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how do I stop staring at women?

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>>17173992
was also smoking as a crutch, then I got really into chinese tea and brewing gong-fu, I really wanted to taste the subtleties in the tea and felt like smoking was stunning my palate, so I stopped, highly recommend it

>>17174003

If it's because you're getting caught or if you have a GF then stop doing to so obviously. Or just wear sunglasses.

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Be the kindest person you know. Cultivate empathy and understand others more.

After that, learn as much as possible, and have a future outlook for your life.

Then when you at the party, you will be the person everyone wants to talk to because 1. You are a literal saint and 2. You have vast stores of knowledge to have interesting conversations about.

>>17173999
Trips speak the truth? But I don't want to be seen as the Nice Guy everyone hates that, especially women. Also, I don't travel because I consider it a waste of money so that's a huge subject I can't connect with the majority of people

>How to be an interesting person?
Be interesting.

Protip: that you are asking this question and desperate to be that archetype means that you won't. Ever. Give it up. You aren't that person.

WEll I can see where they are coming from when they tell you you should have gone.
>person dies you didnt know
>you had 1 last chance to see into their life and you chose not to.

When you say area what exactly do you mean? Is this some small-town hick thing? Because in cities you'll be going to funerals every day if you went whenever someone died in your area. If you never knew them, never interacted with them, what purpose would you serve at the funeral?

>>17173997
Why would or should he want to see into this person's life?

>>17174005
i live in a big city. she was a women that lived near me, i live in a working class area.

presence is more than enough most of the times

>>17173982

I don't get it when retards from /r9k/ post shit like this. Are you stupid? You can't LEARN empathy... you feel it or you don't.

just let them vent to you, and if they ask for your opinions give them. Don't be dismissive or judgemental or offer more than asked most of the time

I have many. Here are my top picks, they are mostly informative so you'll have to actually apply the mechanics to get a happier life.

>Thinking Fast & Slow by Daniel Kahneman
A short pop-psy book that talks about Systems I & II - the architecture of our minds and how we think. It's very simple and every freshman in college should read this. If not for the mind modeling then for all the information on cognitive biases. Knowing this stuff will help you make objectively correct decisions in life and spot errors in others' thinking.

>Book of Pook
Free pdf, just google it. I didn't read it all but it's a quick and forward take on social dynamics. Just read the lessons and skim some chapters. The book is a great introduction to understanding the opposite sex and can help you build confidence in interacting with them.

>Way of Men by Jack Donovan
Meme /pol/ book that's pretty good. The Pook one talks about understanding women, this one talks about understanding men. The chapter on the bonobos stood out the most for me.

>Sleight of Mouth by Robert Dilts
Still reading this one. It's pretty heavy and abstract with the concepts, but can help you create mental models of human discourse. Understanding social interactions and thought patterns can help you understand why other people do the things they do. By breaking down interaction, you can plan this stuff out or practice improving it - or go above and beyond and do social engineering stuff.

1/2

>>17174026

2/2

>Actualized videos on YT
This bald guy knows his shit. It's worth listening to him even though the advice is very basic, almost elementary. I like the piece on meditation the most. Worth downloading the audio and listening to that whilst driving.

>Psycho Cybernetics by Maxwell Maltz
Takes like 2 weeks to build habits. Habits/systems are objectively better than pursuing goals.

>Mastery: The Keys to Success
Same thing as above, but shorter. tl;dr Maintaining systems is better than working "towards" a goal.

>Men's Fitness Bible
Or any workout book really. Conflicting views on which workout book is good/bad exist, but pick one and stick with it. Pretty much the idea is to get /fit/. Depends on how much you know of this stuff already, so read accordingly in this domain. Start with the /fit/ sticky. Exercise is very important and everyone should do it.

>Meditations by Julius Evola
Another meme /pol/ book. The guy has an insane writing style and I'm sure he's right on half the stuff he talks about. It's a hard read, but the take away is to meditate. This helps you overcome emotion and become more Stoic. Stoicism is a pretty good life philosophy imo.

>>17174053
>>Meditations by Julius Evola

It's actually Doctrine of Awakening.

