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Yes I would, but you might not be like me. I think I have to be vague saying this, if I start comparing personalities I'll offend a bunch of people.

dont have to. they stop talking to me eventually

this is very tough to say because it just fully depends on what your best friend is like. He is evicted, but is he wrongfully evicted or is he guilty? Can you trust this friend after the eviction?

How much did you know about his ''activities'', did he lie to you or does he still pretend nothing happens? (so, does he show psychopatic/sociopathic behaviour or not?)

Furthermore, it might be good for your friend to have a friend on the outside. I reckon it will get very lonely in there and a safe harbour might keep your friend on his feet.

You're going about this all wrong. All this trying to be nice, and trying to make her comfortable, and saying you can "kind of understand" is WRONG, because when you do this you're validating her absolute insanity.
What you're supposed to do is be a fucking man.
>I am watching this very popular show with my fucking BROTHER. And if you don't like it you can go suck eggs. If you want to dump me go ahead, but I don't want to hear another word from your stupid whore mouth on the subject ever again, or I am dumping you myself.
Every inch you give her on stupid shit like this just ensures she will try to exert more and more control over you. Lay down the law, you are a fuckign adult. Holy shit.

Watch whatever the fuck you want. If she sees people in TV shows as competition or gets jealous over that kind of shit, she's not well put together mentally. That's totally not your problem.

If she's like that with TV shows, imagine what will happen when if you work with girls, or talk about a female coworker or fellow student or someone you pass in the street. Think of what will happen when you want a female friend.

Don't let her control what fucking TV show you watch. That's pathetic

>>17204745
It's GoT, not even porn for christ sake. Tell her you'll watch what the fuck you want.

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>>17204742
Prepare for walk of text Senpai

I'm 22 and I have been the exact same way for as long I can remember, until I met up with a friend from highschool around 2 months ago.

She gave me the most basic advice.
>I know it's difficult, but try to learn how to stop caring what people think about you so much
She said this to me multiple times over the past 2 months, until it finally stuck with me. And over the past few weeks, things have slowly started to get better.

Obviously, you can't change self-consciousness that's been engraved into your personality for years, in the blink of an eye. You can't magically just say you wont care anymore, then open your eyes and be a different person. But you can change it, as long as you push yourself to take the initial steps to get out of that box. After you get over those first bumps in starting the process, progress comes easier with time.

One of the biggest bumps getting past is over-thinking everything about how everyone thinks of you. You have to stop yourself from doing that, at least on a constant basis. If you start worrying about that shit sitting alone, just do anything to push it out of your mind. Pick up a hobby, play games, anything as long as it's something that takes your mind off things. Out in public/with friends and those thoughts come? Fuck it, don't think about what could or might be true, and focus on the reality happening before your eyes. Because every moment is fleeting and won't happen again.

As for going out and experiencing stuff and overcoming your fears of new things, same basic concept. Someone invites you out to do something new? Go with them, do it. If you start feeling apprehensive, notice it, catch yourself, and tell yourself this is something you need to do. As you go out and try new things, you may like or dislike some of them. But each is an experience - ones that will help you get used to being in social situations and make you more comfortable little by little.

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>>17204742
Oh boy, why does this sound like something I could've wrote...

>>17204966
I've heard a lot of this multiple times, but I think this is the best I've ever seen it put.

The problem is, I can never seem to pull off whatever mental gymnastics it's takes to distract myself/remove my anxieties from my mind. Once I start thinking about these things it feels like there's nothing I can do. I feel kinda powerless to my own mind.

No amount of "just do it" has helped me, even though eventually it seems to work for everyone else.

>>17204659
Communication

Have you tried initiating affection?

>>17204659
no, feel free to talk about it

its better to communicate than not to
you cant go wrong with it desu

>>17204627
rape her

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>>17204627
Take it as a lesson learned and move on.

Give her a reason to love you. Remind her why she loved you in the first place. Have you grown complacent in your relationship? Or do you put in legitimate effort to make it work?

especially because we are both good ar communicating and telling each other how we feel straight up and supporting our points of view. A few hours ago I found out why. Here comes the kicker; she has a mild kind of leukemia and she was basically told that it will be a miracle if she lives past 26. I knew she had a problem with her white cells, but she never said anything beyond a mild defficiency, that could be kept in check with very rare blood transfusions and medicine. Now I find this out. She broke down and told me all about it. That's why she wanted to get married, have kids etc. and basically "jolt" our relationship and lives 10 years into the future in the span of maybe 3. I wanna keep being with her, this shit sounds cheesy and lame every time I say it, but I am literally unable to find a flaw in her, and I have been actively trying to for a long time, at first just for the lulz and then as a small challenge to myself. But what will happen, especially if she does have a kid with me, is that she will most likely die before she even finishes breastfeeding, and I will be left, in my mid 20s, with a kid, a kid I will most likely enu up resenting because I will subconsciously blame it for taking my wife away, as a single dad, basically undate-able, and quite simply with a fucked up life.
CONT

>>17204605
Actual cont, sorry.

It always seemed strange to me how she couldn't give more of an argument why she wants them so early, especially because we are both good ar communicating and telling each other how we feel straight up and supporting our points of view.

A few hours ago I found out why. Here comes the kicker; she has a mild kind of leukemia and she was basically told that it will be a miracle if she lives past 26. I knew she had a problem with her white cells, but she never said anything beyond a mild defficiency, that could be kept in check with very rare blood transfusions and medicine. Now I find this out.

She broke down and told me all about it. That's why she wanted to get married, have kids etc. and basically "jolt" our relationship and lives 10 years into the future in the span of maybe 3.

