It feels like we are draining each other because we constantly text. I don't want/need that, but how can i decrease our "inbetween dates" contact without him feeling like i am loosing interest or playing games?
I just rather have some time to miss him and have a whole lot to talk about next time we meet...
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Just tell him you're having allergies
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>>16478038
To what? Texting? I'd rather tell him the truth, but i'm afraid of not wording it right and ending up driving him away. Prob just a major case of overthinkink... Would still like some outside input
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>>16478045
You are overthinking, but just put off the vibe that you don't like texting.
Might be weird and kind of late but could work. Next time, don't keep texting constantly.
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>be social autist since birth
>Been rejected, friend-zoned , repulsed, made fun of by girls
>destroyed every little self esteem I had
>Be too weird and shy to talk to some girls, especially to attractive girls
>with time and personal experience, I get a little better at talking to girls I like
>still rejected
>Though knowing that Im not entitled, the fact that I'll stay lonely and unlovable forever still hits me
Now 3rd wave feminism is telling girls that men are going to kill them if they don't offer sex . Cause of the bad girls from my past and 3rd wave , I've never been more shamed for being born with a penis. I just asked my crush out. She gave me a nice simple rejection. I just wanted to get my feelings out of the way and ask her out. I just want to be done with women now. it just feels so hard. I've been wanting a relationship for years and now I'm in college. So many girls and I don't stand a chance.But many of them still scares me though. How do I stop being anxious around women? And how can I take pride of being alone?
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It's a common allergic reaction. Don't fret too much.
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>>16478055
Isn't there a cure for it though?
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Focus on being a man. Man up. Study something, make money by doing an interesting job and learn that sex is not everything in life. Don't let your youth slip away and don't fill your soul with regret when you get old. Girls are everywhere, you can meet a new one at every corner but Time is the one thing you can't have back when it's gone..
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Does anyone here know his/her shit about food,diets,vitamins and all that?
>pic....i guess related kinda
I ask cause
>Never (or maaaybe once) visited dentist
>Smoked since 12 i think, about 10-20 cigs a day
>Snuffed snuffing tobacco a LOT for about a year when teen (not sure when). I think i still feel like my nose is full since that time and have trouble breathing just thru nose
>Drank vodka since 14, sometimes pretty heavily (bottle a night)
>When turned about 17 added wine and beer to that mix
>Started drinking coffee since 12 i think, usually cup or two a day but sometimes 5-15 depends on how stressed/retarded i feel that day
>Ceased visiting a doctor since 15
("family" drama-mother left me alone with stepdad who hated her and by extension me, but i digress , noone to sign papers, possibility of being targeted by social services etc. so doc was a no go)
>Eating basically only processed food with pastry since 15, usually vacuumed salami/ham and pastry. Thats it, thats the food for the whole day.
>Drinking milk mostly in all those coffees, nearly never JUST the milk
>Other stuff i occasionally eat is fried meat,lentil and eggs+sausages, spaghetti, goulash, pasta cooked with eggs,onions etc. and very rarely a fish
>Also started smoking weed (if i have enough, i wake n bake all day erryday) and eating shrooms (only like twice a year though) since i turned 20.
So, my day is basically like
>Get up, make a coffee, have 2 or 3 cigs with said coffee. If no weed, then make another coffee and have another 2 or 3 cigs ad infinitum. About 8-10 hours after waking up i eat some processed,vacuumed salami/ham with pastry (usually bread or...its kinda like croissant but not sweet). Then smoke and drink some more coffee, if i (happens only occasionally) have meat i fry it (cant stand boiled or any other type of meat since i was a kid, started eating meat and only fried when turned teen) and maybe make some potatoes or rice with it.
NOW, to my question.
>What do to fix human?
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Just wanted to add that i was thinking about my life a lot and i had enough of this first imposed and then self-imposed self-destruction.
