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>>16784528
I'm actually going on a break.

More often than not its easier on you if you know it's just a temporary break. But if you wish to stop completely, that's your perogative.

Ive been smoking non-stop everyday using my vape for the past 2 years and I smoke 3 more years before that.

The best way to stop is to literally stop. You will feel craving arise, but that's the point. You want to remove yourself from the feedback loop of craving. This will require willpower.

You can do what you want to do, like workout as ithelps when the THC melts from your fat cells. Literally two birds with one stone there.

Lot of water helps. And maybe a session every night where you evaluate your struggles. Light a candle. Sit with the craving. Maybe listen to some soothing music. This helps you calm down especially before bed. I found that when I was quitting, I frequently woke up at night either due to intense sweating or intense dreams.

That's something to maybe look forward to. The dreams will return and it will be vivid.

Other than that, just improving your willpower will prevent you from relapsing.

I'm on a break till 4/20 when my exams end. I'm sure that session will be godly.

Good luck anon, Godspeed

>>16784528
Run out of money, donate it all to charity so you cannot buy anymore

>>16784487
Short answers = no good
Thats when I wait for him to Text something to start a convo

>>16784497
had a bad feeling. he gave the old "my life is very busy suddenly" bullshit too. should I just abandon ship now and block his number? I really liked him and I don't feel like being hurt by the slow fade.

>>16784497
This hurt.

>>16784468

ouch. thats a rough feel. that being siad you can't really change it. how can you predict chemicals and random reactions.

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>>16784468
Don't introduce your friends.

You just need to accept that she is nothing to you. Also some people are just not okay with casual sex.

>>16784454
/sp/ trip left on shaking my head to be honest family

>>16784440
Emma it now, you are worth more

>>16784440
>Should we break it off now

Fuck yes. She can't wait to hop on somebody else's dick and that's just the excuse she's looking for.

It's all over, buddy. Time to move on.

>>16784440
>Should we break it off now or try to make every last second we have count?

No one can tell you which is better for you. It's entirely up to the way you handle loss. In my case, I knew a year in advance that I'd be moving to another country for grad school. I told the guy I was dating at the time and we both agreed we'd be cool just riding it out til I had to go. Sure enough, the day I left, I kissed him goodbye and we called it quits. Totally amicable. But both of us were 25+, so we had the maturity to know ourselves and what we would be happy with.

If you're really emotional, overly attached, or if you think it'd be harder on you to wait til she leaves for good... maybe it will be best for you to break it off. You need to do some soul searching. But ultimately, yes, your relationship is doomed.

>>16784393
Well for females masturbating increases libido, is it the same for males?

Whenever you feel the need to masturbate, stick it in her.

Is she too loose or something?

>>16784393
Are you over weight?

>>16784521
Nah, 5'10 and 140 so pretty normal, why?
>>16784508
I hardly ever even want to masturbate unless watching porn in the first place

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I'm specifically linking this because, holy shit, that guy's story.

You should show him this post.

>>16784394
Kek

I can't even tell if you're sad or not

Woman really are something

>>16784370
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but she's convinced there is something wrong and these professionals are just missing something. it has gotten to the point where an issue pops up, i advise that she goes to a medical professional, and she jokes that "i bet they won't even find anything wrong with me." i've pushed her when she says this and try to reason with her that these doctors have devoted their lives to studying their fields, see thousands of patients a year, and if they tell you nothing's wrong then you should trust their judgement. if they can't find a cause then i challenge her to find an explanation that wouldn't be physiological and she shuts down cause she knows where i'm going. she begins to breakdown emotionally and i have to pull back else she elects to keep it all bottled up and not communicate with me.

this is just one of the issues that pop up. she has a problem with jumping to worst-case scenario conclusions whenever something happens. she gets caught up in "what-if" scenarios that lead her to depressive outcomes. if she is feeling uneasy about an exam that's coming up then she starts panicing and becomes anxious about not being able to transfer to a good university cause of bad grades which would cause her to have to stay home longer with her emotionally abusive parents (they seem like nice people to me but she resents them and the things that her parents have said to her do cross into emotional abuse). she worries that people will view her as a failure and stupid. she gets anxious about me leaving her cause she would be a burden on me or that i get fed up with her issues. this is the train of thought she rides from her feeling less than confident about an exam. she sits in her room, crying and breaking down about these potential scenarios instead of studying.

