How can one improve their singing without taking lessons? Is it possible to develop good tone/vibrato through just doing things at home?
>>16775416
Read the books that instructors read.
>>16775442
Okay, thanks mate.
>Not intelligent
>Not good looking
>Not successful
>Not cool
>Not a hardworker
>Not special in anyway
>Nothing to offer anyone else can't
>Age to 'experience' and 'find yourself' is long gone.
>No one gives you respect, barely acknowledges you.
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>Not intelligent
Pick up a book and start reading, it'll make you at least appear intelligent
>Not good looking
Start lifting
>Not successful
Takes work and time
>Not cool
Just hang around people and you'll get a feel for social situations
>Not a hardworker
That c an be changed, how bad do you want it?
>Not special in anyway
You make yourself special
>Nothing to offer anyone else can't
Learn something new and unique
>Age to 'experience' and 'find yourself' is long gone.
Not really, that's all of life
>No one gives you respect, barely acknowledges you.
Respect is earned, see above advice
>>16775414
>Not intelligent
>Not good looking
>Not successful
>Not cool
>Not a hardworker
All of these are things you can change, though they are best done one at a time.
I suggest that yoy start with looks. This is not to overinflate their importance, but because it's a relatively easy win that's highly visible, and thus tough to deny. You can't work miracles, but you might be surprised at what's possible with some changes in exercise, hygiene, and dress. You'll probably never escape the tyranny of the 10-point scale -most people can't- but most men can at least hit a 6 with some work.
Next is intelligence. This is usually not a means of "getting smarter", per se, but changing your approach to thinking about certain problems. I suggest starting here:
http://www.amazon.com/The-Birth-Modern-Mind-Intellectual/dp/1565857283/ref=pd_sim_sbs_14_1?ie=UTF8&dpID=61KlsBpKXSL&dpSrc=sims&preST=_AC_UL160_SR160%2C160_&refRID=04PE950P29Z9Y8SJKR34
This course is not easy or quick, and it's not cheap either (some versions of the course are, but none of them come with the full texts, and while some of those can be gotten legally for free off places like Project Gutenberg, not all of them can). But even if you don't get all the way through, you should notice at least some improvement. Sadly, the professor has retired, so getting the course in person is no longer an option. Even when it was, that was the most expensive option of all.
>Not special in anyway
Most people aren't. The word "special" would have no meaning if everyone was.
You were raised to believe you were special. Almost everyone in the developed world is. It was thought that this would stave off depression in the young. All it really did was push it back a few years and make it worse when it did hit.
>Nothing to offer anyone else can't
Again, that's true of most people. But everyone needs SOMEONE to offer these things, and there's no reason you can't be that person for some people.
Is there a way to stop being an asexual, or is it like being gay?
Try masturbating to porn daily until your brain starts associating those good feelings with sex.
>>16775376
What if I don't get good feelings from masturbating?
>>16775395
His advice is bad. Masturbating lowers your sex drive.
Stop masturbating and stop looking at porn. In four-five days you'll be unable to stop yourself from flirting with every girl you meet.
I just got drunk for the first time last night, and I cant quite remember what i did, but I know ot was really autistic. I remember texting some people and getting telling them some of my deepest worst fears, and most of them told me to just take a nap.
So I did, and I feel kind of nauseous... Ive drank water, eaten a good breakfast, and taken a long shower. But my brain still feels a bit... off... My coordination is still a bit bad, and I still canr type to save my life, and Im usually good at typing. Im really scared that my brain will be slower for the rest of my life, and I think I killed a couple hundred brain cells.
Help me, please. I feel like Im a more retarded and slower version of my former self.
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You're hungover. It will pass. Try to sleep it off more.
>>16775374
Ok, Ill take a nap in a little bit. Also because I threw up all over the place, I gag even at the thought of smelling alchohol. Will this go away too? To be honest I feel like alchohol isnt quite my thing. All it did was make me feel like I was spinning and it made my worst fears come true in my head
>>16775378
Dude, it's your first time drinking. You overdid it, but now you'll have a better idea of your limits. All of this will pass. You don't have to get throw up drunk every time you do it. You're not damaged for life or anything like that.
