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>Help me be not racist please.

Hear me out for a second, you just might not be racist.

Take Al Roker for example, nobody would call him a nigger. He's friendly, upstanding, intelligent and a caring father...on top of being motivated in his career.

The same can be said for Obama more or less.

Thuglife trash on the other hand? Fucking irredeemable filth. Nothing to do with their skin color either, you can have thuglife mexicans and whites, and they are pretty much just as bad, except for the fact that you have a harder time taking them seriously.

Heres a good vid:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f3PJF0YE-x4

>>16662294
Welp, that's refreshing. But really, does anyone feel safe around Muslim men? And I don't mean white Muslims, I mean like middle eastern immigrant Muslim.

>>16662303

.And I don't mean white Muslims, I mean like middle eastern immigrant Muslim.

If were ignoring skin color then its not racism.

The problem with muslim immigrants is that they usually wear their religion on their sleeve, forcing their wives to wear the fucking masks, demanding prayer time/locations, taking their ceremonial knife on a plane, and ostricising their own children for not following their cult-like traditions

Again, its the fucking culture, not the skin color.

Same shit with jews, hollywood jews are totally okay, but the orthodox cultists...FUCK them

>>16663314
Well, I'm bi (and a girl) and I think asking her about her sexuality doesn't have to be a bad thing (though it would be better if she was the one to tell you). Still, the fact that she's sexualy attracted to guys and girls doesn't mean she's going to go around cheating on you. That's a really offensive steriotype. She's going out with you, so she obviously likes you, not some other dude nor some other chick.
I'd let some indirects fall and see if she says something before asking her directly about it. Maybe she's not out of the closet, or isn't totally sure of her own sexuality yet

>>16663329
Thanks, yeah I'm not really worried about her cheating or anything. I was planning on asking her by saying something like

>hey do you remember the conversion we had the other night?
She responds yes
>good because I don't, can you tell me what we talked about?

Does this sound like a good way to do it?

>How can I bring it up without sounding insensitive?
why do you want to?
>I'd also like to know the exact extent of her feelings
too bad, that's impossible.

Explain.. exact location of pain, intensity, radiation

Does it get worse when you breath in?

Like sharp?

It reminds me of waves, its sharp for a while, then subsides and comes back again. It sometimes gets worse when i breathe in, but not always. Also, sometimes i cant feel my left arm when it happens, or the pain comes after i start to feel my arm numb down...
They found a nodule in my thyroid, the heart is absolutely fine. Im a 19 year old female, if that is needed.
They say that it might be anxiety and gave me xanax for really intense episodes but sometimes it doesnt help either :( every time it happens, i feel like i might be dying

>>16663237
Why were you dumped in the first place?

>>16663241
Because I routinely cut myself savagely and her friends were "triggered" by this and said they won't speak to her as long as I'm around

>>16663245
Sounds like she's made her decision then, doesn't it?

Had that happen before. Have you tried doing more foreplay or trying something different to get you harder.

Are you sure she's disappoint? you can do a lot more with her than outright dick in vag. Or put on a man strap on. unless you just wanna put it in without goin limp. If so maybe try viagra

Do you have any mental hangups about dating her? About sex in general? Can you get hard no problem in other situations?

Same here. I have no friends to go out with. My two housemates went to a party without inviting me so I ordered pizza and I'm just watching tv.

>>16663088
same here anon, we should all pool money, rob a bank, and start a liberatila off some Pacific island

post dicks

>>16662131
Try harder.

Live a good life and become a better person than she can ever imagine to be or be with. That's the best kind of revenge right there.

Forgive her and move on. That will hurt her the most.

Yes. Imagine a 1,000,000 doors with 999,999 goats and one Lamborghini.

You choose a door. The host removes 999,998 of the doors and asks, with that shit-eating grin of his, "Would you like to switch?"

Yes. You switch and probably win the Lamborghini.

Yes. The advice is to switch. There was a 2/3 chance of one of the doors you didn't pick having a car behind it. Those odds are now reduced down to a single door. Meanwhile there was only a 1/3 chance that you had selected the single door with the car. Go with the door that has twice the odds.

