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I also don't have a job in IT. I have been trying to get some freelancer jobs here in Germany, but there are rarely companies who want to have something programmed/designed by a C-freelancer guy.
In Germany you can take a so-called "job training" in which you partake for three years. I have done so for "application programming", but my training was more centered on practical education (administration of servers, programming of productive interfaces and so on - never focused on theory). Also, this training was what basically pushed me deep into my current depressive state, which might explain my inferior complexes from which I am suffering.

And whenever I met another programmer, I feel utterly insecure, because I haven't "properly" studied programming, while these guys did. They also have a lot of confidence - which is strange, because the moment they write down some code I usually can find something that they did wrong. Then again, maybe I am just overcompensating for my lack of confidence.

Going back to school is not an option. I hate school. I literally hate it. Even several years after I last visited the regular school I sometimes have nightmares from it. My only choice would be to learn stuff in my free time - school is out of question.

Does anyone of you have to deal with the same situation?

>>16784306
>falling for a meme OS like gentoo

You goofed

>>16784319
Really helpful.

>>16784304
When I masterbate but feel like I'm gonna pee, I cum anyways. Only a little pee comes out. That muscle usually stops it during orgasm anyway.

I think the same muscle used to stop pee is also used to stop semen, which I contract right before I cum to try to hold back my ejaculation. Every second I hold it in means a bigger orgasm.

Yeah, I think? Makes me cum faster than just jerking my cock. I didn't use it much when I first started having sex (took me 2 hours to cum) because I thought women liked getting fucked for hours. Turns out I take too long so when I use that muscle for sex, I cum fast.

>Supposedly the PC or Pubococcygeus muscle is the one you would use if you had to stop peeing mid-flow

Perfect example of what it is, I would have no clue if it wasn't for this.

It entirely depends if you're in the company of judgemental assholes or not.

>>16784328
This.

I wouldn't say that, though. Absolutely nothing good can come out of it. After a certain age people stop asking you that anyway

That depends. If you've been mourning a deceased loved one, certainly not. Likewise if you've been recovering from some severe trauma. If you've had other things on your mind, that's fine too.

If you're so scared of rejection that you refuse to approach women, well, that's another matter. But this is also fixable.

>If I revealed that in a social setting, would others think poorly of me?
Yes, but that's less because of your (lack of) sexual escapades, and more because it's not really appropriate to bring up in most social settings. That's a personal thing, best shared with a partner or a doctor. Or did you have some particular setting in mind?

>>16784266
it's their house anon

>>16784266
They just want to have some human contact with you, captain autismo

>>16784266

Sounds like youre a victim here OP

>>16784244
That depends. Are you a woman?

>>16784251

No, I consider myself to be an MRA activist.

>>16784293
Then no, because from my understanding you would be more likely to attempt to start some type of debate. It's just not good for either of you. If you're really having a tough time getting a place by all means go for it, but never bring politics into your daily life.

>>16784220
The contradictory ways in which they treat you and your younger brothers is unfortunately pretty typical shit, and while it might improve it will probably never go away.

However, the way you describe their treatment of your girlfriend is way over the line, and sounds childish at best. Put your foot down and tell them that you will absolutely not tolerate them talking about the woman that you love that way, and once you finish school, let them know that they are not permitted to show up at your home uninvited. Remember that regardless of their status as your parents, you are a legal adult - they are no more "allowed" to harass you than an unhinged neighbor is.

Might cause a shitstorm, but your long-term mental health (and the health of your relationship) is something that you and they should be more concerned about.

>>16784220
It seems your relationship with your family is already ruined anon.
Be a fucking man

>>16784259

Yeah it's horrendous.

They literally are talking about which Valentine's Day gift to buy and send to his little shit GF. Of course the little douche (who has no concept of money whatsoever - never had to get a job unlike the rest of us) pulls up some $50 Amazon Teddy Bear bullshit. "What, come on, it's only $50! Geez" - and I can hear them crack and say okay sure. Is going to go spend the night with her and her family on some trip over that weekend too.

Meanwhile, they caught a box of condoms in my apt a couple years ago and went i-n-s-a-n-e, threatening to disown me and making me feel like trash for a week. And yes I'm strongly considering proposing when I graduate, so this is really pissing me off that I'm still treated like a child and belittled daily. They completely deny any mistreatment and throw a bitch fit when called out on this.

Can't wait till I'm making my own money and out of here. Still, it will kill me to never be close to them over this shit. But I feel like if I let them win, they'll just do it again with my next GF for some arbitrary reason.

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>>16785245
Suicide?

It's not.
source: You don't want to know how low I've been.

Well we had a joke among our friends when we were teenagers
"Are u gay?"
"No"
"How are you so sure did you try it?"
One day one of them said(not seriously ofc)
"Yeah ive tried it and i didnt like it"

But i guess thats the whole point, if you want to be gay you should like gay sex, thats all, nothing will make you gay except fucking other men

Nope take it from someone who tried. I don't have to describe it but beyond friends with a man for someone who is hetero just feels like theres a big void, like it is fake and feels very mechanical.
Meanwhile sex and relationships with a female has all this intense lust, feelings, electricity that makes you want to get on a roof and scream.

I know how you feel though OP, life would have been so much easier if I was gay.

An alpha hydroxy acid product (like one with glycolic acid) to keep them from filling with gunk, then moisturizer and drinking lots of water to keep your skin plump. Plenty of sleep too.

The impact you have on others' lives and the things you create can live on after you. In many ancient buildings and cathedrals, one can marvel today at the works of create masons and carpenters who have been dead for centuries.

>>16784203
I see your point. But even then you won't be alive to take any pride or notice in the effect your accomplishments will have on the future. And once the universe inevitably dies, nothing will ever remember you or the work you did.

Have you experienced life? Have you done everything worth doing? Have a six pack? Fucked an 50 year old? Seen the Tian Shan? Partied in Moscow?

Didn't think so. There really is no point to life but to challenge your intelligence and experience it

Check this out. They will know better than /adv/

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I've been on both sides of this coin. A good friend of mine was suicidal and made an attempt on his life. It's hard on the outside looking in its hard to find the right things to say. You need to give space as hard as it might sound. You can't smother her or she will think you don't trust her not to hurt herself. Stay by her side morally let her know your there for her and that if there's ever anything you can do ANYTHING all she has to do is ask. Make sure she understands that your there and understand she might need space. Tldr you have to be there sometimes from a distance as hard as it might be.

>>16784176
Playing the trumpet is a lot harder than killing yourself. This guy clearly way overestimated his level of competence when he picked a major.

Maybe she said that because she was upset you didn't make a move on her, if it was your birthday it was obviously intended to be a gift or something. You could try to make it up to her. Also don't think that.

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Roses are very clichéd for Valentine's day. Why not get her some nice orange lilies instead, for a more personal touch?

>>16784163
I didn't want to get a whole bouquet. I know u can do single roses, can u do single Lillie's?

>>16784249
Dude, I was messing with you. In the romantic language of flowers, orange lilies mean "I hate you and want you to die"

Two words: man up. Earning respect in this situation requires only giving zero fucks the entire time. Just keep telling yourself that literally nothing they think matters. Whatever else they remember about you, the most important impression they have to get is that you were comfortable and unfazed. You're just there to ski with your girlfriend.

Say as little as possible. Be very laid back and do not try to impress anyone. Try to stay busy skiing.