Archived threads in /adv/ - Advice - 6799. page

>>16470640
YOU can't do anything about this.

>>16470640
was she ugly as a kid? That fucks people up sometimes even when they grow into good looking adults.

I was an ugly, scrawny kid in school but I've since filled out and actually wear clothes that look good on me. People tell me I'm hot/cute/whatever all the time, I've successfully taken girls home for bars and yet, for the life of me, I cannot accept that fact that I'm not ugly anymore.

I'm honestly considering seeing a professional about it.

>>16470643
Are you sure?

>>16470574
Women are the most competitive creatures on the planet. That's all you need to know.

>>16470574
Two factors.
One: Almost every woman has so many men available to them. They have a lot to choose from.
Two: Women are very empathetic and value emotion higher than men.

Combined, they look at a man with another woman and they think "He must be something because she values him above others".
So now he's more valuable than the other dudes in her life.

>>16470583
It could be competition (and actually it's more like, "hey this guy is vetted by someone else, he must be legit" a lot of the time), but I think for most women, it's far more likely that you've changed how YOU act, OP. You're not desperate. You're not chasing after her pussy. You act confident, cool, collected, and very much yourself, because you're not trying to impress or draw her in. Often times, what guys do to bring girls in is exactly what pushes them away.

Don't we have just this thread on the front page already?

so if i'm an ugly dude (easily in the lowest 1% of the population) i should basically give up right?

i mean, there MIGHT be some beautiful soul femanon who take pity on me one time. but no one will ever like me genuinely.

so femanons: should i an hero or not?

>>16470558
It just hit the bump limit.

Women (who didn't answer this the last time I asked): what do you have going on in your life as far as recreation, entertainment, etc. are concerned? I'm talking about your life outside of school/work/other responsibilities.

>>16470468
Honestly? see a speech therapist to address the mumbling BEFORE you try to tackle a new language.

>>16470468
Mumbling isn't a condition. It's a habit.

You can speak English without mumbling so long as you treat it as though speaking another language. Focus on each word, etc etc.

>>16470478
>>16470475
Indeed, but the primary focus is learning a new language, I don't care TOO much about the mumbling, I can work on that.
I just need someone to flip a coin and come up with a good reason for the result so I can move forward kek

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or just regular hair, with no gel??
last one promise

which one makes me more attractive senpai?
i have more pics if u need different angles

>>16470438
This hairstyle seems to suit your face best. I'm no hair stylist though.

What state do you live in? Laws vary.

>>16470418
Generally if you're on the lease, you have to pay rent. Legally you can ask her for rent. If you don't want to deal with the hassle, then just split everything three ways unless you can find a roommate who's willing to share a room with the other guy

>>16470425
MA. I'm not sure I want to go through the ordeal of forcing her to pay. Just wondering what is proper to have the guy who is staying pay.

Self bump

bumpity pls respond bump

>>16470416
How old are you? If under 35 or so it's a mental hang up most likely. Worrying about it will just make it worse.

>I just don't think I can
That's your problem right there. I know you've tried to form relationships with other people---that is what you need to keep doing. If you quit then like I decided then you are too far gone. But you, you still state you WANT a relationship, love and all that assorted nonsense. Then keep grasping for it.

>>16470749
I guess your right. I'll just have to keep trying. I just thought that maybe there was a trick I was missing or something. I'm just tired of hearing and having to think to myself "just keep trying" "you'll find the one eventually". Thanks a lot anyways anon. Have a good night

Autist

>>16470397
no

What about the father? Or are you trying to get artificially inseminated?

>>16470409
Why not

stop smoking pot for a while
yes, pot does alter your brain chemistry
furthermore, your brain is still developing and smoking pot has been proven to exacerbate symptoms of mental illness in people with anxiety, depression, or schizophrenia. going back to the brain still in development, the brain can be easily damaged but also easily healed and you don't want it to ultimately get wired in a depressed state because you chose to smoke pot, right? smoke when you're older and not depressed, that goes for drinking too, worst thing you can do is self medicated with recreational drugs.

and before I get a durr pot is harmless maaan!
maybe if your brain is healthy it wont fuck you up too bad (but it does effect hormone levels and brain chemistry no matter what, don't you fucking dare say it doesn't or risk having your opinions disregarded), but if your brain isn't healthy you are going to make it worse.

so there you have it, a two step process. Stop smoking, then watch your condition improve.
if after that is all said and done you still feel dumpy you should look into further treatment.

