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How am I supposed to talk to women? 2016-01-08 03:13:20 Post No.16658151
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I don't understand /adv/.. I don't understand how one of my friends can convince a girl to come over to his place, EAT FUCKING CHINESE FOOD AND WATCH A FUCKING MOVIE AND THEN APPARENTLY HAVE FUCKING SEX.
I don't get it. I am not even after sex. I am 27 and never even had a fucking relationship. Its driving me nuts because no one can give me the correct fucking answer. I am convinced dating is just one big RNG SHIT FEST and that nothing you really do matters.
You could walk around flashing your dick at women and eventually one would say yes. Its just a matter of fucking time!
Nothing makes any sense and nothing feels correct. For example, if I talk to a woman on the bus, is that innately wrong? Like when is it okay to talk to women WITH INTENT to date. Assuming I don't go out to bars and shit(I don't).
What the fuck am I missing? I feel like I don't even have any dating prospects, like where the fuck are all the single 27~ year old women(with no kids, not fat and not crazy)?
I am starting to feel that the older I get.. the less likely I will find a woman with no kids.
WHAT THE FUCK am I doing wrong? I have tried to talk to women and I have been on a few dates but they always feel like pity dates. The woman never seems enthusiastic about it. Makes it seem like they pity me in some way.
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It depends on your culture, the set-up kind of formal dates look a bit crap. In Asia it's largely arranged or friends, in Europe it's friends, in North America they pounce strangers creepily, in the Pacific they date friends.
What are you doing with your life? It seems that dateless people on /adv/ don't get the whole "having a life thing" and seem to be stagnant with no progress or achievements. That being the case they get confused by the whole "knowing people" thing.
Second question, do you have full conversations with female friends? Because first, that's how you get a friendly female buddy to have food and sex with, and second you can ask things like this to them and they will give you personal answers.
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>>16658185
I don't have full conversations with female friends because I don't have any that I am in consistent contact with.
I also don't get the whole having a life thing. I work, come home, maybe work out and play video games. Its not very exciting.
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>>16658323
Usually people have a lot going on in their lives, hobbies to get to, random projects, friends, parties, and families who want to go on holiday etc. For those who aren't busy and don't have a big interest in something there's ambitions. That could be work if the goal was the quickly climb the corporate ladder, but if work left to be monotonous it would be something else they do on the side. Doing nothing but ground-hog day is just wasting away days. Doing stuff comes with plenty of rewards, it's interesting, you can talk about stuff later, you'll meet people and open up opportunities etc.
Hopefully you'll find a good female friend along the way too. Also as an aside, the ones that look up to you (maybe you were better than them at something, a leader or whatever) and sometimes excited that you would think to talk to them. You can message those randomly and get nice replies.
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So I've been presented with a confusing scenario. My gf of 2 years has always been sort of low libido. We still fuck and she gives blowjobs and shit but they're pretty inconsistent. Sometimes everyday sometimes not for weeks. As of recently she revealed to me that her main reason for this lack of sexual stuff is that when I cum it's "too messy". Any advice for what I can do to help clean/make less of a mess after I splooge?
>Inb4 she's cheating on you/getting her sex life fulfilled elsewhere and that's why there's the low libido
That's not really the issue here, more about the mess afterwards
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>>16658130
jerk off more
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>>16658140
I can see that helping stamina but how does that help the mess?
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unless she's 12 or some shit, it's not really about "lol ur cum so gross". that's retarded. ask her what it's really about so you don't get blindsided by it later on.
I'm a 22 yo guy,
I was raised by a single mom in a bad neighborhood. Grow up around people with "street" mentality. As i result i have no degree or any of that shit, been drug addicted(now only weed), in debt because of gambling, had legal issues, low on money. Have bad personality. According to my exs: violent, agressive, rude, selfish, don't give a fuck about other peoples feelings or opinions, always do shit my way, can easy scare people away.... So i'm thinking fuck this pussy ass instagram/facebook society. Let's go to the fucking real mens land. The Foreign Legion. I think thats the only place on earth that really helps motherfuckers like me.
Right now getting my shit in order to afford a trip and get more physically prepared. So there are people out there who feel me ? Any advices ?
And if you have no shit to do feel free to speak your own thoughts about the idea.
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>facebook society
Also I don't know if I'd say you've found "Real Men's Country" here. There's a lot of things that come to mind when I want to describe this site, but that's not it.
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I guess now that I think about it, my advice is to avoid romanticizing stuff. It's important to look at everything and try to see it from multiple angles. There's no such thing as a promised land, nor is there a perfect hell. You'll find good and bad in everything. As long as you're aware of that I think you'll make out okay.
