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>bored and depressed
>decide to better life
>spend time figuring out a real career choice, pick
>go to training
>meanwhile find a qt and start building a long term relationship
>rocky path, but finish training
>get into a stable place with qt, spend 1.5 years together
>pursue my creative interests
>get a job in my field that pays well
Barely months in, I am now bored of the job, I broke up with qt because I am bored and depressed in her presence; we've been off and on since then because she wants to be with me, but I miss her when I'm not with her and feel trapped when I am. I'm making money but I am living for my days off, and on my days off I don't know what to do cause I'm tired of my creative output and don't feel fulfilled, even though people seem to enjoy it and say I'm getting good.
What the fuck now? I'm a bored, depressed sack of shit whenever I'm not just playing games or sports with friends for some slight respite.
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One bump.
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what career did you en up getting into?
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>>17208804
Welder.
whats the cure for lazy
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self disgust
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A good ass kicking from life
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Passion
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My husband is developing a huge beer gut and back fat, and it's really turning me off. He's 32, about 5'10", and now weighs nearly 230 lbs. He used to be around 175-180 lbs. Even his dick looks smaller now.
I've always been thin (5'9" and 135 lbs) and I count calories and work out regularly.
He used to be in good shape and worked out/lifted weights daily. But now he drinks alcohol way too much (6 or more drinks in a night), eats constantly, and doesn't work out anymore.
I make healthy low-calorie dinners, but afterward he'll just eat more junk food (that he buys) and drink more beer. I've pointed out how much additional calories he's eating just from the alcohol alone, and how he needs to cut back from drinking because of health reasons. I try to suggest that he works out with me, but he just doesn't do anything to get in better shape. He cut back the drinking by a couple drinks per day, but now smokes weed again (which I don't care, but it's the fact that he's always replacing one vice with another). He can't ever be completely sober.
The thought of fucking him grosses me out. Whenever we do fuck, it's a chore, and I only do it to satisfy him. I close my eyes and think of other men to get through it.
I don't want to hurt his feelings but I'm losing my attraction towards him. I know it sounds superficial, but it bothers me that he's let himself go already and isn't doing anything to change it. I want him to be healthy, and not turn into a fat sack of shit that will die of a heart attack when he's in his 40s.
Should I just be blunt about it? What should I say to him that will finally sink in?
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>He can't ever be completely sober.
and you're worried about the fact that he's fat? he's probably gonna kill himself before he dies of a heart attack, it sounds like he's going through depression or some other mental illness. not caring about how you look when you previously did and acquiring a casual drinking habit is pretty blunt as far as symptoms go.
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>What should I say to him that will finally sink in?
>The thought of fucking him grosses me out. Whenever we do fuck, it's a chore, and I only do it to satisfy him. I close my eyes and think of other men to get through it.
>I don't want to hurt his feelings but I'm losing my attraction towards him.
You have to hurt his feelings. Some hurt feelings are good now and then.
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Of course I'm worried about this as well. It bothers me just as much, if not more, than him being fat. I've talked to him about him always needing to be on something and he always dismisses it. I've mentioned that he should go on an anti-depressant but he just makes excuses about "not being able to get off work and go to the doctor," which is bullshit. He could easily get off of work if he wanted to.
My girlfriend and I usually get along very well, but there's this one argument that we seem to have again and again.
We're both seniors in high school who just graduated, and we both did theater.
There's this one girl in our theater department, Anna, who's a great singer and actor, but my girlfriend despises her. She hates that our director gave leads to Anna instead of her, and she thinks that Anna is a terrible singer and actor.
A few months ago, my girlfriend asked me if she thought that Anna was a better singer than her. I do think Anna is a better singer, and I don't think my girlfriend is a very good singer. I didn't answer the question, but she knew that I thought Anna was a better singer. We got in a big argument over it.
My girlfriend never let this go. She'll bring up how bad of a singer Anna is ALL THE TIME, and will say that it makes her feel bad that I think Anna is a better singer. After some time I just submitted to her and lied, saying that I thought she's better than Annna.
I love my girlfriend so much, but this argument that she keeps rehashing gets on my goddam nerves. I just want her to let it go.
