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Just do it you pussy.

Smoked 2 packs a day for 11 years, have been completely clean now for 5 months.

>>17173359
How long did you feel like shit

>>17173384
Almost a month, but again, you're barely a smoker anyway.

You either love someone or you don't, and when you realize you do, then it will probably just come out of your mouth whether you want it to or not.

>>17173332
What are the risks though? I'm scared about coming out with my feelings and scaring her off. How soon is too soon? What are the signs that she's ok with me saying it?

That's called the "honeymoon phase" and sadly doesn't last.

That said, if the relation is as good as you describe and it's been 3 monthes, I doubt she'd be freaked out by the love thing, as long as you don't add dumb things like "asking to move together" or "marry me" the minute after.

Anyway cocaine actually fucking sucks anyway but something about the rush of snorting it and the ego boost just makes it very addicting. I stopped using it for, now that I think about it, only about 3 months but it seems a lot longer.

Still I continued to smoke pot all the time and if I remember correctly I managed to cop a script of valium right about the time I stopped but I ate those like candy. But hey, I stopped doing coke!

Eventually I got cut off from that script cause shitty docs doing their jobs and whatnot, and at that point I figured, what the hell, I'll stop smoking weed as well. Sober life ftw or something.

I slipped up on the whole weed thing a few times but I cut back a ton and was saving a lot more money anyway so I wasn't too upset with myself.

I kept telling myself, as long as I keep my nose clean, I'm doing a fine enough job.

I actually managed to stay completely sober beside a few beers one or 2 nights for the past month.

I just couldn't take it though. I stopped hanging out with all my (very few) friends in order to avoid any exposure to temptation. I even started meditating, not quite successfully as I never managed past a 30 minute session and most were 10-15 minutes. At least I was doing that daily for a few weeks, but now that I think about it I gradually started doing it less and I haven't mediated in almost a week I think.

My problem is that smoking weed had become my main hobby for the last few years, to the point I was literally just an unproductive worthless stoner. I have no other interests beside doing drugs. I need something desperately to fill the abundance of free time I've got. I need something to avoid the dreadful memories that plague my mind. I need something to kill this overactive brain. I now realize drugs are only a temporary fix, because once dependency kicks in it gets way too damn expensive to maintain a habit and withdrawal only makes it all worse.

The problem is even knowing doing drugs are extremely counter productive to a healthy mind, I can't find anything else to fill the void in my life, or I'm too anxious and self conscious to do the things I know I need to do to to make a better life for myself.

I'm trying to quit playing video games because they usually only frustrate me. Imo video game addiction can be more detrimental to ones health-body and mind- as drug addiction depending on the degree of each.

I started walking/jogging at least a mile every day. Just to get out of the house at least.

I started casually lifting weighs but I'm too self conscious to actually go to a gym so I can't follow a real program I just kind of improvise off one I found with the barbell set I've got.

I want to go back to school to a community college in the fall but I'm afraid to even meet with a counselor to find out what classes to take.

I've been eating healthier, but I've noticed cutting sugar out of my diet is harder than quitting any drug I've ever done and it depresses me when I realize the extent of this nation's addiction to unhealthy food and entertainment. It really makes me wonder if the evil that controls this world can really be overcome. They really got us by the balls. I'm too empathetic too I suppose, that 'kids are starving in Africa' shilling really got to me. I have a really hard time enjoying my life with suffering clearly apparent all around me.

Only way i know how to stay off drugs is being stingy with my money. If i don't buy drugs, i can't do drugs.

I also in the nicest way possible want to make it clear to her mother that she really needs to prioritize time with her child over her job. The father is overseas and the child is lonely. Fucking sad to see her cry and scream at me because she doesn't want time with me, but her mother.

>>17173234
>I the kid
So is it you or the kid that's getting too attached? Tell me the truth, are you a pedo?

>>17173236
meant to say 'I think the kid'. she's a sweet girl but have started to dread classes because she's got a wall up. She loves crafts but refuses to have conversation or do worksheets and they're kind of required for her to learn english.

You get trolled to easily. Stop browsing /pol/.

first, stop going to /pol/

second, try to read a mainstream newspaper like the new york times or washington post every day if you can (just browse the headlines if you don't have time) so you can keep up to date on world affairs.

third you need to understand that conspiracy theories are not real, the world is not controlled by a shadow government or DA JUZE or anything like that. There are elites with a lot of money and therefore influence which they use to acquire more wealth and influence because that's human nature.