Problem is i never had anyone "normal" around me so i truly have no fucking idea how to live and be at least somewhat healthy/not malnourished.
I mean, my gf tried to be "normal" the first few months but that did not work out and she slipped into this FUCKED up lifestyle (not sure how she used to live, but somehow similar only not AS "bad").
Its been four years since i moved out of that rat-shit,moldy,regularly exploding boiler,outside walls falling apart under the constant abuse of rainwater, disappearing walls in basement which happens to be flooded from bottom to top at least few times a month excuse of a house.
And i kinda decided that i should maybe change this genius lifestyle which was bestowed upon me by failed existences AKA people who pretend to be a family once a decade.
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>>16477891
Are you morbidly obese? I'd highly recommend you find the time to get a normal checkup, and tell them all of this shit. The look of Horror on the doctors face may motivate you to change. I understand it's all you know, so I can't really imagine what I'm telling you will change anything, but first off, you need to stop smoking. Seriously. I've smoked occasionally before, and the difference between just how you feel in general when not smoking is so much better. You will seriously feel like you had an illness and got better a week or two after. The diet I would recommend less extreme changes, try eating more homemade food. But seriously. Buy a vape if you have to, or smoke one cigarette a day for a few weeks or something. That shit will fuck you up.
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>>16477897
And also, are you a Slav? Sound extremely Slav
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I feel dead inside. I'm not even motivated enough to commit suicide. I just wanna lay down and sleep forever.
Is this normal?
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That's classic depression symptoms.
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Ya seconded sounds like depression to me
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Hey, you're just like me.
I don't know the solution. I dream at night that I can join some war and die without people hating me.
But that's too much work.
Right now I have a uni degree which I'm begrudgingly going to use to apply to teach some Asian ass mongs.
Maybe in time, I'll live long enough so that no one knows me. Then I can commit suicide without anyone feeling bad.
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I don't know exactly what I want, but, I know it's not this...
I'm sure most of you have had some interesting life events, and have gone through a lot of trauma, so some of you might understand where I'm coming from
I think I want to end my life...
>physically and mentally abused by brother/sister/father
>my mom decided she couldn't handle my father anymore, or his abuse, so, she left, as a single mother, with 5 kids
>Became homeless at 8yro
>lived in seattle wa, on the streets, for almost 2 years (until I was almost 10)
>moved to a smaller city
>dad wasn't around anymore, mom was finally working, as a single mother
>older brother (2yrs older than me), and sister (3yrs older), stomped my head into the concrete, countless times
>brother stabbed me twice (when I was 11)
>one of my brothers died (I was still 11), my mom became emotionally crippled, and my brother and sister became even more violent
>I continue to receive beatings, and, having my head slammed into the ground/cement by them (a lot)
>mom never did anything to stop it, no talking, spanking, grounding, nothing... Not that she could, she was either always at work, or at the casino gambling...
>I left home when I was 15 years old, to live, and make it on my own...
>I lived on my own until I was 21 years old... I began to have seizures... I have epilepsy now :X
>The neurologist told me the seizures were/are caused by head trauma I had received as a child (I.e. my brother, sister, and father)
>lost my job because of the seizures, being hospitalized and not being able to go to work, sometimes for a week+ at a time
>hard time finding work... Who wants to hire an unskilled 21yro, with epilepsy?
>I had to move back home
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>I've found more work for myself, thankfully, but, with my medical condition, and how many seizures I sometimes have, I can only work 15-20 hours a week (I was working full time, and overtime a lot), which isn't really enough to support myself
>Brother and sister both still living at home, with mom, never having tried to even make it on their own
>brother and sister are both healthy individuals (at least, physically), nothing wrong with them
>brother and sister are simply too lazy to go find work
>Ever since I was a child, my mom has favoured my brother and sister, she still does
>24yro now, still only capable of working 15-20hours a week... Have 10+ seizures a month (usually in clusters/getting worse)
>my mom told me I needed to leave, that I wasn't contributing enough.... I'm working, and doing as much as I can...
