Hello 4chan,
need your help!
In about a year i'm likely will serve in the military..
my change of compulsory is very high...
so the question is:
army, Navy or airforce?
Suicide bomber.
Depend s on what you want as a job, want an admin or office like job fuck it go airforce and enjoy life, but if you wanna fight I'd say go Marines bro, the army is a joke
I don't know if this is more for fit or not.My girlfriend and I recently had sex and we are both bigger individuals, I was wondering besides the basic diet and exercises I am performing to increase my cardio and lose weight is there any specific exercises that will help me make sweet sweet love? Muscles I should be stressing? Any recommended exercises? Thanks.
Running and burpless.
Don't do deadlifts if you are not a "naturally fit" person
>>16787185
Cardio and upper body
>>16787185
Loosing weight is more of a set of mind rather then good tips and exersises. i suggest walking every day and taking back on the sugar because doing exersises is usless if you hurt yourself.
I've always endorsed the idea that you should be entirely responsible for yourself, that you should work hard to earn your keep, and so on. So this year, whilst self-funding a postgraduate degree, I resolved not to ask for any financial assistance from my family, and support myself completely. It's been difficult - I work ~15 hours per week on top of my uni work, which is about the maximum I can do healthily, and just about make enough money to survive. I never eat out or go for nights out, because I just can't afford anything other than rent and groceries (I'm putting aside £10 each week so that I'll maybe be able to afford a holiday in the summer). The idea that this is a 'character building' experience keeps me going, but to be frank I'm depressed and lonely, partly because of my financial state.
I look at some of the people on my course - privately-educated girls whose parents fronted their tuition fees without hesitation and give them generous living fees each month. They spend their winters skiing and their summers in various incredible locations, they buy expensive lunches each day, they take notes on their brand new Apple laptops, and so on. They're very happy, and what's more they're not at all bad people - if anything, they're far kinder and more friendly than me, because they've not been made bitter/cynical by their circumstances.
So are there actually any benefits to being poor?
>>16787171
You learn how to budget and be disciplined.
Which you can also learn while being rich.
So no.
You may work a job that's very low stress and be poor because the pay is shit. But atleast you're not stressed and working all the time.
>>16787188
Unfortunately, my job is pretty high stress. I work unsocialable hours for no extra pay, am always on my feet attending to one task or another, and quite often get treated like shit by customers because some people like to do that to minimum-wage employees.
What's your Adverse Childhood Experience (ACE) score, /adv/?
http://www.acestudy.org/ace_score
Here's the test if you don't trust the link
I come in with a solid 4.
9 reporting in. Fml
There is this guy in my class that I have a crush on. We stare at each other sometimes and he kinda teases me and touches me (like put his hands on my shoulders, touch my hair, tap on my shoulder etc) but I feel like he is not interested since he hasn't taken it any further. We're not Facebook friends or anything like that so he probably isn't even interested?
Probably not, I do that alot to the uggos in my class just to watch them get all excited
>>16787162
maybe he's autist. Have you seen what people post here? Some guys are just bad at it.
I can fuck you senseless though so let's meet.
>>16787181
Yeah he is probably doing this
>>16787184
Nah, he seems pretty normal. I just think that if a guy is interested he will do something about it, even if it is just to add on facebook.
Could you personally handle this and go on with your life like nothing happened?
I'm 25 M. About 1,5 years ago I ended up in a car crash that damaged my lower body to a degree that I lost all sensation in my genitals, part of my left thigh and lower back. My nerves are cut to a degree that they can never be restored and all the doctors agree that it is very unlikely I will ever gain sensation "down there" ever again. I thank God I did not lose ability to walk.
At 25 my sex life is over, I cannot even masturbate or get any pleasurable feelings "down there". I could cut my penis with knife and would not feel a thing.
My friends (female and male) are asking what the fuck happened to me? Where's the old charming and witty guy they knew. I had to spent 30 days time in mental institution because I ended up suicidal.
I feel like a fucking empty hollow shell and the only time when I feel normal is when I drink +12 beers, smoke joints, multiple benzos and opiates. Practically to a point when I forget my condition and who I am. It's fucking horrible that psychologically I still have the 'sex drive' present (Actually my testicles are still working) but there are no ways to channel my urges anymore.
