I need some help. Long story short, I'm in high school, never had a girlfriend and I really feel alienated from my peers and want companionship. It's nothing to do with my looks, I have girls tell me I'm hot quite frequently actually and many ask me out- only problem is that I have extreme crippling anxiety. I'm to the point where I feel like it's eating me up inside. I will not under any circumstances take anxiety medications for a multitude of reasons (which I don't care to discus). The closest thing I've ever had to a girlfriend was a girl who didn't even like me, but whom I was deeply in love with and I pushed her so hard to be in a relationship I ended up scaring her off because of how nervous I acted when I talked to her. If anyone could give me any advice that's really be great. Especially advice pertaining to managing extreme surges of anxiety when taking to a girl. In b4 "pussy man up!1!1" keep in mind that the most I can do is manage my anxiety it's not my choice whether or not I'm this way. Thanks in advance
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>>16939773
Get diagnosed for crippling anxiety and take your meds. That's what they were made for. If you aren't actually suffering from anxiety stop browsing the internet.
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If your anxiety is holding you back this much my suggestion would be to get professional counselling to deal with it. Once your anxiety in under control everything else will fall into place.
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>>16939797
I said already I'm not taking any medications. I want people with anxiety to discuss coping methods with me.
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Does aggresive music ruin psyche? 2016-03-20 23:25:09 Post No.16939766
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Does aggresive music ruin psyche?
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Had a strange taste on music for a year. Constantly listened to bands with distortion vocals, abusive lyrics and suicide or hopelessness as a main theme.
Did it reflect my mental state at the time? Should I stop listening to it, if I feel it makes me even more indifferent to life?
This doesn't seem to fit in /mu/, sorry
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Doesn't do that shit to me, and I listen to death metal all the time.
Mostly melodeath, though.
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I've been listening to that kind of stuff for years, through all the highs and lows. It probably doesn't mean anything.
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>>16939766
Music definitely affects your mood and psyche. That doesn't mean listening to a metal song will turn you into a Satan worshipping murderer but there is an effect just be mindful of that fact and don't let yourself forget it's just music have fun you'll be fine
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I'm going to greentext the background info to make it easier
>recently meet girl
>me boring guy not much sexual experience
>her now sober reformed alcoholic slut
>me ok with this
>her wanting to get into bondage and wants me into it too
>not sure where to start or how to be this guy
tl;dr how to I turn myself into someone that is good at bondage and bdsm?
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>>16939756
Well, you missed to most important part:
Who is she? Sub or Dom? Because if she is dom, all you need to know is safe word. Like when it all goes in bad way you yell it to make it all stop, unless you are gagged :-D
If she is sub, then I don't see how it can work without you first developing some mentality first.
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>>16939768
she is sub and says she is newish to this and never trusted anyone enough to be open to this life style. I am having hard time being the dom, more or less controlling her to my will is outside my comfort zone at the moment
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bump?
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Prom - anything wrong or should do 2016-03-20 23:14:29 Post No.16939745
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>be me
>former cuck
>now everything is great
>except grills
>kinda like top tier qt traditional chorus girl
>want to go to prom
>a bunch of low energy cucks have asked her but she gave "maybe" and has given no definite answer in two weeks
>ask her sister who is sort of neutral about me for help
>she warns but says yes
>go out with one girl friend of mine to get a bunch of shit
>make a puny poster on music and got a bunch of candles to spell prom on the driveway
But
>her sister warns me that she might be surprised
>we don't had a class together but I've talked to her at a few parties and dances and things have gone well
I can handle a no, but I'm not planning on her saying it , I am going to be like the one kid from dead poets society .
Is there anything I should be worried about ?
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No problems ? Or no one cares ?
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just ask her out fag
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>>16939798
That's what I'm gonna do faggot .
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is it possible that the cause of suicide is some other illness than depression?
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>>16939699
Uh... yes?
Any psychological sickness that will delude the victim into thinking he's doing something else or otherwise the right thing while in reality committing suicide?
Also peer pressure.
There's tons. Use your brain.
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>>16939731
after my suicide attempt i lived in mental hospital for 4 months and was diagnosed with MDD, but to me it seems i have some other mental illness
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>>16939699
Yes, the illness of being human.
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How do I netflix and chill?
There's a girl I like, and we haven't seen each other for a while. We never got to hang out alone, but I know there's a mutual attraction.
Would it be cool to invite her for netflix and chill? Or should we go on a real date first?
