Is there anyone here who feels they are overall consistently happy?
I feel like I experience happy moments during about 5% of my waking life... rest of it is anxiety, boredom, sadness, regret... etc. I feel like feelings of happiness exist but are crowded out by everything else. I can love my life for a moment then want to kill myself in the next one.
I just wanna know if its possible to feel more happiness or if its normal to feel this way...
>>16940411
A couple years ago I was trapped in a relationship and I felt just about the same. I wanted to end my life. I felt like nothing would ever get better.
Today I feel free. I feel happy. I'm not surrounded by millions of friends. I find happiness in seeing little bits of hope everyday. Find something you like everyday, and remind yourself that if you were dead, you could never see that thing.
The world is fucked up, and you may feel fucked up too. But just know you aren't alone. Stick around to find out what happens. If you end it, you'll never find out.
That's something you'll regret, anon.
I hope this helps you. Just know you aren't alone, and that one day you WILL find more happiness. That 5% will turn into a big percent.
Just wait.
>>16940451
Thanks... theres just so much shit to sort out and its rough.
Yes I feel happy most of the time but it's also overwhelming to be in a constant state of joy...I'm exhausted by laughing/smiling too much. No kidding.
I must admit, first semester was a breeze but now i'm running into some struggles
>community college
>a lot of good professors
>I apply for 5 classes
>finding it really hard to juggle my time
>I really struggle in math and I can't get the tutoring from my teacher that I need because during those times I have another class that day
>the other days are my long days so I don't have time also.
>find myself slipping
>My algebra teacher is awesome she educates the class on current events and ties in some personal stories
>I feel bad for sucking at this class.
>I keep telling myself I must try harder but I keep running into excuses as to why I'm not working as hard in this class
>for one thing its blended. So most of the work is done outside, including the lessons
I have a feeling i'm really not going to do well by the end of this semester...I had considered dropping the class earlier in the semester but I feel that is too late now. I don't want to give up but i'm losing my will to continue kind of.
Does anyone else find themselves in this kind of situation? I'm trying to make more of an effort here but I still struggle...should I drop the class before I fail the finals or continue moving forward?
>>16940400
I've been there, bud.
If it's too late, then you just gotta work the hardest you can. Take the grades like man, even if you're a lady.
I can't say much else, just try to take it one day at a time and do your best. The worst that could happen is you may have to retake a class.
Next time go for maybe 4 classes instead of 5, especially if you're in subjects that are super difficult.
what works for me is too use 2-3 different medias.
check out some new books at the library, use khan academy or youtube anything to get a second and third perspective on the material.
there is so much reference material, lectures, and books out there on any sort of topic it's not even funny.
also, be honest with yourself are you really studying?
>>16940440
>>16940443
thanks for providing me a little bit of closure anon. I know the most I can do is basically keep trying.
>Next time go for maybe 4 classes instead of 5, especially if you're in subjects that are super difficult.
i'm definitely considering this for next year since I don't have to worry about the scholarship that I was applying during first semester. The deal was if I get high grades in 5 classes then I would be awarded the scholarship.
Seeing that I now acquired that during first semester, I won't have to worry about this next year unless I choose to apply again.
In two months I'm moving to a new city with my job.
Aside from work I don't socialize. Zero friends and that's not an exaggeration.
Someone else's post got me thinking. You know, this is kind of an opportunity.
See I'm so shy and fucked up I can barely talk to people in public. Like even asking where something is in the grocery store I start to stutter. Can't make eye contact with waitresses. That kind of thing.
But if I was to force myself to start socializing. Just making small talk, have a casual conversation with a girl in a coffee shop and leave it at that. Don't bother getting her number or anything, just being able to fucking TALK. Same goes for other guys too.
If I freak out ti doesn't matter because in no time I'll be leaving with no reason to ever come back, so I won't ever see these people if I'm ashamed of myself.
So my question is do you have words of wisdom for just striking up conversations, get a little bit of acceptance and stop hating myself so much. I'm not expecting to go from hermit to player in eight weeks. I'm not expecting a new best friend or a one night stand... I just want to practice talking to humans like humans.
>Zero friends and that's not an exaggeration.
woooww really? no friends! must be hell being you
>I just want to practice talking to humans like humans.
honestly this is actually the best way to get laid, but I feel you dude.
getting out of your comfort zone is always a good idea to prompt change in yourself.
The best way to strike up a conversation with a random stranger is simply to comment on some sort of mutual experience, some sort of commonality. If you're waiting for the bus, you commiserate about waiting for the bus. If you're getting coffee you comment about needing some caffeine. If the store you're at has some awful muzak blaring in the background you ask the cashier how they can stand it. "How are you doing?" is the most basic of basics.
There's an art to it; you have to look at their body language and openness and can't just expect everyone to want to have a conversation with a stranger (and don't take a bad reaction personally).
also, try meetup.com
>>16940438
>meetup.com
Thanks
I want to text my ex SO badly. We broke up a little over 2 months ago. He went no-contact on me, never responded to any of my messages (left quite a few over the course of a month. Ugh.). A week ago he saw me out with a guy at a bar, and according to our mutual friend he was "bothered by it but knew it was to be expected." But then again he could have lied.
