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How do I deal with this? 2015-11-16 12:54:50 Post No.16468108
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How do I deal with this? 2015-11-16 12:54:50 Post No.16468108
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First of all, I'm a female, 23 years old. My problem is my underlying mental issues. Basically what I got is a mix of being autistic, insecure and bipolar with some narcissist traits. I'm a pathological liar (I do that to protect myself and give a better impression, but I'm not actually especially mean nor aggressive or anything.) and the closest circle of people around me changes frequently. People tend to like me at first, I seem to be social, funny and charismatic, but I can't hide my real personality traits forever, so at some point people just disappear around me.
Which I understand, but due to my shattered personality, I find it hard to be what others would call normal. I don't know how people generally view me, and honestly I'm scared to think about it.
I'm not traumatized in my childhood or anything, this is just who I am and what I'm like. I got a family background filled with asperger's syndrome and bipolar disorder, so it's no wonder that I'm like this.
I can not possibly expect someone to deal with me. And to be honest, I don't wanna make myself go through the unstable and out of control like feelings when I develop feelings on someone. If having a crush causes a chemical storm to your brain, my brains gets even more messed up than that. And that state of mind has driven me to do so much crazy shit, fucked up my relationships and eventually made me sadder than anything else.
So I need to avoid that, in order to stay as a functioning and somewhat normal person. It's also almost impossible to date anyone seriously due my constantly changing mood, opinions and fluctuating self-esteem. I either feel superior or inferior, which makes me wanna push everyone away.
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Luckily my personality comes with certain good aspects too. But the fact is, that I have to give up on my dreams of having a family. I can never be a stable and normal spouse, I'll always have my own goofy habits and features. I definitely can't be a good mother. I love children and always wanted to have ones of my own, but I also know myself well enough to realize that I couldn't possibly be a good mother in the long term. I'd be selfish to have a child, and possibly making him to inherit my troublesome personality.
But how do I make peace with this? I always dremt about starting a family, but the truth is that I have to focus on other goals and aspirations in life. Luckily I got a few, but I still find myself checking at interesting men and dreaming about being loved and touched again. (I've never had a real boyfriend, but I have dated men in the past. I'm 24 years old.) I wish I could just stop wishing for approval from the opposite sex.
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>>16468108
Luckily my personality comes with certain good aspects too. But the fact is, that I have to give up on my dreams of having a family. I can never be a stable and normal spouse, I'll always have my own goofy habits and features. I definitely can't be a good mother. I love children and always wanted to have ones of my own, but I also know myself well enough to realize that I couldn't possibly be a good mother in the long term. I'd be selfish to have a child, and possibly making him to inherit my troublesome personality.
But how do I make peace with this? I always dremt about starting a family, but the truth is that I have to focus on other goals and aspirations in life. Luckily I got a few, but I still find myself checking at interesting men and dreaming about being loved and touched again. (I've never had a real boyfriend, but I have dated men in the past. I'm 24 years old.) I wish I could just stop wishing for approval from the opposite sex.
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bumb, accidentally posted part. 2 twice.
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Is it OK to be an alcoholic of alcohol helps suppress something that is worse? So really it could boil down to being the lesser of two evils?
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absolutely
its fucking legal for christ sake
we didnt make this situation, we're dealing with it.
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What's the other evil? You a serial killer?
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>>16468030
Yeah. The feelings im trying to get rid of are highly illegal , so justification righ t there.