I need advice.
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>>17208618
you need to actually tell her because you're not lying to anyone at this point the next time she brings it up. and just tell her how you feel about her, like actually make sure you use words and emotion in your voice and body language.
also it gets better in college
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here's a recording of Anna singing "hopelessly devoted" from Grease:
http://vocaroo.com/i/s1R3imtAtTvu
Is she the worst singer you've ever heard or is she decent?
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>>17208618
the correct response is:
i like your singing better than hers.
Take it from someone who's been married a long time. Don't fight it, don't say what you think. It's not worth the fight.
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Is it normal that my dad is flirting with me?
Well i'm a gay guy 19 years old, he's been doing it since i was 16, It makes me really uncomfortable to be around him, i can't even eat dinner with him. But i mean dads do that with their daughters right?
Maybe i should mention that he has a alcohol problem/addition that he's had for years. He drinks daily and is often drunk on weekdays, but he works everyday. I read somewhere that alcoholism can lead to ''dangerous flirting''
All in all what i want to know is if it's normal?
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>>17208592
You should let him hit that, as he has been understanding. Be a good son! Hell, he'll probably just take it anyway, if he is stronger than you.
Seriously though, I wouldn't stress it, as it is normal, if disconcerting, behavior. To a point.
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>>17208601
wtf
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no its not
Pic not really related but I could use the advice.
My GF has gotten really over sensitive and obsessed with me. This relationship has gotten way too paternal, she called me 2 minutes after leaving my apartment in tears crying about how she missed me. What're my options here? How do I approach her about it or let her down easy if I have to?
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>>17208569
Sit her down and explain how you're feeling.
Tell her that it's cute that she wants to be around you all the time, but you need your own space.
See how she handles it.
Is there anything going on in her life that might have caused her to act like this?
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>>17208590
She still lives with her parents (she's 21) but her mother acts like a tyrant. She's allowed to see me once a week for four hours that day. The rest of the time she wants my attention whenever she can get it. Thinks if I have free time I should use it skyping her. She doesn't really have to many friends besides myself and she doesn't really ever leave her house because her bitch mother won't let her
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>>17208569
she seems very insecure, being without you probably gives her tons of anxiety. She should go to a therapist because she probably feels anxious in many parts of her life. Dating someone with anxiety is difficult because you will have to reassure her a lot, but if you really care for her and can take this on it is worth standing by her as long as she makes the effort to improve her behavior. Just avoid enabling her, if she gets scared and starts taking away your free time do not reward the behavior by complying with demands, just say no. Saying no to her demands will get her more comfortable with being scared and she will eventually calm down in the face of anxiety with time.
What do I do if I literally sweat from my armpits all day long. It depends on my mood but I'm always depressed and anxious. I literally can't do anything or go anywhere because every time I lift up my arm I feel a cold shock when I put it back down. I mean I felt great today and then I almost ran a stop sign and all of a sudden i kept sweating. I remember one time I had sex and felt really relaxed and good I didn't sweat all day the next day. Once I start sweating I get more anxious about it and I just start stressing and it makes me sweat more. I literally can't even live life because of it it just won't stop
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Sounds like it's probably just an anxiety issue if there's no problem when you're feeling chill. Maybe talk to a doctor. Hit the problem at the source, don't treat the symptom.
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You may have hyperhidrosis. If you go to a dermatologist they can help you control it. Im sure the anxiety you have doesn't help it either though.
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cauterize armpits with a hot iron
or just go to the doctor
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I was in the bus, a girl was sitting next to me and we never talked because we don't know each other, in the moment she stands up to get down the bus, she gives me a paper with her number, that's badass.
I need something funny to tell her, I was thinking of something like "You're the first girl that gives me her number without asking for it first" Idk, something that could give her a good smile.
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>>17208449
Trying to say something clever could backfire and make you look silly, it's a lot safer to just be a normal person and tell her that you think she's incredible.
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If the pick is related consider the following.
I want to ram my dick in your ass and pull it out your mouth.
Or you could say hi.
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>>17208449
Please for the love of god do not tell her you think she is incredible. That is the most autistic thing I've ever fucking heard in my whole life.
