How do I be a guy people wanna date?
You need to have your life together. What exactly this means varies somewhat according to culture and developmental phase. It doesn't have to be perfect, but it to be clear that you aren't neglecting it, AND it has to be clear that you aren't expecting a potential partner to do it for you or to "make it possible".
You don't have to be a normie, but you DO need to be able to relate to normies. Know enough about them to understand them. Learn enough to help those around you understand you. This is enough, but you DO need this much.
You need a diverse base of interests. In this context, interests a set of interests is "diverse" if even a total outsider to both interests could not possibly mistake all of them for being the same thing. For example, anime, manga, and Western animation is not a diverse set of interests. But if you add, say, automotive maintenance, wilderness hiking, and playing the harmonica to that mix, then you've got a diverse set. Ideally, you want a list diverse enough that even if someone consolidated all the entries that possibly could be, you'd still have at least four.
There are two reasons gor the diverse set of interests. One is that it makes you interesting: our combinations of interests draw more intrigue than any one interest could. The other is a matter of avoiding red flags: obsession of any sort is creepy. Transference is a thing, and women worry that you may wind up becoming obsessed with them.
>>16984760
Be a guy people wanna have as a friend.
One of the many, many ways women differ from men is that physical appearance means FAR less to them, and nice-guy-ness means a lot more.
>>16984825
Even if it's April fools day you shouldn't be giving bad advice.
If a girl your dating tells you that she has a major crush on blank actor or blank artist? How do you respond?
>>16984665
You don't give a fuck. Its not cheating
>>16984665
She sounds obsessive. If it's an obsession level kind of deal, that's a definite red flag.
As for a response just say 'ok' and move the conversation forward.
>>16984670
Do you ignore it or just start a new topic?
UK fag here, just got a letter saying I've been caught by a speed camera doing 44mph in a 30 zone. This is my first year of driving. I know, I'm an idiot and I'll never speed again, I'm fucked if I lose my license, how screwed am I? Is there anything I can do?
Pay the fine and don't do it again.
>>16984611
They aren't gonna take your license for that.
>>16984611
>>16984669
This, also just take your fucking time when you're driving, no one cares if you're doing 80-100 on the dual carriageway but speeding in a 30 zone is more likely to fuck someone up, generally you.
I took my roommate to the airport 3 hours away and picked him up because it was on the way to my final destination. The only issue is that to make his flight, we needed to leave at 3:30 am when I was planning to leave at 10 or 11 in the morning instead. Even with requiring me to change my plans, he feels that he does not have to pay me for gas money since I was heading that way anyways. This has caused a divide and some tension in our apartment and our friends since some are siding with him and others are siding with me. I'm just wondering what /adv/ thinks is standard etiquette for this situation.
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From the way you wrote it, everything's already said and done right?
If you wanted him to pay, you should have made it clear. If you knew ahead of time you'd have to leave earlier, that would be the time to discuss money. Not after you've already driven him. Beforehand he could have decided whether or not he accepted, and would be able to look for another ride if he had to.
>>16984620
In retrospect I should have however I have never had this problem before as my other roommate has traveled with me to the destination I was going to before and when I had to stop for gas, offered to pay for a tank of gas without me asking. It just seems like a tacky thing to ask for. And everyone else I've carpooled with on long drives has contributed in their own way either by paying for my lunch, buying me a drink, etc. The point is I didn't think I'd need to ask for gas money since I thought it was a standard for longer trips.
>>16984593
Took him to the airport... 3hrs away...
Doesn't matter if you were heading that way, it was an incredibly nice thing to do for a friend. If anything he should feel uncomfortable for not paying for gas- let alone your time!
Doesn't sound like a friend I'd want around me, considering he is a roomie what I'd do is drop the whole thing after reconciling with a polite convo (saying you'll agree to diasgree and that if a resolution is met there will be NO further conversations regarding it, between you two OR between any of your friends) and then go your seperate ways when the lease is up.
With the way he's acted in this situation I can basically guarantee there will be another problem or this will be brought up again.
Doesn't cost a penny to be nice or political in these sort of situations.
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So today i almost bit into a glass cup when i was drinking it. i felt like i was going to lose control of my bite function. I am frightened about this problem and i wondering what kind of treatment there is for it. The other day i also almost picked up a rock while forgetting that it could break my teeth but i didn't lose control and put the rock in my mouth and chew it. I didn't chew the rock. I put it back down. So what in the holy fuck is wrong with me? What kind of medicine can they give me so I never lose control? I should get a brain scan right? Go to the neurologist?
im relaxing now guys but its been pretty hard on me lately.
I take Lorazepam, Ropinirole, Ziprasidone, and Benztropine.