It would be too long to post the scenario
Has it been long enough? Should I wait another month? Any of you have stories of things working out after a break up? PLS
You should forget him and move on
In short, he broke up with out of anger. Wasn't the first time we did this, but since the previous times he would get back to me, I figured it would happen again... but I got a little desperado there with how many messages I sent.
>>16940370
I've been trying. I really have. Been hitting up old friends, current friends, trying to meet new friends. I've gone on a date, and then met another guy recently but they were both just looking for a fling/fuck or whatever because I found out one had a gf and the other was a traveler. The friends I have are all in a bad place in their life, or use me, or boring, or don't like the things I do and everything seems so bland and sad and pointless.
I'm 25 and never went to college but i want to get some sort of education. A four year school is out of the question because it's too expensive and time consuming so it will probably be community college for me.
note: this probably won't affect me in anyway other than me being able to say i graduated
What should i get? There's so much to choose from, AS AA AAS Certificates of Tech, Marketable Skills Achievement, it's so confusing. pls help.
Do NOT go to a for-profit college!
Check out your local community college. See what looks interesting for some basics. GL
AS or don't bother.
>>16940315
There's just so much to go for. There is one for Geology, I thought that would sound cool to have on my resume. The ones I'm looking at are public, they're much cheaper.
>>16940316
There are some that look like they lean more to industry. It seems they cut out a lot of the gen eds and replace them with other classes. I also thought of doing one with arts. Maybe I'll learn to draw or somefin..
What kind of programing/computer related job is easy enough to learn in a few months that will earn something better than shit wedge?
>>16940300
Use google you fag. If you get the proper certifications, you should be set to have a basic IT job.
>>16940300
The best you're hoping for is Web Developer or Tech Support.
You can't get any jobs with good salary on just a few months of learning, let alone experience.
>>16940325
I get it that it'll take a while to get really paid... but I'm curious what won't be a retarded path towards something decent. C+? C#? Java? I mean, learning any of these will likely lead to some kind of job... but what's best? I'm smart, but seeking advice here because you fags are god-tier computer fucks and would have a better perspective on the subject I feel.
so heres the story
Im in a mental hospital and meet a girl aged 33 im 21. I developed feelings for her and told her she rejected saying I should get those thoughts out of my head due to the age difference. Later she told me that if I were 25 she would go with me. We grew closer the last days and Im wondering what I can do to make her overlook the age difference and still make this happen. What do? Im leaving the hospital wednesday.
She gave you a LOGIC reason why she doesn't want you. That is rare for women to make up LOGIC excuse. And the fact you were in mental hospital doesn't help you one bit.
Move on.
>I want to be with an older woman I met in a mental hospital
Just dodge the bullet, man. She's giving you every opportunity to dodge the bullet, and you're just determined to make it hit you square in the chest
Leave her alone, for both of you
So you both have problems serious enough to end up on a mental ward, but you think you've found dating material?
Please consider what you've just said.
Ok guys this is the first time im posting here, but i really don't know what else to do.
Ive been struggling with depression on and off since 2012, the year i finished school. Shit got really bad for me since my school days weren't the most fun, i had problems with bullying, even the teachers tried to fuck me over whenever they could. Basically i left school feeling like a worthless piece of shit. Feeling is still quite present to day, but i have had better days. My girlfriend at that time built me up a lot for 2 years and i was deciding to volunteer for some paid internship in a school because i decided to try becoming a kindergarden teacher. i really enjoyed working with the kids. halfway through i broke up with her, which was really hard on me, still is. She was the first one i really loved, she just understood me and my pain since she was hospitalized for stuff like borderline in the past. i felt like the biggest asshat, she built me up and i threw her away. In october 2015 i started university, actually applied for something different, since i didn't get the course i wanted (bad grades due to not giving a fuck anymore in school for obvious reasons, not an excuse tho). I very quickly realized that i picked poorly and i stopped going to my classes. right now i applied for a school to become a kindergarden teacher like i originally planned. but right now im not really doing anything. i should mention that i moved out of town since this place only brings me pain. right now tho im back in town, since my parents left for an emergency in our family and im stuck here with our two dogs. right now im sinking deeper and deeper into the depression again. i never really hurt myself before, but yesterday i did . it felt right and real, but after i went to sleep i realized that this was probably the dumbest shit I've ever done to myself. i don't really want to do it again but i fear im caving in at some point again. Im not suicidal but im afraid. cont-
>>16940259
continue
i don't have many friends since i have massive trust issues, and i generally suppress my feelings. i really don't know what to do but i don't want to be hospitalized. im male btw if its important
>>16940259
Just reading this made me a bit sad. But nothing horrible is going for you atm.
>i really enjoyed working with the kids.
This is what you want to get going.
>i applied for a school to become a kindergarden teacher like i originally planned.
That is good.