>>17173239
>try to read a mainstream newspaper
Just go to /news/, you don't have to read the comments but it's probably less biased.

Also, you don't know if there's a shadow government, anon, that's the point of a shadow government; you don't need to be completely absorbed in theories but keep an open mind.

>>17173209
have you self diagnosed these conditions or has a trained mental health professional done so?

Because if its the former I think you should find a psychologist and discuss your concerns with him before jumping to conclusions. Both of those conditions are curable by the way, but it will take a great deal of effort on your part.

A number of years ago I was diagnosed with severe depression and was able to cure it through a combination of cognitive behavioral therapy and medication. It was very hard and I probably would not have been able to do it if I hadn't had my family forcing me to continue.

>>17174502
you got your answer, fuck off

>>17174517
I want more opinions.

Being bisexual is a meme for girls. No one will take your sexuality seriously because it's been abused too often

>>17173181
>only a few friends and my boyfriend know
>as well as the previous hook-ups

You already came out you doofus. Shit like your sexuality shouldn't entail your identity. It isn't something that needs to be advertised on fb and instagram.

It is peronal, intimate, uncomfortable and bland. If the people you care about know than thats enough.

>>17173194
Exactly. Which is why I also feel like it'd be impossible to even date and love a woman even though I am attracted to them.

>>17173201
The biggest issue I face is that a lot of people assume I am anti-gay rights. Generally acquaintances or friends that do not know my sexuality. Usually it is because I get physically uncomfortable/awkward when people talk about LGBT stuff. And I don't know why I come off this way, but I have very often been accused by my liberal nazi tumblrina acquaintances because I am not shouting from the rooftops that I think women are hot. And it puts me in the uncomfortable situation of wondering if I need to be more public about it.

It's hard for me to even talk to pretty girls. I can't give a girl a compliment without wondering to myself if I meant it sexually or wondering if she thinks I am a strange pervert. Which is hard as a female because females are so physically intimate with each other, even as friends. And I act so fucking rigid and prude because I am afraid it will expose me.

yeah just cancel no point in putting ur self thru misery mate.

unless u really want that closure.

>>17173174
I do, but I'd much rather her not bringing someone with. I think this all fell apart roughly around the time I met the person she's taking. I know this is easily the worst fucking thing I could do to myself but shit man I actually did really enjoy talking to her even when it fell apart, like she was genuinely cool at a time where I've lost so many friends

>>17173114

Take your resume, and in your retail expereince, add anything you've done in which you can apply to admin assisting/office.

Then just apply to them, call em up, and lie a little (believable lie that you can back up) and keep doing it until you get an interview.

can you temp?

>>17173197
I'm literally willing to do anything so I have a better looking resume. My ultimate goal is to get a CalState job.

She cares about you, it seems. Do you care about her?
Also, you lucky bastard, she actually cares about you.

I don't see a problem u find her attractive and she has a good personality.

r u interested in more attractive women? Is that it?

Not op but I saw a Mormon choir over Christmas and was inspired by it.

Ok firstly one of my good friends is a mormon, they accept me into their house and really don't care at all what religion I am so long as I'm nice to them. I'd say just moving to utah is good enough to get a mormon qt I'm sure construction is good there as it is a growing tourist state.

>>17173110
OP here.
I thought Mormons made you convert?
I'd be open to the idea, the only reason I'm agnostic is because I believe in a higher power, but I don't agree with any of the religions I know enough about to form an educated opinion.

Go see a doctor. Ticks carry disease.

You probably scratched yourself earlier and forgot. The tick you felt was something rubbing against the skin and made you check it out.

See a doctor immediately. Ticks carry more diseases than Lyme. One of them causes your muscles to eat themselves. This isn't something you ask advice about online, see an IRL doctor.

>forum
Does this look like one to you?

>>17173075
Board, I meant.

My fucking bad.

You sure it wasn't an erotic dream, femanon?
Lots of women have that fantasy. Rape, I mean.

Sounds like possible rosacea but I am NOT a doctor. Go to dermatologist and get it checked. In the mean time use a moisturizer in the morning and at night. It should help with blotchiness.

I like Ludovico Einaudi

Anyways does the redness persist throughout the day or just after you get out of the shower?

Also does your skin feel dry/tight? Do you wash your face with any kind of soap, and how often do you shower?

I hate to say it but you could hand write your resume. Depending on the position this may go over like a lead balloon or not.

>>17173009
Dumb ass question, the library?

>>17173027
Opens at 9 AM. Thanks, chump.

>>17173026
Do places like Office Depot let you print personal documents?