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>>16937514
Eat fruit.

Look up death grip syndrome and stop looking at porn

>>16937514
Anxiety. Tell her what's going on and move towards sex at a slower pace together. Goes away with a little bit of time and practice.

>>16937506
Can you ask him to just wingman for you?

>>16937506
caffeine pills usually make me more sociable

>>16937507
I don't really want to ask him to 'restrain himself' or anything, that's kind of a dick move and I really love and respect this guy.

Only time I felt a little annoyed was when I made a joke about something happening at the time which was a little soft and only he heard it, so then he said it out loud and got big laughs out of it.

But it's not like I'd cause a scene and be all "HEY MAN YOU STOLE MY JOKE"

I haven't talked to anyone from high school outside of Facebook since I graduated 8 years ago. I left the country anyway.

I'd say it's not a big a deal then, and I get what you're saying
I have a friend who I've known since 1 year old literally, dude and I are cool I guess, but our interests don't overlap anymore much, all he does is drink, rap (srs), party, get in trouble with cops. I think I'll always have some level of loyalty with him specifically because he's like a brother, but even then I just can't hang out with the dude that much, I don't enjoy drinking much anymore, he doesn't enjoy lifting like I do, he's constantly in trouble with the law because he does dumb shit all the time, he has no goals or drive to do anything in life but be a badass thug rapper. I'm finished surrounding myself with low life's, you are who you hang out with, and I want better for myself, I want success, money, to go to school, the whole 9 yards.

So especially for guys I've known since like middle school which is still a really long time, most of them just seem like low lives. Maybe it's my shit hometown, who knows.

>>16937493
This is one of those situations in which either choice - keeping up with old friends or moving beyond them - is perfectly normal and there is no right and wrong.

Most childhood friendships are friendships-of-proximity. That is, you play with the kids who live next door. That pattern continues through your teens - friends are people in your class or clubs or teams, and that external connection is the main thing holding together people who might otherwise have different personalities or tastes.

When that connection is broken - when you graduate or move away, say, - it is very common to discover that there isn't much else holding you together. Meanwhile you are likely to make new friendships-of-proximity at college or on a job.

Despite this, some people do keep up with old friends, and that's very nice. But it is no more "right" or "normal".

Anon the key is to just do things before others can do it for you. That independence will lead to a passion or hobby and then friends.

I can answer any questions more specifically if you want.

>>16937522
I thought about that, but I have no clue how to properly do any of those things. I'd need to ask my mother how to use the washing machine but she'll just tell me to leave it alone, she'll do it for me, etc.

Don't worry man I got you first off (I think you already know this) but you got a family that's got your back a family that'll go to hell and back for you and that's more then can be said for a lot of people in this world now keep that in mind I'll come back to it in a second

Secondly: if you want to start living you just gotta start living those things (let's call them chores for lack of a better word) you just gotta do them the Internet is your tool look up how to use the laundry machines find a recipe for a dish your sister likes and while she's gone make it for her so when she comes home you can eat it together its little things like that that'll show the people around you that you can take care of yourself not that you don't need your family (we all need someone who loves us) but that you don't need them to try so hard for you

Third: the best way for friends and such is to take your passion in life and go out find people who like that passion to and go do it with them trust me just go do things with people for example you play a guitar or the drums or the goddamn piccolo just find someone who does it to and play with them the rest will figure itself out but just remember your best friends are still your family and when see what your trying to do they help you and that is exactly what you want cause their already your friends if you need them to help you make friends then screw it teach me how to play piccolo and bring me along with you

Dude I hope I helped and good luck I don't know you at all but I believe in and kamina always said "don't believe in yourself believe in the me that believes in you"

How does he pay rent? How does he buy his weed? When money gets involved use that against him. And make sure he cleans and shit while you and his bro aren't there, he's deadweight

>>16937491
do
you even read
with your eyes

>>16937500
Different anon, but do you? Those questions aren't answered

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>>16937454

I have a similar problem too, but I'm a few years older than you and back in school for my master's

I guess as you grow older, it steadily gets harder and harder to make friends. I always found it easy to socialize and make friends online when playing the vidya, but I've quit it a few months back

DESU, if you didn't socialize much outside of work, then don't expect things to happen automatically unless you make some changes in your life routine. College isn't high school meaning it's not as natural to make friends

Sadly, once you graduate and go out into the real world, I get a lot of threads in my city's subreddit about lonely single men in their 30s. People always suggest meetups, but I found them to be lame and forced. It's just not natural to make new friends as you grow older. It's sad but what I've observed

>>16937454
Look around you. College isn't for 18 year olds anymore, and it is likely that 25-50% of the student body is your age or older. Start looking and you'll notice them everywhere. They're in the same boat as you and will be eager to connect with others.

