Guy in "committed" relationship continues to add random slutty chicks in their area that he does not know. Opinions and thoughts on this? I really don't know what to do but it's turned into a repetitive cycle even though he knows it hurts me
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Add on what?
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you are dating the male version of a whore
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On stupid fucking Facebook. I know it's super lame of me to be upset about that but he doesn't know any of them, they're all super floozies and they all live within 20 miles. And we have a child together..... We're engaged.
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21 years old and I've done virtually nothing with my life. How do I get over the fact that I've wasted my best years and I'll never have a decent career.
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drink
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18-20 year olds suck, they aren't the best years. You can get a decent career within 3 years, then you have another 15 or more to fly around partying or whatever you want.
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I started a career in finance then and worked for a bit. Left that at 25 to retrain in a science field. New 4 year degree and everything. You are so young. Important thing is to just start.
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>be me
>liberal arts college
>shitty pre-reqs for graduation
>hate 90% of the teachers
>studying philosophy
>feel like it is all a waste of time
>in my sophomore year
Should I transfer to a school like Purdue and study something like aviation and go into rotc, stay, or drop out and go into the trades?
Kind of getting sick of lib arts. I'm fine when I'm taking classes, but I start hating everything when I'm on vacation.
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>>16664745
You definitely should not get a philosophy degree. If you have no idea what you actually want to do, in a field that will actually provide you a decent living, you need to take a break from school, get a job and figure it out over time. Stop wasting your time and money on a dumbshit degree like that. It's wildly irresponsible.
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if you don't want to study lib arts dont
what's the problem here
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>>16664745
>studying philosophy
What king of job will you get with this
How do I tell apart genuine feelings and the side-effects of hormone fluctuation and bodily functions?
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>>16664640
They are the same thing.
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>>16664646
Right now, I am enraged.
I have no reason to be enraged.
Nobody has done nothing today that would justify me being angy, and yet I am fucking livid.
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>>16664664
Maybe you are mad at your grammar? You know, the whole "anything" instead of "nothing" thing.
Anyway, could be that your life is just shit. Could be that you are restless and need to workout, could be that you ate a lot of sugar and are being psychotic. Details, etc.
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So /adv/ i want to move away and cut off all ties to any kind of interaction i have with people. I want to leave without telling my family, boyfriend, etc. Part of me wants to cut off any connection i have with my family. Should i feel ashamed for this? For wanting to disappear without telling anyone? How could i stop feeling this way?
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Ashamed? No.
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>>16664125
These people have never done anything wrong to me but yet i still want to just push everyone away. I feel bad about thinking this way
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>>16664131
It's your life. Do what you want.
If nothing else, you could just cut ties until you get to where you want to be. I'm sure your family and friends would like to hear from you in the future.
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Am I boyfriend worthy? 2016-01-09 15:23:29 Post No.16663696
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I'm 6inches and 5'9 with Scandinavian features and have never had a girlfriend. I'm 18 and feel terrible.
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>>16663696
What? Dude that sounds pretty good.
5'9 Blasian with 9/10 gf here.
Stop feeling like shit and your luck will turn around.
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>>16663696
>6inches
>5'9
nothing special but maybe you'll find some hambeast/uggy
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How do you learn to tolerate fighting? I have zero tolerance for conflict of any kind. If someone disagrees with me, does something I don't like or goes against previously agreed rules, and continues to do so after I already asked once nicely, I always just assume that they are hell-bent of doing that the way they're doing forever and just abandon the whole thing.
I cut people out of my life with what others apparently perceive as zero warning on a semi-regular basis. The mere concept of yelling at people until they do what you want them to do makes just as much sense to me as yelling at clouds because you dislike the weather.
I also can't stand it when other people fight. I don't visit my family as a group anymore because they are constantly arguing, and since I can only see very few of them one-on-one, there are several family members I don't see for months or years at a time. My mom and sister insist that they don't fight much at all, and that I am too fast to interpret any sort of loud or emotional disagreement as a fight.
