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aside from violence, there's not many options for you other than some old wives' tales/home remedies that don't work

>>16668234
Up until which week/month is violence an effective option that'll work? How much force would be needed (a solid punch to the stomach?)?

>>16668234
Parsley tea does work, but good luck sneakily feeding her gallons of that.

>>16668225
yes, doing it would be wrong.

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>>16668237
because she is drunk, and not in the right state of mind. If you don't think so, that doesn't matter, because by law you are punishable for rape, and you can kiss your life goodbye at that point. So, it's better to err on the side of caution.

They are simply lazy. They shut out others and even their perception to escape their emotional issues by eating. Don't hate them, feel sorry for them. They are destroying themselves. It's like alcoholism or smoking.
Become lean and mean, and get a bf who is similar.

I know one obese man who has a family and is pretty great in general. Worked as a college counselor before retiring so he had solid enough social skills and was fairly wise about education in general. Had pretty good conversations with him about such stuff. Also knew one obese kid in high school who was very friendly and friends with loads of people. Was also rather comfortable with his weight. Never complained about wanting to be skinnier. I guess what I am saying is that not all fat folk are evil. Saying otherwise is like saying every one from Mississippi is a racist hick.

>>16668082

Fat dudes are a hit or miss. Guys have training that helps them deal with their looks by developing alternate ways of being attractive- money, intelligence, humor, and overall confidence.

But yes, there is laziness associated with fat people. Also, to empathize, there is the fear of being up to a challenge. Many people have this fear, fatties just associate it with dieting/exercise and lifestyle change. Going from fat to fit is like a broke person working to become rich. It happens all the time, it just takes tremendous effort that people need to pry out of themselves.

When I said "We could be alone together? :p" I meant that I want in your puss bitch, you in?

>>16667856
Know anything good on netflix. We could chill.

Try killing yourself D:

Just be happy, guy. I'm 7 inches, but not many girls would think that, since I'm a grower, not a shower.

>>16667735
nothing you can do to stop the gawking but you can the self consciousness. You do not have to parade your junk around but stop being awkward and own the fact you are blessed. Know also soon as you use it on one woman, they'll brag and you'll have them lining up. Enjoy your gift and stop hiding

>>16667751
Im around 6" flaccid. If its warm its even worse. Id like to have some modesty.
I literally have no concept of size apparently because I still dont see it as big. But how the fuck did anyone ever expect me to hide that.
Holy shit my family. They never said anything but I would wear thin shorts around the house every single day. Im so fucking embarrassed.
>>16667755
Thats the thing, I wasnt self conscious until I measured it and heard girls talking about it. I thought it was the norm before and that no one noticed.

Why doesn't he want to give you oral?

Do you blow him?

So before I offer my advice I need to know a couple of things.

When you two have your sexual encounters, what do you do? How much do you do compared to what he does? Have you talked about his unwillingness to go down on you? If he doesn't go down on you, what DOES he do?

Practise on your own and then guide him properly to the right zone. Unless he's a total fuckup he should get to somewhere pleasurable eventually, if you just relax, visualize. and allow the feelings to flow. If not, just insist on the damn oral or do it yourself.

It's more to do with the exercise behind sport.

Not actively playing sport is fine. Not exercising at all is majorly unhealthy.

>>16667716
You won't die right away from not doing exercise but you can expect having not as long a life expectancy as someone who does. So it's better to do some cardio and sweating than not obviously.

Why would you want your body to wither and get weak?

Pull cash out of your ass bro, if you really like her.

WHY WOULD YOU GO TO THE MOVIES ON THE FIRST DATE? FUCK YOU!

>>16667544
Yes, but if you can afford money for popcorn/drinks/whatever then definitely do that. Otherwise there's a chance she'll think you're a mooch. Offer to pay for the next date. Take turns paying.

I hear you senpai.

I'm in a similar spot. It's called apathy or "stuckness".

When we feel stuck, it's mostly because we've been doing the same unproductive things over and over again for a long period of time. It won't change just because you cut down on the things you want to avoid (tv, drink, junk, fap), unless you replace those things with more fulfilling and exciting activities. You can test this by catching yourself next time you're getting ready to do any of the beforementioned, and instead just snap out if it and do something productive. Fix that birdhouse, do those dishes, work on that bike, get ready for a better future! It helps to have a list of things.

The important thing to notice is that your feeling of being stuck is exactly that - just a feeling. It's not a program that needs to continue to run in order for you to be who you are. Let go of that feeling and search yourself for any reason to get up and do something creative. Your motivation should be that for each little thing you do that is not a product if your vices, you will be gaining something that leads you on a new and better road.

Set a time limit, try it for a week, and then see if you want to continue doing it. You got no obligation to anyone else beside yourself.

