Lost my job and my girlfriend a few months ago and I have been really depressed ever since. I find it nearly impossible to find any sort of motivation and go between feeling depressed and alone to just empty and numb. I had socially anxiety before is, but its gotten worse it seems. And I generally feel pretty worthless and inadequate.
Any advice for getting through social anxiety, getting motivation to find another job, getting through generally feeling like shit, and actually making myself appear attractive and desirable to girls?
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See a psychotherapist.
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Got an email man?
We can chat. I'm pretty suicidal myself because of a relatively similar situation.
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How do I stop being beta 2016-02-09 10:05:49 Post No.16786284
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I'm 20 now, about 1 year ago I was extremely beta I had never had a serious relationship and was extremely unfit, I think I was also suffering from anxiety and depression. eventually I got sick of being depressed all the time and tried to actually turn my life around. 1 year on and I go to the gym, don't suffer any anxiety or depression. But now even though I am much more fit, I still have very beta tendencies. So my question is how do I go from being beta (with girls, with mates and with normal people) to being at least somewhat alpha? Is there steps I can take books I could read things I can do?
TLDR: How do I become Alpha?
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I'm not sure if you can become alpha. You can't really change your personality lol. Just be yourself, if you aren't alpha when you are being yourself, then there's nothing to do. But if you are too shy to be yourself, then that's the problem. Try to act the same as you would online, where nobody can see your face and judge you by your appearance..
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/adv/ocado
>have crush on girl at work that's grown so big it's beginning to scare the neighbors and worry the cat
>she work in a different department to me but occasionally we work alongside each other on various things
>can't tell if she is interested or indifferent to me
>she's leaving work and invites me along to her leaving thing, mentions it a few times and makes sure I'm coming
>she only invited me from my department
>she has a bf who treats her like crap
>her leaving party is this Friday, it's going to be a bar crawl... i.e. lots of drinking
Any suggestions on how to get closer to her/ maybe initiate something... at least her phone number/ social network?
TIA.
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she has a bf, forget her
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from what she says it's on the rocks.
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>>16786298
you probably have never had a female friend
All girls say that shit all the time. I have a friend who is always saying that she's going to break up and it's been 6 years since she started dating with this guy and they haven't. They'll probably marry. Girls tend to exaggerate a lot, and love to victimize themselves when they are with guys. She jus wants you as an emotional crutch, if she was attracted to you she wouldn't even mention her BF
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>dated a 15 year old girl online at 19
>few months until she turns 17
>she's not actually that far (2 hr flight), it was just the age thing keeping us apart
When is a good time to visit her? Is it really that wise to wait until shes 18?
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>>16786243
I was the girl in this scenario once. BF flew cross country to take me to prom when I was ~16, he was 20. He stayed in our basement apartment and my parents "forbade" me from going downstairs. If you're looking to fuck her, make sure she has cool parents. Mine were like "we'll call the cops" but I know them and I knew they wouldn't, and they probably expected it to happen.
In my experience, my best advice is to not go behind her parent's back. Don't randomly show up and take their daughter without meeting them.
If sex isn't the reason you're waiting, then I think you should meet ASAP as long as she's ready :)
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>>16786269
Well fuck, I wasn't planning on meeting her parents. She's got very traditional Asian parents too so I'd worry for my safety. If it's necessary, how should we/I/my gf approach introducing me to her parents? I first met her in a vidya game when she was 13 for gods sake.
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>>16786275
Not the girl you're responding to, but you actually thought you could fly all that way and not meet her parents? Where did you think you were going to stay? Where did you think you were going to meet her and see her?
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Recently, i've just been feeling kind of... empty or something
>gf breaks up with me 6 months ago
>fucks me up real good
>get over it a month ago or so
ever since, i havent really felt like myself or something. i'm happy when i'm around friends and doing stuff, but otherwise i just feel subdued and unenthusiastic about everything.
my hobbies dont really distract me from it anymore, i'll start doing something and then run out of interest in about 15 minutes
none of my friends know, or family really, i try to hide that kinda shit as much as possible, but thats another set of emotional issues altogether.
anything i can really do for this or just hope it works out on its own?
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Have you considered drugs?
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Hey guys,
Just wondering if anyone has any tips on how to give an awesome bj - I want to hone my skills and get good
(Not a slut, just a girl wanting to please the bf)
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You can practice on me if you want. Ill even give you 3.50$
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>>16786228
With $3.50 I can show you my cheesegrater moves son
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just blow on it, its really obvious how and not very difficult. treat it like a trumpet
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I'm 20 and I'm about to walk out of my abusive house hold. I am afraid if I don't I will be driven to murder. Any advice for the homeless?
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If you need to sell yourself for 350. Or come to me for 5k your choice
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>>16786194
If you can, having a way to support yourself and a place to go would be very helpful before leaving.
If you're in the USA, you can call the National Domestic Violence Hotline to see if you can get help locally. If you're not, it's possible that your country has some social services that can help you.
