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> 21 year old
> Not virgin
> Sorry bad english Argentinian-fag here
I cant feel passion for anything. When I was 16 I wrote tales, read books, read wiki, watched movies, tryed to learn everything because I was interested in everything. But now I dont feel interest in anything, I just feel hollow. I am in 3rd in Software engineer but I cant study anymore because I dont care of having a good life, or money or knowledge itself. I just feel like the apogee of my life has gone and I can only keep living hollow. I dont want that, how can I change it?
I spend all my days just sitting in my computer scrolling through facebook not-caring about anything and not thinking at all, I not going to class, and everytime I go I feel like I know nothing and I dont care to learn eaither. I dont want to file like this anymore, please help.
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Hello fellow argentinian. Buenas, que tal.
I went through the same thing. Im still going through it. Therapy helps a lot.
Is there something you allways wanted to do but didnt get around to it? Like an instrument or something.
Te re entiendo. Se va el brillo. Pero en realidad sigue ahí man. Bajate mucha musica nueva o algo así. Es fácil y te mueve.
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Thanks a lot capo
I would like to get some professional help but atm I am poor as fuck, so im trying to look for a job, leave college and perhaps my life starts getting better.
The thing is that I am like this for like 2 years now, and day by day is getting worse, so I thing that I need some serious change in my life.
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Bumping for thread recognition. 'Murica-fag here looking for the same answers.
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I don't know why this is happening.. but
I keep having dreams about cheating on my partner. Almost every night. It's not all sex dreams, most are just I'm spending time with a new girl and having a blast.
We moved in together three months ago and she's let herself go and I keep getting attention from girls. I was driving and some girls flagged me down only to tell me I was cute. Then I drove by some girl on campus and she rolled her hips and butt at me. Then girls keep contacting me on fb despite me clearly being in a relationship. I have a lot of temptation from girls that look good at the moment. It's driving me crazy. What do?
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>>17205603
Maybe you aren't happy and your subconscious is trying to tell you through dreams that you're looking for more stuff.
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Maybe spice things up with her or something?
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I keep having dreams where people I know come to my home and beat me until I die
They mean nothing
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what is the point in not being a neet? most people normal people are unhappy anyway, the only difference is that they momentarily cover it up with materialism, and drugs. most normal people are cucks, they are spending most of their time working just so they can live, what is the point? especially if they have kids, they have even less time.
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>>17205600
The sense of achievement is the ultimate feeling
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>>17205600
no point because you die anyways. You have awoken, OP.
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>>17205600
If you have a job that you actually have passion for it's a pretty great time. If you just do it for the money it's definitely a slow mental suicide.
As for being a neet, you can either do it by leeching off your parents or getting tismbux.
People who leech off their parents are absolute cancer in my opinion, along with the parents who enable.
The people who qualify for autismbux are usually neets anyway.
I use coke just about every weekend partying with friends and have occasional urges or cravings to use during the week. I also have mild depression after a night of using. Do you think I'm addicted and need to be concerned?
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Yes. Fucking stop doing coke dude, you've had the experience now stop destroying your body.
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>>17205553
yes. coke is dangerous
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>>17205556
I get the urge to use coke every time I drink alcohol. I don't think I can stop drinking alcohol completely. Idk what to do
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So I've decided: I'm out.
I'm a burden on those around me and utterly pathetic.
What do I need to do in my last few days to make the transition easier for my family? How long does it take to write a will and have it go into effect? Any recommendations for the method? I was planning on using helium, but I'm not too sure.
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Nothing will make the process easier on your family. Absolutely nothing. They will blame themselves, and will destroy your family from the inside out.
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>>17205543
This, Anon. Even if you're an objectively shitty person for the rest of your life, it won't change anything. Just don't kill yourself.
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>>17205543
My family has dealt with worse. I live far away from my real family anyway. I'm just leeching off of my bf's family. It's not the same.
>>17205554
Come on 4chan, this isn't like you. I've already made my decision. It's just that I've never done anything right in my life. I want to fuck up at least this as little as possible.
Memes aside, is it actually possible to pull off a fedora?
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>>17205531
No, because even if it was possible to look good in one, the meme now makes it look stupid on anyone.
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>>17205531
no, once you put on a fedora it merges with your head and can never be removed
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>>17205531
only if you live in the 1920s
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I'm failing one of my subjects hard (sitting at 30%) and I have an exam tomorrow. I haven't even looked at this subject in about a month or shown up to classes in the last two. Should I show up to the exam and get a fail, or can I just settle for the Unit Incomplete?
