I've known this Qt 3.14 for quite some time now, we hung out countless times, received a blowjob, a hand job, fingered her etc.. basically anything besides penetration, felt like we were getting pretty close, but I know she doesn't want to commit to a relationship, at least "Not untill exams are over", which is total bullshit since she doesn't study anyway.
I am for certain that she still has feelings for her EX and I know that it's a Red Flag, but whenever she messages me I reply, if she asks me for anything I help and etc.. I just can't fucking stop myself.
She looks stunning and I like her a lot but I know that in the end It will just suck, what do I do ? How can I convince myself that I don't need her ?
Because right now I am living in hopes that one day she will be my Girlfriend and everything will be as I want.
I am not even slightly interested in any other women besides her atm..
You already know the answer, you just want me to tell you it's true. And it is. She has no interest in you romantically beyond sexual gratification. She finds you attractive enough, but maybe not a compatible personality, or maybe she does think she can get back with her ex. In either case, you're never going to be that guy.
The best way to free yourself is to accept that, kill that hope in yourself and begin the great search for someone somewhat like her.
>>17171321
Stay as FWB. If she moves on later, you can try to hook up with her, but I wouldn't advise it. She sounds bad enough.
In a very similar situation, only yours is better because at least you're getting your dick sucked.
Unfortunatly, the sad truth is that it just isn't worth it to invest your time with someone that is truly that hopeless. My girls ex ended her with an email three years ago and she still thinks about him everyday just to keep him alive.
Face it dude, they don't give a shit about us, why should we give a shit about them? Pointless.
Okay, here goes.
I am a pretty likeable guy (I think) and have loads of friends, boys and girls, but there is something I don't think they know; I am a virgin.
I am 25+ years and have a complex about my tiny Johnson (3.9 inches when hard). I am terrified that any of my friends will fiend out (even if I think some of them "knows"), and even more terrified that if I where ever to "get with" a girl she will laugh at it.
Is my small thing going to satisfy anybody besides myself?
>>17171312
date a virgin, she won't know the difference
>>17171312
It could, but I doubt it will anywhere as often or as much as an average dick or big dick.
you'd better enjoy fingering and eating pussy, then nobody would care anyway.
>>17171339
Virgins tend to be very young. I don't want to be that creepy guy who goes around banging high schoolers.
its 10:08PM as I'm writing this
I have an exam for a language I'm half good at in 11 hours
I have 10 poem analyses and 4 historical treaties to memorise
I'm literally so fucked right now, does anyone have advice for keeping myself awake / boosting memory / boosting motivation / reversing the effects of lack of sleep
Go back to red dit
>>17171311
A levels?
Best way to learn would be do it in small chunks with small breaks in between. So like 25 min revision, 5 min break. Download the app Flat Tomato to help. Brain learns best this way. Cramming for hours with no break like most kids do is retarded and a horrible way to study for an exam.
Boosting memory -- this is a trick we learned in psychology. Do something while you're studying that is easily replicable in the exam. So like chew gum while you're studying and in the exam chew gum. You'll be reminded of when you were studying and information will come to you easier as the brain is making connections. Don't listen to music. You need to recreate the exam environment as much as possible -- silence, no music.
Another memory technique for those plays or poems or whatever. Write the first letter of each word of the text you need to remember. Then recall it only looking at those letters. Then do it without them. I do this and it works amazingly.
As for keeping yourself awake, coffee. But it's a bad idea to not get enough sleep before an exam. Very bad idea. Maybe don't stay up a bit but not all night -- trust me I've done this and you will not remember anything even if you did revise all night.
In the morning eat something fatty like eggs or a handful of nuts (keeps hunger away) and good carbs like oats for the boost. Don't eat or drink shit or go hungry. Lots of water.
Good luck, A levels are fucking disgusting and much harder than uni. This is probably the most stressful period of your education so take solace in the thought that once it's over it's over.
What A levels are you doing?
>>17171374
Maths
Modern Greek
Computing
Classics
got modern greek A2 exam tomorrow, haven't done any work for it all year
thanks man, this advice seems really useful
What to do when you miss your ex bf/gf?
Honestly just deal with it. I know it's cliche but with time it will get better. My bf and I broke up a bit of a week ago and we were together 3 years. I've heard he's having a hard time too.
Cry like a baby, let the sadness comfort you, let it hug you. Remember every single moment you spent with him/her. Just smile and cry, lose all hope, then try to be happy alone.
There's nothing you can really do. The best thing is to make sure you don't start thinking heavily about her, just block it, focus on something else even though the feeling will linger. It dies down over time though it will hit you every day for a long time depending on how long you were together.