And if we do chill, how long do I wait into the movie to pull some moves?
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This man needs some advice
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>>16939706
he needs some game too
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>>16939711
Well yeah, I'm a virgin so I need some kind of starting point right?
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Pic unrelated. I'm in a really self-destructive mood and I don't know what to do. None of my friends are available for a chat and I don't want to worry my parents. I guess my question here is: can I get some validation and possibly some mindfulness tips? Thanks.
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>>16939665
go to /soc/ and post nudes. get your cheap validation there.
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>>16939665
Get a job underage scum.
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I guess this board has really had its best time
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im semi facebook illiterate and have a friend who constantly goes offline after not talking for a few minutes but the second I say anything to him he comes back online to respond.
is he manually making it appear like hes offline for me only every time he appears offline or is something else going on?
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If he's on desktop then he just has Facebook system alarms so he sees when you send a message and closes the tab when you don't talk.
If he's on mobile he's obviously just turning off his screen if nobody is talking
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>>16939652
No, he's probably using the messenger app on his phone like most people do. You don't just sit there logged on, new messages pop up like text messages, and you answer them as they arrive
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theres also times where he will remain offline while responding. does that change anything that you guys have said? appreciate the replies so far
Is computer science a meme degree?
Will I be replaced by Pajeets in the next decade?
What should i study instead? Any good software or tech/math or even science degree that will not implode in my lifetime?
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where are you taking cs classes that are just coding like yeah coding is stupid and easy it gets more complicated when it comes to algorithm and chip design quantum algorithms etc sounds like youre just dumb or not good at math
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>>16939636
not really. everything is up for grabs at this point bby.
even engineering is tied to projects which have small lifetimes after which you'll be forced to compete with the younger crowds once you're kicked out. the dirty little secret there being that being older does hurt your employment chances in engineering.
as for computer science, if you don't already have a background with computers(more than just knowing how to torrent btw) it will probably be a waste and you'll be lost the entire time. better to learn on your own before jumping into that else you'll just be missing out on valuable concepts while you learn how to even program.
serioulsy though most of STEM is a meme in regards to jobs but a bachelors is never a bad idea. just don't expect solid job prospects out of anything these days.
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You should expect global competition in the future in every industry, no more hiding in inefficient economies. If you're world class you can stay at the top.
Indian's do have their own software to program though. They have their own companies that will need their own enterprise software, apps, websites, embedded systems etc.
Companies have enough work, they have backlogs of work to do stretching back years. If that somehow got done there would be more projects thrown out. The systems designed in a way that pushes for constant progress.
Don't go for a paper pushing career that should be automated. Or a type of scientific field that can be done better by a different field. Apart from that do whatever.
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Sleep deprivation or something else? 2016-03-20 22:41:38 Post No.16939634
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So, monday to friday this week, I was doing 12 hour shits, and got only about 3 to 4 hours of sleep each day.
Yesterday, when i woke up after about 15 hours of sleep, I felt like shit, had dizzyness, felt really cold and my back was in pain. I also had difficulty focusing, and my moves were slow. I couldn't stay awake for more than 5 hours.
I'm still experiencing the same symptoms right now, but to a slightly lesser extent.
Anyone know wtf is wrong with me?
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If you're doing twelve hour shits, you should probably get that checked.
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That sounds like you aren't taking proper care with your body. I know it sounds like a joke, but it can be valid.
When you are 18 years old you can take it all.
When you get older and don't start a 'healthy' life style, you can get in bad shape. Try to think about it.
If your symptoms will prevail after 7 days, seek medical attention. Hell you can have a simple cold .-)
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>over working yourself
>over sleeping for 2/3 of a day
>no water
>no food
Gee I wonder why you felt like shit when you woke up.
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What's wrong with my tongue?
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Don't ever pretend to be the god that is Sky Ferreira, piece of shit.
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Have you tried to... you know... keep it inside your mouth?
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>>16939624
Nothing, but your right eye is fucked up.
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Hello, /adv/. So here's the problem...
Long story short, met a cute traveling aussie over the weekend who's last night here is tonight. We all hung out already this whole weekend almost, but for reasons I am unsure if I should message him and say "hey want to go out for drinks tonight before you leave" although I want to because I can't tell if he's just generally uninterested now, OR if it's because I came off as uninterested and standoffish (which i tend to do when i get nervous around someone)... he might think I was disappointed in how he lasted less than 30 seconds from me just sucking his dick, that I didn't finish, that his friends were comparing their own big dick sizes earlier but he was hesitant to mention his and as it turned out it was small BUT I DON'T CARE. I seemed like I did because I fuckin asked how big everyones was but I don't fucking know why because dick size/sex/etc doesn't matter to me at all, when I like someone they can have a mangled dick idc.
