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My boyfriend did not come home today. He is probablly out, still drinking at a friends house or at a bar. His father just called me to ask me if he is with me. I told him that we had a fight and that I left home, he didn't came with me. I think that he think's that it's all my fault. He did that 4 more times, one time we broke up because of it but we came back together after a cupple of months. He said that he will never do it again and for one year he didn't. He got a job and has to work tomorrow but if he doesn't come home he will lose his job.

I left college, I have no job and don't have the intention to work. I don't even leave my house anymore and now that we went out together he escaped somewhere. I can't do this shit anymore. For 3 years this is going on. But I have nowhere else to go and nothing else to do. I wanted to follow him to Germany once he gets a job there and maybe I would et a job there too. Now he is destroying all those plans we had because he is angry or scared or I don't even know.

I feel drained out and just needed to vent, I guess. What do you think about my shitty life?

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Ill try to condense it so dont expect to have all the facts.
Im not a virgin but I plan to wait until marriage but really I feel that if I was with a girl I planned to marry one day Id have sex with her so I can see myself having 3-4 sexual partners at most in my life. So far Ive only had sex with 1 girl and we were planning on moving in together after we graduated college and thought about getting married when we had stable jobs. But she moved acrossed the country for grad school and the ldr didnt work out.
Not heres the thing, I was pretty devastated breaking things off with her and havent been back in the field for a long time, but Ive recently met a new girl who was able to pry through the barriers I put up to keep her out. In doing so I feel like Ive started to fall in love with her.
A few days ago we were together cuddling to netflix and she mentioned how nice this is and how she wanted it to last. Then she freaked out and told me about her heavy past because she knew about my view on sex.
Basically she was raped by a guy her first time. I dont know the details of how so dont ask. After that she said she slept with 7-8 guys her freshman year of college because at the time it helped with the pain. If I had to guess her sexual partners Id put it at around 11 or 12.
Now I really feel like people should stick to dating others with a comparable sexual history to them. My ex had slept with 1 guy before me and I was a little salty but she explained that she really loved him at the time and it felt right so I let it go. But this is different.
At the time I told her that I was okay with it to calm her down but Ive been thinking about it and Im not really. Its just too much. I kinda understand and want to be more forgiving of her past because Im sure being raped did traumatize her, but I really dont approve of that behavior and dont want to be with someone who does that.
I dont know what to do here.

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I got scammed out of 540 USD for being reckless and trustworthy, I have his number, how can I call him to get enough evidence to go to the police?

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So Im looking for some good tunes to get it on to in the style of Depeche Mode, nothing too "womp womp" or R&B. Whats your go to sexy time songs?

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>be 26 year old guy
>have a job managing punk/alternative bands at a big record label
>girls that are alternative "models" always throwing themselves at me to try and get to the bands I work with
>learn to ignore them after a while and learn they really aren't dateable
>go out to one of my up and coming band's shows at a big festival pretty far from home base
>meet an 18 year old girl there and start chatting
>she's hilarious and just seems so much more real and interesting than the girls I'm around a lot
>hot as hell but not in the trying too hard way
>we follow eachother on Twitter and part ways
>been talking every day for over a year
>vent to eachother about things, joke around, skype usually 3x a week
>never tries to get info about bands I work with or access to shows
>things have gotten sexual too but not overwhelmingly so
>hinting from her that she has feelings for me and wants more
>don't know how to react so just play dumb and pretend to not notice
>she's 19 now
>yesterday she point blank asks me if I have feelings for her because she does for me
>saying that if I don't and its one sided then she should start dating to try and move past it
>want to tell her that I want her to be my girlfriend and that if she dated it would make me ridiculously jealous and eat me up inside
>instead just say distance is a bitch so she shouldn't get her hopes up and to start dating other people instead
>she's obviously hurt/disappointed but doesn't push it
>drank myself into oblivion

how do I fix this? if I see that she's starting to date I think it would kill me. but I don't know how to make an LDR work, but I can't let her go

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Should I buy gold, a gun, or an HTC vive?

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Okay calling all guys, I need opinions. I will answer questions as well if you need more info.

I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years, and known his best friend (which is also one of my best friends) as long as I've know my boyfriend. The past few months or so the best friend had issues with his girlfriend and they broke up. He's been complimenting me more and has always made direct eye contact with me when we talk. We also have hung out one on one multiple times in the past and nothing ever happened but I feel this energy around us. Don't know what to think of it. Thoughts?