I don't think I can pull 70% out of my ass writing in a language I know nothing about.
I feel guilty about it somewhat but also it is probably too late to do anything about it.
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I have been in this situation before. I was a 3.8gpa student in college. But when my depression and anxiety finally hit crippling and suicidal levels I didn't go to any classes. I do know though having pulled some grades back outta my ass and not been able to for others. I would say for you it depends how long till the class is over. Have you looked at what you would need to get on all the remaining work and exams and papers and everything to end up with a C in the class? If you do that and its like you will need a 99%—100%+ then sometimes you just have to cut your losses and not go. Use the time to get ready for the class again or do what you need to to feel well.
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Take the exam, take the f, take it again next semester and pass.
This was a language course you said? With those you CAN NOT skip classes ever and you need to practice every single day. You really shouldn't be skipping class at all, think about how many thousands of dollars you pay (or more likely your parents pay) just for you to blow it off.
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Same guy as the previous reply. Don't very yourself up for not going if you decide to do that or even if you decide to go. If there isn't a way for you to pass it even if you go and get good grades on the rest of the stuff. Then it's only fair for yourself and the professor for you not to go. You got this. Don't let this eat you up. Shit happens and everyone has a bad semester/s/class/time where the foul up their grades. Let's you ew focus and get your self lined up to crush it after!
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What contributes to an anti-fwb mindset?
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I'm not looking for a FWB thing with anyone, that's not what this is about. A few years ago I was going to start one with a girl, but thought against it. But I'm curious
I've been told that women think about sex as much as men. Okay. Sounds good. I've met enough girls that it makes obvious sense. But I've met so many guys that are willing to have a FWB thing with a girl if she wanted to as well.
I know that most girls ARE NOT okay with the idea of that (Even if they're attracted to the guy) because of reasons of
>Complicating friendships
>"He just thinks of me as a piece of meat and nothing more"
>Etc
But what I'm curious about, and am hoping that someone here can elaborate, is what CONTRIBUTES to that mindset?
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Girls probably aren't as into the idea because of the "slut" social stigma.
As for what contributes to the mindset: I'm not particularly romantic (at least at this point in my life), so the FWB scenario appeals to me because it would mean I could relieve my sex drive with a woman instead of my hand. That's it, really.
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That's the only other reason I could think of, that the "slut" stigma would deter them.
So do they get offended by "He wants me for sex and I'm bothered by that." or "He thinks I'm a slut so he thinks he has a chance of having sex with me?"
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>>17205609
>do they
Everyone's different, desu. Both of your statements are true for some people, as well as those who don't care and are into having as much sex as they can.
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I have been bitter and cynical for a while about relationships and also my job prospects and future career. This especially flares up when I experience rejection (in a competition and especially if I run in to someone who has rejected me romantically). It's not like I want to be bitter and have all these stressful and negative feelings but I can't help it. Even if I tell myself to calm down, shit happens, not everyones perfecft blah blah blah it doesn't change the way I feel. Recently it occurred to me that maybe I'm so bitter because when I'm not in like the top 3 or when I'm reminded of someone who has rejected me it reminds me of how much I hate and don't value myself. That I'm not good enough and if they are doing well after rejecting me then they're just proving to me that I wasn't good enough then and I'm not good enough now and they were right to reject me for whatever it was. I barely see any redeeming qualities about myself and the ones I do see are superficial and downplayed, because honestly there's probably a billion other people out there with those qualities, they're basically expectations. Like today a paper I'm on was submitted to a journal for review and all I can think about is "my name being on that paper doesn't mean much, my boss did all the thinking for it, I just did a couple of things he could have done if he felt like it. It's nothing special. I lucked out."
TL;DR - how can I stop hating and devaluing myself so much. When I'm reminded of people who rejected me it reminds me that I wasn't and am not good enough. Ever. And if I see them succeed it just reinforces to me that they were right about me not being good enough and were right to reject my worthless ass.
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>>17205517
You said it yourself, there are a billion other people out there and when shit goes right for you then yeah if you really peel away the layers you will see that luck plays into it much more than hard work and talent.
Do you think Mark Zuckerberg was a truly spectacular person? He was a mediocre PHP programmer in the right fucking place at the right fucking time meeting the right fucking people.
2 parts luck, 1 part hard work/talent
So embrace this fact and realize that you are average and life is just throwing dice. I am a slightly above average guy with a 120 IQ and I surround myself with smart people, roll the dice, and sometimes I look stupid but sometimes I get lucky and people think I am smarter and more successful than I really am. In reality I am a big fraud.