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please, advice, im scared to death of getting AIDS
>be birthday
>go to a gay sauna
>crowded as fuck, only ugly +40 yrs old
>suddenly I saw a pretty cute twink, 18-19 yrs old (I'm 23) next to the dark room
>I stare into his eyes and he does the same, he wants my dick
>since its crowed by ugly old chasers, I made him follow me to a private room
>I lock the door
>begun to kiss, he jerks my 19cm dong, Ill do the same
>he get on his knees and starts to suck my dick
>I suck his dick too (I can taste his precum), then i proceed to french kiss him
>jump in bed and do 69, then french kiss again and suddenly my teeth collide with his and i got a cut in my upper inner lip
>I can taste blood, FUCK
>he starts to suck me off again, he struggle to deepthroat my cock, but it manages to do so
>Im about to cum
>warn him about it
>he doesnt care
>I moan while i shoot my load inside of his mouth
>he swallows it and keeps sucking my dick till it goes limp
>i quickly suck out the blood out of my fresh cut, like if i was bitten by a poisonous snek
>I rush to the bathroom and then I rinse my mouth with water and soap
>I suck more blood from my cut
Im fucked up /fit/ ? , I just got precum in my mouth while sucking a dick and then i got a cut by accident, I heard that saliva and air kills the virus, but im scared as fuck, sorry for my bad english
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please, help ;_;
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You probably got AIDS. Don't be worried though, this is natural selection at work.
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Get tested as soon as you can, it's the only way for you to be sure
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My first uni girlfriend just broke up with me because she said we rushed into it and she doesn't know if she wants this right now and wants to find herself. I know the real reason and it's because I couldn't satisfy in the bedroom due to my problems with low libido, premature ejaculation and moderate erectile dysfunction.
She was the best thing that happened to me here, and she probably made me the happiest I've ever felt. She was way out of my league and actually started the whole relationship herself. she was the one that texted me first etc etc so this was basically a situation that only a complete fucking failure could screw up. And you're looking at that guy.
The first time we had sex it was actually okay but the second time was bad and she changed from that day forwards. I knew she wouldn't stay with me for long after that. This only lasted like 3 months by the way but it feels like longer.
Now I don't know what the fuck to do. I'll never find a situation like that again. I'll never find someone as pretty as her again, and if I do it'll actually take me effort to get with them.
Any girl I get with from now on is probably just going to seem inadequate and I don't see myself getting with anyone anyway because I'm too quiet. This was pretty much my last chance and I ruined it. Even if I do get another chance, my fucked up sexual functioning will just ruin that as well. I've been to a GP about it and they said it's probably my depression or a hormone problem so I'm getting blood tests tomorrow.
What should I do going forwards though? I can't shake the feeling that this was meant to be and I wont be getting another chance as good as this one was for the rest of my life. Everywhere I go in the city I'm reminded of her and what could have been if only I'd been able to function like a normal human being. I was so close and so far, it's agonising. The mental torment that that puts on me is just overwhelming.
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What's wrong with putting in some effort from now on?
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>>16468029
Nothing, it came across wrong. My point was meant to be that if I can't make it work when I basically didn't have to put effort into starting the whole thing off, how am I going to make it work when I actually do?
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You should've put more effort in. Did you masturbate frequently OP?
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I have been diagnosed of a terminal brain cancer (tumor half the size of my cerebellum), and feel like a fucking burden.
What's the least expensive way for me to kill myself before my family and wife's family decide to get involved?
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keyword: feel
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Don't kill yourself. It'll literally make your family feel like total shit, wayyyyyyy more shitty than they will if you die if brain cancer. You aren't doing anyone a favor, you're spitting in the face of all the people around you who care about you. Don't ruin your memory with that shit. Spend the time you've been gifted with your family. So unless you want your wife and everyone in your family to go through that shit then enjoy what you have left, for their sake.
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>>16467905
It's worse wasting money on a lost cause. If you see it my way, kill myself will only cause suffering for a certain amount of time whereas if they try keeping me alive and waste ridiculous (and I mean RIDICULOUS) amount of money, it will be a constant suffering.
Just thought of buying those suicide pills, but they don't sell it on my state, bummer.
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Is it harsh that i didnt want to reply to a girl because i didnt find her attractive?
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depends
post what you'd be replying to
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>>16467845
Just some girl on the street dont even know her but did not have a good face at all plus im really fuckin tired. But now im thinkin i shoulda responded cause her personality couldve made up for it. Feel really vain but i cant force myself to be attracted to someone
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>>16467860
eh harsh but fair I suppose without knowing more
give some people an inch and they take a mile. better to not encourage them. On the otherhand I've had women get pretty close to psycho on me because they felt I ignored them, so be careful.