In my defense, that IS how I would define what constitutes as a fight.
I don't fight. I'll humour people and do what they want to do, and make polite requests of how I'd rather do something if I disagree with them. If they express no care or interest in whether I am happy with the way things are done, I don't fight. I naturally assume that they don't give a shit about me as a person and abandon them.
And that is the reason why most of my friendships and romantic relationships last less than a year.
How do I learn to fight people? It feels insane to even type that, really, because I literally can't imagine a more massive waste of everyone's time, resources and ear drums, but not fighting anyone keeps severely harming my ability to live a normal life.
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So in your mind, it's either "ask kindly" or "yell at people"? Are you a woman?
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>>16663563
If you think WOMEN are the ones who don't fight, you're living in a quite different world than I do.
If I share my opinion about a matter, and my opinion is ignored, I believe it's quite logical to conclude that my opinion is not considered valuable. If someone doesn't respect me, they don't respect me. No amount of yelling at them would make them enjoy and value my presence more, so there is no reason to try.
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>>16663558
Hey op, I'm in a similar situation as you. I don't really have any /adv/ to provide, really, but I completely sympathize with you. My solution is cutting contact with these people (namely my parents, I don't really have friends that are like this), but I can't do that until I get my stuff out of their place (I know it sounds easy but I can't right now due to my job requiring travel). I don't have the time to waste on adults who argue like children who never developed self control. Its not productive and screaming never ends in a compromise.
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What's the normal way that people get a boyfriend?
I know how to get sex in a bar or something, but actual dates and someone liking me back, I don't know
What's the normal way?
I want to do it the normal way I don't want my first date to be from online dating, that would be sad
I'm 24 and female btw.
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>>16663246
You're more than happy to get pounded after meeting up at a bar, but meeting someone online is sad?
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>>16663255
Being a virgin at 23 is sadder than being pounded by someone from a bar. Of course I would love to have lost it to a boyfriend, but I got too tired of waiting.
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>>16663266
But you didn't ask about losing your virginity, you asked about starting a relationship. Get over the stigma of online dating, or just become the local bar jizz jar.
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Before you post a question, check here to see if it's already been answered
Keep your questions short and sweet for more answers.
And please no derailing arguments.
Avoid asking these common questions:
>Is it normal for me to go to a club/bar by myself?
Yes. Stop overthinking this.
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
Some do, some don't.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Think positive, and get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it.
>I like someone. What do I do?
Ask them out.
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
Most likely
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. Stop overthinking it.
>XYZ happened. Did I fuck it up with this guy/girl?
Maybe, maybe not. We're not in their head, we don't know. No amount of your walls of text will fix that.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing
>Would you date a virgin?
As long as they aren't insecure about it. Complexes are a total turn-off.
>Someone has made it abundantly clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>
>That one guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships
No one wants to cuddle you. Stop asking
>Brandon or Female Brandon
Piss off.
>Frog
Also piss off.
>Guy who keeps asking who Brandon is
Go away
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A friend's birthday is coming up soon, and she's very excited for it. Still, I shouldn't bother getting her something if she doesn't bother inviting me to do something that day, right? As things are now, I likely won't see her.
For a while I had a pretty good idea for a gift I know she'd love, but I doubt she'd do the same for me and I don't know if I should.
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would you rather walk into an elevator where someone farted inside or be the person that everyone knew farted inside the elevator?
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>>16658909
Definitely walk in to someone else's
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How do you deal with people calling you pretentious? Any time I see a movie with my brother or he listens to the music I like he writes me off as pretentious. It really irritates me because I try to discuss these things afterwards but he keeps attacking my character instead of my arguments.
Also, my tastes in music and film have been developed over a long time thinking critically of what works for me and what doesn't. To have them dismissed as nothing but a superiority complex aggravates me.
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>because I try to discuss these things afterwards
You stop doing that.
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>>16664397
I mean it's not just me that starts the discussion. It's a common thing to do after you watch a movie with someone.