Anybody here have any experience with inducing an abortion or miscarriage through natural methods? We're not in trouble here, but just in case. My girlfriend's been taking a lot of Vitamin C for health anyway, but that's a bonus, but she wants a more sure (and cheap and easy) pill or herb to ingest. Apparently chamomile and ginger work well, can anybody confirm? Thanks.
The ol' 'eyedrops in the drink' technique should work quite well
>>17171315
No no no, she fully knows about this. We're just looking for more options. She'll just take it as a pill or make chamomile or ginger tea. There's no need for me to sneak around. I don't need anything special or powder or in liquid form.
If you actually mean eyedrops, like Visine, that's poisonous as shit.
>>17171298
That sounds fucking retarded and dangerous anon, you dipshit
Tell me how retarded am I.
I met this awesome girl in work. At 1st I just tought shes qt but then we started talking and she turned out to be rly smart and we had common interests. We talked more and more, I started driving her to work everyday, then we started eating diners together or going for cofe. We became good friends. Recently she had birthday. I decided it's time. I wrote a birthay card, where I wrote down best wishes shit and I said in it that I fallen in love in her a while ago. I droped the card on her bday morning and I still haven't heard from her. No response. I don't even know if she read it. I know I'm a bit of a pussy for writing it like this, but fck that I felt I had to tell her somehow finally. I guess she read it and just didn't gave a fuck or I don't know. I will see her tomorrow for sure tho while driving her to work. I'm affraid its gonna be awkward. I don't know how she will act. I don't know how I will act. I fucked it? I always tought its better to act and fail than to do nothing at all and waiting for miracle
halp
Kill yourself to confuse her into falling in love with your dead body
>>17171622
i would if that would help, but right now I doubt it will work
>I have literally no libido.
I don't get horny, Never masturbate, I find other girls attractive but never pursue or want sex with them.
>I can't enjoy anything anymore
I end up trying it and go "fuck this" within less than 10 minutes and just can't do it. If I force myself I just can't enjoy it
>I hate communicating and I am angry or sad 99% of the time
>I cry like a little bitch about the stupidest fucking shit
I feel like I might be depressed, having a crisis or something. I should go to a doctor, but what does /adv/ think first?
I think you most likely have clinical depression. Also, you might be asexual.
>>17171279
WebMD gives you a serious case of BPD
Who are you quoting?
>need to go to doctor
>check my favorites doctors homepage, to see when she is available
>see: Please excuse the inconvenience, but we can not take any more patients
What did she mean by this?
Is it just like long term patients, can i still come in for a quick checkup?
Can't you just go to the surgery and ask? then if she can't see you they can just give you an appointment with the best one available?
>inb4 third world country
>>17171271
>surgery
wat
>third world country
WHAT
I have no idea what you are trying to convey.
Ill just call her tomorrow and ask whats what.
My gf and I have been together for about 1,5 years. We stopped having sex about six months ago. No big deal since we both are asexual to some degree (I fap and thats that). Anyway, today we talked about this and we both look at this the same way:
>both love one another
>but somehow on a friendly (ish) level
>we live together in my apartment in the city
>we didnt break up today, but we talked about it and it sort of feels like we broke up, but we are still bf and gf.
Any advice? I dont wanna lose her, she's my best friend and im hers, however, I feel like i'm missing out on something (like im in a limbo of some sorts).
I can't be alone. I need a girlfriend or a roommate. Just someone..
If you're both asexual, this wouldn't be the outcome. Seems like there's some underlying issue.
>>17171251
Yes well sort of. I dont miss the sex per say, but I miss the intimacy of sex. My gf says she miss having someone she wants to have sex with (but not me), but that sex isnt everything either.
>>17171265
>inb4 cuck
So your asexuality is part of the problem. Are you guys romantic, do you take her out on dates and do lots of things together?
>if you want to get a girlfriend or have sex, you have to stop caring and go on with your life, it will happen
>if you want something really hard and apply yourself, you will get it.
How to solve this conundrum, /adv/? I want to get a girlfriend and lose my virginity (24 years old) but a lot of times people say that you have to stop caring and that it will happen. But how do I achieve something if I don't care about it and don't apply myself?
>>17171240
girls are attracted to confidence and security. If you are confident with yourself and secure with your life, girls will find you attractive.
If girls think you need a girlfriend to be happy, they will not be attracted to you.
Focus on achieving everything else first, make getting a gf/losing your virginity your lowest priority. Once you've established that you don't need a girlfriend to be happy, girls will take notice.
>>17171252
that's the point: I have to not care
Maybe I can learn to simulate my not caring.