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I need terrible pick up lines to help my mate get a grill. What are the worst ones you know?
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If you were a booger, I'd pick you first.
How much does a polar bear weigh? Enough to break the ice; hi I'm [anon]
Whale hello, it's dolphinitely nice to meet you!
If I had to guess, I bet your phone number is 3. Oh it's not? Well what is it then?
That's all I've got. With some conversation finesse I've actually been kind of successful with these.
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you sit in a pile of sugar cuz you got a pretty sweet ass
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Do you work at Subway? Because you give me a footlong.
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>Girl with daddy issues
>Her bf breaks up with her
>She comes on to me buying food for me, trying to cling to my arm, tells me she loves me etc
>Text with her on random things, make her laugh
>Dares me to send a dick pic. Did not
>Ask her if she had feelings for me. Tells me "I dunno"
>Tell her that i have feelings for her
>Tells me an hour later that shes going out with some emo fag
>Tells me she feels sorry for me
>Breaks up with him 2 weeks later
>Tells me that two years difference is why we cant be together. Shes 20, Im 18,
>Goes out with 6 guys in span of 8 months, all older or same age as her
>Tells me its awkward and will most likely always will be
>Gets mad at me for something I didn't do
>Someone told her something I didn't know
>She won't tell me what I did
>We argue and stop texting for a couple months
>After those two months, she texts me "I'm past it. I'm not mad at you anymore
>Occasionally text each other now
What do?
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avoid her, she sounds awful
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Okay Freud, relax with the daddy issues shit. Not every girl has that as the source of her problems.
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>Goes out with 6 guys in span of 8 months, all older or same age as her
AVOID OP AVOID
Major red flag. Just be friends, nothing more. Anyone who goes through that many people that quickly is not someone you want to be with. Trust me it'll save you a lot of headache
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Before I lost weight I was 360lbs and generally happy with myself and my life. Didn't really care what others thought. Knew I was fat, but wasn't ready to change, etc. Now I'm currently 175 and I've had so much fucking stress from losing weight. All I ever think about is my looks and how ugly I think I am. I lost weight really quick and my body is flabby and disgusting. My face is also really ugly. With clothes on I don't think I'm that bad, but my face is still ugly and if I ever took off my clothes, people would think I'm a freak. I'm trying to get to 160lbs, but my weight loss has stalled and I'm constantly changing from 178-182. I try and try, but I am weak and always give into temptation. I'm living with my grandma and I literally just threw out a shit ton of food just so I don't touch it. I did this before when I was living at home. This is also fucked up because my family is poor so I'm wasting limited food. I also try to be strict with my calories, but sometimes fail and end up needing to starve myself for a bit. I have 1000 calories left for tomorrow and the next day because I couldn't help myself and ate some sweets which are really calorie dense. I just hate everything about myself and wish I could just be happy. Anyone have a similar experience? I'd love some advice or whatever.
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Anon you should be proud of yourself for going as far as you have to lose weight. You literally weigh half as much as you did. So cheer up, you are living your life for the better.
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>>16467538
Thanks a lot honestly. My main issue is that I can only seem to focus on my looks. I'm not even a social person or am even trying to date right now, but I still obsess over it. The person I see in the mirror makes me hate myself and leaves me depressed and doing stupid stuff that I know is wrong, but I can't help. I acknowledge that I'm healthy weight for my age, height and whatnot, but I don't actually feel good about it. Not trying to be negative, but it's just how I feel. I've thought of seeing a counselor or something, but I dunno.
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>>16467614
You can curse your younger self for that, but you learned it was bad and have changed so much. Leave your past behind and keep stiving towards your future goals.
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Since this an advice board, I think it's appropriate to ask for advice or suggestions on what hairstyle should I get. Help would be greatly appreciated!
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HRT
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>>16467487
Your hair's fine, just smile more because you look like a serial killer atm
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You're a good looking guy. Just actually styling that cut would be fine
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Reasons not to kill myself today.