Sure, you might not like the particular shit you were drinking, but you'll find other alcohol you do like. Just take it easier next time.
>tfw friends are over chilling and we can all hear my parents fucking
So like should a guy who works at a shitty retail job with a bit over minimum wage consider moving out?
>being upset because your parents are fucking in their own house
kek
>>16775365
>Fucking at 2pm when everyone's awake
Don't help that my room is literally next door.
How much do you make an hour and do your friends have their own place?
This one is kind of a long one in a lot of ways, and at this point I feel as if I've fuckin lost it for what to do anymore.
My day job is that of a commissioned artist and illustrator. I deal... with a lot of shit from people being freelance and all, but the worst of it all is I find myself trapped in a niche for fetish illustrations that puts me in contact with some of the worst people possible. I've tried escaping it, and I'm still working at being able to transition to more reputable illustrative work, but it feels like I'm never going to make it. This awful community keeps pulling me back.
But this isnt I guess the main thing I'm looking to solve. More than anything, I've come to a point where I reached my limit-- a friend of mine whom I've known for the last 5 years, might even say he was my best friend online, He has this other friend he met 2 years ago. Now mind I never had much contact with this other friend of his until recently, but I had noticed in the last two years several things had changed in my friend.
It was subtle at first, mostly I guess masked cause we always sorta ribbed at each other and would be jackasses joking about, but over time it became meaner, more bitter and hateful. whats more, he had taken to the whole skeptic/athiest/gamergate logic and jargon to justify a lot of the hateful shit he said or when he would act like a dickhead. come to find out this was all coming from the fact this other new friend of his was a big fan of a lot of this stuff. Mind you I watch a lot of this shit too, but I dont use it to justify me being a dick in an argument.
(continued in pt.2)
anyways, so that niche community I do art for? well... in around the same frame of time the place has become more and more rife with invading pedophiles coming in to set up shop. best guess is that whatever communities they were a part of before forced them out, and the administration on the site I used was very 'muh freedoms of pornz' and gave the fucks asylum. when a few of my other fellow artists voiced concern about this, the moderation and staff basically got extremely defensive of it all. many folks left as a result. I was one of the ones who tried to sort of mend things and get through to the admins, but it ended up leaving me generally burned.
My friend however, seemed very much keen on defending these people considering he had gotten in good with a few of the artists producing content for these folks and had gleaned some weird mote of popularity among them. This was around the time I started being exposed to that certain new friend of his that I mentioned before. things began to fall into place.
This guy is... repugnant, to say the least. He's one of those sorts of constitution-thumper, militant atheist wanna-be redpill dullards that try to use someone else's arguments to make himself seem superior to the rest of the world so he can kick people about to get his rocks off. On top of it all, he's a pedophile, self confessed and proud as well as being a sadist and coprophiliac. he draws on the site I used to host illustrations on and makes a good bit of cash on Patreon for it, despite having the artistic skill of a 12 year old with down-syndrome.
(continued in pt.3)
SO.
Its come down to this; I can not stand being around this person, and with the number of my friends whom are actual survivors of being molested, raped, or exploited as children, I felt sick to my stomach even tolerating being proxy to this person. I went to my friend with these concerns and he more or less blew em off and took to calling me a "SJW cuck" regarding it all and being entirely dismissive. he screams at me that his friend never does anything sexual with kids in his art or whatnot and that I was running a crusade. that I'm anti-free-expression and just... a whole lot of jargon.
The other day I was dumb enough to actually give a real look at this guys art gallery. one of the latest comics he's posted involves a pair of women storming a little girl's christmas party with her parents, devouring and graphically digesting the girls family (cutaway shots showing them being melted alive and screaming) while they taunt and torment the child before surrounding her and shitting over her, burying her in the feces that used to be her family. I just about put my goddamn fist through the screen. I wanted to scream and vomit and just...
