i need help
i'm addicted to porn (and have known this since late 2012 and have tried to stop many times since then)
possibly addicted to alcphol too (i recently became a line cook and have started drinking more since then)
i just had a long-ass booze-fueled porn-induced wank resulting in me eating my own cum
i don't know how to help myself at this point
jesus fucking christ
>>16476228
>>16476261
/adv/ pls
>>16476228
Sounds like you have issues with self control. Seek actual help, not 4chan.
This girl I've been trying to get with for a month finally, well, got with me. Ish. I stayed with her last night and we were getting it on. She saw my dick and said it was a lot thicker than she's thought. When she put it in she said it hurt too much and stopped after a few minutes. Then apologized for giving me blue balls. Tried again a bit later and again said it hurt too bad. I still stayed the night, fingered her, cuddled. I texted her today saying last night was almost perfect, and that it shouldn't hurt much of we take it slower. Thoughts on this? Should I stop pursuing?
Is she hot, though?
>>16476180
Why would you stop pursuing? Keep try and eventually it'll go in.
>>16476200
That's the thing, I feel self concious like if she really wanted it we really would have tried more. We barely tried. When we were making out she said kissed like a seventh grader, which I thought was a joke until she just sort of stopped, asked if she killed the mood, then had to wait before I could start it back up again.
Is no fap actually beneficial? I'm trying to improve myself in almost every way possible, so advice on other stuff would be appreciated.
I see no difference except for the blue balls
Is butter beneficial?
Is mountain climbing beneficial?
You need to state what you want to achieve, Flatlander.
>>16476188
I have a habit of putting others before me, and after being rejected for the first time, I'd like to make myself the most important person in my world. I want to stop all the anxiety I get.
So here's the thing. I've had a solid 8.5/10 gf of over 2 years now and have only had sex twice. I get blowjobs and shit every now and then but ultimately my sex life with her is stagnant. I live next door to a girl I've known for years now and was considering starting a friends with benefits thing with her to take care of my sexual urges until my gf finally comes around. What does /adv/ think? Should I do it?
>bonus points for tips on starting a fwb relationship...I can't take just jacking off much longer.
Bumping cuz I need advice
You've only had sex twice? How does this woman please her urges though?
Have you considered talking to your girlfriend about this? I mean, you've been together for two years after all. Seems like you don't really care about her if you're thinking about cheating/having an open relationship.
>>16476172
Have you talked this out with your gf?
Has she given you a legitimate reason why you two have rarely have sex?
>be me
>18 yo kissles virgin
>ugly as heck
>acne
>4inch penis with phimosis
>already balding
>skinny upper body with wide hips
>gigantic fat ass and legs
>lower half is hairy as fuck, but no beard or chest hair
>depressed for 6 years
>never felt love nor was loved
Im superior to all of you in my inferiority. Should i just suicide?
>>16476038
>supplement 30mg zinc gluconate
>go to /fit/, read sticky
>improve mind body and soul
>go cocoon mode if necessary
do this and you'll feel better.
>>16476038
Tell us a Story, a Story about yourself.
>skinny with fat ass and legs
Maybe become a trap?
So here is me, person who is optimistic, metalhead, works good under pressure, likes to enjoy life. And I have been together with my GF for about a year and few months.
I love her and I don't wanna hurt her anyway, but she is opposite of me. She is quite pesimistic, she is hardworking, she is not as stable as I am and she is quite overly attached to me.
She wants to be good girlfriend, she is trying hard, but she has such expectations I know not how long I can handle. Inside of my heart is fire that wants me to live wild, listen to good music, go out to a great concert, drink some beer and enjoy life and chill.
However, she doesn't want me to drink ANYTHING, she doesn't want me to go out alone and places I wanna go to are just too wild and scary for her (she doesn't listen to metal and doesn't enjoy same stuff as I do).
She is also paranoid about pretty anyone I talk with. She starts arguing with me about why one girl I never had anything with, nor would want to, liked my facebook post, she constantly reads my sms, facebook chat, etc. and she many times finds something she doesn't like. She even bothered me for some chats I had before I have known her.
I managed to go out with her allowance to a metalconcert and she is acting weird since then, she has random mood swings it is just what the fuck sometimes.
