My gf asked for a break in our relationship to understand her feelings. I gave it to her. Then I caught her kissing another guy. Is this cheating?
She said that it was "just a kiss" and it meant nothing and "it just happened". She denies that she cheated because they didn't have sex. I loved her. Now I feel betrayed. She doesn't seem to be sorry. She blames me for watching her.
Is cheating really only limited to sex?
A break does't mean the end of a relationship. It's just paused, but still there. Right? Do you think what she did is OK?
>>16471889
Cheating is what you make of it
The important thing here is that you were hurt, and she probably knew it would hurt you
I would consider kissing very close to the edge... Things would have to be going very well in all other departments for me to continue the relationship
Also, consider if she's the type of person that would do this again. Hey, if she can get away with kissing, why not do it regularly? Why not just stick a tongue in sometime? Why not let herself get touched up during it too? Hell, why not just fuck?
YOU WERE ON A BREEEEEEEAAAAAAAK!!!
>>16471889
go ask /gif/ for an "It's not cheating" thread, I'm sure they'll be able to help you out.
So yesterday I did pretty much the stupidest thing in my life. I fucked a shemale escort. She blew me (no condom), I rimmed her (no condom), and then we fucked (with condom). She shat on my dick.
She did porn with Christian XXX who the Internet says is HIV+. I'm scared shitless of having been exposed. I know the risks for performing rimming and receiving oral are extremely low, but still, there's a good chance she's HIV+. Fuck, man... should I go to a doctor and try to get a PEP?
>I might have aids. Should I get tested?
Duh.
>>16471828
>Rimming a shemale prostitue
>Rimming a prostitute in general
Literally what the fuck are you doing
>>16471832
PEP isn't testing, it's HIV medicine you take right after exposure that prevents infection. It's said to be very effective. But they don't usually offer it to people who only had non-penetrative unprotected sex.
My stepfather is an alcoholic and drinks at least six bottles of beer every evening. My mother broke up with him and we will move in 3 weeks.
I'm scared of him attacking me when he's drunk. What if he goes into my room at night with a knife and stabs me?
How can I defend myself? I can't buy any weapons because I'm too young and we live in Germany.
chair against the door?
is there a friends/relatives place you can stay at until its time to move?
my mother and i stayed at a hotel even once before we had somewhere else to go
>>16471796
Good idea. But that only protects me at night when I'm in my room. I can't lock myself in my room for three weeks.
How can I get rid of these little bastards? I have 4 of them on the underside of my tongue and 2 on my cheeks. It's so painful that I can't even eat. It's been 4 days and nothing has fucking changed.
Help me
Why don't you go to a dentist? He/She can help you.
Try rinsing your mouth with salt water and dont tongue them. That only makes it worse. You should also go see a doctor
>>16471772
>>16471776
You see I currently have tonsilitis and sinusitis. I've seen a doctor and briefly mentioned about the mouth ulcers, he basically said just rest and that there is no cure.
I asked late last night about taking time off from work. I requested to have Black Friday and Saturday off (we already have Thanksgiving off) for travel purposes with family.
I went in today and got straight disrespected by my assistant manager. She was going off on how I work in retail and should have known. Then she went on a sarcastic rant about what the "biggest day of the year is". I told her in a calm voice that I requested a month ago (I started work 2 months ago) and it was for family travel. She fired back saying "Well make family time on Easter". Then said that I would have to talk to the boss or call out.
Another big thing is that she said we can't take time off from Black Friday to Christmas. I have another Grad school interview in early December, which even lands on a Wednesday. They were very helpful with letting me take off for Grad school interviews, but I'm not going to let some part-time job that I'm using for extra pocket money stand in front of something as big as an interview. I let them know during my job interview that I was currently applying to Grad school and would have interviews, but it seems like they were upset with how many I was going to.
So if this all doesn't work out, which I doubt it will because I know how my boss is.... it will be a one week notice of leave, and I won't come in for the busiest time of the year. How bad of a burnt bridge will this be, and should I even care considering I will be starting Grad school in about 6 months?
>>16471766
You will probably get fired, sorry to say it, anon. When I managed retail and worked on Black Friday, we literally had every single employee on the payroll working, with only one exception, and I believe that's because her dad had cancer and she was quitting anyways.
It's retail man, and the holiday season. You had to have expected this. You may as well put in your two weeks today and explain that you're unfortunately not going to be coming for Black Friday and hope they don't term you right then and there so you can say you didn't get fired.
I also quit because of Black Friday :^)
>>16471794
Damn. I've never been fired before. It's only been 2 months... would I have to inform a future employer? And would it look bad on my part if I explain that I put in that much notice and still didn't get time off? I've never worked retail before so honestly this is a shocker to me. I thought it was a mistake that I was scheduled.
