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I don't really know what to do. 2016-01-08 17:45:08 Post No.16660446
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I don't really know what to do.
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I had been in a relationship with this guy for almost 3 years. Things started deteriorating a few months ago and we broke up. Basically I got a bunch of games on steam for both of us so we could play together and now that we've broken up I have no one to play with. I tried playing with him a while ago but he got mad at me due to something completely insignificant. He's got a lot of people to play with so I don't see why he'd even want to be civil with me. We never really played the games I wanted because he preferred counter strike. I'm not feeling my best and I don't have much to do since I've got a few days before uni starts. I've been reading a lot, but I'm getting a bit tired of that too. Any advice on how to befriend people in game or something? I'm somewhat awkward at approaching people so are there any conversation starters I could go for?
Pic unrelated, I just posted another picture of Peter Steele a long while ago.
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>>16660446
It´s hard to connect with people in game nowadays .
Try to find a clan or something online. btw What games are you talking about?
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>>16660446
whatchoo play opie? I'll be your steamfriend if it's any games I'm into
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I usually play Payday 2, Team Fortress 2 (sometimes), Killing Floor, Orion, No more room in hell, Left 4 Dead 2 and Borderlands 2.
Can I run away to nyc and have the streets raise me?
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Are you a boy or a girl?
>And that pick is of Chicago
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Those cities are still near the top of the worlds most dangerous places (only over-shadowed by some South American cities now). You would actually do better in a third world country like the Philippines.
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Says the shut-in who's incapable of keeping up with the news and has never visited a big city.
The murder rate per capita in large US cities is a tiny bit higher than in the rural areas and suburbs. And it's mostly just bangers killing each other.
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OK /adv, I going on a dinner date tonight with a 7/10 girl, and I'm meeting her for the first time (met on tinder). Im 18 she is 19. I'm not scared of talking to girls, but I have trouble breaking the ice. I need a nice way to greet myself, and a few conversation topics. I'm very open, almost too open, which might get me in trouble by discussing taboo topics, so I need a good idea of what is appropriate to discuss. Im introverted, and have a funny and sarcastic personality if this is a factor in any way . Picture is her.
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>>16660266
She looks nice. I like her dress. Compliments her figure very well.
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Introverted people aren't "very open"
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>>16660275
What are you on about, anon?
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My gf wants to join a kick boxing class that I was planning to join, but I really want to do it alone.
How can I tell her this with minimal feelings being hurt?
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why do you want to do it yourself?
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>>16660152
You can't, it's not up to you to decide what she does and doesn't do, or to opine about it. Roll with it, it's life.
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>>16660152
>My gf wants to join a kick boxing class that I was planning to join, but I really want to do it alone.
Don't go as a couple. Just be two active participants, and see each other after.
>How can I tell her this with minimal feelings being hurt?
You could tell her that you need alone time, and that this hobby was there to provide that for you. But if she genuinely wants to take that class, you're kind of being a shit by holding her back.
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Family keeps making fun of my interests 2016-01-08 15:42:00 Post No.16660036
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Family keeps making fun of my interests
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Hi, /adv/. I'm looking for advice on how to cope with some of my relatives' lack of tact.
You can bash on me for being weeaboo trash and all that, but I find that bit irrelevant right now. Thing is, anime and manga have gotten me interested in Japan and Japanese culture. I decided to learn more about it, starting with the language, so I can read Japanese books and of course, manga [from the source and stuff] too.
So I've been looking for a course and while in a car trip with my mom and my aunt, my mom started reading Japanese proverbs she found online. The way she read it was with exaggerated entonation where it'd amuse her, which I thought was fine, she's not into any of it, but my aunt started taking the jokes further.
She asked me why I wanted a course if I could correct my mom's [overdone] pronunciation. I explained it was different from comprehension and being able to read ideograms. "what ideograms?" "I gotta start with hiragana and katakana, I guess". Since, in Portuguese, "kana" sounds like "cana"(sugar cane), she starts making jokes around it.
"I didn't know you wanted to study sugar cane". I called her out about making fun of something I'm into in the past, and I did so again at the time, but it isn't helping.