>she hasn't said anything to my lazy fuck brother or sister, and shows absolute favoritism towards them, even though neither has ever worked a job in their life, or supported themselves
Fuck man, maybe I just need someone to talk to... Idfk :X
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Or maybe, I'm a little bitch... I, just don't know anymore.
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So I think I'm being cheated on.
The other day, my wife went to some ccarnival thing with her girlfriends. They invited this guy along. And ever since then they have not stopped chatting. She showed me one of their conversations, saying "he's such an idiot" etc, but I read through it and I could tell it was flirting. Another thing is, she wouldn't let me see past a certain point, which made me very suspicious. I already have next to no trust in her because she's done this twice before, and I guess I was just too much of a beta to dump her. Plus I revenge cheated so we called it even. We got much better in our relationship as well, I didn't think this would happen again. While she was in the shower, I decided to read the rest of the conversation (yes it's a shitty thing to do I know) and she had written to him "I wanna go get drunk and high, my husband's friend died in a car crash and now it's all depressing at home. We can't even watch tv without him getting upset at a car accident and it's getting really annoying". He then said back to her "we could go out", she said "but it will be just you and me" and he goes "well if you don't think you can control yourself around me you dont have to".
Am I overthinking this? My friend just died in a car crash. My best friend of 10 years. I've got every right to be depressed. And now I think she's cheating on me because I'm too sad. Can anyone please give me some advice on what to do? I can't even confront her about it because she'll know I've been through her phone and she'll just turn the argument onto me. What would you do if this was your wife/gf?
TL;DR
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TL;DR think my wife is cheating on me cause I'm sad
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you should get a divorce
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>>16477833
This is the best advice. Your relationship sounds fucked, OP.
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Why the fuck am I so tired all the time
My body is pale and weak as fuck. I have bags under my eyes always feel faint. I always wake up tired as shit. I have literally no energy I can't work I can barely get shit done around the house.
I'm also heavily balding. Could this be why?
Inb4 exercise diet and sunlight I do all that. I sleep 10 hours a night because anything less is deadly.
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>>16477764
How much do you weigh? I ask as it could be a sleep disorder.
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Go make a appointment with your Primary Care Provider
My entire life I've felt a void in me, an emptiness. I've never really been able to fill it. I thought that when I got a girlfriend that it would be filled.
So 3 days ago I broke up with my girlfriend of 2 years because this void wasn't filled.
I feel more empty then ever.
I was just wondering, if she was the one would this void have been filled or was I excepting to much?
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A girlfriend will not fix the problems that you have inside of yourself.
Take it from a marriedfag. Those problems may go away for a while, especially in the beginning of a relationship, but a relationship will not fix them. That is something you have to do on your own. Relationships make it easier, give you a larger support network, but it is both unrealistic and unfair to expect them to make everything better.
Get yourself checked for depression, too.
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>>16477722
I'm in your shoes bro.
That feeling of "Nothing really matters"
Or "In five years my only hope is to be still alive".
I've lived that. I'm still living that.
I don't know any solution. I've dumped girls. I've dropped jobs. I've changed majors.
I can't find any solutions.
I've taken up drinking this year and I hate it. I've spent so much money on booze and all it's done is dull the pain about being almost 30.
So I can't help you, bro. I know your conflict. But all I can say is never ever start drinking. Life was painful before but at least you didn't feel the urge.
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>>16477729
Its just so confusing, I've never really felt love and I'm 28, I've dates amazing girls, or maybe I'm just excepting to much! What is love supposed to feel like?
I feel empty and hurt without the girl I was with but I started getting doubts like I do with everything in my life.
I'm going to start going to a therapist because I do want to sort this out.
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Need a female Opinion. Do you like this haircut in a man?