I sometimes also just want to hang alone with myself, chill and enjoy silence but she expects me to be some sort of her pet, to write with her 24/7, anwser phone in 5sec etc.
What should I do?
I know what you mean...I am also an independent autist...all I can tell you from experience, is deal with it as best as you can until she breaks up with you. its inevitable my friend.
>>16476036
So what's her upsides?
>>16476050
I would guess you meant artist... I don't know if she is going to leave me, she seems to be living in sort of illusion that she is going to marry me and live with me forever, I don't say it is impossible, but I doubt it will work out if she doesn't calm down a bit. With all she does to me to keep me hers it just kind of strangles me.
How can someone learn "critical thinking "
>>16476016
Go through some literary analysis exercises.
You were supposed to learn this skill in grade school, not sure how well you'll be able to develop it as an adult.
Take liberal arts classes. Not even kidding.
Are we talking "critical thinking" as in analysis of situations and formulation of conclusions, or are we talking "critical thinking" as in summarily dismissing any ideas not in complete harmony with liberal philosophy and agenda as non-thought? Both senses of the term are common enough nowadays that I feel it's important to ask.
How do I stop myself from being angry at my best friend for complaining about how she's not having enough orgasms/sex and how it's practically abuse that he only makes her cum once a day when all I can get is shitty one night stands every couple of months with guys who don't give a fuck about me?
I really just want to hit her she's so ungrateful and spoilt
>>16475968
You could be catty and say something along the lines of
>Wow, if that is unbearable, my loveless existence makes me want to put a gun to my head. You're great at reminding me how alone I am. /Cue sarcastic grin and glare
>>16475974
Yea really, I'd say something sassy back like that. Maybe she doesn't really realize how she is rubbing things in, but you should get her to realize it and understand that it makes her look completely childish and ungrateful, not to mention kind of belittling to you and others.
>>16475968
stop having one night stands then you doormat bitch.
i stopped doing that shit because it didnt make me feel anything. close your legs and wait.
How should I deal with being incredibly apathetic? (I think that's the right term). Is there a way to be less apathetic or should I just pick a random response and pretend that's what I want/feel?
I mean that's largely what I've done, but lately I feel like it's such a huge waste of my time.
For example:
>Boss asks if I want to fire my coworker or give them a second chance
>I truly don't care
>asks if I want time off
>I truly don't care
>boyfriend asks how xyz is
>I truly don't care
>Someone asks how I'm doing
>I have no 'natural' response to this. I usually just say what I'm physically doing instead
It's to the point where everyone thinks something is wrong or I'm not being honest. It's actually irritating me to reply. My quality of life will be the same regardless of what I answer, so unless it directly affects me why bother making it up?
Is being a functioning adult really just lying to everyone all the time? Why do we bother? It feels like such a strain to put on such a big act for no apparent reason.
>>16475888
Being apathetic is awesome. No matter the outcome of pretty much any action, I won't be affected and I'll just keep doing what I'm doing while others would break down.
>>16475888
You may be somewhat lacking in empathy. That said, >>16475921 is right, apathy is a useful life skill that took me years to grasp.
>boyfriend asks how xyz is
>I truly don't care
If you don't care about anything why do you have a boyfriend?
>Someone asks how I'm doing
>I have no 'natural' response to this
The one I always go with is 'fine'. It also has the bonus of being brief enough to shit down further conversation.
>>16475888
>>16475921again
However, even I have some drive and would enjoy additional time off, so maybe there is something wrong with you. Do you have any goals at all in life?
So I'm not sure exactly how to word this, but I'll try my best. I personally believe that you shouldn't change for others, others shouldn't be expected to change for you either of course; people with similar interests would naturally bond I assume. I'm 19 in community college and have had no friends and never been in a relationship (the usual), but I don't really mind. I like alone time a lot and I've never been sad over being single or having no friends. When people try to talk to me, I'll talk back, but we just never connect. I'm extremely shy and awkward at social shit, but that's mostly me. My interests and my hobbies are part of me. Stuff like being shy and awkward can be changed, but I still just don't seem to relate to anyone I have ever talked to. I live each day just going by myself. I come from an all Mexican family and don't relate to them at all, so my entire life has been lonely, but I don't care and don't feel bad. My goal in life is to get a job teaching and then just live alone in a small house. I don't see myself ever getting married or having friends, but I don't really care. So I guess I'm asking if my mindset is wrong or should I try to reach out more? Doing that would most likely mean I have to change things about myself just so I can relate to others, but that's what I'm against. Would love to hear thoughts and advice :3
>>16475885
I feel pretty much the same way, save for the fact that I desire a relationship but don't really want one. I think I could comfortably live like this. It only ever bothers me whenever well meaning but ignorant people try to insist that I'm broken and in desperate need of living like they do, even though I hate doing that.
