Long story short, I've been living with my GF for about 2-3 years now in this apartment. I want her to leave.
She is not on the lease, and her name is on no bills. She pays me 1/3 of the rent (I pay 2/3 and bills).
She is a lunatic. This will not go smoothly. I was wondering what resources I have for this sort of thing and how can I carry it out? "Talking it out" has been exhausted. I want her gone.
I'm a good guy I really am. Her drug and drinking problems are creating a great pain in my life.
Does anyone have experience with a situation like this?
I'm pretty much begging for help here.
You could move all your stuff into storage, then move yourself into a studio apt across town.
>>17169417
Legally she's a resident. You're skirting a shit storm of legal problems with her not being on the lease. The rental company can force you out and also force you to continue to pay until the unit is rented.
If you can do it on the quiet, yes try to get her to leave peacefully. If she won't , you're going to have to serve her papers. She will have 30 days to respond to them and you will have to go to a magistrate or the court. In the meantime, you can't throw her stuff out, change the locks, etc etc.
If you don't have much time on the lease left, ride it out, and don't invite her to move with you. Don't tell her where you're moving.
>>17169431
great idea
>>17169448
great advice. I have to give a 2 month notice before the lease ends. It's a smaller building so the landlord will likely need to show it and stuff so that won't be good.
This is such a fucking mess
How can I feel less "triggered" when reading celeb news? Like some celebs are better than you in EVERY aspect (i. e. way hotter than you, way smarter than you, way richer than you - pic related) and you can't help thinking that the world is so unfair.
I know that most celebs are kind of dumb but then sometimes you have THAT celeb who is as perfect as pic related - hot, rich, smart, and successful.
I tend to avoid reading celeb news but my kom likes to tell me celeb news (eg. TV shows, ads, relationships, etc) "it is important to stay cool" and when I reacted in a triggered manner, she gets upset and calls me naive and immature.
Better? Or luckier?
It's actually worse when you consider that some people are just a whole lot luckier than you.
>>17169424
You can say she is super lucky but I still think she is better than me in many aspects even if she wasn't famous.
Hun, you can't compare yourself to other people and complain that you aren't better. You're placing yourself in a contest without even trying for first place. Are you doing everything in your power to get the gold? Do you think Emma watches celeb news and gets triggered?
How do I stop thinking about other girls?
I'm married but I can't help but looking at girls on the street/hooker sites now and then. I married my wife because she's a good person and helped me a lot in life but my dick just seems to respond to makeup, tits and ass even if they're dumb bimbos
Sex without exactly what I want just makes me feel a bit depressed
>>17169319
Ask your wife to dress up like a dumb bimbo. I don't know how long you guys have been hitched, but you ought to be able to be open with one another about what you like in bed. Took me years to tell my 36D wife that I wanted to fuck her tits. Seemed too porny and crass. Turns out she likes it. Took her years to tell me to stick it in her butt. We're both embarrassed to have waited and try not to do stuff like that anymore.
And/or just be like nearly all men, and think about other women sometimes. If you're not actually making dates with hookers I think your behavior is fairly harmless.
But if you are looking to actually fuck professionals on the side, which your post kind of seems like it is implying, that seems a lot less harmless to me. Try doing your wife up first, then keep it to the looking and wanking, if you value your marriage (which it sounds like you do).
>>17169319
Thinking is fine. Doing something is not. Your dick doesn't rule your mind. Learn some damn discipline, you fucking manchild.
>>17169398
Just wife's body type doesn't do it for me, though it's probably mutual. I married the first girl I ever dated and similar for her.
Not sure how less than 9/10s feel motivated to have sex with each other... it just feels like being friends
Another $20 spent on Powerball tickets with no return. I have been addicted to lottery gambling for over 4 years, and I still don't see a better alternative to achieving financial liberation thats actually feasible. Life doesn't seem worth living if you have to work to survive, and your wealth is limited to what the man will pay you to be his slave, or what others will pay you for your services. My happy view of life was based on the assumption that I will eventually win the lottery, and meanwhile using up my inheritance money on comforts at an unsustainable rate while also spending over $50 a week on lottery tickets. No matter how objectively retarded it is to seriously attempt to win the lottery I kept on doing it because I cannot see any other alternative. I have nothing to compete for, I never want to have kids and I don't care about attracting women. All that matters is that I have enough money to enjoy high quality lifestyle while also enjoying the free time I have left on this human existence. I admit to people that I do the lottery, but I wonder how people would react in real life if I was open about just how deep my gambling addiction is and how I feel I have no financial agency apart from just buying more and more lottery tickets hoping to be spared from slavery and poverty, and then just go off and never gamble again and live modestly enough to make it last.