How do you defend something like this? I consider myself a very forgiving and open minded libertarian... but this is just too much.
I went to patreon to report the guys account because I couldnt believe the same service I use to fun my own art is being used to not only condone, but allow this sort of thing to prosper. its been about a week and no word back, even with friends I trusted to go and report it as well.
I'm scared to think what happens if this guy is left alone with kids. I'm scared to think what this sick fuck did to my friend to make him so ok with this all.
Please... honestly I dont know what to do anymore for this. I cant stand by with this sort of thing and not say anything about it. I have the guys gallery links, his patreon, his Skype, the whole shebang.
What do I do? what CAN I do?
>>16775358
>>16775388
>>16775440
Its like you dont want advice.
Always put a tldr if you post is going to drag on. This isnt lit. Im not even going to attempt to read this. Like Im not going to read a book to see if you have a problem I can help or even care about. Always put a tldr so that you dont waste peoples times and attract the right crowd. If its something that I can help with Ill consider reading the wall of text.
To my Spanish(or just European) people of /adv/,
I need your help. /int/ wasn't helpful. My girlfriend is from Spain and is really excited to celebrate her first Valentine's day in the US. I wanted to be cool and get her Spanish chocolates and candies since she gets homesick every once in a while.
What are the popular chocolate and candy brands in Spain? More specifically, she's from Asturias. All I know is pic related since everybody but my shit country has it. Thanks.
you won't be able to get them
nice idea tho
Hope this helps, if not, then google it.
http://www.finedarkchocolate.com/Spanish_Chocolate.asp
Okay /adv/ I am with a girl things have been doing great.
But I haven't kissed her yet, I've played with her tits and pussy but no kiss. She likes me and I ask her but I've never kissed anyone before so I am nervous. Should I just ask to kiss her?
>>16775330
How have you done all of that and not kissed. That's first base dude, you literally skipped first base. Just go for it, especially if she likes you.
>>16775342
That's what everyone asks.
Has this happened to anyone else? Or is this really uncommon?
How do you approach a girl when you have nothing in common?
I have many male and female friends that I share interests with and we can talk for hours.
But I've met this girl I like and she seems that she's only interested in nails and hair styles and things like that. I was going up the stairs with her the other day and it was one long awkward silence. Also I am really bad at small talk.
>"hey, do you enjoy really enthusiastic, animalistic sex with a hot guy like me?"
if you got nothing in common you have at least ONE thing in common
>i like a girl
>we have nothing in common
Literal autism, just fuck her and never communicate and kill yourself you cuck.
>>16775279
Anon is mean, but not wrong. "Like" implies romantic attraction. You don't like her. You barely know her. You just want to nut in her pretty mouth. She sounds shallow, man.
Just ask her what she likes. She likes herself. Get her to talk about that. It'll probably work.
I'm pretty sure the initial first series of this were advice threads related to dealing with obsessive and posessive tendencies. Talking about them in an anonymous relaxed atmosphere and all that.
Has /adv/ ever dealt with 'yandere' or 'crazy'? What are your experiences or tips?
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Don't run from me senpai
I posted in the last thread but may as well post it again since it's a little slow here. Feel free to comment, give me advice, or share your own.
I started talking to an old childhood "friend? acquaintance?" on Facebook. We didn't talk to much but I think we both kinda liked each other but we never really made a move.
We have shared over 7000 messages on FB and I'm so happy when we talk, I feel like we have so much in common and that we are perfect for each other. We have gone out 4 times but it's pretty clear she has no romantic interest me despite how well I feel we get along.
I have never got much attention from girls being the short, quiet guy I am so I'm pretty obsessed with her. It hurt quiet a bit when I realized she doesn't want more but it is what it is.
I have been trying to slowly ween myself off talking with her but I still can't help that feeling of happiness when I see she texted me. I know it's not healthy but I still think about her for most of the day.
>>16776316
It sounds like you;re on the good path. stockholm shenanigans aside itll take two to tango.
