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Is it possible for black mold to cause balding? I'm balding bad and I can tell it's unnatural. I think I have an infestation of mold in my room and I think that's what's causing it

If I get out of this dump will I stop losing hair? Will it improve? I'm not meant to go bald so I think it'll start coming back

I have really bad chronic fatigue and the only time I lose hair is when I feel really tired or sick

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I've been hanging out with this coworker for a few months now and it's very clear we are attracted to each other. We have similar interests, hobbies, humor, etc and we see each other at every chance we get, often into the wee hours or when I know she has more important stuff to do. At parties she is right with me the whole time and clearly gets at least a little jealous when I talk to other girls. There was also a strange moment when a coworker thought we were dating and when he said he had told some other people so, she popped up going "I'm totally cool with that! 100%!" It's clear we are close and could be closer.

But...

She has the weirdest boyfriend situation I've come across lol. They both went to the same high school but only started dating when she left to move here from across the country. They've never lived together, and only see each other maybe once a year when she goes to visit him. That said, they talk every day on video chat and they've been doing this for 5+ years. She also talks about him all the time, although usually just to say she had told him something, not "omg I love my boyfriend to death all day". Apparently he was her crush all through school.

I love having her as my friend, but I do feel more strongly than that towards her, and I don't want to miss out on something that could be.

My question is this: How do I bring this up with her? I'm less concerned with embarrassing myself but more so with putting her in an awkward situation and feeling like we can't hang out because I'm creeping on her.

THANK YOU!

Also before someone tells me to just bang her, cheating/helping to cheat isn't my thing and she would not be into it either. Even if she did I know she would feel too much guilt for it to not be a problem down the road, so I don't want to start a relationship with her on that note.

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How do I talk louder / more confident? I was watching a video of me acting today, and I thought I was acting very well, taking clearly and loudly.etc But in reality I was like a monotone robot, with a lisp and a mumble, all in the same voice. How do I not mumble, and not be monotone when talking loudly in an auditorium? I open my mouth all the way when I talk. Please give advice :(

When I try to talk really loudly, It's like my voice literally can't go that loud, and it ends up cracking.

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6.5/10, introvert. How can I flirt?
Thx

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A homeboy in my class gave me his old exams from last semester for a class that I am currently taking, so now I can use them for studying. I didn't know he was going to give me them, and he showed up to class with them. How do I repay him for this?

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New toy

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Reading pic related and am hitting all of the requirements to have borderline personality disorder.

Anyone here have BPD or know somebody who does? How do you cope?

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I want to watch serious medical video lectures. Im interested in Pharmacology, Toxicology, Neurology, Cardiology, Gastroeneterology & Hepatology or Ophthalmology..

oh and they have to be VETERINARY ...

so can /adv/ help me study?

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I'm 19, Kansas, about to head off to college in less than 4 months, and everything in my home life is changing
>Three friendos and I are going to rent a place for college. Great fun
>Absolute best friend that I've known for 8 years is moving away to NM around the time I leave for college because his gf's family is moving there, and this past year most of his ties with his family have been cut off due to step dad
>Usually once or twice a month I reminisce about how great my childhood was. Ed Edd n Eddy style childhood. Pokemon, vidya, old friends, events. Even my early teens, playing vidya like Halo 3, Bad Company 2, and when I was a little boy playing my Sega Genesis without a care in the world
>Now being 19, working a decent job with a good family and never had to worry about poverty. Parents helping me out with college, and getting to live with some of my good friends, I can't help but feel distraught, upset, and depressed over things.

I'm on the verge of tears writing this and it's strange because I'm known by my friend group as unphaseable and emotionless. I'm typically the emotional rock of the group. I talked about it with best friend and I think it's because I'll be in school again, so I can't just up and do anything like I'm used to. I can't just leave town for a day with a friend so easily because now plans complicate. I think I'm also scared of being tied down to a responsibility for the next four years. And with work, not being able to have time to spend with the friends I'll be living with, and continue having the good times I'm so used to. It's scaring the living shit out of me and I've never had emotional uproar like this before. Things like this have never bothered me before. What the fuck is wrong with me, why does nostalgia associate with sadness for me, and how do I healthily process this?

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so i'd like to hear what you guys think i should do in my current situation

im currently unemployed and days away from turning 20

i have a gf who's ridiculously devoted to me for what a shit pile i am, and a decent but fucked up friend group who all smoke weed. my parents are older and more lenient but i can feel the pressure to seek employment

i have the ability to work at places that pay pretty well for my age bracket (up to $20/hr)

thing is, they all drug test.

this becomes a matter of sacrifice in my mind

should i sacrifice weed and my friend group to get a job and let adulthood kick my ass and become an alcoholic (i need a vice to stay sane) or get a shit job and continue in financial limbo for another year or two to enjoy my youth to its fullest with drug freedom.

also worth mentioning:

option 1 family and gf rejoice, friends fade into memory

option 2 family angry and gf probably less happy. friends rejoice

friends also fabricating facts about weed to give me an excuse to smoke telling me weed will be in my system for 3 months so its hopeless to wait (im in decent shape, this is pretty much impossible to be true)

for some of you the option might seem clear but im really indecisive atm

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What do I do if I never feel like doing shit until I'm actually in the moment? I need to fuck a girl but I don't really care about sex unless I'm already there making out or jacking off but I don't feel like it and when a girl wants to fuck or something I don't feel like getting out of bed even though I know I'll be horny when we hang out I feel like I won't be.