It'd be okay if I didn't have to deal with her sense of humor, but even after I moved states, she insists on calling me and making fun of things I like.
Any way I can work around this? I thought moving away would help me get rid of two toxic relatives(aunt and sister), but apparently not.
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I dealt with that as well when living at home. There's not much you can do. They are idiots.
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Do you have any idea how annoying weeaboos can be? Your complete obsession with Japan is probably awkward as fuck. Not saying they''re in the right but most weeaboos grow out of it to feel embarrassed.
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>>16660036
>"I didn't know you wanted to study sugar cane".
This is just a typical lame "dad joke." If you're getting really bothered by this, instead of taking it for what it is and making another lame joke back at her, you're being a baby.
>she insists on calling me and making fun of things I like.
Can you give more examples? Because this sounds rather tame.
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I came home from work last night and found a pill called "Palexia Tapentadol", which is "Nucynta".
It was 50 mg, just casually left on top of the mailboxes in my building.
I did some research and apparently it's an opioid.
I figured someone might want to trick a retard such as myself into accidentally an heroing, so I made sure it was the real deal.
Took it, felt warm and slightly high.
I was expecting it to be like acid or at least weed, cause I've never done oxy.
TL;DR, how do I not nut too fast?
Does that exercise where you jerk off and stop right before you're about to cum work in prolonging the time it takes for me to nut?
I accidentally bought these dick numbing condoms this one time. It felt great using them.
Should I invest 10 bux into dick numbing cream, or is the natural, exercise way, the way I should go?
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>hurr durr I'm so beta I can't even make decisions about my own body
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>>16660007
This post is like that movie From Dusk til Dawn- it just changes gears right in the middle. Great movie.
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Need some serious advice here..... Not sure how good 4chan is it doing that....
So, here goes.....
I met a girl, I fell in love, she still loves her ex boyfriend, who is fucking dead.....
I ended up going round her house and she still has pictures of him next to her bed.... Does anyone agree this is fucking stupid?
She tells me she will never love anyone the same, of course she won't if she continues to hold on to him, when he isn't even there.
I have given her loads of chances to start coming around to her senses, and she always tells me she doesn't want to lose me, but she doesn't want anyone else but him.... I love the girl, it's difficult to let go....
Should I keep trying? Or should I just say fuck it....
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It's none of your business to tell her how to live or feel to be honest. Just because you fell in love doesn't give you special rights.
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How long has he been dead?
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>>16659783
>I have given her loads of chances to start coming around to her senses
dude, she's in love with somebody else. you're a consolation prize, either you need to man up and be okay with that, or move on.
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'Sup /adv/?
Two months ago my girlfriend, who I lived together with for five years, moved out because, among other things, I failed to meet her standards and my depressive behavior cost her too much energy.
Anyhow, now we're living apart, but we're still together as a couple.
But now there's this problem: I feel like I'm lacking affection and I don't know how to deal with it. When we call or text each other, she almost exclusively tells me what I'm doing wrong or what her agenda looks like. In the two months we've been apart we saw each other every week, but only had sex once.
She barely kisses me anymore, dislikes it when I do, and barely hugs me.
I love her too much to never speak to her again, but at the same time it hurts to suddenly be brought back immensely in terms of human contact, and to not be allowed to seek any form of it elsewhere.
How do I deal with this?
Pic related, it's her.
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She has hefty arms and massive hands.. I hope you never anger her because I would lay money on her win!
Seriously though... Find someone else. Just be nice and super social. It's as easy as that.
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She looks tough but isn't, she has trouble opening jars.
Anyhow, the major problem is that I do not want to leave her, she was my sole reason for existing for so long, I have nothing on my own.
I really want to manage to need affection less. If she does not think I deserve it I'll accept that.
What was just hard was, for instance, my first girlfriend reconnected with me after being incommunicado for seven to eight years.
Meeting her again, she immediately gave me a hug and a kiss on the cheek. Throughout my visit she'd randomly ruffle my hair or rub my arm and tell me how glad she is to see me again (her fiancee was there, it was friendly, not sexual).
That event shook me up a little, I'm not used to affection in that way, especially from people not my gf and it felt nice, I needed that.
