the past, and I am diagnosed with anxiety/depression, so I kind of can relate to your dread, but not too much.
I think there is not much that can be said. You are in the right place, being in that therapy group home. There are people who can help you and those too who can relate to you.
My only advice to you is to not kill yourself. Find even a single reason (about yourself, not that bullshit about how your mom will miss you) to keep on living, and then just take it easy. Don't make your life complicated. Make it your goal to just survive each day. If that means watching TV shows all day while attending to some entry level job, so be it.
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>>18489843
>I believe in being spiritually well more than being materialistically well.
This is good and incredibly important
>Life doesn't matter to me and neither does my afterlife.
However this attitude should be eliminated as it is destructive to spirituality. You've attained this life specifically for the purpose of practicing spiritual life and striving for liberation from this miserable materialistic world, called Moksha. Life may seem meaningless but only because you view it through a materialistic lens. Today people are involved with the rat race of working very hard at a job to earn very little money to enjoy some temporary materialistic reward. Such a life is based on materialistic sensorary gratification and is entirely pointless as the happiness derived from it is temporary. Such people seek to solve questions of how should I satisfy myself today instead of seeking to escape death and are bewildered at the time of death having wasted his life.Thus an intelligent man does not seek to attain the fruits of his work, knowing them to be binding to materialism. An intelligent man takes to a spiritual life through means of reading scriptures and practicing Yoga to attain Moksha to ultimately escape death and be in union with God. I highly recommend reading the Bhagavad Gita "As It Is." It describes how to lead a successful spiritual life and can change your life, you can find it free online in many places.
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>>18489901
Not OP but really interesting post, thanks!
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I quit my job at a factory, it was okay pay but the hours were insane, and caused bad health problems, i guess 7-10 miles a day will do that.
The people didn't like the job and didn't communicate since the majority were from other counties, so you couldn't have a simple chat without repeating yourself four times, plus all the money you earnt couldn't be spent because of how much I was at the place.
Now i'm living in my parents house, and a couple of months after, I've stopped enjoying games, even the gym which I loved going to, but recently i've started eating excessively to the point where all my weight I lost is doubling back on me.
If I get another shitty job, I'd just feel more inclined to leave, but if I wait and find out what I want to do in life - that wasted time could be getting money.
What should I do?
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get a job and go the gym while figuring out what you want to do.
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Eastern european here,
I also worked a summer job at a factory once, it specialized on frozen baked stuff. My job was packaging the cakes from assembly line, stacking them up on a little forklift and deliver them to a huge warehouse that was freezed down so much that people who operated there with big forklifts wore scarfs and winter coats even when it was summer outside.
It was one of the hardest fucking jobs I've done in my life. Not only mentally, but my physical abilities were constantly tested, because of how fast I had to be. I was also working like fucking 10 hours a day, some days even overtime. It was on a contract of only 3 months luckily. Pay wasn't even that good, but at least the food by the catering was good, and they organized a taxi every day to work and back home again to pick me and some others up from my location.
Thing is that I am actually working as graphic designer now, and at the time It was a summer break from art school, so I am in no way cut out to be a factory worker even.
What I suggest to you OP is two things - either try to aim for a comfier job within the factory (they surely offer training to become a forklift man, them big ones) or to go for entirely different career that you'd like to pursue.
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Hey /adv/ simple question,
How can I stop biting my nails? I had long nails for about a 2 year streak, but then I got into a rough situation in life which required a lot of tension in my brain. I then lost that streak and I can't stop biting my nails. Even looking at them makes me wanna bite them.
Help would be appreciated!!
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>>18489806
Really hot chilli sauce
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>>18489806
I have the same problem, but I know it's just a symptom of anxiety or stress.
Solution is to address your anxiety, and you feel that compulsion less.
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Well, keeping them short will make it so there's not much to bite on. That might help some.
You could also try to replace one compulsion with another, so whenever you feel you really want to bite your nails you do something else, like snapping your fingers or whatever. Eventually you'll train yourself to snap your fingers instead of biting your nails.
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I want a rickenbacker bass, i like the 4003s and 4003. Should i get one? Is it worth the money?
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>I want a rickenbacker bass
Then get one if you can afford it. Who gives a shit?
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>>18489975
because they're like 3-4k and he probably doesn't have that on hand.
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>>18489976
Then someone asking if they should get a premium instrument on an anonymous image board probably doesn't have the skills to know if it's "worth it" or not.
If he can afford it and is an amateur, who cares, buy it. If he's an amateur and can't afford it, then it'd be wasted.
If he's a pro and can afford it then he'll love it. If he's a pro and can't afford it he'll pine for it and afford it.
Asking if it's worth it or not says he isn't worth shit.
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I feel like everywhere I go, I just mess up other people's lives. I can't hold onto friends. People either passionately care for me to the point that it's unhealthy or they hate me so so much. What am I doing wrong? This feels so crummy.
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>>18489778
Stop trying to please everyone. It's ok if some people don't like you
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=G4IPEBpoad0
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>>18489778
I'm in the same boat, I try to please someone and I displease 3 ppl by doing so. I'm all alone now.... And it hurts. Idk how to get over this....
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I feel as if i've been too reckless with the "can't please everyone" mentality. It got me far professionally, but not personally. It also isn't some people, it's most. ): I always wanted to be smart but now I just want to be well liked.
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>Guys send their friend a scary screamer link
>He opens it
>Jumps in his seat and spills hot coffee in his lap
>The burn sets up an infection in his privates
>He has to get his dick and balls removed
Should his friends be blamed for his misfortune?
And is it wrong to find his situation kinda funny?
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>>18489725
please just fuck off
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>>18489725
Did that really happen?
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>>18489754
...maybe
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I want to stay sleep deprived for as long as possible, so I need any advice that might help me do that the best way I can. So far my plan is taking a generous cup of coffee every morning, drinking one, maybe two cans of energy drink a day (maybe some green tea too) and drinking tons of water. My eating habits are horrible, which will be a problem, but I don't think it'll make much difference (tell me if it does). Also, there's a high possibility that I'll consume weed once or twice in the process, maybe alcohol and a slim chance that I'll smoke crack once with some friends of mine on the first three days. Any information you may consider useful is greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance.
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>>18489710
>I want to stay sleep deprived for as long as possible
Why?
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>>18489710
what is this shit? it's summertime, isn't it?
you fucking morons, just fuck off would you.
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>>18489750
It may sound strange, but I want to feel the effects. Drugs aren't cutting it that much for me, just booze, but then I can't remember shit. Also, I need to check if my psychotic break was caused due to drug use plus exhaustion.
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dating not a coworker but close
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There's this girl I like. I don't work with her. She works at an office adjacent to mine and is owned by the same shareholders as mine. I think she might like me. A lot of the time I run into her, she talks to me and keeps the conversation going and seems interested.
I'm pretty bad at romantic queues and can't tell. Also I'm not sure if this is risky. I'd be seeing her infrequently all things considered but I still would if it goes bad. And we share bosses.
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do you have other job options? is your job right now key to your future career?
if you don't mind the risk, give it a try, but not in the work place. But if you need that job, don't take the risk, just keep it on a platonic basis with her, you could still do something with jsut you two.