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So, I've learned that my boyfriend is extremely manipulative; he'll blame me for having a "bad mood" when I set a boundary or that I'm cheating on him because he "hears things" in the background when we're on the phone, and that there's "someone's hand" when we're on video chat.
Today I told him to get help and grow up, that's when he said that I was blowing it all out of proportion. -- I'm sorry, I'm just not going to take defending myself of being accused when he won't listen anyway.
He'll even go as far as to say "I don't see the point in being a relationship if we can't see each other often." and I told him, "Fine, then leave." and he blew up at me.
I am so tired, /adv/ - but I won't break up with him because I feel that this is just a bad bump in our relationship...one that I fear that we'll never get over.
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>but I won't break up with him
Then there will be no useful advice we can give.
This is not "a bad bump" behavior. This is obsessive, paranoid, jealous behavior. That doesn't "go away". No matter how much you think you can, you're not going to be able to "fix him" or "work it out".
He will always be this level of crazy. It will not stop. When you're both 60 he'll scream at a young waiter for "hitting on you" because he asked if you'd like something to drink.
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>>16785289
Lovely.
Thank you, kind Anon.
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>>16785279
>I won't break up with him because I feel that this is just a bad bump in our relationship
totally reasonable.
>one that I feel we'll never get over
Completely unreasonable. A bad bump is by definition temporary. If the bad bump isn't a bump, that means you have a bad relationship.
Sounds like you are afraid to be without a boyfriend, even if he's paranoid and manipulative.
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Been too long since I've seen a good one. Lost most of mine but will will bump with what I do have
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Come on guys I know you have things to contribute! Hacks, guides etc
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So I just wanted to talk about something thats been on my mind lately.. just to get some input on it and hopefully a bit of insight.
At 17 I was living in my dads truck outside of his apartment. After 5 months of this my best friend killed his mother while I was outside of their apartment waiting for a ride to my fathers truck. I heard the entire thing but assumed it was a movie at full volume. After he came out with a crate full of stuff and said he was moving out I bought us both mcdonalds and loaded some bowls for us. I asked what was wrong and he said he and his mom argued about me sitting on the steps.
Then the hood of the car flew open on the highway, he saw that as a vision from god so he crashed at 60 into the nearest exit divider trying to kill us. Totaled the car so as were walking he swallows about 30 trazodone and I put the other 30 in my pocket so he doesnt take them. We make it to walmart and he disappears so I hitchhike to the truck. I wake up after my dad drives home from work to two police surrounding the truck with guns out. They search me and find pipe and pills, I have the weed in my sock.
I get arrested and sent to a questioning room ive never been in and ask about friend but give no details. They uncuff to make me comfortable and leave the room. I turn away from the camera and stuff the weed in my ass cuz im definitely gonna need to smoke after this. So he comes back in and I get processed and see friend in jail lobby. He couldnt talk but spelled out mom and god with his hands so I assume he beat her up. Im out on bail in a couple days thanks to dad. On the walk to dads I see candles on his doorstep. Sitting on dads steps the downstairs neighbor asks if im the guy that killed his mom and I realize whats happened all once.
After visiting him in jail I learned he was looking for a rock to kill me with the whole time. I think as a 6' 4 basketball scholarship to ut havin mf he couldve done it too.
Thoughts to start?
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>Crashed at 60mph into an exit divider
>As we were walking
Nigga what. Get the fuck out of here with your attention seeking livejournal bullshit.
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>>16785268
>totaled the car
Fucking faggot learn to read and sorry my style of narrative doesnt fit within your acceptable range you uppity bitch
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>>16785259
You sound like a faggot who hangs around faggots OP. Give it a few years and you'll probably be a heroin junkie and getting ready to die soon.
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I need help /adv/. I am at my wits end with women. I have no idea what I am doing and I am 25. Never had a girlfriend. Anyway, I was going to attempt to ask this cashier out at a store I go to often. However, I have no idea how to approach it.
I was just going to be honest with her and say
"Hey, I know this sounds out of place but I want to get to know you better but I don't really know how to do it." Basically, I was just going to try FULL BLOWN HONESTY. Because its the truth. I want to get to know her but I have no fucking idea how!
So what I need from you /adv/.. Retard check me, is this a full blown retard idea? I am not the smoothest male out there and often don't realize if something in this situation is full retard or not.
Any advice? I just don't want to look dumb. I really would like to just.. get to talk to her more. I even know her name(via name tag she wears at work.)
Help.
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Is it even appropriate to talk to cashiers like this?
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>>16785248
I don't think that's a good idea. Instead, I would try to just talk to people about nothing. This isn't a joke - start conversations with people all day. You have to learn how to talk to people.