Ok so last night me and a couple friends went out and as we usually do we went out to go ding dong ditch we have this one guy that we did once before and he came out and chased us then hopped his lard ass into a suv and procceded to follow us yelling at us hinting towards something by saying things like "do it again and you will see what happens" so we stupidly decide to do his house again then we ran to my friends crescent (lives less than half a block away) where we waited for a little while nothing so we went back out in the open and started seeing a suv drive by us repeatedly we kind of shook it off but after about the 5th time I noticed he was eyeing us down so we ran knowing it was him we ran to the nearby school we where just trying to relax and look calm after about 3 minutes the same suv drove by us and pulled a u turn so my and my friend (3 of us) started running my other friend is kind of fat and can't run so when faced with conflict he kind of just walks away we lose him but the suv pulls into the school parking lot which opens up to a Tarmac that we where running on I turn around and this fucker is literally on my heels trying to run me down so I run to the more sandy gravelish area sure enough he slams on his breaks (at this point I was shitting myself because he pinned it to run me over so me and my other friend that ran meet up we start sneaking around the other side of the school to nope back to my 3rd friends house we get all the way around the school then his van pulls up right infront of us blocking the sidewalk so me and him nope back into the feild the school has (like a open soccer feild with no lights) we where watching trying to see our other friend >nowhere to be seen
Eventually he comes from where we were blocked off running like I've never seen before like cheeseburger sale fast I mean fast we ask him what happened he doesent want to talk about it we wait it out to go back to his house part 1
>>16775207
Part 2
Eventually after about 30 mins of waiting we get back to his house and he tells us what the guy said to him apparently he told him his address then told hike he had a present for him left me shook. But then again how much damage could a fat greaseball do? What do?
>>16775207
Fucking autistics...
You deserve what you get fuck faces. I'd rape your friend if yous did that to me.
I like this girl I've been talking to on the Internet a lot. We're pretty close friends at this point, talking every day and playing games together.
However, she's an incredibly damaged character who had an unfortunate upbringing and a lot of unsuccessful relationships. Her social anxiety is crippling--she's spent the past few years in near isolation so getting her to meet with me is going to be DIFFICULT. I feel like I should be the best friend I possibly can first to build trust, although under normal circumstances this would only get me friend zoned.
My criteria for girls is really strict so I don't want to give up. I really want to try and make her go on a date with me at least once. Any advice?
>dating damaged goods
What is that she can offer that others don't.
Last weekend my girlfriend and I tried to have sex for the first time. Only problem was that I couldn't get it up for whatever reason. Now this weekend we had talked about doing it on Sunday and I haven't gotten off in a week. I want to be able to keep an erection so that we can try again, but at the same time I'm afraid I might be too sensitive and I would ejaculate too quickly. Anybody have any thoughts on the situation?
>>16775131
You should allow her to go down on you until you come. Preferably in the mouth. Then go down on her after the foreplay. Make her come. Should take about total 25 minutes. You should be ready by the end of 25 minutes marker.
>>16775216
This only works if you don't fap often.
Don't fap. Save your energy for your gf. Also avoid porn.
If you do both these things you'll be fine,
just play this song next time you have sex
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Eu9WfqJGoPc
I dont belong nowhere.
im sure i could hypothesize why you're a piece of shit and don't belong nowhere but really you know why and you know how to fix it.
and dont give me that bullshit that you don't know how to fix it. running away from your problems is always an option, and i dont mean suicide, i mean literally leaving and never coming back to whatever situation you are stuck in that causes you to feel this way. if you spend like 5 minutes just thinking about how to remedy your problem i bet you can find the answer, after that all you have to do is take that route.
i want to remind you that suicide is not the answer, death is the worst possible option of all other options in life because you die with your problems and they are never fixed. you can be happy, you just gotta try
ill give you a hint: you have to stop hating yourself before anything else changes. when i was depressed i just kept telling myself i wasnt and i fixed the problems that made me feel depressed. you have to pull yourself up, no one else can do that for you not even 4chan
I have this problem. What do?
Fiber
>>16775112
That's it?
Use bidet