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So I went out on a "date" with my crush and her friend. And my crush ended up paying for our food withour saying anything. So i texted her afterwards that Ill cover her next time and she said no its ok, then I insisted and she replied saying again that it wast necessary.

What does this mean? :/

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How do you stop going from 1 to 100 for literally no reason at a second's notice without any prior warning at any random time of the day?

I was feeling completely fine literally 10 minutes ago and now I want to shriek and drive off a bridge because of a minor inconvenience that does not even inconvenience anyone, I get no tangible benefit of learning a minor detail that I do not have the access to figure out and now I want to stab myself in the leg with kitchen scissors.

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>25
>been single for a year
>new gf
>find out now I can get very very hard at first but can't maintain it
>often cant keep it up through foreplay
>have sex with new gf 5+ times a day but often it's vigorous thrusting with a 3/4 chub and fear of going soft
>sometimes go totally soft while in her, especially in later rounds, have to stop or have her blow me
>still get very hard, almost painfully hard, erections at night and in morning that last a while

what do I do? I should also mention that I've had mild urinary retention for years (fq, incomplete voiding, straining, but hasn't been bad.) I dunno if I have some kind of chronic prostatitis or I'm just burned out on sex.

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my sister is adopted and recently I have had really vivid lucid dreams about her. I've always sort of admired her but I never tried anything because, well, she's my sister. deep down I have always wanted to have some kind of sexual experience with her.I don't know what these dreams are telling me and I feel like I should talk to her about it. How should I go about it /adv/? pic unrelated

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Hey guys. Bittuva' long winded one, but fuck it.

So a few months ago, some buddys of mine were at a local gig when one of my best friends who I've know for years (lets call her May) says she thinks the guitarist is cute, so I start teasing her, and nudging her towards the stage "Ha! May likes a boy!" just harmless stuff like that. Any way, joke ends, we have a bittuva' laugh and the night continues as normal.


The day after she says she never wants to talk to me again because I embarrassed her an "lay hands on her".
That's super out of charecter for May, so I try to say "Slow down, lets talk about what's wrong." but she refuses to talk to me anymore. Keep in mind she's never done this before, and this is the first time she's ever even been upset with me.

Anyway, I ask some mutual friends what they think about it and they all seem to agree the way she's acting is crazy. But when I ask them to talk to her for me, they always say "yeah sure, maybe" but never do. I think they're more interested in remaining impartial than actually helping me out.

Fast forward to the 19th of this month, and I turn 21. However, "coincidentally" May has invited pretty much all our mutual friends on a 3 day weekend to her holiday home (She rich as fuck) and everyone's gone. Leaving me entirely alone for my birthday.

What do you guys think? Do I just have shitty friends? Do none of them actually care about me? Have they just chosen May over me? Or am I taking this too personally? Maybe it's not their problem?

Help me out, /adv/?

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Long story short: GF, mid 20s, recently got into Instagram. She had a private account at first, only with a ~100 actual friends as followers. Got featured on some modeling page, and blew up. Over last two weeks, has gotten over a 1000 new followers, 99% thirsty guys. Her insta is now a zoo overrun with "omg ur perfect" and "so beautiful" on everything.

This irked me at first. But most of these guys are halfway across the world. If it's just admiration, it's fine - she'll get it naturally as an attractive girl. I am worried about all the attention changing her overtime. I'm also worried about wtf they're DM'ing her - I'm sure they're constantly hitting on her. I voiced that I was NOT okay with anyone getting her snapchat or number, or her communicating with local dudes. She asserted that no one had added her on snap or gotten her number.

Today, she posted a picture. Last comment is from some random dude saying something like "snap me again!". I was livid. How should I confront her? What should I say? Clearly lied to me.

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Advice welcome on how to keep a girl interested/pining after you in a relationship.

I have this serious problem where I go hot-and-cold in a relationship, which does drive my girlfriends wild for a short-time, but eventually makes them fed up with me. I'll do something romantic with them, but then I'll go cold and distant a few days afterwards. I guess I'm scared to open myself up fully and I consciously fear driving them away with intimacy.

Outside of this I try to live my own life outside of the relationship, stand up for what I believe in, not put them on a pedestal (difficult when enamoured), and just generally try to have a fun time with them. I've been reading online about "spinning plates", but I'm not sure this is for me (although I could do it).

Thanks.

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Why girls text like this?

Why do they text first but never say much??