>>16661432
>>16661408
I don't know if you're legitimate this stupid, or just pretending

The chance never stops being 1/3

If she wanted you to get involved, she'd confide in you. Just because she's your only good friend, doesn't mean you're her only good friend. She doesn't need you to whiteknight her

>>16663039
I'm not whiteknighting her. She doesn't even know I don't like her boyfriend, and actually I've hanged out with her bf's brother, who is so fucking chill.
And also, I'm not saying I'm her only good friend. She has many of her own good friends. I left out lots of the tiny info and shit since I didn't want to make a 2000 word long post, because nobody reads that shit.
I'm really worried for her, since not only is her life getting so off track (She basically failed all her courses) but she also has a mom that doesn't give a fuck about her and a dad that blocked her on facebook when she tried to contact him.

I just need to know what to do and what not to do, not just what not to do.

>>16663048
If she wanted your help, she'd ask for it. That's literally all you need to know. You can say what you want and you can do what you want, but the minute whatever you say or do sounds like you're criticising her or judging her for her choices, there goes your friendship. I get that you don't want her life to go down the shitter, but she's an adult and she can make her own decisions.

And the fact that you have feelings for her isn't irrelevant either. I feel like you're trying to 'save' her so she'll fall in love with you.

>I just need to know what to do and what not to do, not just what not to do.
What to do: give her advice only if she asks for it. Allow her to confide in you if she approaches you. Support her if she needs it.
What not to do: don't judge her or criticise her. Don't comment on her life unprompted at all, for that matter. Don't pressure her into doing what you personally feel is right if she doesn't want to do it

Get a second friend, then a third.

Pretty soon, you'll have all the friends in the world to yourself. Problem solved.

i feel you it sucks so bad

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Are you a masochist?

>>16662611
One last note

What exactly do I miss out doing a gap year compared to taking immediately after high school?

>>16662611
You sound like that youll be just be living as a new neet during this "gap year"
I wouldn't recommend it because it sounds like you're being lazy and doing nothing for a year will only keep you at /r9k/.
College as a freshman is not hard depending on the major. For the most part the basics that we all take make especially the first year very easy and after class you have a ton of free time.
>i know this because I took a semester off my sophmore year to work, find a different school to transfer to, and think of a new major.
>an 8:00am class to 9:20am with the rest of the day to yourself is a hell of a lot better than a 1:30 to 10:00pm shift at Costco or some other joint.
>I dont know how students work part time plus go to school, I guess they just sacrifice their social life because they want to or have no choice.
>if you dont want to jump into college right away I would say take 9 or 12 hours for two semesters at a CC and maybe work during it, working really helps you appreciate how great the college bubble is.
At least take 9 to 12 hours at a CC, that way you dont become lazy and jump into college a year later not used to the school work or decide to keep putting it off until your 21 and starting out as a freshman with other stupid 18 year olds who dont have a clue about life.
If I had a kid like you I would greatly encourage the CC for a year because the stigma about it does not matter once you transfer to a 4 year school.
This way your not totally lazy, you save some time and money, and you stay up to date with school work.
I would encourage them to get a job until they go to a 4 year school but thats just me.

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If you take the gap year on another continent, then good.

>>16661939
You should just keep on drinking. The answer is at the bottom of the next bottle, friend.

It's destroying me...so drunk, can barely type.

>>16661940
Tell my deadbeat uncle that...RIP.

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Date someone who has a lot of sexual experience but is looking to settle down, and get married quickly.

Preference or not its a really dumb decision. You basically have no idea how compatible you are with your partner in bed and the only way for you to find that out is commiting to him, which is the exact opposite point of commitments

>>16660402
Sorry, got nothing for you. I can't imagine marrying a girl I hadn't had sex with. I'd feel like there's some dysfunction illness or something she's hiding. Honestly, the relationship probably wouldn't ever get to that point where I'd be thinking a out asking.

A first date without sex? Sure.
A third? Yeah ok.
A fifth? Starting to wonder?
A tenth? Ok, what is going on here, if you aren't attracted to me then why do you want to keep dating?

I just want a cuddly futa gf. Is that so much to ask? '~'

Keen.
My last night in this desert shithole. After 3 years here, I'm returning to civilization.

Pic related, celebrating with the usual.

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>>16655097
Whoops

Surprise: shit! or Jesus!
A lie: bullshit
Pain: ow!

Shoot!
Darn!

>>16662663
Even though Jesus is a religious word there isn't problem for a atheist to say it? I don't know, maybe disrespectful