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You contracted HIV, yet somehow your self-esteem is still your biggest flaw. Christ.

>>17205950
I think my self-esteem is right where it should be.

>>17205937
I want to help you OP but I'm socially awkward and would say something like "I'm only looking for a friend" and have her say something like "Who'd want to be anything more than friends with -you-? Hahaha" so no advice to give but I feel for you, I probably wouldn't be able to handle your situation.

How about just fucking go?

>>17205956
Worried that if I just go, Im not going to be welcome when I get back. I feel as though she would send me to a psychiatrist if she doesnt make my dad throw me out

Wait, you beat cancer or your mom?
Either way you shouldn't be scared of getting kicked out, just go.

You'd be surprised what you do or don't regret. I have only been with a single girl my entire life and I give zero fucks. I love her and she loves me, and its been almost a decade - I quite literally never slept around or did any "normal" dating or partying, and I am perfectly happy with my choices.

However your doubts indicate you may not think like me. So you need to rely on your own judgement, which is somewhat outside the realm of advice we can give.

>>17205908

Agreed. I'm someone who had the same doubts. I cheated on my girlfriend for awhile, got that out of my system, and went on with my life. It's up to OP on what he really wants out of life.

>>17205888
realize that FOMO is for fucking chumps. Society expects young men to sleep around for no reason but it doesn't have to be that way. Some people are lucky enough to get it right the first time.

That being said, you are still really young and 16 months is like nothing. You, your girl, or your relationship can still change. If there's nothing wrong with your current relationship, just ride it out and see where it goes. It's not like you're getting married or anything.

Don't avoid growing up. You have one adolescence, there's no need to extend it into adulthood. Become a man when the time comes, or you'll fall behind in life because no one else is going to wait for you.

It's kinda personal though.

As for me - i never did confess love or ask someone to be my girlfriend. I prefer enjoying the heat of the moment, and by my actions and words, she gets the message.

>>17205899
Well she trust me allot on many things, but eh your right.
So your saying I should try to point it out without saying it? It really doesn't matter if I date her or not, I just like to be her friend.
>Also dubs

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last bump for the night.

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friends? :(

just be depressed like me, anon. i have the same problem but i don't feel sad about it.

>>17205870
Eating spinach for some reason always helps with that. It feels weird that it works but it does.

It's too late to confront him if you're already at home posting this. Now you'd just look like a salty bitch. Next time stand up for yourself and call him out in front of everyone. There has to be a limit on how much you're willing to sell your pride.

>>17205867
Your fucking manager left you no tip?
Holy shit, that might be worth getting fired over.

But, if you want to avoid that, be direct without being confrontational. Something like, "Hey, just to let you know, even if your meal gets comped, it's pretty standard to leave a tip anyway. I did serve you just like I'd serve any other customer."

HOPEFULLY the guy realises he fucked up and apologises. Even if he doesn't, firing you for the audacity to ask for a bloody tip would be so fucked up I'd like to think that he wouldn't do it.

>>17205867

Just take care of your other tables first next time and get around to him when convenient for you. If he gives you shit just say that you were putting the customer first. If he gets particularly saucy just point out in earshot of another manager that you focus on customers that tip.

He will be a fucking pussy and back down because that is what bullies do. If he threatens you with firing tell him to go ahead and that your cousin is an attorney specializing in labor law.

If he still fires you then make an anonymous phone call to the state inspection board and complain about cockroaches, they will do a surprise inspection and make his life shit.

Basically you just keep escalating the situation to face the guy as far as he wants to take it.

Never take shit though, EVER. You don't need the job as bad as you think you do.

>>17205864
>Not just a girl...
But she is. Take her off that pedestal, buddy.

He swooped in not giving a shit for your feelings, who gives a flying fuck about his feelings? If he throws a bitchfit over it when he is in what should be a happy relationship, he is shit friend material.

Just go for it.

>>17205886
>He swooped in not giving a shit for your feelings
I'm pretty sure OP never made it clear he liked her, given that he hasn't even talked to her

Go and make sure to talk about how you took your girlfriend to pound town the night before.

>>17205869
Why would she care about that?

>>17205863
Go. Just go.

You won't get the girl, but maybe you'll get a nice chat.

>>17205811
Korea's greatest treasures are boats and airplanes. They're highly valued because they allow one to leave the shithole that is the Korean Peninsula.

The treasures of Korea are the culture you fucking idiot. They don't mean literal treasure. Talk about a particular aspect of it that you are really looking forward to (food, kpop, historic site, whatever).

>>17205811
Here, watch this thing about Conan O'brien visiting Korea. It's hilarious but also strangely insightful because they go out of their way to show him what it's all about. You might learn some Korean too since they try to teach him.

http://teamcoco.com/korea

Alcohol will only get you drunk. You're responsible for ruining your life.

>doesn't communicate properly
>is surprised when girlfriend wants to break up because you can't communicate properly

nothing you can do but save your honour and pride. if she does break up, you're going to be depressed as fuck. at least now you have the advantage of seeing it coming, so you can have a fucking spine and not go crawling back - it'll only make you cringe years down the line when you're over it. everybody has breakups the least you can do is save face

>>17205728
I see... That's true. I don't open up much.
>>17205734
How do I deal with it though? I don't want to crawl back asking to be with her again. What if I get so depressed that I just make stupid decisions?

Just start talking to them about anything. It can seem hard to think of topics of conversation, but there are actually a lot of them, so think it over. At uni you can start off by asking things related to what you study, for example. Ideally, you want to get the other person talking about things they like (themselves usually works nicely), which normally means they're enjoying the conversation.

The one thing to be careful about is that you don't want to bother people or even seem creepy. Notice what they're doing and they're mood and don't talk to them if look busy or not in the mood for small talk.

In the end, all that can really help you is to practice. Practice talking to people and try making friends. Once you have friends, you can ask THEM for advice on talking to people.

>>17205750
I mainly have problems telling when other people want to talk. I can't read their body language that well. If someone sits next to me on the bus or in line for food or something I can't really read em

>>17205825
Like I said, nothing can replace experience. The best you can do is try to put yourself in their shoes, but that's often not enough. You just have to try it out: sometimes it will go well, sometimes it will go badly and you will learn from it.

I mean, I've got a few friends I connect with but it's kind of a nice bonus to have a friend you connect with that you're also down to plow with? Idk. I miss feeling like I'm in love with someone, I miss feeling like I have an "other half" of sorts. I have a lot of friends I can talk pretentious crap about, but... you know. It's different when it's someone you know you could reach for on a more-than-platonic level.

I suppose talking to him about changing his behaviour hasn't done any good?

>>17205680
Not much, really... We've had long, peaceful sit downs talking about how I don't care for his drinking problem / bar hopping and we've even had a few fights about it that had me spending the weekend with my family a few towns over (because I just did not want to be in the same house as him.)

It's crap. I don't want to leave him, but right now the more I think about it the more I feel like he's a lost cause. I'm still very in love with a person that, y'know, I don't think he wants to be anymore.

>>17205648
What's in it for me?

>>17205651
I don't know, what do you want?

>>17205656
What can you offer me?

What?

>>17205633
Basically, do Detox drinks work? if so, which ones?

Are you on probation?

Detox drinks don't work. Every single one has the same instructions: Drink lots of water, drink this, continue drinking lots of water. All it does it dilute your urine in the hopes that the ppm or whatever of THC in your urine is under the threshold for failing. It's snake oil...

If you're on probation then using some synthetic or subbing someone's piss is out of the question because you'll be watched.