Too embarrasing to talk about this to even my closest friends, co-workers, my boss.. "Oh hey Freddy, sorry I've been pretty down and not quite myself because I've become impotent fuck at 25"
I used to be socially active, but for the past few months I have not seen even my closest family or friends. The only social contact I have is with dope dealers. Every night I go to sleep I thank God for creating psychedelics, opiates, alcohol, cocaine and all the wonderful drugs that help me forget this shit even for a few hours at a time.
I luckily still have my old job of 3 years and frankly, 50% of my salary goes to various drug use. When I tried to deal with this condition sober about a year ago after recovering from the crash, I ended up in the looney bin for suicidal behavior.
That sounds fucking horrible OP. Can you still get errection/cum? I wonder if it would be possible even if you couldnt feel it.
>>16787161
What do the doctors say? There must be some kind of drugs or injections that can give you the stimulus that you want. Your upper body is functional? Viagra + hardcore kissing + stimulation of the upper body doesnt work?
>>16787170
>>16787173
I do cum in my dreams because sometimes when waking up my underpants are filled with sperm (About once in a 2-3 weeks ). Like I said, my testicles are still working fine, my beard is still growing.
Same thing with urinating. I can feel when my bladder is full but when going to the toilet it feels like I am touching someone else's piece of meat. no sensation, no hot or cold or pain. I could burn my left, damaged thigh with a lighter and even if it swells up from the heat damage, I don't actually feel the pain
Whenever relationships are the topic, communication will come up. I have NO communication skills when it come to romantic relationships. My parents had a horribly disfunctional marriage. The only communication was yelling that ended with my dad beating my mom. That's all i ever learned. And i have a big tendency to bottle everything up untill i can't take it anymore, just to get loud and dramatic. I don't want this. I want to be able to have healthy and honest talks with my bf. There is so fucking much information on the internet that it seems impossible to filter something decent out. If anybody could help me find some good sources to learn the basics, i would be very thankful.
Just speak whatever is on your mind. Even if you think it will hurt the person.
>I dont know what my thoughts are, im a crazy person with no concept of my own mind!
You are currently unsuitable for any kind of relationship and should probably avoid them until you get to know yourself a little better
>>16787157
I've been working on this for a few years now. I have read a lot of books, i went to therapy. I did a lot of maturing and getting over issues. Recently i started a new relationship. Untill now we are still in the honeymoon phase and never had any conflicts. But i know we will get there. And i'm scared that i'm going to fuck this up majorly.
I think it really boils down to your first statement. But i guess the problem is that i think my feelings are weird, stupid, unimportant and what not. Basically insecurity. I know i'm not "ready" for a relationship. But being lonely isn't helping my cause. I'd rather learn a thing or two with a less than perfect relationship
>I'd rather learn a thing or two with a less than perfect relationship
Not everything we learn in life serves us well.
How to get over a crush /advice/?
I have a crush on my classmate it starting to affect me and my life.
I did what I could to get close to her. That didn't work she just ignore me this make feel worthless even though she treats other guys friendly.
>inb 4 ask her out
Basically it doesn't work like this in my country.
Also I am not unattractive or creepy.
>>16787137
The only thing you can do is very cliche, but it's cliche for a reason. It's the only thing that works.
I'm sure you know and are just looking to hear it from someone else. Go meet other girls and keep meeting them until your oneitis disappears from your mind, also take her off that pedestal (very very fucking difficult to do) Just remember the mantra "your body becomes it's function" and the more you meet other girls, eventually your oneitis will be dissolved
Hey /adv/
Last week my mother passed away. Turns out she had a hardcore heroin problem she kept a secret from me.
My issue is her bedroom is absolutely full pills, needles (used and unused) and other paraphernalia. What would be the best way of cleaning the room out? Is there some sort of service to remove stuff like that?
Just throw it out. There is nothing illegal about throwing drugs in the garbage.
The smarter thing to do would be sell it. Lots of people who would be happy to clean that room for you OP.
>>16787134
Sell em.
The safest thing you can do is take them to a hospital. They have all manner of safe biohazard and drug disposal facilities. The downside to this is that law enforcement might catch wind. There is a possibility, depending on local laws, that some or all of your mother's estate could be seized under the claim that it was paid for through illicit activities (in this case, drug sales). You really, really don't want to go through the process of challenging civil forfeiture.
The second best thing you can do is dump it quietly, taking appropriate precautions so that trash workers don't get suspicious and/or injured. Putting needles inside of a thick-walled plastic jug (like the ones Arizona iced tea is sold in) is particularly safe. Just make sure it doesn't get mixed in with your personal trash so that it doesn't get traced back to you.