So yeah, live how you want. It's not like you can't start doing something different if you ever change your mind.
i'm 24 and its depressing having the same mindset you described.
People are mean and mistrustful towards me and unfortunately i can't just isolate myself I have to see coworkers and people to make it in the real world.
I'd probably like to teach, just so I can speak about shit i care about and hopefully make more than I make now.
>>16475912
I also felt like complete shit today from how badly people can't accept me and I basically just tell myself I need to just enjoy the misery. Somehow twist it around so its for me.
Thats the best I can come up with today when feeling completely miserable and lonely.
So /adv/ did you ever cheat on your gf ?
did she find out?
did you feel like shit afterwards?
I told her.
Wasnt right
I told her but it was right.
I felt bad for cheating on her.
Yes I have. It was great just getting laid and not worrying about it.
>Did you tell her?
Fuck no, she doesn't need to know, it wasn't going anywhere.
How to tell mental health practitioners that I will most likely kill myself within the next 5 years if I will deteriorate even more, without getting myself hospitalized against my will?
I just want someone to know how horrible my existence is, and that my psychiatric illness is incompatible with me living anymore - I don't want to be severely disabled for the rest of my life. I want them to know that unlike many who aren't even aware of their severe mental illness, I'm painfully aware, and I know what symptoms I have, and to what extent they disable me and make my existence useless.
>>16475807
What are you anon?
A bipolar babby. Not as fun as a schizophrenic.
Can't you self medicate with booze or pills?
>>16475829
>A bipolar babby. Not as fun as a schizophrenic.
I'm schizophrenic.
You won't get hospitalized for that, at least not where I live. Also suck it up and start working on recovering. Try different meds, try different kinds of therapy, even inpatient or IOP if you think you need it, work out, find something to do during the day.
Some of you guys are alright, don't ride a plane tomorrow.
HURR OP IS A TERRORIS MODSSS
>>16475777
Bane?
>>16475796
He is a big guy? For you?
My girlfriend doesnt believe in herself at all. I was up with her while she was crying all night for no real reason, she hates herself and doesn't want to fix it.
The next day I'm in class and there are actually happy people all around, and I feel happy until I think of how she is at home. All of her problems could be solved in a day if she stopped putting herself down. It'd take 3 proper workouts to get her to start to like how she looks, but she doesn't do anything. Meanwhile I'm watching this thin happy girl singing and dancing, and I'm trying not to stare because it's the most refreshing thing for me.
Please, how do I get her to stop inviting in toxic friends, sitting around hating her body and spending all day watching TV? Patience and understanding has done nothing thus far.
Pic unrelated.
>>16475735
Look man some can be fixed some can't.
if you do there may also be the chance shell think shes to hot for you.
I say you honestly tell her shes fat and that her bitching has gotten so bad that your losing interest.
If she want to stay in the relationship she'll come work out with you if not tell her you don't need a fat bitch when theres better out there.
>>16475756
Anybody else have any ideas less abusive than calling my girlfriend a fat bitch?
>>16475813
Oh dude I just read my own post
I'm hilarious
Geez man a little bit of abuse is good man.
Thats why ladies have secrete rape fetish
50 shades of Gray bro.
I am building a editing/gaming pc finally and would like some recommendations for operating systems. I was exposed to Ubuntu in college thought that was neat. Pros cons? Thanks in advance.
Ubuntu is pretty good. The support community is strong. Would you install it as the main OS or from a bootable drive? Im sure that if you know how to install linux, you'll have minimal problems installing windows games on it.
Just put Windows on it, get Vmware or virtualbox, and mess around with Ubuntu in a VM
>>16475731
This