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Any advice on keeping a convo going? I know a great convo needs 2 or more active, interested participants, but im tired of sitting next to someone i want to talk to and i have nothing on my mind. I also kno trying to force a convo just to clear the awkward silence is just as bad as no convo, but fuck i hate feeling like i could be really developing a connection with someone and im just stuck thinking about it instead of just being able to do it.
Am i just str8 up autistic? Introverted? Sometimes i just feel like I'm too constantly self aware and in my own head to get engrossed in a conversation. Helll, it even makes it hard for me to enjoy getting high nowadays. I feel like I'm too self aware to enjoy life nowadays, I'm just getting in the way of myself getting lost in life cause im looking at it through a microscope.
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Maybe you should be less of a fag.
If you've got nothing interesting to talk about with whomever you want to talk to maybe you're just not interesting and should shut the fuck up.
If both parties are interested in eachother a convo will happen regardless of how socially retarded you are.
Find out whatever the other person is interested in and get interested in that aswel and just bring it up. A really bad pun often helps.
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Your welcome
U want it?
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Obligatory: OP is a fag
I kinda feel like I'm going crazy.
A couple years ago I discovered LSD and since then I've done it probably less than a dozen times.
I have a few friends who've done LSD with me, but recently we've started drifting apart. I feel like the friends that I have now cannot empathize with my psychedelic experiences because they've never had them.
My girlfriend has never done LSD and I've been very open with her about my experiences, and she's very understanding, but part of me knows she will never truly know what I've seen.
It makes me feel like I'm crazy and that my experiences are sort of invalidated if no one else can relate to them. I feel alone in my head and that I can't connect in the way that I want to without people thinking I'm insane.
Has anyone else gone through this?
Any advice?
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>>17208394
Psychedelics aren't as special as you think they are.
t. former heavy drug user
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Anon, as someone who has been sober from psychedelics for over a year, I can say that they have given me permanent anxiety. I got /really/ far out there this one time and died, and was awoken in a field of light and ecstasy by close friends and family of mine. It was like a near death experience.. where I saw everyone I knew around me saying that if only they could've helped me cope with my drug and alchohol abuse I might have lived. After waking up I decided it was essential to sober up. Although nobody will ever understand my experiences, it has been an important journey for me to return to the world of sobriety and improve myself with hard work and daily achievements.
TL;DR - Everyone learns different lessons on LSD, mine was that it was in my best interest to sober up
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>>17208394
I don't understand. If the experience was worthwhile for the experience itself, why do you need others to understand it?
If it has any relevance outside of the experience, then why do you struggle to portray its relevance to those around you?
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2 months till wedding, something's off. She's staying all nighty with her female "friends", not coming home.
Looks like a cuck pro situation, go for asshole move and check her facebook.
Lots of gold material, she talks with her female pal that she fucks some other guy, that she's making a mistake marrying "nice guy" gamer. That his devotion is cute and lovely. Female friend says she has to fuck the guys she wants not the guys who are nice.
Save whole conversation on desktop, she will find it once she gets back.
Go to work like a proper "nice guy" cuck should do.
She discovers it
Blame calls first how asshole and unfair I am
Then that she loves me and that all of is untrue and she was only trying to impress her friends and she loves only me and so on.
The guy is her ex and is fucking 10 years older. Her academic lecturer.
She says that nothing ever happened.
What is the probability she is not lying this time?
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oreover she posed a suicide threat on me through phone and I had to call police and firefighters from workplace.
Of course, all was alright at place.
So much drama, how to play it cleverly? Any ideas?
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She's a liar and is only worried about her reputation and not you. Her first response shows you the type of person she is. She will try to turn things around to make it seem that you're the one doing wrong. I hate these kind of people.
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Cut your losses.
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>last night
>ex comes over
>has a new bf
>tells me she misses me
>cries while were fucking and tells me she loves me
>after we fuck just staring at each other
>both crying
>tells me she wants to sleep over
>tells me she wants to snuggy
>walk her to car
>shes really crying now
>gives me a hug and says "I love you best friend"
>kisses me on the cheek
>grab her and kiss on lips
>says bye as shes bawling her eyes out
today
>not coming over or doing anything with me
>say one thing and she says stop texting me
what the fuck just happened. this is like the 3rd time doing this exact shit and im getting sick of it.
