Archived threads in /adv/ - Advice - 6237. page

File: 1381177782231.jpg (228KB, 1074x1600px) Image search: [Google]

228KB, 1074x1600px

>>16784902
As a college freshman who decided to live off campus his first year, I can tell you that's it's a lot more effort that I expected just to maintain a place. That said, if you're sure you want to rent a place, just google "(your city name) apartments". There's all sorts of websites with basic info on location and price. Once you've found some good ones, call them and ask for a tour. Be looking for signs of age, included utilities/furniture, and their policies on noise, pets and stuff like that. Also make sure you've either got a car or a really good location. Shopping without a car sucks a ton of dick.

Let me just google that for you. There you go OP, glad I could be of assistance.

http://lmgtfy.com/?q=google

>>16784902

google apartments in your area as others said. also check out renting options via craigslist. dont give me shit about being murdered, its 2016, there are security measures in place. my recommendation is sublet for the first year. or at least six months if you can later get your own place.

sublettings good cuz it lets you figure out whats actually important in a living situation before committing to one. you can elave if it turns out to be more than you can handle as well.

for instance getting your own place... are you going to stay there even in the summer? if not how do you expect to get out of your lease? etc.

You need to bring this up with your doctor, they will find you a specialist who can help you.

You're suffering auditory hallucinations as well as some other stuff. It's possibly schizophrenia but I am not a psychiatrist and I do not want to speak as one.

See a professional, this stuff is treatable and is not the end of your life or your sanity. It's a quirk of your brain that can and has been handled well. I've known a couple schizophrenic people who are decent people who live normal lives, and you can, too.

the whole problem is the voices are very much telling me to either hurt myself or others, that's why it's so scary. honestly I try to feel more confident, working on improving my standing in life, becoming more fit. I guess a lot of failure in the past has fucked me up. I wish I knew how to build confidence and ignore the fucked up things in my head.

i'm very lonely most of the time

>>16784912
This. See a psychiatrist.

>>16784891
Has someone told you you're being clingy? Because if they haven't and you're still curious just pay attention to see if they're ignoring you or getting annoyed. Not saying you'd have to but if you expand your group of friends you won't feel clingy to that one friend

the best thing you can do is

>limit yourself to certain times
>get them to invest in said hang out times
>gauge their reactions

so first

>limit yourself to certain times.

i see casual friends at most, once a week. but at least once a month. i see good friends AT LEAST once a week, at best twice a week (but more for special occasions). i try not to force things beyond that. if someone gets annoyed seeing you once a week, chances are you arent meant to be friends. and its okay that they get annoyed with you. its not your fault. its just a bad connection. cut em out, or reduce them greatly.

>get them invested in hang out times

a lot of people are having a weird problem where they hang out and its just kinda weird. you just hang out. whats the point? whats drawing oyu two together?

so finding an actual activity to enjoy together, even if you didnt know it existed before helps. me and my friends seemed to LOVE each other when we were forced to work together, but having the mover just for dinner felt weird.

then they showed me some board games, and now we play board games twice a week and its a whole thing. when that got dull i introduced them to this REALLY whacky video game thats set up like a board game (like mario party) and they loved it. now we look forward to and talk about how crazy the last time was and get excited for the next play through etc. find something even if its weird and stupid to make them think 'wow that wa sfun, we need to do this again'. invite people to lasertag or whatever else is around. make a thing out of it.

>gauge reactions

this ones easy. ask to hang out. see how fast they get back to you. do they cancel easily? is it for a REAL reason? if they cancel or postpone a lot they just arent that excited abotu seeing you. maybe take a step back and see what they say to you. maybe limit yourself to only requesting a hang out once a month and seei f they ever request for YOU to hang out.

>>16785046
No, nobody has told me that. I even asked one of my friends and she just laughed and told me I was overthinking things and that she enjoyed my company. Still, hard for me to shake the feeling.

I know if I made more friends I could split my time up more, I just have trouble getting close to people. I can be friendly and make new acquaintances all day but just hard for me to connect beyond that.

>>16784825
Tell her how much you love her and want to work things out. If she doesn't know about the trip you may have to tell her prematurely.

Ask her how she feels view her perspective and shit.

Its tough going through patches, but it makes you guys stronger if you can get through it

>>16784850
We had that talk yesterday and she said she didnt know how we'd get back on track, she knows about the trip, we've been planning it since november. I've been through stuff like this before but she hasnt and I know its going to be difficult to get her thinking its possible to get back to a good place

>>16784825

is this break up legitimately happening, or is it somethign you see arriving? like is it already at the phase where she said you need to break up, or is it just you guys having some frustrating time together?

if shes already said 'we need to break up' hten its too late. its over.

but if you guys are just teetering on the edge waiting for someone to say its over, you're in luck.

take whatever money you have lying around

>BUT IM BROKE

then use a credit card

>BUT I DONT HAVE ONE

>then sell something

>LIKE WHAT

like your X box

>BUT I LIKE THAT

exactly. THEN, after getting said money, do something special for her. like tonight. or tomorrow. surprise her. take her to a REALLY nice dinner, then out to a movie, and just enjoy her. if you enjoy her, holding her, smelling her, being close to her. she'll feel that. girls are designed to respond to attention. its how they know they are loved.

give her a good night of things specifically she would like, maybe even things she likes that you hate. then take her home and dont expect anything. do something like a massage to top it all off, and just at the end as you're aflling asleep, apologize for the last few months and thank her for being the wonderful person she was and sticking with you.

continue little nice things throughout the week to ween her back to normal relationship mode. make breakfast hte next morning, help her wiht an activity she normally does alone and just smile and say you wanna do it to spend time iwth her. etc.