But for example: when you are in a group of people with girls in the group, if you talk about "that beautiful girl you saw the other day", would it be considered needy or alpha?
>try hard or not care
Neither, go out, have fun, don't be boring and don't expect to get laid. Just wait for it to happen.
Can a psychiatrist not tell you the truth about your condition?
I'm asking because my psychiatrists tell me that my diagnosis is autism (not assburger - I mean more severe autism), but I find this diagnosis to be hard to believe in, and too good to be true.
My dad told me that I don't understand it because I have autism.
But what if all of this is some schizophrenic delusion, and I actually have schizophrenia, and my doctors are hiding that maybe I'm in fact schizophrenic from me as they think it would be too shocking for me? How likely is this? Or am I just finding it too hard to accept that I actually have autism?
The thing is, I have a very good memory in some areas (memorized a few hundred digits in an hour and recited them to my parents), and can do very large mental calculations rather fast, and this seems to be just too good to be true.
>>17171230
If you had schizophrenia, they wouldn't sugarcoat it or lie to you. It's a serious mental illness that requires a full disclosure of information for safety reasons.
You're just autistic.
>The thing is, I have a very good memory in some areas (memorized a few hundred digits in an hour and recited them to my parents), and can do very large mental calculations rather fast, and this seems to be just too good to be true.
Is that not the definition of autism?
>>17171230
>Get someone to throw toothpicks on the floor
>Count them in 3 seconds
If i don't wash my hair every single day i look like a bum who wasn't able to wash his hair for more than a month.
what's up with that shit guys? is there anything i can do about it?
>is there anything i can do about it?
shower.
Stop washing every day. Excessive washing cues your body to produce more oil from your scalp. You'll be gross for a couple weeks but your body will adapt.
You can rinse daily without shampoo if you want
Most people shower daily so this doesn't happen.
How to deal with a narcissistic family member? Ever since they moved in with us they have thrown all types of insults towards me under the rug.
They appear friendly, but turn aggressive like night and day.
No matter what I do, they find something to talk about. I can't deal with his mind games. Confronting him on his shit only makes him
pissed and the situation worse. It's no peace with him.
What do I do?
>>17171171
>they
>him
Is it multiple people? If so, how much?
>thrown all types of insults towards me under the rug
Kick him/them out if they won't be grateful for you taking them in for whatever reason
>>17171171
The same way you deal with childhood narcissism.
You don't acknowledge the little brat when he acts up.
Narcissists try to put themselves in the center of attention.
Avoid letting whatever it is become a big deal.
>>17171181
Just one person.
>>17171189
I don't acknowledge the shit, but he still acts like it is a free card to do whatever he want. Gives me dirty looks at church today and in the mirror of the car while driving. Just seen it out of my peripheral vision.
Hi adv/
Messed up big time and I want to know if anyone has had any similar experiences. Me and my gf have been in a relationship of 5 years, it was great for the most part but over the last few months it has been lacking in the intimacy department. I found myself online trying to get some sort of gratification. Her friends caught me and now all of her family despises me. Have never actually physically cheated but in this day and age it is understandable that this has been viewed just as badly. I have received threats from her father and her mother has in the last 30 minutes also sent me a message asking me to leave her alone. I feel so ashamed and angry that I allowed myself to stoop to this. She wants to make it work but her family will never approve. Any thoughts?
You fucked up, accept it. What'd you do, send and receive nudes from some girl on Tinder or something?
>>17171165
Nah not tinder, essentially yea that's what it was. I have accepted my fuck up but want to be a better person from it, just don't know if I'll ever get the chance with her parents in the way
>>17171170
Honestly? She might give you another chance, but her friends and family won't. In their eyes, you'll never be good enough for her, and whenever you fuck up again, this'll be something they bring up. If the two of you can deal with this, then you may have a future, but chances are you've ruined a long term future together. And if I'm being honest, if I were in her shoes, how you dealt with what you saw as a problem in the relationship makes you not worthy of being with long term.
I'm an 18 year old senior who basically has no friends, and I'm graduating highschool tomorrow. I'm going to a Catholic university in the fall and I thought I was the only one in my school going there, but I found out that some girl in my grade is going as well. I don't know her ar all, should I introduce myself, and if so how?
If you don't know her now, what's the point? She's no different to everyone else who'll be attending that school
>>17171134
Depends, if she knows you as 'that friendless guy' chances are that stigma will seep into any attempt you make at her.
Honestly, I'd go with a stranger. At least then any prejudice agaisnt you will be based on her first impression of you.
>>17171148
>>17171154
So I should just do nothing? It'll essentially be a clean slate there