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The worst possible place to post this.OP, What you need to understand is Women are inherently subversive. It's our job to find the least manipulative subversive woman you can. Good luck space cowboy

>>16786099
like the fact that im posting here for advice for this shows my mental state, i wouldnt normally come to fucking 4chan for advice but i just feel so weird and out of place in some strange, explainable way. and its 2:40AM here so i cant call anybody, im completely alone.

>>16786099
I, too, deal with panic disorder.

Though I won't try and tell you your business, medication is a poor substitute for actual talk therapy.

With that out of the way, here are some things you can do:

>First off, make sure your posture and body is right. Try and lay down in bed if you can. Avoid sitting up and tapping your foot.

>Read. Reading is super helpful.
>4 7 8 breathing. inhale for 4 seconds, hold for 7 seconds, exhale for 8 seconds
>go for a walk if you can.
>play puzzle games on your phone. I like Two Dots. Lay in bed and relax.

Remember, it will pass. You just aren't thinking clearly.

Breath.

It will pass.

I don't have any solid advice on your more urgent need, but if you're not seeing a therapist then you probably should. They can be really helpful with anxiety and panic issues.

http://www.webmd.com/anxiety-panic/guide/how-to-find-therapist

Sorry I can't be of more help OP, I don't really have any experience with this problem. I'll pray for you, and I hope it helps (it can hardly hurt, even if you don't believe in prayer.).

Nope.
You can't trick your brain into having willpower. You need to find for yourself on how to tap into it. Giving advice on it is pointless. Just keep at it and don't give up.

I can just speak from personal experience here, but I think it's kinda possible to "trick" your brain in that regard.

There may be several reasons why you are procrastinating - you might be afraid of an uncomfortable situation, or your brain is constantly thinking about how much work it is, and bothj these thoughts are sapping your willpower to the point where you can barely function anymore.

At least for me it help to not focus on the task/situation at hand - it's better to focus on the point where you have already done it, because at this point you are so glad that it's totally worth it. And you will be mad at yourself, because you could have had this feeling the entire time.

Just keep focusing at the end of the path, anon, and not at the path itself.

>>16786115
I really needed this, thank you

I didn't bother reading your post, but based on the title alone the only advice is "tell her the same things you told us."

>>16786096
I don't know if that's a great idea yet. Should I try to talk to her tomorrow? Should I give her a day?

>>16786090
>Stealing someone elses girl.

Fuck off fag. Someone tried this shit with my girl when she moved to cali. We were having a ldr and she moved from a state away to across the country. She started talking to me less. So i decides to take some time off work. I was 19 at the time but i said fuck it and flew out there to see her. Found out this little fagget was telling her all this shit about how im probably fucking other girls and all this bs. I beat his ass pretty badly broke his jaw a few ribs and stomped his dick a good 5or6 times then kicked his head a few times. No one knew who i was beside her. No one was able to find out who attacked him they chalked it up to some random mugging. I snatched some money out of his wallet and tossed it. For the coverup. 2 years later and she is living with me and were soon to be married. Now im not a violent person and honestly if she would if i would of showed up to cali and she told me she didnt want to be with me anymore i would of accepted it. But she said this guy wouldnt leave her alone. She tried ignoring him. Sounds like your story huh. But he kept bugging her so i gave it to him. I would do it again in a heartbeat. No one fucks with the things i care about. Espically my asian waifu.
Also he kept stalker spamming her facebook pms and txting her even though she blocked his number 2 times.

>>16786089
Details.
How'd she react for starters?

>>16786120
This

>>16786120
She locked herself in the bathroom and cried.

>>16786084
it's not hard to learn the basics of MTG. She'll probably school you if she's into it, but you can just say that you haven't played in forever. That being said, if you don't know how lands/casting spells work, the jig will be up. Maybe go to a friday night magic in your area to scope things out

I belive you can learn for free online via wizards of the coast website mught be wrong on that tho ... the other anon is right about mechanics of the game aswell you really wouod want to learn how things get playe dif you want to seem like you have at least played before. I want to know what your goin to do about a deck tho ... is she going to bring on for you ? Are you going to just go and buy a starter deck ? I whould also point out the MTG get pricey fast (12 year vet reporting in i have well over $4k worth of cards split between 20 odd decks ...) i personally would just say you have played before but not much and should do the favour in exchange for a few lessons ...

>>16786112
She said ahe would bring me a deck.
>>16786097
Yeah it sounded like she plays it regularly. I want to try to get into it honestly so i can enjoy it with her.

>>16786070
stop jerking it so much you fucking degenerate
like holy shit, you probably have fucking scabs on your dick by now

Google "blue balls"

tl;dr fapping for too long without cumming will clog your jizz tubes, causing all kinds of unpleasant reactions.