>>16470371
This is why I've been considering quitting. I don't know if it's really been a longterm thing (though it could be), but it's mostly because at the time it makes me even more anxious.

I really do think these antidepressants could improve my mood just enough so that I can finally shake this off. I'd like to at least try them, and this is what I was mostly looking for: is there any reason I shouldn't at least try it?

>>16470381
if you want to take nutritional supplements that's fine, but if you are talking about real hard anti-depressant medications you need to explore all your other options first.

people often look to medication as a cure for these things, but they only exist to manage the symptoms, they don't treat the cause.
if its a true chemical depression that's all you can do, but if it isn't then some lifestyle improvements could be all you need.
stop smoking, stop eating as much junk, exercise some more, stop masturbating so much (yes even this) and your hormonal levels could balance out and make you not depressed anymore.

stop being an angsty beta like the guy in your picture

>>16470235

I need some logical steps. What do I do?!?

>>16470237
You should tell her about merits of Bernie Sanders wealth distribution plan while Jamal and Shaquan plow her

It sounds like you're asking out girls who aren't interested in you. They get the idea that you've used the friendship in order to get in their pants and I imagine that it feels quite degrading and hurtful for a woman to realise what you're doing.

...Continuation:

>girl 3
>know her for two months but rarely see her
>one day we start talking on Facebook by pure chance
>agree to go have a dinner
>do so, go for drinks
>do so
>tells me to write her any day to do something together
>agree to meet again during the week
>message her on the following days
>"too busy"
>ignores my requests on the next days
>goes back to her country

>girl 4
>know her by pure chance on a friday night after partying, each one in different places
>walk home with her
>we have a few things in common and we get along well, it's like we already know each other
>reach her's
>tell her it was nice meeting her, compliments me back, ask for her phone
>gives it
>get home and message her so she can have my number
>chit chat and laughs, ask her out
>"sure, we can go out :)"
>tell her I'll write in the following days so we can set a day
>write two days later just saying "hey, how's your sunday going?"
>doesn't get my message (1 grey check), think she blocked me although I still can see her last online status
>has went online several times but I don't know if she got the message as I deleted the conversation out of disappointment

What the hell is going on? I gotta say that I didn't insist in any of these cases. If she didn't answer, that's it. Should I be more direct in my propositions instead of playing easy and asking for their numbers? Or is it that I'm a worse person than I thought? If that's the case, why would they say yes like the girl #4 or be inviting like girl #2?

>>16470177
Could be the case for girl #1, althugh there has always been a lot of chemistry between us to the point of flirting with each other a lot, getting drunk together, stay up really late talking about anything and even confessing me that she wished she wasn't with her ex. Then she suddenly became a ghost to me, never get to see her, never looks for me like before, nothing. It's like we stopped being friends all suddenly.

>>16470099
>I've made it clear that I'm interested in her by complimenting her looks and generally sweet talking her, and she's reciprocated so far.
Don't do this idiot. Too much texting kills interest FAST. You should only ONLY text to say Hi, it's so and so, maybe ONE text to smalltalk if you're feeling especially gay, then just find out when she's free and ask her on a date or to do something together. It may seem arbitrary or unfair or whatever else to you, but trust me, I've learnt the hard way. Keep yourself a mystery, make an appearance of being slightly inaccessible and busy and don't over text.

>>16470115
and what if she texts me frequently? Just tell her to fuck off?

>>16470131
No, no... Just don't reply. Don't ever be rude, that shows insecurity. Then reply the next day I was busy (never say sorry or make excuses, just state facts), let's get coffee at X time at Y place or something.

I've been in a closed ward three times. It was pretty boring, there wasn't much to do except for watching TV, chain smoking and colouring those mandala things. One time another patient broke a window, and some more things happened, but overall I felt pretty safe.
If you think you're a danger to yourself, you should definitely go, but don't expect to get actual therapy and shit. Closed wards are for safety, not for treatment.

>>16469988
Do it, it'll feel good realizing how crazy you aren't

>>16470017
How does one get treatment..? An heroing has been crossing my mind alot lately, although I don't know if I could bear acting on it.

Protip: You can't.

you can't

people will always find a way to get offended for the stupdiest reasons

>>16469982
Impossible