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>>16785446

talk to your mom. agree with her that he needs to chip in. then you both confront him and say he needs to sign a check or hand over cash right then and there.

what can he say to that?
>lol no

then tell him he has 30 days to leave. he'll go ahead adn write the check then.

Anyone? nobody even going to tell me I'm dumb?

>>16785599 Not dumb at all in my opinion, but you have to realize that if she is unable to handle this jealousy problem by her own then there is more of a chance she won't be able to handle any other problems in the relationship it will be a matter of time for something to rise again

>>16785676
yeah, it's sort of a last-ditch effort to make things work

>>16785436
For politeness sake, just say 'I don't hear well, could you speak louder?'
So it doesn't sound like you're blaming them, even if they're the ones speaking too soft.

>>16785436
You're supposed to say "I'm sorry, could you repeat that a little louder".

Don't just assume that it's the other person's fault.
Maybe they're not mumbling, maybe you're just hard of hearing?
Most people speak kind of quietly, don't cast the blame onto someone else when there's a miscommunication- that's rude.

>>16785556

Pretty much this. Mumblers always think they're talking perfectly fine. A long time ago my little brother used to be a horrible Mumbler and had no clue why no one understood him. Then he went to the ear doctor who ended up cleaning out a million kilos of ear wax out of his ears and he finally started talking at a normal volume

alpha widow

these women are cock-shells now

>>16785431

someone who has lost a man is not going to respond ewll to emoticons. these women are hardened and generally need stronger men. cute inescure guys dont do well for women who have dead husband issues.

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Does the person that wrote that text... does their name begin with a K?

It makes financial sense, but socially it's retarded. Almost all women are going to be hugely turned off and guys will make fun of you for it. It's up to you though.

>>16785405
It's basically free money you're making by not moving out. I mean I wouldn't bring home women or anything but I don't think it's anything to be ashamed of. Just make sure you treat your mom well and get her nice gifts for her birthday/holidays.

>>16785418
>>16785420

I havent had the time for girls the last few years anyways, and probably won't for the forseeable future. So that's not really a issue. I just am annoyed people always look at me funny when they ask about where I live and shit

^^

>Tagg the fag

>>16785390
If it doesn't come natural there's no point

>>16785407
I just wanna know how you all feel. But your right

>>16785390
That's a good question.

I can't specify words or phrases that will work on me because, how do I put it? It has to be something written by someone else, you know? Like if I told some girl to tell me she loves me in any way, any possibly written script or line, and she just happened to do it, it would feel superficial. What would need to be said to me would need to be specific to me; personally. Because that's the only way I'd genuinely feel if the person gave a shit.

I think if they picked up on something I did or some subtle facial expression I was giving and wasn't aware of, that would feel really genuine. If someone asked me if I was thinking about something or worried. That's just me though; I'm very quiet and don't really exert myself on expressions, so if I realized they were paying that close attention to me, I'd feel cared for.

To shorten it, it has to be something that factually shows interest, care, love, and whatnot. It can't be some generic saying like 'I love you' out of nowhere or any of those othe quirky movie lines. It would have to be something no one else could manage to say, not because they can't form the words, but because they can't form the idea behind them beforehand.

>>16785386
>I'm starting to think that sex isn't this great thing.
Sex is whatever you put into the sex. Without putting yourself into the sex, it's just a mechanical act kind of like taking a piss.
>When I do end up having sex with someone, I don't cum, orgasm and generally it's feels like nothing.
Learn to make yourself orgasm first. Then teach your partner how to do it too.
>I recently lost my virgibity last year and idk I'm kind of disappointed, if I knew it was not that great I might've just saved myself.
Sex is what you put into it. Are you putting excitement into it? or are you putting "yeah whatever, man" into it?
>Does any girls (or guys) feel this way? Physically sex does nothing for me like nothing and i end up feeling horrible for engaging in an emotionless and empty act.
I've felt this or something like it during my sexual journey, yes. But I came to realize that... sex really is what you put into it.

I've had sex with strangers, sex with best friends, sex with romance, sex with foreigners, sex in foreign countries, sex in public, sex with young people and sex with old people. I've fucked my way across this great world of ours in many situations and with many colors of people.

Sex IS what YOU and the other PARTY (or parties hehe) bring to it. That's all it is. That's it.