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>>16658108
Hrnnn, the Foreign Legion will treat you as disposable trash, and you will never be a "full" member, only the French who join up are given full privileges and authority (even though they have to lie about being French when they join up)
Get a construction job or something like that, will suit you perfectly: no SJWs, no emotional bullshit, just lifting stuff and putting it down again
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His new girlfriend is telling me to kill myself 2016-01-08 02:32:01 Post No.16658027
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I went out with this guy for a little under a year. I loved him soooo much, and still do. I lost my virginity to him. But he cheated on me. Now his new fat, ugly girlfriend is telling me to kill myself and threatening to contact the police saying that I'm stalking him. But I haven't..
I want to die. I'm just too much of a pussy to kill myself. I can't get this tight feeling out of my chest.
Is there any way I can get over this?
They make fun of me. He refers to her as his wife. He gave her all my information, screenshots of things I sent in the past, etc.
I have never felt so depressed in my life.
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Well, look at it this way; she must think you are so good-looking or were otherwise a great girlfriend that ex might dump her and take you back.
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>>16658033
Lol I wish. He hates me as much as she does, because I guess I gave him a hard time before we broke things off. He was never in love with me.
She's just a cunt.
pic related lol
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Don't give them the satisfaction of letting them know they've got to you. You win by becoming better; by being better. Such low behaviour as there's is beneath you. Lose all contact with them and don't initiate anything further . If they start coming after you record their stuff as much as you can and go to the authorities if or when the harassment reaches a veritable and uncomfortable level.
>Illegitimus non carborundum
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So, I hesitate to come here, but I'm in a bit of a pickle. I know everyone gets to this point in their lives, but I really have no clue what kind of career I would like to pursue. Sorry if this kind of thing gets posted here a lot. There's a TL;DR at the end.
But the moral of the story is that I currently work a cushy desk job making a decent amount of money. More than I've ever made at a job. But I'm very unhappy. Never mind the fact that I'm introverted as fuck in an outgoing, office-politics environment, but I also feel like I'm going to end up wasting my life away there. I'm feeling more depressed by the day, and I don't know how all those 40-something soccer mom lifers don't off themselves at the first chance.
So I look at it this way: I have a good income. This could be a great stepping stone for bigger and better things. I thought of becoming a pilot. Could be cool, and the pay is great. I've done my research on that type of career already so I know what I'd be getting into. I've looked up countless careers, but I still feel like I just don't know what's out there.
I was wondering if any of you have career advice for someone who is:
-good with small details, but sees the big picture more than most
-not a people person
-sort of interested at the prospect of operating complex machinery with lots of knobs and shit
-really good at explaining things
-very analytical
-22 years old, since I know someone will ask
-I do have some college credits under my belt.
-If it has any bearing whatsoever, I am very into music. I play multiple instruments, but not at a professional level by any means. Writing and listening to music is what I mostly do in my free time.
-I don't live at home.
I just really don't want to sit at a desk all day, guys. I really appreciate any replies I get.
TL;DR – I hate my job. What kind of non-office career would you suggest to someone who is smarter than the average bear and is not a people person?
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Don't become a pilot. It's retardedly expensive, literally costs more than becoming a doctor, and at the end of the day, you're a glorified bus driver. The pay CAN be good, if you get into a decent airline, but honestly you'll be paying off that debt for years and years to come.
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>>16657947
So what you're telling OP is to become a doctor?
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>>16657935
Engineer or science in general are void of much human interaction compared to other professions.
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I was in a similar situation on my other job a year ago, and I also posted on /adv/ about it. It feels like a really weird deja vu.
So I really like this guy from my work. He also really likes me. Or so I thought. We made out at a company Christmas party, and surprisingly, we were both sober. We maintained a flirty/sort of intimate rapport for a while, then I offered to be his booty call - he is recovering from a very bitter divorce, custody fights, money troubles, the whole shebang. I figured the last thing he needs in his life is another harpy to get attached to and worry about.
This is where it gets interesting (ie terrible) - he flat out refused, saying that he is only looking for a relationship, and that at his age (50+) he is no longer interested in having casual sex. At first I was weirded out, but I thought about it a lot, and I really like him. Like, lying awake at night and thinking about him. Hell, I am posting /adv/ threads about him! I called him today to tell him that, but he cut me off because he was swamped at work, and said we are going to talk tomorrow. In the past few days he also ignored a few of my messages, and I have a sinking feeling he deleted my number.