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>>16477688
nope. when was the last time you saw such a haircut in a movie anyway? (excluding ones about old timey gangsters)
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not really. honestly, it's not an awful hair cut, it's just kind of played out. a lot of guys got their hair cut like that and now it's just a trend.
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Yes I actually like it,
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A friend of a friend is an early 20s single hillbilly mother. (Although this takes place in a city.) Her mother is equally trashy, and I am typically only around her when she comes in contact with my circle of friends.
This girl is a terrible human being for a myriad of reasons, but lately I've been bothered by some of the shit she pulls. Her entire family has welfare babies (including her siblings) and collect god knows how much in government funds + child support that they blow on tattoos and beer. The grandmother is raising the kids and sells coke out of their house, with the mother doing deliveries or running. As I never go over there, I don't know the exact address, nor do I have any pictures; she's stupid enough to post several on instagram.
How can I turn this bitch in?
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Even if you could do something, what good would it do? It'll just make a bunch of kids hungry and homeless, and potentially put them in homes where they're likely to be abused. You're basically going to ruin the future of a bunch of kids who have done nothing wrong, because you don't like their parents. Also, there're so many other families out there like this, if you're trying to make a statement, this is on much too small of a scale.
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>>16477533
>implying these kids aren't already fucked
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do not get involved
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Hey /adv/, so I want to learn a language. I want to eventually learn an Eastern language, probably Korean. Before that I think it'd be good to learn an easier language like French.
My only concern is, is French worth it?
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Define "worth it". What is it that you want from a langage you learn?
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>>16477474
It's super useful if you live in Europe, Africa, or Canada. Every language you learn to fluency makes it easier to learn another so it's a good place to start because it's fairly simple. It's a sexy language and a gateway to the other romance tongues. I'd argue that it is worth it.
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If you want to start with something simpler, go with Spanish. Useful, and easy.
Almost cheated on my girlfriend 2 years ago and kept it from her, also deleted messages on facebook from guys and girls to not provoke jealousy in the relationship. She found out and we broke up. I feel beyond guilty, I fucked up so hard and it hurts beyond all. Was with her for 3 great years, we were planning on getting married and everything. It's been 3 weeks since we ended and she moved back to her parents and I'm still a fucking mess but her mother says she is doing alright; which is good.
We're talking later this week potentially, I'll be giving a formal apology and talking about what the future holds for us (this will be the second talk we've had since we broke up). Her mother says not to expect to get back together, I also told my ex that if she cancelled the talk this week that's okay, but she says she wants to have the conversation.
I don't expect to get back together with her, but I don't know how to cope with this guilt of losing the most beautiful, caring person in my life.
What do?
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>>16477446
Wait, but you did not cheat. Can't she see that? You stopped out love, didn't you?
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What did you expect would happen?
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>>16477453
Yeah, but I messaged the girl the next day. Texted her for a half hour, talked about what could have happened (we weren't sure) it was all in the heat of the moment, good thing it didn't, never ever talked again. On my part it was fucking stupid. Told her for 2 years she was ridiculous for being jealous of other girls. Basically I'm a piece of shit.
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I don't know what to think anymore and I have no idea what to do, this is affecting me so much and I haven't been able to stop thinking about it. I just really, really need help please.
So a couple of months ago it was my 21st birthday, and I went out to the pub with my boyfriend (now ex) and friends.
I drink probably a couple of times every couple of weeks, but I either only have a few drinks or get really drunk. I'm a little bit of a light weight and don't know my limits with some alcohol. That night I drank a bit before going out and then drank a bit more while out.
I got very drunk and don't remember anything at all.
My boyfriend and best friend took me back to bf's place, and I woke up the next morning with both of us naked, with very clear evidence that we'd had sex.
My question is, was that wrong on his part?
When I realised what had happened and after he told me most of the details of the night, I didn't really know what to think or how I felt. I have a history with sexual abuse that's given me PTSD and honestly, I feel sick just writing this all out.