But it's also wrong. Being her boyfriend I should not get any sort of affection from anyone else. So I need to know how to live without it.
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Look.. Its not complicated..
You are suffering from sensory deprivation!
This is because your g/f is not tactile with you. In a few years time when your new girl treats you in the way you want, you will look back and wonder why the hell you put up with that shit for so long.
With that in mind, have a word with miss frosty and ask her when she will change. If you don't get a secure and believable answer that involves a time less than a week or two then tell her that you two are done.
Pro tip: you won't .. You will just get waffle.
It's this s way or years of depression.. Trust me.
Got an exam tomorrow. Should have prepared for in the past few weeks of Christmas vacation, but I barely studied the easiest part of it, and there's a bunch of shit that even while in class I found impossible to learn.
Now the guilt is coming. Failing it would mean having to repeat the course, making my graduation come by even later, feel kinda humiliated and let down both myself and my parents, which would even to pay more because of it.
Also, there's an oral part to it, in which I have to do a presentation on the fly by a topic that the teacher will randomly choose when I'm in front of her. And she already kinda despises me so I know it will be fucking terrible, she will look me with disapproval and idk the idea of it feels like a fucking nightmare.
Should I gather all the little power of will I have, spend the rest of this day (14 hours I guess) studying like crazy for it in the little hopes that I can pass, or should I skip it and start studying for an exam in which I still have hopes? (it's in 1 week)
fuck me
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Would the test that's next week save your grade? If so I'd go for that and just say oops fucked up
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>>16659624
I'd study, trying to focus just on what you think is important.
Don't try to read everything.
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I mean, I'm from a Spanish university. Basically I have a bunch of subjects, and now I have exams for each of them.
If I fail any of the subjects, I have to either do that subject specifically again somehow next year (will probably fuck my schedule, as I'd have to do it together with the new subjects) or just try and repeat an "special exam" which will be same format as this one in December, but I'd be rusty as fuck so won't be easy. I have to pay either way.
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Yeah I'd probably just study for the written, "easy shit", for at least do something. No way I'm doing the oral shit in front of that demon.
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So, due to not having any sort of health insurance anymore, I haven't been able to take my 200 mg of Zoloft per day in months. At first, I didn't think I needed it since I've felt that I've overcame most of my anxiety/depression (last time I recall it even being bad was a couple years ago), but now, after almost half a year of not taking it, I feel these short bursts of anxiety before I try to go to sleep. Keep in mind that my sleep hygiene isn't very good, so I don't know if that factors into it.
I'm not sure what's going on , though. Can anyone give me a diagnosis? Any recommendations? I'm 19, by the way.
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Get a job, stop sitting at home crying all day if you can't handle it
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>>16659655
I do have a job, though.
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Then what are you thinking about when this happens. I only said that cause most people that complain about anxiety are crybabies that need some aggression
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Is this going downhill already or am I imagining things? 2016-01-08 10:34:02 Post No.16659496
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Is this going downhill already or am I imagining things?
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>tl,dr: "girlfriend" seems a bit distant on our date following the date where we had sex.
About a week ago, I went on a 4th date with a girl and we ended up kissing and having sex, cuddling, what have you. There was no boyfriend/girlfriend talk, but it was clear that both parties are looking for something long-term.
We met up again yesterday and she seemed slightly more distant. She returned my kisses, but didn't initiate any (whereas the date before she pretty much took the lead), and we ended up watching a movie on the couch, me with my arm around her. She was tired and stressed from work, so I thought it'd be inappropriate to push for intense kissing and/or sex, but somehow I can't shake the feeling that it was a step back instead of forward. We kissed when I left, though.
Am I overthinking this? I have a tendency to connect the dots in my head where there aren't any, and I really don't want to jump to conclusions here. I like this girl, before yesterday I was a 100% sure she liked me, but now I'm starting to doubt myself…
I don't really see how I could bring this up with her without looking socially retarded, but right now my plan is to arrange something as soon as possible, preferably on her day off, and show her how happy I am to see her.
What do you guys think? I'd really appreciate some solid advice or insights.
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>am i over thinking this?