>hurt myself before, but yesterday i did . it felt right and real
Yea, you do this because you mostly wanted to feel something. Just remember the dopamine rush via self-harm isn't worth in the long term. It will only make you more dull over time to the point only hurting yourself will make you feel anything.
>i have massive trust issues
>i generally suppress my feelings
That is a thing you need to work out. Have you told your parents? Try to open at least to them and cry a river if needed. Even pathetic crying is better than holding it inside.
>i don't want to be hospitalized
They won't until you try to suicide so don't worry about it.
Seriously if you are in this bad state since 2012 I am afraid none advice here can help you. Your parents are now best bet.
>>16940362
yeah i can't really talk to my parents, they never really understood this kind of shit. I've been trying to open up to them lately with some success, but usually my best bet is my roommate(who's also my male best friend) and my female best friend, which I've know for about 16 years now. both suffer from depression as well, so i can talk to them about that, but im fucking afraid to tell them about the self harm.
Hello everyone, I've come to this board looking for help... I have this crush on this girl at my high school and I was looking for advice to become friends with her in hopes of a dating relationship in the future. Please give me some tips and ask questions
>go up to girl when she is by herself
>ask her if she would like to go to the movies/dinner some time
>if she says no, move on
>>16940275
>to
Run I'm trying to get to that stage, but idk if she even thinks of me as her friend.
>>16940256
>>16940284
She doesn't have to think of you as a friend. That's not a requirement. You don't want to be her friend anyway. Skip that step.
Don't drag it out. If she rejects you, you've learned something for the next girl you crush on.
Wife was fooling around with two guys involved with the cartels in mexico while visiting family there and was killed by them when they found out that her uncle was involved with a rival cartel. In a way I'm glad she got what she deserved for cheating but than I feel bad for it happening. Is it ok to have hate?
I can't give you an answer from the perspective of morality, but from a practical standpoint, that hated likely doesn't do you any benefit. It's just a negative feeling you'll carry with you when you could be joyful about something else
karma does exist OP :) buy yourself a nice cold beer.
Hate is a natural emotion. It's nonsense to say we should always try to suppress it, or treat it like something alien.
In the last hours i've been going a lot to the bathroom. i pee a bit, not much, in fact, lesser quantities than normal, if not just a few drops, but i feel my pee in my penis the whole time and i need to constantly go back and forth there.
what is going on?
Does your back hurt? Any problems standing up? Probably a UTI, or kidney infection. Drink cranberry juice and high quantity of water.
Wait a ONE day. If it still prevails, seek medical attention aka urologist.
Ignoring the problem will most likely result in your penis falling off (probably an urinal infection). Also most of these problems can be solved by pills when treated with no delay.
>>16940183
I've always had back problems but never had any problem standing up. So nothing different in regards to that. The only real issue is my pee pee really.
How do I find a girlfriend?
>>16940125
Spoiler alert: not on 4chan.
>>16940125
A compass, a well-read cartographer, and a plucky sidekick.
Why?
Context:
>be late 20's
>currently work at an office job
>Attractive and nice Vietnamese lady in her 50s sat with me in our shared cubicles.
>She's married
>I help her out with some computer related stuff for work or fix her printer.
>develop an attachment for said lady
>recently moved cubicles multiple times.
>she sits with other people now; among them a similarly aged guy.
Recently:
>decided to go on Normiebook and and see what she's doing (>inb4 stalking)
>noticed she friended the similarly aged guy
>I feel sad and jealous for some reason.
Now my rant:
WHY THE FUCK AM I FEELING THIS WAY FOR SOME VIETNAMESE LADY? WHY AM I JEALOUS?! FOR GOD SAKE, WHY DO I GET ATTACHED TO PEOPLE SO EASILY?!
bump. I need advice on how to stop being a petty insecure jealous person.
Meet more people. You probably feel this way because you don't have many interpersonal relationships.
>>16941032
Thank you, friend.
Meeting people is hard, but ultimately a good cure for "oneitis."
Is it true that if you "respond too fast" that you will push her away?
Or is it true that if she likes you then it wont matter?
>texting girl
>she responds immediately
>she keeps doing it
>not sure if should do it back or wait a few minutes or more each time
>panicking intensifies
>>16940074
I usually text back immediately or risk forgetting about doing it, so it means nothing to me, but if someone is noticeably texting slower and slower each time I'll start taking more time to text because I don't want to be too foreword, I lost a relationship over the fact.
Don't overthink it, if you're on your phone I see nothing wrong with replying quickly,
>>16940074
If you overthink it , you are essentially playing a game/being a mental effer.
If you read a text, respond to it. It's pretty simple. Do as you normally would, it's inevitable.
I'm scared of numbers, like infinite. I have an obsession with counting the population. 107 billion people have walked the Earth according to the Population Reference Bureau. I think it boils down to knowing that the increase of population has no reason to stop ever, unless some outside force stops it.
Autism.
>I'm scared of numbers, like infinite.
That isn't a problem?
Try to ask a question.
Become a mathematician and over come your fear