Same with friends I never want to hang out but once were hanging out I actually start having fun and don't want to leave and just hang out but before I see them I'm just laying in bed and not even thinking about getting out to hang out with people

Everything sounds like it sucks until I'm actually doing it and it kills my motivAtion

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More than anything I'm probably hoping for people to chat with casually here. But you need like an excuse to make a thread and here's one:

I need to study hard and fast. Shit is complicated. So we have these homework assignments that came out of a textbook different from the one we use. I asked prof why and she said it was to make us work harder and use our resources to find the answers. And I'm like wtf. But anyway yeah the quizzes are loosely based on the homework assignments. She recommends redoing homework over and over to prepare for the quizzes. But it takes hours to get through one homework assignment. And I don't have the time to do that.

Then she has these study guides, which are helpful. Basically they follow the book and you fill them out as you read. This gives you a decent understanding of the material and should help with everything. I try to do all of them and make them all into flashcards. But then this information isn't really used for anything? Because the quizzes are completely different and there's material there not in the book.

And then there's the lab practicals. These are scary stressful exams with anatomical models. And she provides us with a separate study guide for these. It's completely different than the quizzes and everything else. But this I try to turn into flashcards too. She does say that something not being on the study guide doesn't guarantee that it won't be on the practical. And means it.

Does any of this make sense? How fucked am I? It doesn't help that I'm lazy and also work and have other classes and things

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I'll get to the point right from the top. After I get to the point, I'll give backstory.

What are some things that either myself or my aunt can do long distance to help Grandma? She won't really take money and she might spend it on gifts for other people.

Storytime:

My Grandma is losing her mind. Probably just old age, no disease. She doesn't have a whole lot of money and she's starting to slowly lose mobility. There's hoarding tendencies probably from being a single Mom raising 5 kids.

My Aunt has been getting a lot of pressure from the family to help. I kinda want to give my Aunt suggestions of things to help. Her and I live in California where my Grandma lives in Michigan. So it can be tricky to help.

Things that I notice she struggles with is:
>Diet
>Cleanliness
>Moving around
>Using the TV

I've been rolling around the idea of paying for a maid to come in once every couple weeks or so. Maybe trying to suggest Grandma keep a journal so she can remember things she's done recently.

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Okay, let me make this as short as possible.
I left for a few days with my parents on a trip. I came back and called my girlfriend.
I was tired, got mad at her over nothing, I hung up and went to sleep (I was seriously tired).
Yeah, my bad. Acted like a child and I know it, so I texted her the other day, I apologized etc etc...
She didn't answer to me, she answered shortly, etc. I didn't worry that much cause she's usually busy during days and we talk at night. So I went out to see a friend.

I came home later (8-9pm) and tried to talk to her only to find out she was completely mad at me, thinking that after my trip I preferred to be with my friend instead of her. She was, she is.. spiteful.
The thing is her anger is complete bullshit. Why? Because I texted her that day and she was the one paying little attention to me and, like I said, is common for her to be busy during the day with work and school.

So.. that night she didn't want to talk with me, which was already weird. I missed her of course, we couldn't have a decent talk in a while thanks to my trip.

Now, the fucked up thing is that she keeps treating me like this, angry, with spite, ignoring me... and I honestly don't get it. She's not like that.

So.. what should I assume?

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So I had this experience a few months back that makes my stomach sink every time I think of it.

I was out with some friends for dinner, one of which is a girl I have a crush on, but has indirectly shown she's not interested in me.
Anyway we get to goodbyes and we're giving hugs. When I get to my crush, she kind of reluctantly gives me a very light hug (she's not that comfortable hugging guys to begin with), which is disappointing but whatever. Then another of the girls gives her a hug, and they have this tight, cute hug, and for some reason I felt like she was teasing me. Well, it worked, and I get this huge surge of jealousy.

I'm a pretty jealous person, and sometimes when I'm feeling jealous like this I imagine myself flipping the bird with both fingers and saying "Fuck youuuuuuu!" to the source of my jealousy. The problem was, this time I did it in real life.

Everyone, including myself was like "What the hell was that?"
I didn't really know what had happened myself, so I tried to shrug it off, finished my goodbyes and left.
I haven't been invited out since, and when I see them incidentally I can't tell if it's in my head or not, but they seem a bit more distant, and I haven't spoken to or seen the girl I pulled the fingers to at all.

Uhh yeah. So can anyone give me some advice about this? I feel pretty shitty every time I remember it.