If you're just some whiny little bitch who's idea of an abusive household is your mom yelling at you for being a lazy slob, get a fucking job and move out.
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>>16786194
Take any job you can get and get roommates
I don't see how people are chronically homeless can't you get a room for like 500/mo in just about any city
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can someone give some advice ? is normal do not have any feelings for most part of the time ? since i was 8 i have hard anxiety, now im 18 and i started treated by myself, and i realize this i don´t feel anything when im not anxious
well my english is not perfect
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Well at least, someone who been trought something similar could help me ? i really need to come back to normal
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See a therapist about this. These problems are too fundamental to find a solution for you on the internet.
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thanks, i think you are right
Okay, so here's the thing. I lost my virginity to my first girlfriend on Friday. She's really hot and I truly like her. For my first time, I think I lasted like 30 minutes before I came but I could have easily kept going longer. We had sex another 2 times that day and I lasted like 30+ minutes each time. Hell, before the sex she gave me like a 2 hour blowjob before I had to jack off into her mouth to cum. She said I lasted a really, really long time for a virgin and I was one of the best she's ever had because of how hard I kept fucking her.
Yesterday she came over and I fucked her for literally like 3 hours straight. I was fucking her really, really hard and making her moan and everything. It took me about 1 hour to cum. As soon I came, I took a minute break and started fucking her again for another hour. Came again then took a 10 minute break and fucked her again before my dick as sore. She literally could not stop telling me how good I was and how hard I fucked her pussy.
Is something wrong with my dick or sex just not what I expected it to be? I expected sex to be a lot warmer and tighter too. Has years of jacking off once or twice a day to Internet porn desentisized me? What do I do?
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>>16786179
desensitization is certainly a thing, try not jerking it for a week or two, should help
also maybe try not having sex for a bit as well
let your wang reset bruh
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Your gf has a wide as fuck vagina.
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>>16786318
How do I know?
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Running out of things to talk about
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I feel it coming. Talking to this qt I met and it seems like we're slowly running out of things to discuss. We're both in the military but different branches so we chat about military life mostly.
What are some ways I can switch it up a bit? I want to get to her to talk about herself more but I don't want to seem creepy or like I'm interrogating her. She's been talking to me for two weeks now all day so clearly she's not put off by me yet.
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Ask her what she does for fun. And then ask her out on a date.
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Hey /adv/ I want to try ecstasy what does it do and are there any risks?
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There are always risks to taking drugs that don't have any quality control standards to stop users from being fucked over from harmful ingredients.
I don't know what other risks there are to using E, but that alone would put me off.
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>>16786169
Gotta love the dumbfuck kids who can manage to find /adv but who apparently have no clue whatsoever what google is.
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I am 24 and completely inept when it comes to dating. I am very good socially (I'm a waiter and have paid my way through college this way), and have friends, but I have 0 experience with girls.
I simply treat girls like everyone else; people. I cannot, however, ever really tell if they want anything more. Usually when I get that feeling in the back of my mind that she might be into me, I just dismiss it and treat her as normal. How can a hot girl ever be into me, after all?
I'm honestly not sure if I'm ugly, or more inept than I think I am, but I am pretty sure it's neither. What can I do for myself to help me finally break this mess and get with a girl?
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>I'm a waiter and have paid my way through college this way
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Are mail order brides legit? Should I buy one? What sites are good?
Ausfag here.
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>>16786142
I'll sell you my little sister instead?
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How much u want
I'm ready to commit suicide, I have nothing to live for anymore and nothing can change my mind about it, I'm done with this awful world. What's the most effective method of suicide? And how do I make sure I write a note that'll hurt my family the least amount?
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>"I have nothing to live for"
You apparently have family that cares about you. Isn't that something to live for?
The world isn't an awful place like you feel it is. This is literally just bullshit fed to you by your depression or another mental illness. It's not perfect, but it's still beautiful.
There's no reason for you to feel this way forever. Get psychiatric help. You're throwing away a perfectly good life for absolutely no gain.
I understand how you feel. I've been there -- a lot. I've been depressed for 7 years straight and I had my first electroconvulsive therapy treatment today because 14 medications haven't worked and neither has dialectic and cognitive behavioral therapy.
Depression is a hard thing to handle, but once you get a handle on it, life can be great. Things will improve. You just have to try.
It's not like you lose anything if you get treatment. I mean, if you're ready to kill yourself, can life get a whole lot worse?
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Under the assumption you're underage and therefore have no access to a gun, I'd suggest hanging. It's an effective and instantaneous method.
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But at least if I kill myself I don't have to endure day after day of this horribly shit life. My friends don't exist. I have never had another person fall in love with me. My family have my best interests at heart but they can't help me and I feel so far from them.
I have been trying for so long. So so long. And I just can't do it anymore. I really want out.
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I've been diagnosed with social anxiety disorder. Thus having a relationship is out of the table. What the hell should I do to make sure I dont become the next mass rapist? Go to hookers?
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Seek therapy to better tackle the disorder.
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>>16786114
remove penis
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>>16786118
Right