Where did I go wrong, /adv/? Did I go wrong? Is there still hope? I hear people all the time complaining about how they can't get laid, and how women are cold-hearted bitches, so why can't I, a relatively hot female, sexually service a fat middle-aged bald dude older than my dad? This is maddening.
inb4 somebody calls me a gold digger, I am superior to him at work, and he took a huge pay cut a few months ago. Not to mention the three alimonies and shit.
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You're a slut, and he's not interested in that.
What's the problem?
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>>16657941
You sound salty. Like I said, I am interested in having a relationship with him, but I fucked up and thought he wasn't so I offered a no strings attached type of deal. Also, if he wasn't interested in young sluts, he wouldn't be pawing me back then at the party.
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>>16657948
Salty about what? Having a wife and a kid?
You gave him the impression of being a slut, offering yourself up for him to use as he wishes "without any strings". This has soured his perception of you. Even though you did it to be nice or whatever, he doesn't consider someone like you partner material after that. Move on.
What's the best trade to learn?
I just want a good paying job I don't mind working hard aslong as I'm rewarded accordingly
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>>16657927
Drug trade
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firefighting
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>>16657927
Auto mechanic is useful, work at a high end dealership.
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>considering breaking up with bf
>gonna be extremely hard choice
>been together 5 years
>passion is still kinda there
>but bf's attitude has been declining for like 2 years
>gotten to the point where he constantly puts me down if he's in a bad mood
>especially if I didn't cause it, just takes it out on me
>says rude things about my life, my possessions, the money I make
>we're youngish (mid 20s), I'm in college and work part time, not like I make good money
I've attempted talking about. I told him I feel pretty unappreciated by him because he seems so angry all the time. I asked me what I'm talking about because we go on dates. Yea, we go out once a week to dinner and do an activity. I don't ask he always wants to go. We kinda have fun and chat. But other than that, he's constantly in a bad mood from his job, and still taking it out on me. I feel like I've been riding this wave of negativity too long. I also feel so nervous about breaking it off. The bottom line is, I'm unhappy, and if my boyfriend's attitude doesn't change, I just can't be here.
More recently, he's been saying things that worry me. Like how he's in control, how he has me wrapped around his finger. How I should be serving him on hand and foot. He says it in such a half joking way that I can't even tell if he's serious anymore, but paired with the way he's been acting, I'm fairly sure he means it.
I want to talk to my friend about this, but I'm not sure if I should. This has been my first friend in a long time, but she's been friend with my boyfriend for about 15 years. And, she also thinks our relationship is perfect. When really, my bf rude to me in private and he's told me not to ever say anything to her. But I feel like she'd probably give me some advice and support I need. I just need some female support right now.
If I tell her, do you think she'd actually offer me some advice? Or would she just straight up tell my bf everything I said? I just really need to reach out to someone real.
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Sorry for some of the syntax errors. Was typing teary eyed.
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>>16657914
Also, if it makes any difference, I gave her some advice when she was breaking up with a boyfriend.
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Hey girl, that's not a pleasant situation you are in at all. Do you have somebody else you could talk to? Your mom? Even a therapist?!
Can you give some more examples of the things your bf did that didn't feel right?
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Odd question: how can I make my dick taste better/be more appealing to suck? I know pineapple juice is supposed to make cum taste better but what about the dick itself? My gf really likes going down and I want to make sure I'm doing what I can to make it more pleasant for her. Are there certain soaps I should avoid or something?
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Flavored condoms.
Condom+honey or whatever
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Degenerate. you live in darkness.
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>>16657836
>condoms
>blowjobs
come on man, be serious.
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Are all women hard-wired to be bitches and, if so, how does a man have a healthy long-term relationshit...?
The same pattern seems to happen:
>Girl trips about something inappropriate to trip that hard about, gets bitchy, crosses the line
When I try to get rational, shit storm continues. If I let myself get mad, it ends with her crying. If I calmly let her know that shit doesn't fly with me and act accordingly (leave, w/e), it's always "I'm so sorry, I'm such a bitch, I'll change and love you forever" etc. followed by, of course, no change in the behavior.
I would normally just chalk this up to specific individuals, but this has been the story with literally every woman I've put my cock in. Stories on stories.
So I talked to my crew - siblings, friends, etc. - about their long-term relationships. Every single one of them had the same response:
>Oh that's just women man. It gets worse if you get married
^^ The fuck? Is that true? Because I get it, women want a man to check them sometimes, but shit gets taken too far; bitch I'm not your father. Has advice seen this phenomenon? What's to be done here? Because my ability to stay committed in a long-term relationship is seriously jeopardized by this kind of shit.
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>>16657732
Women are more hardwired to have a long term relationship than men. Since they have to raise the children.