I almost want to go to church this shit if fucking me so hard. Also, when i took a hot bath, when my whole body was in it and i go to rub my neck because it is soothing, I nearly choked myself. i woke up a few time in my last sleep to my body jerking and waking me up. that i think was because of the benztropine which i need to keep taking for tremors.
How can I stop being a shitty friend?
There's this girl that I would really love to be good friends with. And i feel that since I act so sarcastic and jokey around her, i think it's starting to come off as mean or unsupportive. The sass is slowly becoming more destructive rather than a means of humor.
How can I show that I am appreciative of our friendship and be more genuine, rather than the sarcastic guy that I am. What would be a good way to show that I am supporting her without being like, "let's be bf and gf"
Do I apologize? Do I buy her a coffee? What do I do guys, because I don't want to lose this friendship over something dumb that I didn't even mean to say.
>>16984442
99% of the time when a chick tells you her problems she doesn't want a cute response, she doesn't want advice, she doesn't want help, she just wants you to shut up and listen.
>>16984471
How do I respond then when she talks about her problems?
Do I try and continue the conversation?
>>16984511
Occasionally interject that you are sympathetic. "Wow...that's rough" or "Has that been going on for a while?"
I gave her a small gift and she was way too happy about it
Why?
She wasn't. Women learn how to deceive people very well, so I'm sure she seemed happy. In reality I'm sure she gave zero fucks.
>>16984450
You must be a joy at parties
Is "small gift" code for penis?
The only reason I haven't killed myself is fear of what comes after.
Logically, it's nothing. I revert to how I was before I was born. Just nothingness. That scares me out.
I just want there to be something better for me. Just let me put a bullet in my skull and then live in paradise/heaven/whatever.
I was raised Catholic, but now I'm agnostic, if Jesus appeared before me and is like "hey bro I'm real", I'll believe.
I'm just so lonley. I am not good company to myself.
I got out of a two year relationship with the only person I could ever love in December, and I don't know what's going on anymore, I'm fucking floored.
I don't know why I'm posting here. Ignore this I guess.
Plus side, if I do decide to off myself, I'll post a stream on /b/ so op might deliver. Not yet. I need to be sure that whatever comes next is better than now.
So uh, existential general?
You were nothing before, why does nothing after scare you?
I'd be a lot more worried about hell being real than nothingness.
it's not been too long since you broke up. those things take time anon. you'll be good.
as for your question: everybody has his own version of "afterlife". nobody went there and consciously came back again, so there's no answer to this. you can dream up whatever gives you the most security and it will be as realistic, valid and possible as every major religion or spiritual theory.
>>16984216
Oh definitely that scares me. I've just had a lot of mental issues with my perspective of consciousness fucking with me. The thought of losing it completely is terrifying, but traditional thoughts of hell are incredibly terrifying.
Lmao, this all boils down to "I want to die but I'm a pussy"
>Be me
>22 y/o
>Decent looking
>Decent amount of friends
>Virgin
>Could easily get sex if I wanted it, which I do
>Too afraid too because I'll probably finish in less than a minute
Wat do?
Just do it faggot. Everyone sucks at first.
I lasted like 7 seconds my first time, get over yourself you fucking pussy, just fuck someone
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one of her celebrity "crushes" got a gf and shes crying about it and im telling her to grow up, and shes like "you aren't being supportive". like what the fuck am i supposed to do? support you to like someone else? now shes went busy on skype and isn't responding to me, the hell do i do
>>16984076
You have to be 18 to use this website.
seriously: how old is she? if she's over 16, you dumb that bimbo NOW
>>16984081
I'm 19 and shes 18, but she acts 12 over shit like this
>>16984084
shes 18
desu, shes fits some of the bimbo definition. shes only stupid and illogical over stuff like this
My uncle (mum's younger brother) is rich. Net worth over £10M tbqh.
I have a relatively close relationship with him and I've gotten great presents from time to time. He's my godfather too, and a lifelong bachelor (47 this year) with no kids or other family.
How do I ensure I inherit his money?
Well if he doesnt have kids I bet he's gonna give you at least some of it
>>16984068
I'd say kill yourself, that should give you a pretty good impression what you deserve.
>>16984068
give him a handy every now and then
How did you make the choice between living in the city vs the suburbs?
I'm very interested in hearing your decision and reasoning.
if you work in the city, live in the city
if you work in the suburbs, live in the suburbs
#environmentally friendly
>>16983942
ideally this. I ended up living in a small town though, because the mortgage prices were way cheaper and because I grew up in mostly rural areas and can't stand living in larger towns. too noisy, too zoo-like. I ended up having about a 20-minute commute but made up for it as much as I could by getting the most fuel-efficient car I could afford and combining trips as much as possible.
also dammit OP it's 3.30 in the morning and I need to go to bed but your pic makes me want to play simcity so bad
okay, so im in a kinda multilayered situation here.
i have this female friend, which ive known for 21 years now (im 26). We have some sexual past, as in some making out stuff when we were younger, but i was always too afraid to lose her as a friend to make a move for something more. currently she is one of my two true friends (and always has been). also we live literally five minutes away from each other.