It'll feel strange at first until you learn the ropes of what works and what doesn't. After you practice, you will be able to start conversations pretty much at will with most people. THEN you talk to the cashier lady.
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>>16785292
But the issue is that talking to cashiers or people on the job.. you gotta be quick. You can't just stand there and chat away. right?
I really need a day to stay home, but like, i used all those up and now i need a doctors note. what if i take a doctors note that i already have at home, scan it, put it in like photoshop, change the dates and shit, print it then use it? think that would work?
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>>16785239
they'd wonder why its scanned. it'd be easier just to have someone else with nice hand writing write up a doctors note and then sign it. or perhaps have a typed up note with a signature so it feels like an assistant wrote it and doc just signed.
what are they gonna do research it?
that said, its fucking february, how did you run out of personal days?
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Hey /adv/.
This is going to sound absurd, but just about when I was 12, I noticed that my emotional responses to situations were gone, I asked my parents, and they assured me it was puberty related.
Here I am, 10 years on, no change.
Family members have died, and been buried, not a tear from me, I just have to make my face like glum so I don't look odd.
I say nasty shit while keeping a kind face to people, in my head, I believe I care for.
I'm very academic, and I believe I could do anything I set my mind to, but I am content with leeching off others.
I also partake in risky activities like casual sex without condoms, and drug abuse.
I recently became self-aware of my own behaviors about 7 months ago, I have no idea what triggered this.
I'm a 22 year old man, with no history of mental illness in my family.
I've been to shrink after shrink with the same question, "What the fuck is wrong with me?", their answers are always, "Some depression", "Some anxiety".
The problem is, I am happy, in my own head, I am confident and have a lot of friends, so that strikes that shit off.
So, I'll ask /adv/, what the fuck is wrong with me?
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You're edgy.
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>>16785226
I don't understand. You say you're happy in your head but you're realizing these problems? Are you saying you're realizing you're content with being the way you are now? Do you want to change?
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>Family members have died, and been buried, not a tear from me, I just have to make my face like glum so I don't look odd.
This is normal. Why wouldn't you at least try to be sad at a funeral?
>I say nasty shit while keeping a kind face to people, in my head, I believe I care for.
OK, this is also normal.
>I'm very academic, and I believe I could do anything I set my mind to, but I am content with leeching off others.
You think this makes you better? It doesn't. Good for you though.
>I also partake in risky activities like casual sex without condoms, and drug abuse.
Lots of people do. Even I. Even your mother.
>I recently became self-aware of my own behaviors about 7 months ago, I have no idea what triggered this.
You want to change. You don't like where you are. Move away or some shit. Like the normal human you are.
Use what I told you to change how you think. Maybe quit the anime, too.
>tl;dr
Literally no one cares.
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What is your advice for a 20 year old being emotionally and mentally abused at home? People keep telling me to gtfo but it's not that simple. I'm in school and am working a part time minimum wage job. I have thoughts about killing my step dad. It seems to be the only way out.
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>>16785213
I should also add that I deal with severe depression and anxiety so it's hard for me to really do anything.
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Spend less time at home to avoid abuse. Save up enough money to move out. Boom. Don't ever let your stepdad's bullshit drive you to murder and therefore ruining your prospects of a good life. Just weather the storm and get out as quick as you can.
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No, the only way out is through the door. The abuse can stop when you leave them alone to kill each other.
>born into poor country house
>window has black mold in it
>wind literally passed through my window like there's nothing there
>if I close my door all I can smell is outside air and black mold spores
>parents don't care or acknowledge it
>dying
>feel sick to my stomach, like I have a flu, and always tired
>too disabled by this to work
>only way out is homelessness
Holy Fuck my only shot at option was to be adopted how fucked is that. On top of that my parents literally fucking ruin my life. They stay up all night fucking long drinking and yelling. I can't sleep without them slamming doors and walking up and down the stairs 18 times. I can hear every word from their room and they just sit there talking and yelling from the second they wake up until like 4 am. They literally never leave or let me sleep. It's always a constant barrage of loud noise and annoying bull shit
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>>16785204
Kill them then and stop posting this every other day. The advice here isn't going to get better the more times you post the same problem.
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I was just thinking about the mold growing on my windows and I thought I could smell that shit. Was looking up information about that kind of stuff and couldn't find anything.
This is some spooky shit. I swear every time I think of something I will see someone talking about it. This shit happens way too often to be a coincidence.
Anyway, how the fuck do you deal with mold and how dangerous is it? I have bacne and a clouded mind, I suspect the mold fucking my shit up.
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Sleep or live somewhere else. If there's a will, there's a way. Hell, I joined the military to get away from my parents.