Human relationships aren't easy, the more intimacy, the more complicated they get.
If you want a long-term relationship, you have to choose wisely.
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>>16657754
>you have to choose wisely
Felling like I'm going to be alone forever because I've tried. Hard. To pick wife material.
What's your experience with these things? How does your lady act?
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>>16657767
similarly. my girl isn't bitchy, but she's irresponsible, generally carefree and has absolutely no drive or ambition. confrontation always ends just like your situation:
>I'm so sorry I'll get my shit together I love you you're right
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Dear /adv/
I'm got this weird psychological problem.
I grew up with a very unstable home life - I was constantly moved between different foster homes and relatives' houses as a child. I never had my own room, I just slept on peoples' floors or couches. Sometimes I was homeless, sleeping in a car or in a park ramada.
As an adult, I lived with roommates for ten years in about the shittiest ghetto apartment imaginable. I never felt safe, I rarely had privacy.
I spent that time saving up, and now I have my own house. However, it doesn't feel like mine.
Sometimes I wake up in the morning and panic. All the empty space and room freaks me out. Sometimes I will sleep in a sleepign bag in the closet, just because it is what I know and it helps with the panic attacks.
"Owning" things like furniture and having a home feels strange to me. I almost feel scared of it, like I can't get attached to staying in my own house because someone or something will come take it all away from me someday. Doing basic cleaning and housework, I feel like an impostor, and guilty for touching things that shouldn't be mine.
Do you guys have any suggestions for how to feel more comfortable in my home? How to become comfortable with things like housework?
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google 'oikophobia"
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fear of appliances? Not helpful.
also, bump
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I'm sorry to hear about your situation, OP.
We are not qualified to diagnose, but this sounds to me like a kind of agoraphobia. How big is your house, and how many people live there? Would you say you've furnished it completely yet?
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What do I do now
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>>16657715
Ask her if she wants to hang out some other time instead, you wanna hang out
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>>16657715
Move on and find someone else
You don't see footballers retire after missing one shot now, do you?
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>>16657724
These, OP.
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I'm a guy. I get jealous when my female friend talks to other guys. We are not in a relationship and never will be. So why do I get this uncomfortable jealous feeling? Is it just impossible for a guy to be friend with a woman and not get possessive? I've had female friends before, but it was always superficial and I didn't care about them much. I want to have a good friendship with this woman but I don't want to deal with emotions that are better left for romantic relationships. Any advice on how to cope?
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>>16657551
You're just young and full of hormones
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>>16657551
It's normal anon.
A man, that doesn't have TRT, is always going want to fuck female "friends" and when they are around another male, he will feel aggressive because he wants to fight this male and take the female to mate with-
Simple, biological, instinctual feelings.
The only way to avoid this is to just NOT BE FRIENDS WITH WOMEN MORON
It;s that fucking easy
Alternatively, a hideous women because your brain won't register her as a mate
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>>16657551
Because you do want to fuck her. If you didn't, you wouldn't care who she talks to or hooks up with. Stop bullshiting yourself.
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So I found out that my girlfriend of 2 years is cheating one me. I made a textme account chatted her up, and after sending a fake dick picture she wants to meet. What should I do when I meet up with her?
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>>16657477
Fuck her with the light off.
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Tell her to meet at Starbucks or somewhere public with a bathroom and as it is close to meeting time text her to sit down at a table because you're in the toilet and will be out shortly. Then come out all alpha "hey slut"
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this is actually a fetish of mine I will get into relationships then Savatage then and then when they go to cheat I will flood them with guilt. I will leave and be gone for 2 to 3 weeks they will beg me to come back and they are pretty much my property after that. you have a real chance to strike it rich. having a family member of hers with you is even better preferably her father. do a little tearjerking but not much you don't want to look like a pussy but you definitely want to look like you've been damaged. she is a slut nothing more use her lose her.
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My gf of 2 years treats me bad and intentionally mocks me even though i told her the things she does hurt my feelings.
A lot of those things she just right out ignores and tells me im childish and dont have a right to be hurt about.
On top of that she seems to be in a bad mood all the time and gets angry very easily.
I love her a lot but i´m confuse on how to behave myself.
I´m afraid of becoming too weak and eventually getting fucked over by her somehow.
I feel very stressed.
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>>16657423
>Hey /adv/, I'll just clearly lay out that I'm in a shitty if not outright abusive relationship and pretend I don't know exactly what you're going to tell me.
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>>16657433
This. Dump her OP she doesn't love you and just likes picking on you. When you dump her she'll probably say something really hurtful because she wants you to feel inferior but disregard it and move on
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Mocks you about what exactly?