Is there any way of getting rid of anxiety? Any tips? Already tried NoFap got to day 33 and said fuck it,
Anxiety is typically a worry or fear of what is to come, even the unknown.
You need to focus on the present, what is happening right now right before your eyes.
Try mindfullness breathing exercises
one way of getting rid of anxiety is to get used to the thing you are anxious about
so if you are anxious about asking a girl out, i assume the more girls you ask the less anxiety you will have
if you are anxious about talking in public, the more you do it the less anxiety you will have
Therapy.
>See a bunch of missing and exploited children site views in friend's browser history.
>He admits he jacked off to pic of near nude teen in suggestive pose when it "popped up" during his jack session browsing and spent the night reporting the website and users posting pics of kids.
>Feel weird around him now
Am I bffs with a pedo?
I mean feeling guilty is good and all, but doesn't take away from the fact he got off to it, right?
Am I being a judgmental faggot?
>He admits he jacked off to pic of near nude teen in suggestive pose when it "popped up" during his jack session browsing
>spent the night reporting the website and users posting pics of kids.
So he jerked off to underage and then turned into a white knight and reported them all to the fbi?
you know this is complete BS, right? Id feel more worried about being best friends with a liar
>>16787121
Jacking off to teens doesn't make you a pedo.
Do what you can to talk to him about not looking at child porn.
There's erotica you can use for that, and it's actually legal. I'm not sure about the legal status of loli but if it's legal you can suggest he use that too.
It's really important he doesn't use things that exploit children and that he doesn't molest anyone. You can't choose what you're sexually attracted to, but you can absolutely choose how you handle it.
I feel like I intimidate some people when I talk to them.
>scratch face
>rub eyes
>move around in chairs if sitting
I don't want to make people uncomfortable, how can I change this?
You know, its not always your fault if someone gets uncomfortable when they are with you.
I always deemed myself 'awkward' and thought that I made everyone uncomfortable, and its taken me to realize that ALOT of people out there, even those who by appearance and social status we wouldnt ever consider, are in fact very socially awkward themselves and easily lose their cool.
Just focus on being comfortable for YOURSELF, not for others. If you carry yourself with a presence of self-comfort, others will naturally find themselves comforted by your presence. Its why we find ourselves drawn to certain people.
>>16787117
In the end, your probably imagining most of it, most people simply don't give a shit.
>>16787128
I agree with you, however, when I'm trying to get something from them, I don't want them to feel as though something is wrong.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Polyphasic_sleep
Has any of /adv/ pulled this off and gotten onto a polyphasic sleep cycle.
I've currently only slept a total of 3 hours in two days 'cause I'm trying to write a game, get a 3.0> GPA B.compsci and be able to relax.
This is virtually impossible if I sleep a regular healthy amount and I'll probably end up killing myself from health complications... so I ask /adv/ for advice
I tried but never lasted more than a month, mostly because something would always come up that wouldn't allow me to sleep at the time I was suppose to sleep and it would fuck up my cycles.
I know that the uberman sleep schedule is a fucking terrible idea according to a study by the US military, but I'm not sure about other forms of polyphasic sleep.
It seems to me something you should talk to a doctor about first.
try to be more effective man.
Most succefull people had only 3.5 hours of sleep per day in their 20s. thats what you should aim.
you will end up burning yourself
ITT: we post ways we have successfully manipulated or have been successfully manipulated by other people, and why it worked.
This thread is just as much about learning to prevent manipulation as well as doing it.
This is a good thread, bumping
Is this the Dale Carnegie thread?
Are you the deluded faggot who thinks they can read people's auras or some kind of new age witchy shit?
My girlfriend wants to take a break. She told me "you're awesome and I love you" but she's very unhappy and that she felt a week long break would help her sort herself out.
What should I expect from this? Also, would it be inappropriate for me to try to contact her friends at school for some answers even if I don't know them?
Sounds like shes crushing on someone and the grass is always greener on the other side. That or she already cheated on you.
>>16787110
This, unfortunately its always this.
She wants a vacation were she can go fuck Chad and Tyrone at the same time and then come back as used goods to cuddle with you.
OK it might not be THAT bad but she probably has someone in mind, maybe for a while now.
Relationship 'breaks' are nothing but an excuse to go fuck other people and then come back to your significant other without feeling guilty about it.
There are no "breaks." Only break ups.
If my gf asked for a break I would just say "nah let's just end it permanently. If you're not interested anymore neither am I." Then leave her to go fuck Chad while I find some tinder sluts.