It sucks, this is why you try to work for a buisness that compliments your holliday schedule. If you go away on holidays you need to work for mom and pop places that close and can't run black friday. Working for big retailers is for people that don't like their family and non holliday celebrating atheists.
I was baptized as a child and I don't worship God anymore. I am a traditional satanist now and because of that I feel really bad to be baptized.
Are there any satanists who successfully reversed their baptism? Maybe with some kind of ritual?
Of course others can give me their advice, too.
Any advice is greatly appreciated.
What does it mean to be a Satanist? What do you believe in?
What specifically do you mean by "satanist"? Because if you don't believe in God, there isn't any ritual to reverse because it didn't mean anything. It was just water.
The baptism would be as meaningful as me clapping my hands 3 times, spinning around, and saying now you'll always be blessed by God.
I don't think you even understand your faith
Hi /adv/. I've gotten myself into a sticky situation.
>get dumped last week
>haven't been single in like four years
>tinder??
>tons of guys ask me out and I agree to almost all
>guy is taking me to a cool tea place tomorrow
I have panic attacks when I have to eat/drink in front of people I'm not comfortable around. Not to mention I haven't ever been on a proper date before. It's now 6 am and I'm laying in bed watching anime and putting off sleep because I'm anxious about tomorrow. I can't cancel because that's rude, but I really want to. How do I deal with my anxiety on a date?
Don't order anything to drink/eat on your date. Case solved.
>>16471622
...at a tea place? And let this guy think I'm like.. starving myself?
I have the same issues, i find it extremely uncomfortable to eat in front of people. My way around it find something that you both like to do, that's how culture works. People do things, some people do the same things. People talk about the same things.
I hope this helps. Updates plocks.
The other thing i do is just get drunk, but that might not be advised as it doesnt usually get me anywhere except more anxious when im sober
How bad of an idea is it to lose your virginity to somebody who has literally fucked all of your mates and nearly your entire town except yu?
>>16471539
pretty bad desu
well, if you can ensure she's clean, then prob not bad at all
She says she wants me bad but probably says this to everyone to get what she wants, this bitch talks about weekly gang bangs
>>16471556
Nah, there's no way she's clean. If you really need to lose your virginity lose it to a hooker you know is clean.
26, never had a gf
What's the best way to meet younger girls? 18-20
Create a tumblr account and post yaoi images. Young girls seem to love those.
got a good paying job?
>>16471531
Hang around outside the kindergarten with a bag of candy.
Sup /adv/
Soon I need to prove myself with swimming while wearing pic related. Now I want some practise before I go. Thing is I dont have anything like pic related, so what clothes should I wear to simulate swimming with pic related?
I was thinking about jeans and a sweater?
>>16471472
That outfit's material is very far from jeans and a sweater. Do you have any clothing made from similar fabric? Try a lightweight jacket and slacks. If you have any overalls, try those as well.
What you need to understand is that the outfit in the picture is one solid article of clothing, and you need to recreate it. Tuck your jacket into your pants and secure it as tightly as you can. Swimming in a coverall might be restrictive to movement, and that's what they need to test you on. Don't just wear a sweater and jeans (giving you more freedom of mobility) and blow it on your actual test because you weren't prepared enough.
bump
jeans and a sweater a good idea?
Jeans and sweater it is. It's actually suite fun. But heavy. We did it as kids, just to know the difference, in case we ever fell.
>Below average looks
>Below average intelligence
>Shorter and weaker than those of your age group
>Lack confidence and social skills
>No talent or drive to compensate for the above
Is there any way to deal with this other than excessive amounts of apathy?
Perception is everything anon, no matter how bad you think you look, someone out there doesn't think that. You must realize this if you are to have an enjoyable life anon.
also, no one likes a downer, so you can;t be mopey around others, it isn't because they don;t care, it's just that they don;t want to feel depressed. If you have family you can talk to or a good friend, cry to them occasionally, or perhaps go to some kind of group to express your sadness.
>>16471414
>>No talent
Talent is generally bullshit, and only is deterministic at higher echelons of a given subject. Do what you like to do, and be okay with the possibility of never achieving greatness in that field. Greatness is also subjective, and your skills developed will most likely be valuable to someone before achieving greatness anyway.
>Below average looks
>weaker than those of your age group
>Lack confidence and social skills
none of these is genetic lotery
I have a girlfriend of 3 years that has serious bipolar disorder that is currently undiagnosed. I had her take some tests and her results were extremely suggestive.
I took the same tests to make sure they were legitimate, and just as one example, when I scored 7 on one test, she would score 47(with 50 being the maximum). She isn't the kind of person to exaggerate things either, I've made the mistake of assuming that way more times than I'm proud of.