Not sure what specific advice I am seeking posting this here, but I will read every reply and maybe even make excuses as to why your suggestion won't work for me.
>>17169267
Dear OP.
Your problem is the addiction and the delusion you've wrapped yourself up in. No amount of perspective feelgood talking is going to persuade you to the contrary until you break out of that cycle.
>>17169286
I'm open for potentially helpful constructive criticism
> Life doesn't seem worth living if you have to work to survive
Maybe you should ask yourself why you hate work so much
If you had a decent attitude about it you could have a cushy high paying job
How do you deal with transgender women being more feminine and pretty than you
They always looks like dudes, no matter what,
>>17169170
They really don't
>>17169163
They changed. You can too, and you've got an advantage over them in that area.
Someone started this board on /b/, I've decided to take it here because /soc/ has you people on it:
>Why don't you have a gf yet?
>>685535478
I don't know how.
I'm not really sure I want one anyway. Yeah, I'd love to have a girl to hook up with but I'm pretty happy on my own. She's not going to want to do anything I want to do, or like anything I like and even if she did like I said I'm cool by myself.
I do need some pussy though, and I'm not sure how one goes about that. I'm not a virgin, I've paid for a couple escorts but they were way too expensive for me to see more than once.
I actually went out for the first time in years last night and tried to talk to some girls. The first few stubbornly ignored me, and one even literally ran.
Any advice /adv/? I'm already an hero in my heart BTW.
Because I'm delusional. I believe she's the one, when she's most likely not.
I'm a fuck up, a dick, or a boring asshole to most woman and I'm fucking fine with that. Looking for the one that's gonna accept me for who I am is gonna be like looking for a needle in a haystack
because I'm fat lol, i had this girl who literally (and sincerely) declared her love for me, but i'm so disgusted with myself that I don't see me with anybody for that reason, so I rejected her.
I'm going backpacking with a cute girl. How do I find a way to destroy her tent so that we need to share one for the night?
>>17168867
Poopoo in it.
That's rapey you creepy fuck
Okay guys I'm gonna greentext my problems
This is the hardest situation I have ever fucking been in so please help
>been with boyfriend since we were 14
>now 18, pretty good relationship, about to move in together
>chilling at my friends house
>oh yeah anon he cheated on you with his ex
>"a month after you got together"
>"just kissed"
>go back to his house and confront him
>he cries and apologizes
>"didnt tell you because i didnt want you to leave i liked you so much"
>"I haven't thought about it for years"
>"i'll do anything to make it up to you"
>forgive him
>next day see messages from him to his OTHER ex
>also from when me and him first got together
>saying he'd fuck
>packed up all my shit and walked out the damn door
But did I make the right choice?
Our relationship's pretty good, he's my best friend and I love him
And people change so much since they were 14, he was really emo and scene then and now he's not at all
He's called me like 20 times, left voicemails, texted me, messaged me
Do I go back or is our relationship fucked?
He i
You're a woman right? You'll be fine.
Someone will be your sugar daddy sooner or later.
>>17168489
I don't want a sugar daddy :(
People do change but I'd say this is ultimately down to how you feel. Do you think he has changed? Can he change? If not, then fuck off from him and find someone better. If yes, then take your chances.
You know what to do!
Be mine
I'm yourds
Be true
This girl i love has a boyfriend with a relationship im pretty sure is gonna fail. She likes me quite a bit. But i get hella fucking jealous of him. Do i fucking wait for their relationship to end.. fyi theyve never met pure internet relationship ..
My neighbour got her house because her brother came into a lot of money and gave it to her.
She spends her child benefits and dole money/jobseekers allowance on partying and she palms her child off to anyone she knows because the verbally assaults them when they say no.
Pretty sure she's in the adult entertainment industry because she said she's a "model" but she does nothing but drink and take drugs so I'm guessing she's an escort or an amateur porn actress.
For fuck sake, why can't my neighbours be a cute elderly couple who spend their time fixing up their garden instead of this druggie whore who's legs are open more than her fucking mouth. I feel sorry for her kid.