She is married (two years now) im getting married in 5 months. We finally started fucking around two weeks ago, which obviously opened the honesty dam, fuck it blew the dam like a motherfucker. turns out she was feeling exact same way about me, for the last fucking 15 years.
Also she is suicidal, feels trapped in her marriage, and in her life in general. i am the kind of person who feels like suicide is a persons choice and ive even advised some people (my father for one). she does not believe anything can make her life better. I think i know her pretty well and i dont think she is attention whoring, im afraid she is really going to do that, and on the other hand i feel like i cant honestly tell her "dont do it" because thats not what i stand for.
Now, ive been feeling kinda same way about my life and my relationship ( 9 years and going ) see im not the best person, ive always been fucking around , cheating and shit like that. but other than that, ive always been good to my fiancee. however i sometimes feel like i just settled for her, just to get married. and now i cant get out. if i leave her now, she would be devastated if not literally dead - she depends on me in every aspect, financially too. currently lost her job, and also her sister is living with us in an apartment with a mortgage on both of us (which im obviously paying).
pic unrelated but its my dog.
so now for the advice request:
1. do i tell someone about the friend suicide toughts, plans (like her husband ? sisters, parents?
2. do i stay in my relationship? should i get married if im not 100% sure isnt it too late to backdown ?
3. do i try to make a relationship with the friend ?
>>16983894
>1. do i tell someone about the friend suicide toughts, plans (like her husband ? sisters, parents?
If you do, be prepared to lose your friend. She's only telling you because she trusts you.
>2. do i stay in my relationship? should i get married if im not 100% sure isnt it too late to backdown ?
You have no business being in a relationship just for the sake of having one. You think you're good to your fiancee, but really, you're just wasting her time because you don't want to be alone. That's incredibly selfish and deceitful. Don't tie yourself down to someone you don't really love, because you will eventually crack, and THAT will devastate her. Don't let her waste her best years on you. As for her housing situation, you can either choose to support them until they're able to get their own place, or you can try to help them get assistance so that they'll be out ASAP.
>3. do i try to make a relationship with the friend ?
That's up to you. But don't continue any further until you break free from your current relationship. It's not only disrespectful to your current partner, but to your friend. And if you're single, she may be more willing to go to you. Right now, since you're in a relationship, she won't feel secure.
>>16983912
1. yeah, i know, thats why im asking. shit, i dont know if i want to be loyal to the friend and to myself of if i want her to be NOT dead. but fuck me if i know.
2. but what if i love her ? at least i think i do. sometimes i really want family, kids and stuff. and sometimes i want to fuck around.
also how can i end such a relationship, how can i suddenly tell her, 5 months before wedding that i actually cant do it ?
and she wont accept any help from me. i know her well, she is much too proud for that.
man maybe i fake sickness or some shit, like "i have cancer i dont want you to live through i had to live through with my mother" . or maybe i run away, like a lil bitch. but i cant just leave her with an unpaid mortgage. do i sell my other house and pay the mortgage and the bolt?
am i fucked up for thinking that?
3. yeah, she is more than willing to try the relationship we talked about it. but yeah, i meant that IF we both get out of our quasi-failed relationships do we try something or are just to broken for being with someone.
thats actually one of the reasons for my current relationship. fiancee is willing to overlook many of my "cracks"
and thanks for answering , i appreciate it.
Found a certain piece of tech listed at a literally insane price. I would normally ignore this too-good -to-be-true type situation, even on amazon, but since I don't think I'll ever in my life be able to afford this product I am very tempted to try it. I assume worst case scenario I get scammed and I get a refund, right? Is it worth any potential risk? Or am I a complete retard for even THINKING this could work?
>>16983819
Amazon is pretty good about that stuff. I'd say go for it. I've had nothing but AMAZING experiences with their support.
>>16983821
Yeah same for me that's why I'm so tempted. I've bought misadvertised products before and I ended up getting a refund and getting to keep the product.
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gf wants a break from our 8 month relationship, considering just ending it. I dont believe in breaks but im curious if anyone on here had a break work for them.
>>16983809
Breaks are just the cowards way of breaking up. That's a shitty thing of her to do. Dump her.
It IS possible that she's just incapable of breaking up with someone and will lose interest, but there's value in taking time to yourself in the relationship. Depends on her maturity level and how the relationship looked.
>>16983809
I had a break from a past gf once, it was her idea.
We carried on dating and fucking, so honestly I didn't even notice we were on break.
Then about 6 months down the line she got all pissy with me because "I hadn't asked her back out from our break."