Anyone else feel like a complete loser when they go out with their friends?
"Christ, these people are so much more successful than me and having such a good time in life, why can't I?"
Every time I hear someone's accomplishment or what they plan on doing, I feel like a loser. I just feel insignificant.
I have a decent life. I have an ok job and my own place, but I don't really go out much. Most of the people I know really move forward in their careers, move out to new areas, or have some pretty awesome accomplishments.
And here I am, just average and alone.
How can I reconcile this?
>>16463974
No, I don't fell that. But only because all my friends are losers, just like me. And when I have a friend that accomplished something in his career, I feel happy for it. You should charish your friends more. Expecting nothing back.
Do you feel alone? Look around you, everybody does. Go on a travel, alone. Meet new people. Give yourself a break.
>>16464001
I'm pretty alone. I'm honestly a recluse who maybe goes out once a month. My friends are a lot more social and go places.
I have a tough time doing that honestly. I'd feel lost trying to go somewhere myself. I've done it before but I can never connect with people when I do it. I don't know if people ever like me or just pretend.
I rarely get invited to go anywhere by my friends so I think most people just don't end up liking me. I just got back from going out with them and feel like shit.
Do good for yourself. It's the only way.
So about 2 years ago I had the equivalent of winning a million+ with a lotto ticket and losing it on my way to claim it by dumb luck. Wont go into detail, only that it was career related and one of the most unluckiest things I've ever heard of. I was depressed my whole life(real ocd when I was young, the type where you have numbers for everything, where you need to do tasks, overcame it but you keep the perfectionist side that can never be fulfilled) but now this is something else..
How can you go from "I can finally be happy, holy shit I can't believe this is happening, if I do this right I will be set for life at the age of 22, I can do whatever I want" to your normal depressed life. Not only is it normal but now everything I do seems 10x harder and it's been 2 years since it happened with no signs of improvement. What would you do? What should I do?
Realise that money was never going to fix your problems and that you can't turn back time and get it back, and move on. People spend less time hung up over their exes than you have over a piece of paper, Jesus.
I won't lie, that's brutal. I know you're probably thinking of all the things you could've had, and how you could've turned your situation around, but you have to suck it up and accept that it happened. For what it's worth, many people win much more than that from the lottery and end up broke.
>>16463969
Money would of fixed most problems. The main reason why people don't go after their dreams or do things they actually like is because of financial stability. Having money means you don't need to worry about it.. A girlfriend isn't worth 1 million+, let's be real here. There is plenty of fish in the sea.
I'm a dude. I'm in good shape. I have a huge ass. One of my exes used to call me "Beyonce" because my "booty was so ghetto". I'm really insecure about it. Squats and deadlifts just seem to make it bigger, but I need to train those areas to stop my lumbar lordosis from coming back, because my ass looks even bigger as a result. How much of a turnoff is a big butt on dudes for chicks?
I can't see it being a turnoff at all honestly.
>>16463960
>in good shape
Nah, you're good, you probably look like a baseball player.
>>16463960
its not a turn off, its not a bad thing, anon
I was in a long-term relationship with this girl, we broke off because I went abroad to work and save up and well, I returned recently. We started hanging out again and things were looking good and I asked her out again. She flat out refused me, when I asked why it was because of my body.
You see five years ago I did not give a fuck how I looked, but me and a few buddies wanted to go to a Halloween party dressed as spartans from 300. Turns out, I like working out and generally feeling like I'm a teenager again. Besides having abs, I cannot stress how great it feels to be running 10-20km a day or doing sports and not getting the wind knocked out of me. I maintained my lifestyle even until today.
But she doesn't like me looking so... hard, in her own words. She liked me better when I was soft and chubby. But thing is I like myself as I am now. I always thought women liked gains, wtf did I do wrong. I still do seriously love her, not sure if I should give up my routine which is hard on me or ask her if she could accept me as I am.
>>16463942
I'm with her, I prefer a guy who's chubby and cuddly than a guy with rock hard abs and biceps. Why are you so hung up on her anyway? Find another girl to date
>>16463954
I felt like we had a connection and we understand each other at times without talking. She's also a very nice girl. I don't know, its love, I know I can find other women - but would I love them?
I can be cuddly, what is it that turns off women when it comes to muscles. I'm not a huge roider even.