I've tried not to dwell on this because it just gives me so many negative feelings, but I'm at the point where I can't stop thinking about it. Sometimes I have nightmares about it, and thinking about it causes me a lot of anxiety and stress.
I don't really know what else I'm asking, I guess I just need some advice please.
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He was able to take you back to his place, so I think it's clear that he took advantage of you. I'm not a feminist consent nazi, but the situation just sounds wrong. I'd be more forgiving if you were both very drunk, but he was able to take care of you.
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>>16477301
It takes a lot for him to get drunk, and from what everyone's told me, he wasn't that drunk at all.
I just really don't know what to do or how I should feel about it. I haven't been able to look at him the same since, and we only recently broke up.
I should mention that he was very emotionally abusive too. The amount of anxiety this has caused me is unbelievable.
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>>16477331
Try your best to move on, because he doesn't sound like someone of value.
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There are days that I really, truly wonder why I try.
I've never been "normal" on a social level. I've always struggled to make friends and attract partners. I really don't know how I've ever had girlfriends.
I just don't get "it" whatever "it" is. I can't play the game. I met a girl this past weekend who seemed into me (I'm fairly good at feigning social skills) and her friend was all about trying to get us together. She insisted we exchange numbers, so we did. Her friend kept singing my praises, talking about how I seemed like a good guy and that I was good looking, etc. all while talking shit about the girl's ex. It was kinda funny until she said that she doesn't understand why I don't have a girlfriend. I just kinda chuckled and shrugged. But the truth is, I do know why.
Because I don't know what the fuck I'm doing. I don't know how to attract women or hold their attention once I do get it. I've been texting this girl for a few days now, and we've been snapchatting too. She's been sending me cute pics of her doing various things like lying in her bed or just wearing pajamas on her couch or whatever, and it's great but holy fuck I don't know how to play this game. I can already tell she's losing interest and it kills me because she's such a sweet girl and I'm at that age where every decent girl is taken. It's times like this when I just want to crawl back under my rock and hibernate.
How the fuck do I get "it"? I want, more than anything to just be a normal fucking person.
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>>16477251
Just communicate with her.
If you are shy you can just tell her. It's best to do this face to face though. Ask her out for a coffee date.
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>>16477264
I've been trying to get her locked down on a date but she seems less than enthusiastic. I can't really tell via text, obviously.
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>>16477316
>can't really tell via text
God I hate texting.. Talk to her in person about it..
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Hey guys. So my bf has recently started to take more time to reply to my texts (so we end up talking a lot less a day), and he's said some small lies to me like telling me he is going to sleep when he is actually staying late playing videogames with a (girl)friend. I started taking antidepressants last week for a whole different reason so my mood is unstable until my body gets used to it, so I might be imagining things. But he hasn't said he loves me in 4 days, I did but he didn't answer, I don't know what to think anymore. I feel like shit, why wouldn't he break up with me if he doesn't want me anymore?? How much time does a guy need to decide what the fuck he's going to do?
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You're just boring so he's understandably spending more time without you.
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You should talk to him. It's too risky to make assumptions out of the little information you gave us.
>Does he take you for granted?
>Does he bail on you often?
>How long have you guys been together?
>Does he put effort into getting to know you?
>Is he willing to discuss problems with you and resolve them?
>Does he compromise?
>Is he sketchy when it comes to talking about his female friends? (Yes, he seems sketchy when it's about this girl. Does he do the same with his other female friends or just her?)
>Has he done anything else to weaken your trust in him?
>Have you met his friends? If yes, how does he treat you when he's around them?
>Have you met his family?
Girl! How am I supposed to help if you give so little information! Give us some background
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I had an experience pretty identical to this. It turns out that he was cheating on me, unfortunately. You should sit him down and make him tell you the truth. He's likely unhappy with your relationship and is searching for a better option. This is a huge red flag, seeing as how he rather replace what's broken instead of fixing it. He's either invested in you, or he's not.