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There are a couple subreddits that can give you a start like r/roomporn and r/scandinavianinteriors. The stuff you find on big blogsites like Apartment Therapy is 90% garbage but there's the occasional good idea worth hunting for in every photo set. Once you hone in on a particular style or theme which you prefer (minimalist, shaker, mid-century, etc.) then look for tumblrs which use those tags. It's one of the few ways in which tumblr is actually a worthwhile resource.

Also don't use that photo ever again. The Turkish news broadcast ruins it.

>>16785617
make everything or as many thing as modular and moveable as possible
- move things around, place them here, place them there, you like it here, you dont like it there, etc
- keep moving stuff until you find the right place
- keep wall colours neutral and plain
- if you want colour, get a colourful and bold object or piece of furniture and it will be highlighted
- move stuff regularly and eventually you will find stuff slowly will find their place
- also declutter - as you move stuff, you keep cleaning up and you will start to notice the things you never use, the things you dont like, the things you dont want around
- conversely, you might notice a place to put some old objects you had hidden before
- the thinking is, the more you touch everytihng around you, the more you appreciate your space and the more you will enjoy it

>>16785617

pinterest. also just googling 'cool rooms'.

i think the best thing you can do is sit down, look at all the cool rooms, then find the one that best matches your existing room in terms of floor, windows, lighting etc. for instance a white room with marble floors looks cool in the picture iwht the stuff in the picture, but wont go wit hyour more warm colored hard wood floors and brown walls.

painting is an option. but i assume you wont replace your floors. but if you have the money, you can.

anywho. once all thats decided (whether you can paint, replace stuff, etc) pick the room you want that matches that, and then slowly but surely start buying the pieces. a surplus of cash helps, but even if you can only do like the couches one month, and then tables a month later, thats okay. you are making a long term home. it takes time to make. but one little thing a month is the best option.

as soon as you got the photo you want to model after, immediately google search and look around at prices for simialr looking items. how much are those couches? whats the best deal on those carpets. whats the price on that crazy light? how much for a floating entertainment center? etc.

you can also think of what you'd like to replace. for instance, if oyu dont like books, why keep books on the shelf? instead replace them wiht personal trinkets you like. dont have anyone you love enough to frame in a photo? get little works of art you like.

>>16785610

accidentally send her one back. see how she reacts. be confident about it.

not much to lose.

Is there even a way to do that without it seeming shoehorned?

>>16785603

i think english isn't your first language, but ill try to address it all anyways.

>should i trust my instincts

on a general level you should LISTEN to your instincts, but fact check them.

>i dont think that i can assume someone has a crush on me
>i believe that something is on their mind so my sense, my instinct can catch it?

i think this is hwat you mean but im not really sure how to decipher even that.

if you think someone likes you, pursue it the way you want to. if you like them, make a move. even if they dont like you, what do you have to lose?

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Maybe he thinks that you're actually the one who isn't 100% into him, and so he lacks the permission of his superego to go with his gut and "lock you down" with investments like a ring.

That doubt could come from his past. It could also come from how you act. Or it could be both.

> Please no rude comments.

Dude if you know exactly what sort of comments you're going to get, then you already know the answer to your question. Fuck you, you're a greedy cunt. I hope he breaks off the engagement when he realizes who you really are deep down.

>>16785594

>op buys stuff for bf
>bf can't even be arsed to offer up a promise ring at a critical juncture in the relationship

I don't think OP is the greedy one here

Why do cp fags always have these "wacky i was just being sillly and clicking links and it said CP but i thought it was a joke and kept clicking and then o nooo i saw it"

>>16785588
I don't FUCKING WHAT THAT SHIT I DID T FUCKING KNOW IT DID T SAY THAT AND I JUST WAMT SOME FUCKING REASURANCE SO I CAN SLEEP SO INSTEAD OF BEING AN ASS HOLE HOW ABOUT ANSWERI THE QUESTION CUZ I'M PARANOID OUT OF MY FUCKING MIND I'M SORRY PLZ HELP ME

even if it was child pornography then there's almost no chance you'll even get into any trouble.
At the very worst, you'll be put on a watch list or something, and even that is just boogeyman shit that probably isn't actually a thing anyway.
The government isn't concerned with those who view child pornography, especially not if they've only been on one site a single time. They only care about those who are making and distributing the shit.