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>>17205517
cont...
Here is how it is for me. I am a white male born into a middle class family and all the advantages of being a white male. I received an inheritance that paid for my university education and a sizable portion for a down payment on a nice house. I guessed what I should do for a living and got lucky. I made some smart job hops and now am relatively successful.
I know people much smarter than me and objectively better people of myself that were far more deserving, but that isnt how life works. Yeah it is not fair.
But knowing that is a strength you see. It means that when you lose a competition or you aren't selected then you know as long as you put that 1 part of hard work/smart choices, that luck just didnt play your way that day.
Know that even a dumb fuck like yourself can get lucky and be perceived as a winner. Happens all the time. Happened to me.
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>Eat lunch/dinner with female friend every now and then, no real signs of flirting I think
>does tell me about how she's been on a dry spell, we both want a casual relationship as general relationship goals. Shared something about our fetishes once.
>We also go drinking at clubs/bars
>When she gets drunk she touches me, but not around my legs, guides me around by holding my hand, locks arms with me, touches my face, rests her face on my chest/shoulder, but never tries to kiss me or do anything really intimatem talks about her dry spell and how she hasn't slept with anyone in a long time more when she's drunk
>one night when we went out she told another female friend something along the lines of "oh man Im desperate to fuck someone" then her eyes were pointed at me for a couple of seconds. After that we walked for a good 10 mins arms locked on the way back to the train station as the group was a bit far ahead
>Another night of drinking I end up at her house waiting for an uber, we end up talking about how the fuck we were supposed to meet people, we get on how we met and she tells me "i really like you (p sure she meant this as a friend), you're so fun :^)"
>Another night of drinking, I say something along the lines of "boohoo im not that attractive" and she just says "but you're cute".
It feels p pathetic remembering this shit, like none of this is actually significant and I'm just mistaking these as signs. Does any of this actually mean anything? Is this just normal for female friends?
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If shes doing passive aggressive shit you should avoid her even if she is into you. That's a sign that she is the kind of type that would fuck a guy while drunk and then claim she was raped the next day. She is entitled and enjoys power games for control more than creating a connection for trust and enjoying people's company.
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>>17205516
I'm incredibly dense socially and don't see any of this.
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>>17205516
The fuck man
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I need advice /b/ I'm, in a real pickle.
So I've always liked this one girl since middle school. Asked her out twice in middle school and once in freshman year of high school. All times I got rejected, but we are still good friends. We hang out n stuff. Recently she told me that she used to like me in either sophomore or senior year but never told me. Eventually she just didn't find me attractive yet again. At some point she DID find me attractive though. Now I'm wondering if I should go for her now, but that would mean I would end a 3 year relationship with my dearly beloved waifu who has never shown a single ounce of disloyalty. I would feel terrible leaving her in the dust now. What do I do?
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I'll tell you straight out, DONT. If you were in like a 3 month relationship, then sure, fuck it, go for it. But basically throwing away 3 years of your life for a bet, it's not worth it man.
Try to see if you can get her as a side chick, do that, see for a few months if it works, and them make a decision. My advice would be if you can get this girl on the side, keep her on the side for at least 6 months before making a decision, people change in a relationship.
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>>17205538
Pretty sure he is being a weeb and talking about an anime character
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>>17205490
>I need advice /b/
Why don't you ask them then.
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Help me , I am falling into madness. Current study year is over. So I'm turning into a NEET. I am sitting at home almost all the time (besides the workouts I have 3 times a week) and only briefly speak to my friends(through PC) when they have time. I am very bored and have no ambition to do anything, I realised that university life was my whole life,and since I am living alone I can't even talk to my parents. Help me /adv/ ,or I will soon become mad.
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>>17205475
same problems here. have you tried setting up shit to do with your friends?
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>>17205487
They are all busy at the moment ,cuz some of them still have exams and some of them work
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>>17205493
i suggest doing some productive shit for the time being until your friends have more time, and ocne they are free, plan shit to do with them. it will give you stuff to look foward to, and if you are being productive, you will feel as though your time is being well spent. im trying to plan things with my friends but they are difficult.
How fucked I am?
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> GF decides to work overboard during summer
> her bday is coming up in less then a month
> just booked a flight to visit her and surprise her
> tomorrow booking the apartment there over airbnb
Tell me /adv should I be doing all this for a girl that:
> 5 years ago, we meet over facebook
> in that year we never saw each other
> just talk, sms, messanger, skype, late night calls that lasted forever
> Year after that,we meet, we make out
> nothing_special.png
> I leave the country, than decide to date her
> Return to the country, moved back away from family and everything just for her.