Yeah. It's fine. She's stressed, like she said. Good move not pushing it. You'll get more ass banging in the future for not having done so.
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So I shouldn't be worried that the spark could be dead already? I just thought she'd be happier to see me, even if (and maybe more so because) she's stressed. Or does that only happen in the movies?
I just don't want to think I did something wrong here. I'm inexperienced, sorry if it shows.
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>>16659519
That's just a movies thing. You're good. Just keep yourself available to talk of she's especially stressed. Sometimes after a big step like that, a girl will take a little time for emotional inventory to make sure it's a good move for them. Guys do it too, but it's less obvious i guess. Give it a little time anon.
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Is money a good substitute for real human connection?
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If you use it for social outings.
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not really
i have a lot of money and would rather have more friends
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wat?
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Is writing a novel a waste of time? 2016-01-08 09:12:31 Post No.16659328
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Is writing a novel a waste of time?
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I have a job which pays nicely and I have free-time/days-off every now and then. I am currently working on a story and I aspire to have it published the traditional way one day. Is this a waste of time? I know that I am doing it "just for fun" but crafting a story does take a very long time and the chances of being published is pretty damn low.
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whats your story about anon
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Overall yes, it's very inefficient if you're trying to make a buck off it. However, it's a very fulfilling hobby otherwise.
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>>16659328
i'm about to try writing a blog and getting good enough at music to be a street performer in hopes of getting out of my factory job someday. fuck anon, if it's something you'd prefer as a career choice, try and who cares if you fail. otherwise be complacent like the people who trained me at this job, saying they'd stay for 1 year and now have been there for almost 40. i'm sure their life has been fulfilling work-wise
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Why do people think I'm stupid?
I've made high grades in university thus far (except for a high C in bio...), always stated in my teacher's LoR's I'm the best writer during the semester teaching the course, will make very high grades on most tests studying very little, and have written many papers with feedback that it's of graduate level. I'm an undergrad, with a publishable thesis projected to be completed during my sophomore year. However, I absolutely suck at math, and any sort of thought process I might apply to it always is wrong.
However at work I've sucked at my jobs, have gotten so many coworkers assuming I'm challenged, and sometimes tasks will be cumbersome for me. I'll space out and think about other things all the time. I'm a generally very introverted, quiet person, can be confused easily though that's gotten better since taking Prozac. I don't really display emotion and can be thoughtless in certain things when rushed.
My peers in high school would either think of me as extraordinarily smart or intellectually disabled. Would get comments like "Shut up Kelly, you're stupid anyways." In back of the class I'd hear "lol, she's like, fucking retarded why is she here" ... I was always very very quiet. things like this eased up as I became more verbal. I would just sit in class and write all day, I have bins of notebooks of poetry that was... abstract to say the least. I've had a teacher in high school call me an airhead and then try to cover it up as a joke.
I don't understand this... help anyone? Am I actually intellectually disabled? I used to have really bad problems with hygiene too, though that's improved since maturing and taking meds. Being treated stupidly really hurts me, moreso I'm planning to pursue post-grad and want/need others to listen to what I have to say if I want to succeed. Help !
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Book smarts are just one type of intelligence, and arguably not the most important. Your grades are not an indication of how smart you are overall. I know so many people who get goods grades, but are terribly stunted in other areas like common sense. Most of them are STEM majors too, for some reason.
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Being perceived as intelligent is totally different.
People are retarded and associate smarts with TV/movie behavior.
Dressing in like a cardigan and wearing glasses? Smart.
Poor hygeine chub in a hoodie that is likely a math autist? Retard.
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>>16659297
I'm a linguistics major. I'd definitely say there's a reason for someone to make high grades. It all depends on the class, but even straight textbook information shows something. There's a process for getting the information from the book into one's head precisely and accurately.
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I just set up a tinder account to see if I can maybe get dates. Us this pic a good pic go use as myain pic. I think it looks musculine but I don't want girls to think I'm trying too hard. Help plz
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Shave that gross stache, smile and take the picture somewhere that doesn't look like a kids room.
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Better?
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>>16659302
>still in a kid's room
>still stached
>now look like a berserk rapist
Uhhhh