>>16463942
You shouldn't really change just because somebody wants you to change. You should do that only if YOU want to, if you don't like how you look. Try to talk with her about it, try to find a compromise. If she is not willing to accept things you like, she is not worth it. I feel for you bro, keep yourself fit.
26 never had a gf planning to kill myself after xmas it wrong to want to kill myself over this? I can't take the loneliness anymore I can't I'm so tired of it. I will never have GF, no girl will ever love me I been robbed because of my height and build. I want to kill myself to put myself out my pain it will never get better or improve I'm tired I'm done.
>>16463872
fuck wrong pic
Yes kill yourself because you don't want to put in the work to be happy. Your loss. More life for the rest of us.
What is wrong with your height and build?
>friend confessed her love to me about a year ago
>turn her down very clearly
>spend a year being her friend but subtly leading her on
>asks me last night to answer once and for all
>again, tell her I want to be just friends
>she says she is going to stop talking to me for her own sake
I know it's much worse for her, but I'm feeling pretty bummed out too. Please advise.
You have no obligation to have intercourse with her,if she want to stop being your friend, because you are not attracted to her, so she was never a real friend!
What do you want?? To keep her in limbo forever?
Wish her well and make new friends
I met a married milf at the gym a few months ago. We make out, sometimes she lets me finger her, but she just likes to give me blowjobs. She never wants me to fuck her or give her oral. I thought she wanted to take it slow, but i have 3 months just getting blowjobs from her. This is common?
In cheating relationships, it can be. She is either positioning herself for denying to her husband that she had sex, ala Bill Clinton, or just really likes feeling sexy.
>>16463709
is there a way to make it happen?
>>16463717
I doubt it. Cheaters are motivated by particular things, and it's usually not sex. Paradoxical, huh?
I'm drunk as fuck. I'm a clinical psychologist. Ask me things.
>no dream interpretation
>if you're suicidal call 911
>if you don't ask a question I'm not answering
>I'm here till I go
>pic related because America
I have a lot of health problems that make me feel like I am a burden on my love ones. I am always working hard to be independent but I never am.
>>16463702
Is it hard to imagine that this shit is like Jeopardy?
>>16463708
What?
by lines i sorta mean the basic conversation starters ?
Tell her you have upgraded your virus protection on your computer and want to use it
Ask if you can be her derivative and lie tangent to her curves.
"Do you work at an orphanage by any chance? Cause I wanna give you kids."
"I'm gonna have to ask you to leave. You're making all the other women here look bad."
Is it weird to be strongly attracted to British girls just because of their accents?
No. It's superficial, and that's not a weird thing.
well, also their feet size..
>>16463499
they just seem so much more refined and sexy. I am American myself but anytime I meet a British girl I start hitting on her. I'd like to travel to England just to meet women
hey, should i date this girl?
>high school drop out
>18 year old
>miscarriage at 16
>has been raped
>mfw
If you are asking 4chan prob not.
>>16463428
http://vocaroo.com/i/s1RC8ZzqcUZS
>>16463428
>has been raped
most certainly not
Hi /adv/. This might not sound like something all-too urgent to take care of or even address, but I'd still like your opinion on what is currently going on in my life.
I'm eighteen years old and I don't really have much of a life or even a hobby outside of my own house. I just currently graduated high school in May of this year, but I'm not attending any colleges, I'm still living at home with my parents, and I am currently unemployed. Needless to say, I have very few, if any, friends that I'm lucky to see more than once every three to four months.
It may sound like I live a hollow, meaningless existence for someone my age, but oddly enough, the thing that gives me the most joy every day is picking my little five-year-old brother up from his bus stop. I always look forward to just walking up to his bus stop, waiting for his bus to come and drop him off, and watch him run off and try to hug me at the sidewalk before we'd hold hands and walk home while making small talk about how his day went and what he did at school.
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I mean, sure, he always has and even still does tend to annoy me at times with how much he misbehaves, taunts, talks back, and refuses to follow directions. Sometimes I'll snap and yell at him to quit until he stops dead in his tracks and cries out of fear, but it's at that moment where I, too, want to cry because of how much I've scared and hurt my little brother. Even at the end of the day, since I share my room with him, I'll look at his bed and feel a wave of emotion and pride at knowing that this little booger, with all of his flaws and bad habits, is a part of my life. It's like I almost know what it's like to be a father.