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What have your experiences with mentorship been like?
How can I be the best mentee possible and give back to my mentor?
He's a coworker, and my first real role model / father figure.
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>>16785195
Suck his hard meaty white dick at the end of each lesson.
Bonus points if you two did exercise together and his asshole is sweaty. Then massage his balls while you rim him
Good luck anon.
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>>16785195
Its just going to show on your performance how well you've taken his advice and teachings to you. So the best thing to do is to take his lessons to heart to make him proud! :)
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>>16785244
My mentor required more than that, thats why I recommend OP to blow him and stick, at least, two fingers in his asshole.
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What are some good responses for the "greatest weakness" question during an interview?
It is for a computer scientist position.
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>"my greatest weakness is that I work too darned hard"
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>>16785110
i say im obsessive. which is actually true. if something gets in my system it doesnt get out til its done and i will sit there for 12+ hours a day and forget to eat just to make sure its done and done right.
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>>16785115
Some variation of "I work too hard" seems hackneyed.
My honest weakness is that I get bored and complacent after mastering something, that would obviously be a horrible thing to say though. Can anyone think of a positive way to spin it?
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If you can't get your own?
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Nope, you're degenerate
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>>16785098
define okay.
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Yes, you should wait until marriage. Premarital sex is degenerate.
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I'm being promoted from janitor to department manager at a 24/7 Walmart 2 assistant managers, and all the other department managers recommended me to the store manager.
I don't know shit about being a manager, will the training be enough or will I fail?
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>>16785083
you'll do fine. there will be some training and just whenever you have a question, ask a hire up. then commit that to memory so if they ever call you out on doing this, say 'XX specifically recommended this option to me'.
but at walmart being this kidn of manager is really more like just telling people which specific aisle they'll be stocking. you basically pick who gets to suffer what, while also doing the same work they are. its really no big deal
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>janitor to manager
lmao wtf only at walmart
Hey, /r9k/.
My girlfriend of 2+ years and I recently opened up our relationship, and I've been talking with this girl I met on tinder. Originally I just wanted to fuck her, but she was actually pretty chill and we played some vidya (all online, still haven't met her irl). She just came out and kind of told me her life story (it's fucked up). I told her I wanted to know what was up, but I wasn't expecting this. What the story specifically was is unrelated to my problem, I just feel like I'm in a little too deep for what I originally just meant to be a fwb situation. I want to keep her as a potential fwb, but I'm afraid of hurting her or something... I don't really know what I should do now
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>>16785082
this is /adv/ btw you forgot to change that before copy pasting.
that being siad, you know what you SHOULD do, you just are hoping to get encouragement not to do it because of what you WANT to do.
want and should are two very different things. you SHOULD let her know the situation and then leave her be. you WANT to ignore this so you can fuck her.
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I've been found out in every way possible. Fuck me
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On the off chance this is real, you do realize the advice here is even worse than r9k?
My ex told me she has a boyfriend.
At first I was fine. I just accepted it as it was. But then I decided to take a nap and wasted a huge chunk of my day. Its behavior like that Im afraid of.
Does anyone have any advice for building themselves up from situations like this? Any good ways to help move on?
I want to be free.
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>>16785048
maybe cut her out. sounds like you can't handle having a casual friendship or aquaintanceship or anything with her if she can shut you down like this. i mean its only a chunk of a day, and even someone as schedule oriented as me will accept that.
but if it s something you feel you need to move on from, its just going to keep bringing you down every time you are confronted with it or any variation of it. so cut it out.
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>>16785048
Have you tried anal?
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>>16785053
ive thought about that a lot and when i do i look back to all the times i could have cut her out but didnt and eventually we did something that made us seem close again or hooked up or something.
but maybe that was all wishful thinking.
a part of me really doesnt want to give her up because i do like her as a person and have fun with her. idk man. its a hard decision to make.
i was considering asking her what she thinks of me maybe to see where we stand in relaion to eachother. not that i expect her to reveal some sort of deep hidden feelings for me. i only wanna know where i am.
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>recently finished university and got hired like a week ago
>work a part time job at best buy that I'm giving up to pursue fill time job
>since I'm leaving figure I'll buy some stuff because there's no way I'm getting this stuff, this cheap again
>buy some bose headphones, preorder dark souls 3 the collector's edition, and get a new desktop
>spent around 1100 dollars
The retail value of this shit is probably right around 1800 dollars. The new job I'm getting pays slightly more than 40 grand. I mean I plan of living with my parents for about two years and my only bill is my cell and credit card which usually don't come out to more than 80 dollars a month.
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Was there a question in there?