>>16784821
>known him since highschool
>choose now to tell him I want to slap weiners together
lol dude just fucking get on grindr like every other faggot out there. Don't sacrifice a core friendship just because you're not getting any cock elsewhere.

File: 9hYzZrW.gif (2MB, 480x270px) Image search: [Google]

2MB, 480x270px

HE SAID YES

I ASKED HIM IF HE WANTS TO VIDYA AND CHILL TOMORROW AND HE SAID YES

>>16784964
Really? :D does he know you want the D tho?

I can already tell you are an outcast because you're a frog poster. Stop thinking you're better than everyone and maybe someone will actually want to be around your pathetic ass.

Also make like a frog and hang yourself faggot.

>>16784814

Lighten up, Francis.

OP, find some interests you like to do; do those interest with other people; talk about said interest with those people. Boom...friends.

>>16784802
It doesn't actually sound like you've tried to make friends. Maybe don't think that people you've just met are utter idiots and you'll get along better faggot.

>>16784789
>my ex is actively trying to make me jealous. what do?
Lol, this means she still likes you. Also, if it bothers you so much, just delete her. Problem solved m8. Don't be rustled.

>>16784811
She's the one that dumped me.

>>16784842
So?

>>16784780

You probably weren't a good fit for them. They wanted to date you for a few months, which is good; but they could have broken up with you for a bunch of reasons.

If you're boring, no problem; there are shitloads of mind-numbing boring women out there to be with.

Pretty much all relationships which aren't meant to be will fizzle out in that time span. It's also not shocking that you meet women during a time in the year when people most realize and contemplate their loneliness. Your situation is unremarkable. Just keep trying to date more often.

>>16784780
Did they say why or went ghost?

>>16784776
Yes.

File: 1448949465834.png (73KB, 400x363px) Image search: [Google]

73KB, 400x363px

>>16784776
>sin

>just holes

u know what hell is

>just holes

do it anon. you can't escape.

I can fix you up. Buy an air ticket to Peru. Post your flight number, date, and arrival time. I'll be waiting at Lima airport with a sign that says "Euan Owen".

Sorry it's hard to read.. typing on my phone. If I could make corrections I would

>>16784728

There are tons of women out there. You're young and therefore stupid, so you think you're broken because some random chick is dating someone else.

You'll be fine, sport.

Ignore her and don't obsess over one girl. It's not healthy. Also don't put women on a pedestal, talk to them how you would talk to your friends.

Your problem is medical and you won't get the solution from 4chan. See a doctor or a counsellor and address your issues instead of hiding from them. Godspeed anon.

>>16784759
>Your problem is medical and you won't get the solution from 4chan. See a doctor or a counsellor

This. Sorry dude, I know its not what you want to read, but I think Its best. You should either go to a pro or find some way to help yourself.

Or if you really cant see a pro again, Meditation perhaps?

>>16784725
Geez man, take your meds. The other guy's got it right. There's nothing you can do on your own, right now.
No magic pills, words or trinkets here. Afflictions like that are for life and meds are the way to have a normal-ish existence.

Don't feel bad. Men want to fuck. Women want to fuck. A huge proportion of marriages end with adultery. It's just your nature. Saying that, there are plenty of women out there that you could be fucking instead. Why is this one girl so important that you have to seek advice from 4chan?

>>16784699
It highly depends on your own values. Do you value a romantic relationship more than friendship? Do you value your friendship with said friend more than you value the chances you have with his wife?

If you let his wife know, she'll have to deal with those questions herself, but remember instead of friendship, she'd be in a conflict about ditching her husband for a friend of his.

If you don't value your friendship enough not to end up acting on this, do distance yourself from the couple or you could ruin their marriage. Your friend would likely be really depressed for a while, might even try to murder you[both].

The situation where you distance yourself from the couple is one which avoids disaster. That doesn't mean you need to avoid the guy. Just don't hang around her so much. Invite him out separately. I'm sure their marriage will survive him having a guy friend of his own.

You deeply, deeply insulted him you whore

Do you like him? Call him and see if he wants to hang out.

Do you not like him? What do you care then?

>>16784705
Fuck

>>16784689
/adv/ is like visiting the dr
we need more info
what is your age
weight
male or female
how long have you had symptoms
--
just like the dr
people cant just guess without more info

>>16784826
But unlike going to a trained and board-certified physician, asking on /adv/ will not provide you with any useful information or accurate diagnosis.

>>16784689
Call doc sire