>>16667529
Thanks Wise One, for the concrete advice. I already wrote some things down. Some of them are: less gaming, less drinking. I heard sometimes goals like that arent the best since they have nothing concrete you can achieve.

Other are: reading and making a game. I always wanted to make a game or atleast learn to make something like a game where you could just play with, adding stuff creating new things. But on low moments there is always the doubt. Now you see kids making games, how can I compete with that?

How are you doing? Tell me more please!

>>16667820
Writing down things in a negative form won't help.

Write down the things you would like to do, not the things you'd like to do less of.

>read
Make a list of things you'd like to read.
My advice would be books that will inspire you to do more.
>Biographies about people you admire
>Motivational books, "How to achieve..."-books
>Philosophy
>Art history
>General knowledge, topics that if you were to learn about them, you could hold interesting conversations, and become a more interesting person yourself

>work on a something like a game
What type of game? Board game? Practical gimmick game? Card game? Computer game?
Your list should include stuff you need to look into. Do your research. Understand what type of creation you'd like to make, and see if there's already something similar on the marked already. If you just need a craft project, get inspired by maker videos. Look up Make Magazine on YouTube, or similar channels with videos of construction and creatively as their main content. There's loads of fun and inspiring people out there!

Important to note, don't criticise yourself whenever you're moving to slowly. Just remember to count your gains, and be proud of the little things you achieve in a course of a day. Think more about what you've done with your time that will help you progress, and less about what's holding you back - that will dissolve more and more, the more you focus on being productive. Your gains should serve as a reason to get up in the morning and work on something that gives you joy.

Don't compare yourself to other people.

Why do you think you're less? Just because you didn't date as a teenager?

Stop living in the past.

>Oh when I was 18 nobody dated me ;_;
>But now i'm 24 guy wants to date me ;_;
>Life is sad and makes me unhappy ;_;

Just enjoy being 24.

Initials?

>8 seconds.
Get a life.

>>16667437
It doesn't have to do with the seconds. When I first try to post the thread, it says "4 seconds". When I try it again, "it says 8 seconds". The pattern continues.
This isn't the first time this happened to me on /r9k/. It's like I can't post on the board at all.

>>16667442
Post a original comment them.

castrate yourself

honestly if I were your girl i'd just cut my losses and move the fuck on. Nothing much you can do at this point other than show her how sorry you are and see if this is something she is going to be able to get past.

Give him a break, he was DRUNK. Nobody knows what to do in that state. Important thing is, to give her time, nothing else will give the trust back. What happened had happened and you should be honest with yourself and with her too. Just do your best, the future will solve itself man! :-)

>>16667432
lol what a nice excuse. it's fine to do anything whilst drunk right?

>>16667420
Love will most often come when you're not looking for it

Like looking for money on the floor... You can look all day and find nothing. Then suddenly there's a nice, shiny £1 that you'll notice when you weren't even looking for it

>implying you wouldn't pick up £1 if no one was around

>>16667452
Then how do I stop feeling like this all the time.

Like you know that feeling when you're really fucking hungry, like did-not-eat-yesterday-and-had-a-cup-of-coffee-for-breakfast -hungry, that you can't really focus on anything at all and you're just counting minutes to lunch?

Yeah. Like that. Except that it's forever and there's no way to satisfy it or make it stop because you don't deserve to be loved.

>>16667463
Just don't think about it and keep your time filled with bettering yourself... Get fit, dress better, groom better. The rest will come

Because otherwise you'll always feel like it when nothing is happening in your love life. I used to feel similar after a month or two without sex, until I realised that's a ridiculous way to feel about things

Although I guess that's why rebounds work so well... There's very little time spent feeling 'unwanted'

>>16667382


Idiot. Should've just played along, smiled and joked.

Women are very easy to pacify.

Don't try to use logic with women, it just makes matters worse. When a woman enters an argument she isn't looking for a solution, she just wants to let her emotions run wild.

Just let her cool of and then she usually realizes she overreacted the next day.

Or try what the other poster suggested.

>>16667390
>>16667390
i told her it wasnt anything about her. i just haven't been excersizing alot lately and since the car accident ive been in pain and tired after work alot. but she wasnt having it. just kept going on about how she wishes guys wanted her like her friend and all that. we still have sex everyday we see eachother.

>>16667282
Do you want to be a foster parent or what?

>>16667322
No, it's my nephew. Apparently he's like me in the sense that he can't stand long bouts of loud noises and my niece is a lot like my sister in the sense that they scream, and the constant screaming is starting to get to him and we've been collectively considering having him move in with me for a while. My whole family lives in the same town and I live near enough to their school and all.

>>16667328
Sounds gay.