>>16785568

let her move in with you for the time being. encourage her to press charges. if you are not ready to live together long term help give her the resources and encouragement to get the resources so she can become self sufficient.

does she have a sister?

not only your gf is in danger, but her sister too

pressing charges is probably the best option

How do I get her to press charges I feel like she been dealing with this her whole life and the cops have been involved before but she said no physical evidence so nothing ever changed. Yeah I prolly will get her to move in with me. Yeah I feel bad she hangs out with me a lot but everyone misses home I'm sure she jus wants to hang with her sister and pets but she can't for obv reasons. It's only happened to her not her sister tho

Obviously the pic is most important. Good candid shot.

Don't be afraid to write a lot about your life. Don't go on and on about yourself though, as in your tastes and dreams and all that shit. Stick to lifestyle. Stuff you do, stuff you're going to do soon, stuff you want to do eventually. Think of yourself as a salesman and your life is the product. If a prospective date is going to buy in, it's because of a desire to participate in that life. You don't want to leave a question/doubt about whether you're worth a couple hours out of a weekend.

Don't waste too much time. Express a direct interest in meeting. Just be considerate about comfort and safety in your invitation. Demonstrate that you're a thoughtful human being. But at the same time, don't let yourself get dragged along forever.

When messaging, don't get too serious off the bat. You'll sound like a reporter doing an interview. Play into humor you see on the recipient's profile. Keep the message short, like some joke you'd crack in passing. Everyone wants to be left smiling.

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The passive aggressive behavior is pretty normal, although I wouldn't enable it. However she's crossed the line and then some with 1 and 3.

Honestly I'm surprised your mother is glossing over all of this. Destroying peoples stuff or making fun of rape or whatever else is extremely abnormal. I'd probably tell her to fuck off and more in your position.

You will probably leave home ASAP along with your other siblings and leave her with your parents to handle for the next dozen years.

To school her with love and attention may change her and save your parents this horrible life. Perhaps you may have to use the stick too?

>>16786280
>leave family problems with your parenrs

That's really mature.

>>16785537
Can't answer this OP but I've recently emailed a company asking about internships. Just know your threat at least isn't being unwatched.

Maybe email him beforehand? That way he knows to be expecting you and you can maybe set up a time to talk with him.

it might sound different to you, try recordings and see what its really like

>>16785517

>i know how to change my voice
>but im too embarassed to do it

either get over the fact that you hate your voice, or get over that its embarassing. no magical third option.

when i did it people asked whats up wiht my voice and i was like 'does it sound funny?' and said maybe im coming down with it. then i just kept doing it. literally no one commented on it more than once. they just got used to it. like when you take off your glasses and start wearing contacts. theyj ust get used to it.

>>16785500
You have to start by seeing the difference between being kind and being a doormat. See, it's a good thing you are a good person but not when other people are hurting you. Speak up, if you don't like something, say it.

>>16785512
Thanks /adv/ I appreciate it. I would make a attempt to speak up and try to change it by seeing what it's like to let me self out but I don't want to try too hard and end up doing it excessively by pushing my self and start doing it wrong or in a rude way.

>>16785512

what he said.

If you don't respect yourself, don't expect anyone else to do it. If you let others walk over you, they will. That's not kindness, that's low self-esteem and low feelings of self worth. I used to be like you, but not anymore.

>>16785484
Sorry, I forgot to clarify - I have been clicking on "yes, I have a disability" on this page I'm talking about.

I'd be wary of letting a potential boss know about things like that. They may think you're unable to handle the job. (Idk what job you're applying for though). But also, if your boss is one of those assholes that think depression is "all in your head" you may have some problems both getting hired and being treated fairly.

>DVI port on the laptop
You should find fresh stock photography instead of dragging that old janky shit on here.

people are stupid

why is this a problem

When I was in high school a lot of people thought I was gay, when in reality I'm just mildly eccentric.

I hop up and down when I get excited. I really like (but don't really wear) jewelry. And I get really, really excited about things.

Just be yourself, and if yourself happens to somehow relate to a gay stereotype, it doesn't mean you're gay. It just means you're different. And that shit is fine.

>I did turn out to be bi though
>Ii've had 3 girlfriends, and 1 prospective boyfriend who I decided not to date due to aspects of his personality I'm not comfortable with, so I'm pretty sure I'm not gay

yeah recently i have been trying to act more manly but it didn't work, i guess ill just try being myself and see out things work out, thank you

>>16785454
Hell no, I'd love to shoot my load on dem titties. Make sure you lick that asshole nice and clean. You should see if she has friends to join in.

>>16785454
No, I'd like to fuck a 37 yr old lady for the fun of it.
I've got no idea where they hang out though and I'm not sure what kind of young men they generally desire. If you feel wrong, then your conflict is within you. I think it's hot if you can make an older woman feel hot and wanted again :- )

I wana fuck my little sister, no judgements if your into your mom