I know it's pointless to worry because I'll probably never see him again and him and his friends are all trying to party/travel/fuck around the world but he was really cool and I really mostly just want to ask him about tonight so that he thinks "oh ok she wasn't upset/turned off from me it turns out, cool"... I'm just embarrassed to text because my friend and i hung out with them a LOT and we definitely seemed to overstay our welcome, but they seemed more annoyed by my friend than me...
TL;DR want to invite guy out for the sake of him realizing i wasn't standoffish because i was not interested or something, but maybe he doesn't give a shit and at this point it will just be needy as they're all leaving tomorrow anyway
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you're a woman, he'll be over as soon as you give the green light.
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>>16939626
>you're a woman
see, anon, this is where a big problem is. Long story short, I promise there's a huge misconception with the whole mindset of that.
Girls can be seen as needy/desperate/annoying even if they are beautiful. That's what happened with my friend she was down to fuck one of the guys and they did but she wanted again the next night he was like ehh... then this morning the guys were making fun of her in the other room saying she was looking at him like a schoolgirl or puppydog or something and i said she wants another round before she leaves and they laughed :/ she was being generally obnoxious though, but i was being standoffish/quiet due to nerves myself and they might have thought oh what a weirdo.
tl;dr being a woman doesn't mean guys wont be turned off or annoyed
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>>16939710
bby plz, we all know he'll come running over. just put on that pouty face daddy taught you and you'll have what you want :^)
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So I went on 2 dates with this chick, and while I was a bit awkward (And wimped out of a kiss at the second one), we both seemed to genuinely enjoy it. She's way out of my league but she has (had) been expressing interest in keeping on meeting up and stuff.
Thing is, she is always busy and our plans often get cancelled. She has gotten to the point now where she doesn't respond and hasn't texted me in days. How do I text her out of the blue to tell her that I don't want to waste my time, or if there are feelings, that I cant get hints and that shes socially inept (hear shes boring, but seems really fun with her friends). It really fucked me up senpaitachi, but I still want to leave it amicably and go back to orbiting some other qt :^)
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>hasn't been texting me back
idk is she busy if yes the shes busy otherwise take the fucking hint
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>>16939622
She is busy often, but I cant see why someone cant respond with an "I'm busy atm".
takes like 5 seconds. If not, and I take the hint, why is it that when we do talk, shes always wanting to spend time and shit?
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>>16939640
how old are you do you guys have jobs is she playing games because people under 25 are annoying with that shit
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Everytime my gf gets mad or feels shitty she takes it out on me and says some really mean stuff like how boring I am or how I should grow some balls or how pathetic I am. I used to defend myself and she would get madder. Now I understand that she is trying to tell me she is not happy with our relationship so I try to ask whats wrong and see if we can discuss it. Its just so weird how one day she tells me that she can't live without me and that she loves me so much and the next she says all these hurtful stuff. All I want to ask is your opinion on whether or not this behaviour is normal. I love her loads but this is draining me of my energy and happiness. Everytime I try to discuss it with her it ends in an argument and im tired of it.
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she's a woman. of course it's normal. she's probably even pms'ing. maintain logs on it and you'll probably catch a pattern that coincides with her vagina bleeding.
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>>16939611
im afraid it will not last. sooner or later you will hate her for that. abandon ship
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It not normal. Sure, people get in moods and angry, but that doesn't give them the right to be cunts to others for no reason. Bottom line is she is immature and unwilling to communicate what's wrong.
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So I'm with a girl right now who is married on paper but they are seperated. Shes in a fight with CPS also. That case is the reason they are still married. Recently her husband found out about is and is throwing a fit and doing all this shit to make her life hell. All my friends whom I love to death and trust tell me I need to just break it off. So I guess I'm just asking for your advice on the subject. Please be kind... What do you all think? I'll give more info if asked. Thank you.
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You should stick around man, do you want her image of men to be ruined? Her husband won't do anything. If she's a good person you'll see it :)
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>cucking yourself by dating a single mother
Not even once.
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>>16939566
If you think this could be the one, stay.
If not, go.
Love is worth fighting for. And he needs to get that they're separated.