How do I convince someone with serious bipolar disorder and chronic depression to seek psychiatric assistance? She refuses to no matter what I tell her and she has refused to tell me why. Tbh, I don't think SHE even knows why she refuses to seek help, she isn't all that good at understanding why she does or doesn't do things.
I've desperately searched for answers online but nothing I've found has helped. She is a great chick too, a lot of qualities that no other girl I've met has, things that can't be learned or taught. Her only real issue is her extreme mood swings, and if I can get her to see a doctor I know they can prescribe something to help.
Only a qualified professional can diagnose bipolar disorder. The "diagnosis" you made is useless. Those online tests are useless as well.
Her "symptoms" could be due to a huge number of causes other than bipolar disorder - both mental and physical.
>>16471354
I am well aware of this, but if someone is scoring 47 out of 50 then its probably safe to make some assumptions. At least until you get a real diagnosis. Keep in mind this wasn't just one test, it was 4, and all with the same dramatic results.
Right now my only goal is to get her to talk to her family doctor about it, then he can tell her what to do from there.
>>16471360
>I am well aware of this, but if someone is scoring 47 out of 50 then its probably safe to make some assumptions. At least until you get a real diagnosis. Keep in mind this wasn't just one test, it was 4, and all with the same dramatic results.
No, it isn't safe to make any assumptions if you aren't qualified to make them. Mood swings could be due to medical problems (ex: hormonal, thyroid, brain tumors, Cushing syndrome, etc.), could be due to a huge number of psychiatric conditions (borderline personality disorder, histrionic personality disorder, schizoaffective disorder, dysthimia, etc.).
You should make her see a psychiatrist if these symptoms significantly impair her day to day functioning or cause distress, but you shouldn't make any assumptions beforehand. You simply aren't qualified to do so.
And once again:
Those tests are useless. They're not designed to be diagnostic tools at all. Most of them were made by incompetent people who had nothing better to do.
If ugly girls don't like me (appearance-wise, and I am not the one who says they're ugly btw) does it mean I have no chance of ever getting a gf?
>>16471294
The prettier girls are actually easier to date than the ugly ones, desu. The ugly weird ones have tons of emotional baggage from constant rejection, are socially awkward as fuck, possess delusions of grandeur, and have really poor self esteem, in addition to being ugly, fat, or smelling weird
No, try for a girl that's well adjusted, decent looking, and can carry on a convo
>>16471294
No. Ugly girls are a bad fucking example.
To find out if you have a chance, it's best to see how average girls treat you. If they're generally eager to be friendly, then you're decent looking
>>16471301
me an the girl in question
Fucking panic attacks, man. When will it end?
>>16471269
Benzos
My friend has turned into a literal zealot.
A few months back he didn't care for church. But now he is obsessed with it. He texts my girlfriend constantly (who is not religious) telling her to go to church with he and his girlfriend. She declined politely every time, and then tonight he came over to our house and lectured us about how we should accept Jesus Christ into our hearts to have eternal salvation.
I am highly offended by this. I believe in god myself, but if my girlfriend doesn't want to it is her choice entirely, and I don't like someone goading her into it. It's wrong. Also, I am pretty sure his girlfriend is fucking other dudes behind his back, but I didn't mention that because he was being such a cunt that I didn't care if he was ruining his life by marrying his cunt gf.
>>16471287
Maybe tell him to fuck off?
I'm officially launching the OBAW challenge, consisting on getting at least one girl each week.
This thread is about getting things on, and giving advice to people that are prone to open a new :
> tfw no gf thread
> I just broke up thread
> I'm a kissless virgin thread
Despite its title, this thread is meant to help people move on with their lives and focus on a their goals (romantically speaking) so that they can achieve more, and realized that
In order to go take the most out of your ability, and to keep yourelf moving on.
Of course, if you (after a while, no oneitis allowed here) get to think that she's the one, then you'll be allowed to leave the challenge.
This thread is not about :
> How do I get back with my ex
> Does she likes me ?
> I'm desperate nobody wants me
> I have oneitis of any kind
Everybody can make it and you. The best way to achieve things and reach your goals is to ask a friend to monitor your progress. We'll be that friend.
Questions that can be asked in this thread :
> She did this, what do I do?
Opinion on the situations. Note that we're available to help only those who already help themselves, meaning, if you're totally passive in the situation, just open another thread in which you can whine about being enable to hold any situation.
You will get information about what you can't accept from a girl, and when you might be overreacting.
> Which timing is the best, giving my schedule?
> Rate her thread
>
And of course, many more things I'm missing right now, we'll just discover.
Ok? Get it? Then game on lads!
wut
>>16471183
how do I talk to this chick in my gym? she's pretty qt and I think I've seen her looking at me but I'm not sure.
>>16471194
the only way is to work in with her with the same equipment and go from there
any other approach is creepy as fuck.