Should I just give simple answers or tell him what I think he wants to hear. That doesn't seem too honest or helpful.
Or should I just ignore it completely and tell him that it seems he never wants to discuss things seriously.
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>>16664397
This.
If he's gonna call you pretentious for wanting a discussion, don't discuss shit with him.
If you think your opinions are particularly "complete" or "cultured" or god forbid "rich" then you just might be pretentious and might need to humble yourself.
Every couple of years I ask this
Would it be possible to get a boyfriend with a face like this? Early twenties btw
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Disfigured people get boyfriends. It's about more than looks.
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>>16664175
It's unlikely that they get boyfriends.
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>>16664182
Yeah they do. It's ll about the personality and settling.
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My parents won't let me go to the college I want to go to. I want to go out of state to be close to my girlfriend who went out of state. My mother thinks I'm going to be too busy "socializing". I have enough money to go to this school and they have the major I want and its honestly not a bad school. The think is my parents have a college fund set up for me and they're not giving me the money to go to this school because they want me to stay in state. What do I do /adv/ Im going fucking crazy
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>I have enough money
Then go?
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>>16663959
It's basically in one of my parents funds so I cant access it without their permission
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Does your mother not understand that socializing is part of going to college? You don't go there just to earn a degree, even if that's the main goal. You also go to college to learn how to function as an adult, to learn how to take care of yourself and learn how to deal with other people and, yes, socialize.
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>drink at friends place with gf
>3am, im tired say im going to bed ask gf when shes coming she says soon
>7am, wake up and see gf on couch with another guy sitting really close to each other, both with separate blankets,
>speaking to him very happy like almost flirtatious, they are look at his phone
>approach subtly and ask wtf is going on, why shes been here with our friends house mate all night?
>say they've been playing on his phone all morning
>guy gets up and leaves,
>I start raging asking wtf, gf says nothing happened
>ask other housemate if anything happened his reply: "what ever gf says ill agree with," no proper response
>she keeps telling me she didn't cheat
>she shouldn't have been next to another guy that close regardless
broke up with her, feel like absolute shit, keeps trying to convince me she didn't do anything with this guy but no-one that was their is backing her up, they're just not getting involved, why is this if she did not do anything?
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she had a threesome with that guy and your other housemate.
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>>16663621
I think there is no way she didn't do something. Girls will lie and lie even if what you're calling them out on is obvious.
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>>16663621
kek holy shit she tired to cuck you. were none of them your friends. if not thats pretty bro tier of them not to lie to you. Honestly the way the should have played out is they gang bang her. You ask what happened. They all lie and say nothing. You continue to get cucked until shes pregnant with someone elses child.
You got lucky.
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So i eventually found a girl online who wants to date me.
Problem is, she has no job and lives with her mom in a city 4 hours away by train.
Should i pay for her train tickets to come see me at my place?
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Don't be a fool.
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Why does she have no job? Inbetween work? Or is she like one of those standard MMO girls that avoid work because of "anxiety"
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>>16663499
She was studying to become a dental hygienist but dropped out.
Now she was about to start some labor market program, but skipped because she broke her leg.
I dunno, maybe she's bullshitting me.. or maybe i can just pay and get laid. I was hoping for the later.
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About 2 months ago I asked out a girl that I like. She told me that she had just got out of a relationship, so I didn't pursue it further.
Now, I'm aware that this could have just been a "soft" rejection (although I'm fairly certain it's not an outright lie), but it would tear me up to not get a final answer.
My question is: Is it too soon to try again now? Would it come off as desperate/rude? And if I were to try again, how should I go about doing so?
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I wouldn't say it's too soon. Just casually bring it up. "hey, how about dinner? Or maybe a drink?" just don't make it a hard date. The more casual, the better.
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Depends on how often you talk etc.
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>>16663212
I only talk to her at uni.
Last semester we talked quite often in classes, but if I want to talk to her this semester, I'll probably have to find an opportunity to catch her as she's leaving lectures.