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>>17208336
She used you, kid.
And you're too much of pussy to be a man and tell trashbag skanks to fuck off.
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>>17208339
is she worth confronting about her bullshit?
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>>17208336
I had a similar thing happen to me a few weeks ago with an ex. Haven't heard from her since. It's manipulation.
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What other anonymous sites are there similar to 4chan but with a better community? i have been coming here for about 2 years, maybe a bit less. The negative, elitist, edgy attitude of this site is not funny to me anymore, i think its childish. This is the only site i know where people have good discussions. Reddit is even worse because its just one big circle jerk.
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>>17208290
4chan is childish because of the anonymity while reddit is a circle jerk because of the influence of votes. Community driven sites like 4chan and reddit are so addictive because we use them to escape actually interacting with people. Spend more time around real people and you will stop feeling a need to come back to these sites.
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i keep looking for the same thing. it seems like the old saying is true and the internet really is just an ocean of piss.
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>>17208290
Fuck you, newfag. If you don't get it either lurk moar or kill yourself lol ebin amirite
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Has any femanons had a copper iud put in?
How did you handle the pain of it?
I tried to get the procedure done and had to stop it because it hurt so bad.
Does anyone have some advice to just get through it?
Even some anons with gfs that have gone through it?
I'm really scared of failing again bc of pain.
Thanks, /adv/!
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>>17208203
I'll bump because I'm interested as well.
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>shameless bump
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>>17208203
I don't have one, but I have read that you should take a few painkillers 30 minutes before the procedure, because it will sting and pinch a bit. You'll also cramp up after it's in place, but as long as you've taken some painkillers it shouldn't be too bad. Good luck OP
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I told some people about an experience I had and they all said it was rape but I'm not sure I agree. I just want to understand the definition.
I had said to my boyfriend several times I didn't want to have sex and that I wanted to go to sleep. I said no very clearly. I don't mind if he uses my body to get off but I didn't want to have penetrative sex because I was tired and not aroused, which means sex can rip my vagina and make sex feel like sandpaper. I made it clear that I didn't want to have penetrative sex. But he kept putting his penis in a little bit and then I'd get annoyed and say no, and every time he insisted that it was an accident. But I was starting to feel like it's bullshit, clearly not an accident. So the last time he does it I get visibly frustrated and angry and say "no, I don't want to do this, I told you I don't want to have penetrative sex". Then I decide to go to sleep and go completely limp, wait until he stops. I knew there was a possibility he would try to enter me and I thought, I'll see if it's really an accident. He noticed I wasn't responding or moving, because he asked if I was ok, but I just ignored him and tried to sleep. I was just really annoyed, but thought to myself, fuck you if you choose to do this. Then a few minutes later he entered me completely, ejaculated, and went to sleep. But I could've stopped him at any time by saying no again, at least temporarily. I could've shoved him off me. I was just so annoyed that he wasn't respecting my numerous original nos. I was limp the entire time, but not frozen. I was in control.
I felt annoyed because he was always saying that entering me a little bit was an accident. So I told some people and they say this is rape. But I do not feel raped, just annoyed. How is it a rape if I could've said no (again and again) and he would've stopped each time? I knew I was giving up and that him entering me was a possibility. I don't get it.
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>>17208065
>he would've stopped each time? I knew I was giving up
Was he really stopping before? Come on.
Rape doesn't have to be a traumatic experience. It's non consensual sex. He had sex with you without your consent. You made it abundantly clear that you did NOT consent. How could giving up and not saying anything be interpreted as you suddenly consenting?
Rape is about consent, not about the presence of a "no". It's "yes means yes".
Consent can be given non verbally, but that is absolutely not the case here.
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>>17208065
why are you still with this jackass
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>>17208093
He stopped trying to enter me. I didn't mind groping or anything like that. It was like 2-3 minutes between each time he tried to enter me after saying no. If I'd said no after he entered me completely, I am pretty sure he would've taken it out. Basically, if I'd kept saying no the sex wouldn't have happened.