What are you bringing to your sex?

>>16785416
What do you put into it? What do you do that makes it exciting?

>>16785416
I know how to make myself orgasm but it seems like they can't hit the spot well enough and it's just lackluster and then I feel real bad about it and fake it (I know I shouldn't and it's wrong but I feel so bad)

How old are you? Also what highschool ends in March?

>>16785414
JUST turned 18 on the 3rd. And I go to a charter school and its at my own pace online.

>>16785419

You're kind of fucked then. Since you deliver pizzas i assume you have a car? If so and you do end up homeless, you can ask a shelter if you can park it outside as then sleep in it. This isn't the safest thing, but it's safer than sleeping in the shelter. Other than that, ask to start going full time at your job after you graduate, save up, get a cheap apartment, etc. Or just stop this stupid weed shit and see if your parents will take you back, at least until you graduate.

>>16785373

do you stick up for yourself?

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Tbh bro it's not very often we find ourselves having to "get backed up" so u wouldn't sweat it. As long as they're really cool about other things and "have your back" on things like getting kicked out or needing a ride. Not when you're getting made fun of and won't stick up for yourself. Just go with your gut.

Wait I didn't read that last part, was he laughing at you or just at the situation?

>>16785357

yes. but that does not mean you yourself are worthy of love.

i dont believe cheating is so black and white and think sexual liberation might be better for the human race in the long term.

but to boil it down as simply as possible, if you are cheating on her against every better judgement, then your love for her isn't that strong. and her love for you is artificial

>>16785368
It's not me, it's my girlfriend. She shared a drunken kiss at a party with a guy she used to have a fwb thing with. She hid it from me until I found out accidentally, but she said they immediately knew it was wrong and split when I asked her to explain. I know she cares about me, but I don't know what I'm willing to forgive and what I'm not. I do love her but we're living 300 miles apart and trust is everything

Cheating is super complicated.

I cheat on my gf of four years, but it's because I don't want to leave her for her low sex drive.

I feel like it's worse to dump my gf of four years because she doesn't suck my dick often enough than to stay with her and keep her happy while keeping myself satisfied without hurting her

>>16785355
You don't see your friends as your friends.

No, it's because you're an asshole. I've been approached directly twice, and another friend nervously confided in me that he thought his wife wanted to fuck me. I'm pretty sure another's fiancee stays away from me because of this, too.

But I don't fuck 'em because I'm not some insecure asswipe who needs the attention to feel attractive (since I get bitches), and I actually like and feel loyalty to my friends like a normal human being.

Or we could all just fuck eachothers gfs?

On valentines morning, how about you try to wake up before her and get ready to pound her. then when you're ready wake her up and shove it in. it can only get better from there

>>16785320

well its out now. perhaps if you want to gain better confidence, start talking to strangers. anyone and everyone. you'll figure out whats up the more you do it. male, female, old young, just talk to them. hten when you meet the right girl you'll be used to just carrying on conversations with new people and not messing shit up as mjuch

>>16785306

creative hobbies tend to be the most fulfilling, even if the person isnt very creative. you can either consume or create. consumers tend to get bored with consumption cuz the pay offs are too easy and limited.

its the difference between watching a movie and making one. reading a comic and drawing one. listening to an audio play and writing one. watching a play and being in one. drinking during the super bowl and tackling a fat guy who holds a ball.

things that have goals are the best hobbies because they pressure you itno conintuing. you may like to draw but just doodling gets boring. having a comic you release with 6 issues intended force syou to keep working til the comic is done. and the rush you get in completion is amazing. even if it sucks.

for those who arent into story telling, making a video game, something as simple as rpgmaker, or perhaps making furniture or learning something new just for the fun of it at a community college or what have you.

>>16785327
Holy crap actually good advice
Thank you anon.

>>16785330

glad someone likes it. most responses i get are

>im not good at stuff

only thing i recommend on top of this is just not being afraid to go from one hobby to the other to test it out. see hat you like the most

maybe commit to writing a short story before a novel. then draw one issue of a comic to seei f you like that. then try making your own table. little things. when you find something that really excites you. escalate that situation. when you complete something try another beforej umping back in, etc.

if you arent pursuing these as a career there is no reason why you cant jump around when one loses its spark either.