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>>16784374
i try to show her how ridiculous this is, that she needs to be able to take things in a step-by-step fashion, and that none of this is going to help her with the exam but it only leads to her being more emotional. she repeats again that i'm going to leave her and that i deserve better, that she's broken and fucked up.

am i just positively reinforcing her unreasonable behavior? do i need to be tougher with her? if i don't coddle her then she distances herself from me and i can't help from there. she's 21y/o, she isn't a child but i feel like she still acts like one when it comes to real world experiences.

i have been thinking of us taking a break after the anniversary passes. maybe she needs time for herself? an opportunity to focus entirely on herself and not split her attention? it seems like a good idea to me but i don't know how she would react to a break or if she would read too much into my intentions and get wrapped up in her thoughts. i don't know if she would even take the time to better herself or just go deeper into a depression since i "left" her.

please help.

no tldr faggots

>bump

>>16784364
If she can't accept the stuff you like, how will she be able to fully accept you?

Dont be so hard on yourself.

You like what you like. Fuck other people judging you because they think it's uncool. Your gf might enjoy it too, and even if she doesnt there must be some common ground... cooking? Going to walks? music?

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>>16784375
I don't know, I don't even know why she is accepting me so far, I'm a terrible person with no redeeming qualities. I don't want to give her any reasons to dislike me more with my hobbies

>>16784376
We have common ground, we go to concerts and always talk about music, we also talk about books and read them together and working out is our thing too, but she still seems to be interested in all my other hobbies, which is all that manchild stuff. I don't want to share it with her, it just makes me look bad. I know that I should stop liking this hobbies at my age as I get older, but I just can't.

>>16784341
I don't think any professor would ask that but you could just say "cancer".

>>16784341
You're in fucking college. Tell him you need the coursework for the next two weeks and see what he says. You're an adult, don't use excuses.

>>16784341

Sorry dude, you don't get free vacation time anymore now that you're becoming an adult. Shit sucks, but it doesn't work that way. I'm coming to the end of my 20s and I've had to sacrifice my job or my vacation many a time (spoiler though, vacation has won), but you have limited choices here. A professor probably isn't going to go out of their way to provide you with the coursework in advance, because they're working a job, and it's not their job to accommodate you in advance.

Sorry for not giving you a solution here, but maybe honesty is the best policy. It depends on how cool your professors are. I had a lot of classes back in the day that didn't have an attendance policy, it was just graded on exams. If you have an attendance policy, maybe ask if you can get some leniency?

Girls like a confident guy. Go talk to her be genuine let her know what's up you'll be fine.

>>16784314
youre making the problem worse, just get some bio oil for your scars

>>16784325
I've done bio oil before. It's great for the skin but does nothing for the scars. These are all several years old and not going away, trust me. I take amazing care of my skin now and the scars haven't improved at all.

That is a thought, though. That I'd be making it worse. You might be right but I think I would rather my scars be body art than just self-harm. I was thinking id make a consultation appointment with a highly rated scarification place and ask what they thought they could do to work with the scars already there. I saw a fish piece done to cover some scars and it looked like it turned out well.

Idk so undecided.

Man I was hoping there would be more interest in this, or someone that had done it. Google doesn't seem to bring up too much yet. Guess I'll keep at it

>doesn't ask about the mutual interest
>spouts maymays from a burmese basket-weaving website
>she doesn't understand
>immediately rejects her like an autist for not liking something she's stated she likes, and something she didn't understand the question about

0/10, 2's are out of your league anyways

this was mindbogglingly bad dude

10/10.

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>>16784312
as a bisexual man I have to state for the record relationships with men are like 10x more straightforward and simple. at least 10x, if not 20x.

Sometimes I get depressed with how shitty using Tinder and dating apps is, fire up Grindr, and before I know it tons of guys are telling me how handsome/fit I am, begging for pictures of my cock, and I can probably find a decent looking guy in 2 hours or less. Compare to the arduous ongoing process of trying to date women... Yeesh.

I'm glad I'm bisexual. It's nice to know at the very least a ton of gay guys want my dick. Plus I can always find some twink to suck my balls if I'm in the mood. I mean, if some girl dumps me or stops calling back or whatever, usually I'll just have sex with a dude to help me forget about it. It's so much easier it's not even funny.

Dating women usually requires much more wooing, seduction, mind games, bullshit and the sex isn't even guaranteed.

If you ever thought being gay was easy mode: it is. Don't let ANYONE tell you otherwise. It's fucking easy to get dick.