Hint: most live off-campus or are part-times, so a good place to look is the snackbar or cafeteria around dinnertime, as they're between or before classes. Just get a cup of coffee and sit down near somebody your age and say hello.

>>16937482
Some real downbeat advice.

Wow dude you're a shit friend. Why the fuck would you do that :(

>>16937453
:( oh no

oh no

you think so too? holy fuck I screwed up how can I fix it :(

please help me I'm terrified

>>16937423
doesn't seem that terrible as far as disabilities go, honestly if it's just a relatively mild disfigured foot. but i understand, this is something for google search honestly though.

>>16937446
Tried that, surprised me how little info there is about how much chance there is of inheritance. There are just details about what it is and that or can be treated.

>>16937423
>there's no way I'd risk giving that to my kids
Is it really that terrible? Do you also check the medical history of all of your partners and their family? Would you stop dating a girl because she has several cases of diabetes, heart diseases and maybe cancer in her family?
Seems silly to base your personal relationship and happiness on "my kids that I may or may not have in the future will have an X percentage chance of developing Y disease".

Try a library

I use to do ritalin in college it really helped me.

Now i'm washed up, I work at a 7eleven and feel like a shadow of my true potential. I feel slow.

>>16937345
Music major here. Majoring in theory. Is this going to be me?

>>16938173

Yes. Music is a fucking useless degree.

If yo're good at music you don't need the degree. If you think you need a music degree you're obviously not good enough at music.

>>16937345
A music degree is useful if you want to learn how to do it better. Go for the experience and training, not the piece of paper.

>>16937339
Depends on how emotional and sentimental you are.
I was once told to be careful who I slept with, as I would always carry with me some connection to them. That's exactly how it's worked in my experience. I've only ever slept with 3 women, and I have some warmth in my heart for all of them, even though I truly despise one. I think of all of them every single day.

At the same time, getting some tail will give you the confidence you might need to get back in the dating game.

BE CAUTIOUS!!! Be so very very cautious!!! This is 99.9% a bad idea for you if you only have your ex-wife/1st-love as something to compare!!! Casual sex is a talent.... sex is easy, sure, but to keep out emotions!? That's a harder thing to do..... don't cuddle. NEVER CUDDLE!

>>16937355
>>16937362
Okay I was more asking about how the sex itself would go compared to sex in a long term relationship but I have another question.

I can keep my distance and not get to attached. I think she is aiming for friends with benefits being that she is already in a commited relationship. She has been telling me some personnel stuff via text though. Stuff about her family and things like that. She told me that we should meet up for "netflix and cuddles" sometime which is going against your whole never cuddle advice. Am I getting myself in to something here? I'm only looking for something casual.

>>16937319
I COULD DIE

>>16937319
That's some pretty autistic stuff. Just get comfortable around people. They tend to lie at times.

>>16937367
Cívic pride?

>>16937284
I think as an Asian male I rank pretty low on the attractiveness scale.

>>16937288
asian women love white dudes, white women love black dudes, its up to you to complete the cycle

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>>16937284
Physical:
>Ginger with a lot of freckles
>Fucked up posture (lordosis and slouched neck.)
>Moles on face

Mental:
>Say inappropriate and "esoteric" things
>Don't have my shit together (getting better though.)
>Clingy as fuck (improving.)

Feels bad man.

Live on the streets in berkely

how much money do you have? Crash on a friend's couch while you find a job and new place to live.

Go kill yourself.
I'd say get out of cali, but then I realized fucking everybody hates you faggots coming in and ruining their cities.
So kill yourself.

Almost nothing, but maybe a tiny help... in a big bowl of water, add I tiny bit of colouring at a time. The slower you add it, the more your mind can adjust..... Have something safe with you, whatever makes you feel safe.

Same with all fears, you get used to it one little bit at the time.

Hmm.. I might have this. I'm not scared of blood but I get a sick feeling and want to vomit when I imagine blood. Literally only when I imagine it - I can see it in real life, mine or others' blood, in video games, in drawings and I feel fine. But if I read a book that describes blood or think about it or hear a story about it I feel nauseous. Anyone else have the same?