Meditations was Marcus Aurelius

my bad

If you wanna smash that pussy again, you'd better not. Just fuck her on the dl and find other chicks. But do NOT under any circumstances think she is more than a quick fuck for when you're horny. Also - feel free to cum inside her without contraception. What's she gonna do? Admit to being a whore?

i like the thought of smashing her pussy and then she goes and sees this little manlet with a tiny dick. i wanna show her I can fuck other girls but I can't seem to find anyone else really

>>17173949
lel she's admitted to being my little slut regardless who's she's dating so she definitely wants me but a couple weeks ago she really broke my heart when she dumped me

>>17173919

maybe ur a homo

>>17173923
Probably troll but I doubt it, I get hard off of straight and lesbian porn all the time

this your first time?

>>17173868
It's possible that it was a mistake since you and his wife share the same name.

Has he ever showed any sexual interest in you?

You're an idiot.

It plausable...
But it is also sexual harassment.

Keep it as leverage over him at work.
If he starts getting out of line goto hr.

Are you salary or hourly?

If salary ask to be switchef to hourly.

Dont fool yourself you are replaceable.

>>17173865
if i was replacable they would have replaced me by now.

ive been going to work late everyday for the last 3 months and im lazy as shit.

im applying for other jobs now that i got my IT certs in the mail, but for the time being im just staying here.

>>17173869
Your replaceable

>>17173858
Well we've been togehter for three years and are still in the honeymoon fase. We don't have as much sex but thats only because i have a medical condition under treatment for the last year so we arent allowed. I guess if you're having a great relationship it's just great

>>17173858

>how long did the honeymoon phase last with your bf/gf?

3 monthish

>was there a reason it ended or did it just fade?

We spent too much time together, i fell in love too young and with a girl that really didn't know what she wanted, me myself included.

>do you wish it back or do you love what you got instead more?

Nope don't want it back.

>was there something you could have done to prolonge that phase?

Just stay real solid and not let silly love cloud my judgment and make me stupid. I realize respect comes first.

>what over and when was your first argument?

7 months in, i got real upset about a text from a guy, i confronted her and she didn't respond for an hour so i looked like a nagging bitch.

>has sex declined after the honeymoon phase?

not really.

A lot of women have no idea what they want, so don't fall into the love trap. You have to be willing to walk away from your girlfriend at anytime and hold her to strict/high expectations in order to keep you around. You are the prize.

I've known her for 6 months and we've only just talked out our feelings and planned out first date two days ago. We've fought over the dumbest shit numerous times already as friends. I'm still in some sort of honeymoon phase and it's weird. Past relationships - didn't really like the girls so never really gave half a shit. First girlfriend I had there was like a month of honeymoon phase before we broke up and I cried myself to sleep for a week.

Just Kys

>>17173856

why?

im sure its possible for me to integrate into society

Become a truck driver.
Got to /o and read the neet to driver guide.


You will have a 40-90k a year job. But you can maintian some neet aspects.

I want to mention this is an accredited state college. I also could ask /biz/ but I already know what the answer would be.

>>17173819
Define "OK". Whether or not it's ethically permissible depends on your ethics. If you're in business, you should mainly care about what is legal though.

>>17173827
A couple terms ago I had an ethics in business course that only talked about legality, so I get what you're saying.

OK in the sense that it's legal. No comment on it being morally ethical.

I just felt s but weird when I did them. Have fun.

>>17173818
never do drugs anon

>>17173818
You are literally poisoning yourself, lol. Psych-users, much like the 420 crowd, tend to be pretentious as fuck, and believe it is a life changing experience.

Have fun, but don't become one of the aforementioned idiots.

>>17173811
Same way you cure heterosexuality.

>>17173811
What do you mean? If you're attracted to both genders, just keep it in your pants with regards to one of them, if you are exclusively homosexual then you'll have to fake it.
Why do you want to anyway?

>>17173817
>Why do you want to anyway?
Morals.

Your country is pretty important

>>17173802
US, friendo

it would help to say what your disabilities are to merit being paid to live.