It's not even like this is purely speculation because it's always outside my fucking door. She's either telling her mother to go kill herself for being a "useless cunt" or she's partying until the early hours of the morning.
This shit is so stressful.
JUST DO IT
http://www.clickhole.com/video/fathers-reaction-his-son-coming-out-perfect-4409
Try this
>>17168457
Stop being a white retard with nothing better to do than sit on the internet and complain about your stupid fucking first world problems
Hitler was right
I want to fly her out from Germany to California. But not sure how to deal with paying for her flight.
I wanna book her tickets to come over.
What do?
come on guise
IF YOU NEVER MET THIS GIRL IN REAL LIFE DO NOT PAY FOR SHIT
>>17169118
Why?
Where did you meet your partner and how?
I've been going to various spots and I've been tricked into going to places because I was told I was going to me somebody. (That was a load of bollocks).
How do?
>>17168166
I'm talking partners and relationships. etc.
>>17168166
My gf and I met from working together. Pretty lucky too since we're both gay girls
Used to work together in different departments, met properly at uni though.
Is it wrong to push people out of your life because you don't want to become more like them?
I always feel like I'm being terribly judgemental when I do this. I worry deeply a lot that other people are going to do the same thing to me and it eats me up inside.
i've been debating this myself
one of my very good friends basically has made no effort to make his life better whatsoever and keeps fucking up. he now has pretty much no one except me. he feels sorry for himself more than anything and won't just pick himself up by the bootstraps. i'm realizing more and more that he only cares about himself.
i've been debating for awhile whether to drop him. i think i am going to. because being around him drags me down. i don't have time for that shit. i'm in college and trying to work hard and make my own life better. meanwhile all he wants to do is get high/drunk and wallow in his own self hatred.
ain't got time for that shit, m8. i don't think you do either.
Surround yourself with people you like, and who like you, get rid of everyone else, and don't feel guilty about it. If you are incapable of doing this, figure out why and fix it.
>>17170325
>>17170327
I think I'm actually on the opposite end. Wallowing in self loathing, like your friend. Thinking bad thoughts about others is just how I express it.
At work there are tons of people that I absolutely refuse to deal with because of thoughts I have about them. Most are petty, irrational and terribly maladaptive but I cling to them as some sort of "defense" against outside stress. My substance use makes it harder for me to actively manipulate the way I handle things.
Why am I not eating? I'm 21, tall, not depressed.... just can't eat. it's been like 2 weeks now and don't know how I'm even still alive. It's causing me a lot of damage and I can't handle my job but I just cannot eat.
this happens to me too, anon
i don't know why it happens, but you need to force yourself to eat. eat small things frequently. soon you'll get back into the swing of it.
good luck
>>17170185
>Why am I not eating? I'm 21, tall, not depressed.... just can't eat.
Anorexia nervosa is one of the classic eating disorders we hear about among models. and there are a couple of other eating disorders with their own suffixes.
But just plain "anorexia" -no suffixes- also happens sometimes. It sounds like this is what you may have, though we are not qualified to diagnose. My wife gets this in winter: I'm under standing orders to not allow her to eat less often than once a day.
>it's been like 2 weeks now and don't know how I'm even still alive.
The human body can survive some 3-4 weeks without eating. It's not good for you, but it's doable. I'm assuming you're still getting water.
Start light: at this point, you'll make yourself sick if you try to start eating normally right away. Ease back into it. Doctors have a thing called the BRAT diet that they often recommend for people recovering from severe digestive trouble: Bananas, Rice, Applesauce, and Toast (I find that graham crackers work well here too). Strictly speaking this is probably not a digestive problem, but these foods were picked for easy digestion, so they should work well for recovering from a long fast too. Start with maybe one banana or a large graham cracker a day, and work your way back up.
If you can't even make yourself eat a banana, try drinking it as a plain banana smoothie: chop a banana into one-inch pieces, throw it in a blender with 6 ounces of milk and some ice, and blend it up. You seem to be able to drink things, so this would get you some nutrition: I don't recommend doing it for very long, but as a stopgap measure before moving on to solids, it may work.
See a doctor and he'll give you an appetite enhancer.
I'm dealing with this little scar on my leg.
And it really looks bad. I need help /adv/.
Prevent exposure from the sun (a band-aid suffices for this), and put ointment on it. You might want to pluck the hairs immediately surrounding the area/area covered by the bandaid.
There is one thing you can apply to this scar
>time
Cigarette scars wont heal and scars that required sewing