So, should I be caring this much over my little brother? After all, it's not like I'm his parent and since I'm moving out in less than a year, it's more than likely that I won't be a part of his life for that long. Is this a sign that I need to develop more of a life and extend that love to people other than my immediate family?
>>16463417
First of all, how are you moving out with no job?
Second of all, I also have a little brother I love dearly. Maybe I feel more responsible and protective of him because I also fear of the neglect/possible abuse he would get from our mother if I WASN'T around.
But you know, you have to go off and do your life. But you should most definitely stay in his life. Try to be there for him, visit him frequently. Allow him to come visit you. Teach him things, show him new places and activities.
Even if you don't see each other that often over a few years, you will still be his 'cool older brother' and you'll be able to remain close forever. You can just pick up where you left off in a phone call or in person. Tell him how you'll always be just a phone call away.
>>16463466
>First of all, how are you moving out with no job?
I mean, I'm also job hunting. I'm not trying to stay unemployed and just be a freeloader. Also, I have some friends of mine I'm moving out with and they're currently apartment hunting and accumulating enough money to support the three of us.
>Try to be there for him, visit him frequently. Allow him to come visit you.
The only problem with that is that the place I'm leaving to is a good eight-and-a-half hours away. Then again, if I'm a "cool" enough older brother, I could just make my visit to him something he could look forward to. Sounds like a good plan.
I want to at least keep in touch with him as much as possible.
CALLING ALL FEMANONS.
Let's say you were in a situation where you liked a guy. He was good hearted, good temperament, decent career, overall a nice guy, and sti/std clean.
But when the topic of sexual partners came up he was honest and said around 33 partners.
How bad would that be for you? Set off any red flags?
You should not bring up how many people you slept with in the first place. It is something to be kept private because it will only hurt the other person. All that matters is you are with that person now and nothing else.
I think it'd depend why exactly he's had so many partners. 33 is a lot but he could've just been a wild child in college. If he's been in 33 relationships, then that's a red flag. Dude clearly can't keep a relationship together. But if he's had 33 sexual partners for the sake of having sex only, with maybe a few attempts at a real relationship thrown in there, assuming that's in his past (like his 33rd didn't happen yesterday or some shit) and he seems ready to have something "real" then I wouldn't care. But he'd have to be tested again, doesn't matter if he says he's clean lol.
The fact that he mentioned it would be the red flag. Reeks of TMI.
My gf has had sex with 12 guys before me. She is 21 y/o she tells me she has never loved or liked any goy before me, i mean liked liked with feelings and all that, she wants to start a family with me and wants to spend the rest of her life with me. I do love her, but the number 12 bothers me alot. Do you guys think this will be a problem in the future, will she think about some of the guys she have had sex with in the past? Does she think about them when shes alone? I really need help with this one. I want to not care, but at the end of thr day it kinda eats on me.
>>16463342
No nobody thinks about people theyve fucked in the past if they didnt love them or if the sex wasnt like spectacular
Ahahaha she won't be thinking about those guys in the past. but she probably will miss being a whore eventually and cheat on you with that high of a number. Especially if you ever slack off satisfying her. She'll be in another dude's bed faster than you can blink.
12 isn't the number of people. Anyone with a number over 10 lies about it. If it bugs you and you decide that you can't live with it then don't man.
Here is something that inexplicably blows people's minds: sexual liberation means that while she has the right to screw or reject as many consenting adults as she wants to, you also have the right to reject her for any reason or no reason. Don't like a chick's highlights? Turn her down if you want to. Don't like her driving? You're free to not get with her for that reason. Don't like her sexual history? You're free to not get with her for that reason as well. If anyone gives you lip over it, point out that if it's not valid for you to have your preferences then how is she free from criticism for fucking 12 guys?
So I was prescribed this I am on day 2 now.
I would like to know opinions and experiences how it works in daily life.
If possible also someone that could explain what exactly does biologically in the brain or what kinds of side effects you had on the first days.
Most importantly I would like to read experiences with it and examples of your life while using it.
bemps
I had ADHD when I was younger and was forced by my school to take Ritalin. All it did was help me focus on my doodling in class and chores where easier after taking. Seriously Op you should clean your house on Ritalin it's the best
ive never heard of ritalin, i have adhd but they prescribed me aderall, whats the difference between the two?