I wanna keep being with her, this shit sounds cheesy and lame every time I say it, but I am literally unable to find a flaw in her, and I have been actively trying to for a long time, at first just for the lulz and then as a small challenge to myself. But what will happen, especially if she does have a kid with me, is that she will most likely die before she even finishes breastfeeding, and I will be left, in my mid 20s, with a kid, a kid I will most likely enu up resenting because I will subconsciously blame it for taking my wife away, as a single dad, basically undate-able, and quite simply with a fucked up life.

Cont.

>>17204629

cont

And I dont even want to talk about the kid. I grew up with only one parent and it fucked me up big time because too much of one thing is always bad, including the presence of only one kid of parent. Kids need both a male, more stern, goal oriented, logical, presence, and an empathic, motherly presence of a woman. And what will happen to the kid is exactly that, it will grow up with one parent, a not very good one at that, both because I am still going to be fresh outta college myself, and because the resentment that it will inevitably feel from me with time.

Quite simply it would fuck up both out lives. Fucking up the kid before he even gets a chance, especially since the kind of leukemia she has has an 80% chance to be passed down to the kid, setting him up for a short and shit life. And fucking me up too by effectively trapping me with said kid.

Problem is I still love her a fucking lot and it would kill me to just break up with her just like that.

tl;dr perfect gf, wants to get married and have kids, find out she has leukemia and will die as soon as she gives birth leaving me with the kid

What the fuck do I do now?

Walk up to him one day and tell him he's right. Then every time you see him say some 3edgy5me shit like "Nothing matters. There's no God. Life is suffering." Try to stare through him and look dead inside.

>>17204554
That's absurd. I don't want to seem like a loser myself. I just want her to stop talking about things that she knows upset me

>>17204564
Is she a legbeard or fat?

>>17204481
Standing in lines.

>>17204578
That does sound pretty fun

do mdma

>>17204477
Don't torrent

>>17204510
then how else will I get my programs illicitly?

>>17204518
Normal non torrent download links uploaded on pages like media fire, uploaded and mega.

general files is a good page to search stuff ...

Who's older?

As long as you care for eachother equally and its legal who cares what others say?
Just expect natural resistance from outsiders...and ensure u have the same end goals...

>>17204454
Just a number. Honestly maturity has much more weight in a relationship than age and since you're both well past your "primes" you should be gucci

>>17204417
I'm 32 and mine still doesn't connect. I just keep it short.

SHAVE SHAVE SHAVE. im 17. ive been able to grow a beard since 16. alls you gotta do is have. with a razor, even if there is no hair, if you shave, then it will irritiate the skin and force hair folicles to grow. i had a bald spot on my chin, kept shaving, then it grew in.

>>17204848
it didn't grow in because you shave it, it grew back because you developed. The whole "shaving makes your beard grow thicker" is absolute bullshit. "It irritates the skin and forces hair follicles to grow"? Did you read that in fucking Cosmo or something?

Just googling that will show a plethora of info on why that's false: https://www.google.com/webhp#q=shaving+beard+grow+back+thicker

As for OP, I would recommend going for about a month before you shave so long as it doesn't look obviously terrible. My beard doesn't really "connect" on the cheeks to the goatee like you said until about a month in, as my hair just kind of grows over that spot if it makes sense.

>>17204406
I dunno. I've never cum from a blowjob, but I came in pussy all the time. I just find it better, I guess.

Maybe he's like that too?

First, you need to stop blaming yourself and feel selfish. You put in all the effort you could, so you're not selfish. You were selfish if you were enjoying what you get and not try to reciprocate it. Guys have different sensitivity. How is it easy for him to cum?

Difficult, apparently. Takes him like an hour to come when he masturbates.

>>17204348
Leave him and don't give it a second thought. Your relationship can't be salvaged and you're doomed for failure. If you got one you can get another.

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It was wrong of him. If he told you he wants to be you and fucked you, sidefucking an ex tells a lot about his personality and how he manages things.
Leave him and find soneone honest and respectful.

>>17204369
>honest and respectful
>implying OP's BF isn't
Men sleep with women all the time. Doesn't mean there was any emotional backing to it. It's clearly not cheating since they weren't official either.

OP it's fine you got upset. But you should forgive him on one condition: no contact with that ex. And you're golden.

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Comedy. Why do you think so many of the best comedians have had a lot of mental suffering? Because when you hate yourself and everything looks black, comedy can pick you up and change your day around.

I'm not saying become a comedian, but just get really into comedy. Laugh your ass off every day, you'll feel better

>>17204311

It takes 10,000 hours at a certain skill to become really good at that skill.

If you apply yourself for two hours a day, 7 days a week, that's 14 hours a week or 730 hours a year or 7,300 hours in a decade.

and that is not much at all. Fuck you probably do more shitposting in a day than you would practicing in a week.

If a decade is too long for you, simply up the number of hours you need to work a week. You can probably do at least 30 hours+ if you really wanted too, which is the 10k goal in about 6 years.

Also, you are comparing your bloopers to everyone else's highlight reel. You are like the fat chick watching a really fit chick eat a slice of cake and blaming genetics, rather than paying attention and realizing she busts her ass at 5 in the morning and eats clean 99% of the time.

Stop being the fat chick. Stop being depressed. You are depressed because you have time to be depressed.

Either put in the work to git gud or keep being sad. Those are your options.

>>17204327
Nigga it's 1000 hours. 10,000 hours is like 417 days worth of time. No one spends that kind of time doing something.

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Here are my shitty brainstorms:

>redhead hunter
>snazzy&jazzy
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>6 million jews
>entrepreneur_guy420