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OP life is to precious to throw away no matter what you did and the fact you came here signifies the fact that you most likely wish to continue no matter how horrible things are. If you can't think of reasons for why you deserve to live I am sure there a plenty of others in your life whether you recognize it or not will sorely miss your presence and be emotionally affected for you leaving in such a manner. no matter how hopeless a situation gets there is a always a silver lining and when at the worst often the only place for things to go is up. if you commit suicide then you risk loosing the chance of ever making it out of the mess you are in and truly living the life you lived and being there for the people who truly require your presence whether now or later. in the future you could've been someone's mother or father, good friend and when they needee someone like you, you were unavailable and made them that much more resentful for living in this world. Rather then being a victim of your circumstances you should become a survivor one who uses these emotional hurdles to change and improve their lives. I know it's hard but don't do it, take a good honest and realistic look at your life and see what causing you to feel this way and get help whether it may be from a friend or physiologist and find something that gives you purpose or keeps you anchored. you will be okay and you will get through this it's just another phase. things happen and we aren't perfect but that is what makes us human.
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Come up with a list of goals, or a list of things you find interesting, yet never really looked into.
Think of things that make you happy, and right them down. Think of what you'd consider your ideal, happy self.
Complete short term goals, even if it's something as small as taking a 5 minute walk, or greeting someone.
Do breathing exercises, listen to relaxing music, exercise a bit. It makes you feel good.
Keep a journal of your feelings, if you are afraid to talk to anyone about them.
I may be an anon, but I'm willing to listen to what you have to say. I'll try to help you through it as much as I can. Just try to stay strong. You made it this far. You can keep going.
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>>16467472
Sex, do you have money? Go have sex with a hot human being you little scamp! ;)
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>A Boy's Best Friend Is His Mother
Do you agree with this statement /adv/?
I have many friends but I've always considered my mother to be my best friend.
What about you /adv/?
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Mmm no. I think that's really sweet that you have a close relationship with her. That's very important and good. However, I think your best friend should be your partner ultimately.
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>>16467439
queer lmao
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>>16467439
Utter bullshit.
My mother destroyed me from childhood to late teens with passive aggressive behavior. And I am less of a person because of it
>In 5th year of PhD program
>shit is not going well at all
> Boss let me take (or maybe talked me in to, idk anymore) projects that were/are really risky and they just have not panned out at all
>Other students who joined lab with me have already graduated (got a project that was basically half done) or have the go ahead to (boss gave him a defined project)
>Co-author on high tier publications and wrote a book chapter, but not first author so it doesn't help me graduate
>even worse my now wife moved up here after her masters and it took her 3 years to get a teaching job
>finally got a full time position
>all in all it probably is a difference in her earnings of about $120k pre-tax, loss of experience, pay raises, and retirement contributions
>Starting to think that I should just Master out and move on
The fuck should I do?
Why am I even asking about this here?
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I went through much the same.
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>>16467218
what'd you do?
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Anyway, what's the plan? What to move on to, in other words? Medical school?
what is the best place for one to meet girls? bars, libraries perhaps? what do you even say to a girl in order to spark a conversation that doesn't sound totally forced?
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>>16467125
Literally anywhere
"Hi, Im ____ whats your name?"
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>>16467125
This does not work >>16467134 unless the situation is absolutely perfect and you're on your a-game. I wouldn't suggest walking into every place you go with the expressed intent of meeting girls.
Anyway look for situations where you're likely to shoot the shit with them. Work and social gatherings are obvious ones. That way you're less likely to sound forced no matter what you approach with because she knows you're there to meet people and so is she.
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>>16467134
bad advice
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So I've been fapping to my sister's instagram for a few years now. First I did it because 1 - shes hot but mostly because the wrongness of it turned me on even more. Now I'm legitimately into it and I don't even feel guilty anymore.
My question is, should I feel bad? No I will not post pics, but just know she looks like pic related but a much more lewd dresser.
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I don't see any reason to feel guilty, it's not like you're fucking her.
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>>16467130
I probably would if given the opportunity. I'm that far into it.
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>>16467106
>mostly because the wrongness of it turned me on even more
Exactly what dragged me into the dark world of lolicon. Save yourself. Don't end up fucked up like me.