>>16786080
Trying senpai, I'm addicted
No scabs yet

>>16786082
I cum quickly enough though, I just do it too frequently.

>>16786566
Thanks, I guess.

You broke up for a reason, you know.

>>16786050
your girlfriend was drunk.
chances are, she does not want you back.

you should fuck the asian and then decide what you want to do.

You are not doing the right thing, though I would not necessarily say you are doing the wrong thing. The Chinese girl is either going to return to her home country and pretend you never existed as soon as her program ends, or even worse, is sinking her claws into you for a green card and will turn frosty upon marriage. And that's after 2 years' worth of hiding you from her Chinese friends and her family and relatives because you're not presentable to her parents as marriage material.

Sure you can "try things" as much as you want, but know that you cannot buy into it.

As for your ex, the reason you told her to give you some time is not because you want to rekindle things with her (if you did, you would have just gone and said yes) but because you want to continue getting over her. With that in mind, consider that whatever response you give to her, you must fully commit to it.

Definitely tell her in advance, she's your fucking mother.

As for your gun, I really don't know what the problem is. Just leave it at the gunrange? What sort of advice are we supposed to give you about this?

I would tell your mother but couch it in a "I think my house is too far from uni and/or it is inaccessible by public transport". Don't mention that you're moving in with "friends", she will start shit about if your friends all jump off a cliff etc. Don't start any shit about how she's been treating you.

Your mother is screaming and crying because she is a petulant little shit who grew up at the tail end of baby boomers with no medicare levy and no HECS and thinks that at age 16 you should have gotten a part time job and that would have allowed you to magically move out and get a mortgage because by jove that's how she did it. She probably is aware of the money you saved up, and the money you earn from part time work. She probably resents that you are "hoarding" this money away from her, and she DOUBLY resents you for the fact that in her opinion, you are paying below market rent or no rent at all for the privilege of living with her. It's a bullshit cycle you cannot get through.

However, note that if things do go sour with your friends (living with people is not the same as hanging out with them) and you eventually slink back to your mother's place, she will charge rent AND act just as batshit as before. If I were you, I'd try to stick it out for as long as possible.

>>16786047
Gun safekeeping laws are very strict in Australia. I also suspect that OP does not have an unrestricted full driver's licence (Australia has a tiered system).

>>16786008
It is striking that nowhere in your plans is there "Get psychological help for mother".

Suck his dick and if he cums then he's gay.

Alternatively, tell him that you're attracted to him and don't be a faggot(the other kind) and he'll probably say the same thing

Ill be honest are you a small skinny man who is effeminate ( no body or facial hair etc). Becuase while i consider myself mostly straight. there is the potential that if i was drunk i might experimente with said twink. Or a trap. Somthing i wouldnt do when sober.

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>>16785960
Started Zoloft and they bumped up my dosage to the maximum you can get because of my anxiety (I originally took it for depression). And I hated it, it worked I guess but it made me feel extremely apathetic.

>I still get nervous sometimes
Yes, that's human. The only thing that'll remove all your anxiety is a coma. You've gotta learn to deal with minor cases of anxiety if you want to grow into a functional adult.

Keep in mind that this is a worksafe board.

>>16785959
Just keep to your morals. I dont date whores and would never even consider one as a friend and Im engaged to a lovely indian woman with moral character. Wish me luck.

>>16785959
you already had the answer

Get laid.

>>16785965
No, that other thread was by me. Not sure what this furfag is trying to prove.

You're gonna get stuck in security forces or aircraft maintenance just like everyone else.

Become a male prostitute. You'll make more money and have more respect for yourself.

>implying driving a car isn't the greatest multiplayer game
>not having experienced it

i pity you m8

The only plausible way would be to get a hold of a driving simulator and appropiate equipment (a steering wheel, pedals, the works)

Hypothesis #6 - she's losing interest in you and doesn't want to bring kids into a relationship that might end. That would explain the suddenness of the baby crazy -> barren womb change, tracking a change in the relationship.

How you two doing?

>no kids is a dealbreaker
>already married her

for better or worse, huh?

Usually I hate it when people comment this, but you reallyyyyyy need to talk to her about this and not us. We are not to know what "hypothesis" is the correct one.

>>16785958
Basically, this. They're a deal breaker to you. You're married. Clocks ticking.

You may come off as an arsehole but you need to tell her they're a deal breaker. It's better to look like an arse now than never have kids and regret it.

Why don't you talk to her about it? Have you guys been actually trying? Also, it could be a combination of all of those factors that you listed that is making her put off having children. It is a big, scary decision to make, not to mention it destroys the female body (sometimes it never recovers.) 29 is still quite young and there's still time for you guys to have children.