> 2 months in relationship, she cheated on me
> week after that comes clean to me
> continue dating
> hur dur summer, hur dur drunk guy from college calls her, sings songs ask her for drinks
> "Hey, Femanon this guy likes you"
> immediate i become jelly type of a guy
> NotTrue.jpg but fuck it go with that
> we break off after 4 months of that moment
> Total: 11 Months together
> Kill contact with her
> After 5 months hear info, she has a bf now
> Cook.jpg
> After 5 months, she hits me up again, talking almost everyday she is still with him
> Let's meet
> We meet
> She tells me she broke up with him a week ago
> Guy calls her while on a date
> She comes clean that she broke with him a day ago
> I say answer, she doesn't do anything just puts her head down
> We start dating again
> 4 months we are breaking up again.
>Cont?
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> Cont
> While we sit at the coffee she starts
> "Promise me something!"
> I go "How can I promise you something that I'm unaware what is it?"
> "Just promise me, okey?"
> "Okey, I promise, but what?"
> "That you will never give up on love."
> Hur dur we speak about stuff, what happened why happened, hur dur she says that we will never date again
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Meanwhile in my life:
> Got a great job
> Got a second great job
> Payment is over average plus additional education with it
> During that time(This two times) we were on and off I was never with different girl
> Keep going trough life, sitting in this pitty country
> Keep working, everything goes great.
Back on her:
> After 4 months of our breakup
> New boyfriend
> Me: "Oh, cool that's nice. Not interested to know"
> Continues with life as normal
> Back in May last year friends birthday party
> Yeeey_Alchocol.jpg
> Some random girl, goofs around
> We make out
> Next day I'm leaving the country
> 7 days later.spongebob
> Returns from 24h trip, didn't sleep
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> It's my ex
> Answer phone
> "hey Anon, can we meet?"
> "Sure, why not?"
> We go, we meet, lee coffee
> Start talking, what's the reason for the meeting
> I know her, I know something is bothering her.
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> Cont
> "What's up Femanon?"
> "You know I'm going to work out of the country..."
> "Yeah?"
> "Remember that problem I had, has returned and I only can speak with you about it..."
> We talk, I promise I will be 24/7 available during that time no matter what
> She goes off there
> I stay on the promise
> Trough out the summer we talked mostly late on nights
> Or when I would be drunk
> We speak in words that cover up other words and only we know what we want to say but can't say it.
> NotNow.jpg
> Summer goes great
> Got myself a 9/10 gf
> Drinking, Drugs and Sex
> AllDayEveryDay.winrar
> I break up with her during mid-summer
> Still going great
> Still got my job
> Ex returned in country at end of summer
> "Hey Anon, let's meet I arrived yesterday"
> Yeah cool, let's meet
> We meet, talk how it was there.
> She gives me present
> Cool I like it
> Planning to cut contact now
> She still has bf, don't want to go in middle of that
> Month passes by she set's up an information to reach me
> It got to me
> "Hey Anon, do you know that Femanon broke up with that bf?"
> "Really, okey..."
> She starts talking to me
> She wants to meet
> She seems jelly of a fight me and friends had for a girl in a clup
> We start dating again
> Told her "Look, if you wanna start something and want to last longer, let's say till end of our lifes. Sure we can date, if not please leave"
> She says she is serious
> Okey.JPG
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> Finial Cont
> Fast forward to this day
> She goes again to work there
> I'm supportive boyfriend
> FuckYeah.jpg
> Her BDay is coming up
> Me sitting home alone
> Planning whole new thing
> Got flight ticket
> Going to get an apartment in that town she works
> Going to Surprise her
Now /adv, tell me how fucked I am? Do I need to do all of this? Do I need to be this kind sweet guy, great boyfriend/husbend material after everything it happened?
> Tell me /adv, since I cannot tell no more.
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How does one get over hating themselves? I've been tense my whole life. Since I was a little kid I've hated myself deep down. How do I feel okay?
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Your brain gets better when you get a little older bud. Just try to stick it out for now. Do nice things for people. Try to be a stoic. Be generous. You'll grow up right. People who "love themselves" are not going to better themselves. You will. Be proud of that fact. When you get a little older though you'll start to feel more confident and less hateful. But you should always be hard on yourself in order to better yourself. Be tough. You're already ok.
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I am 21 and this is interfering with my life.
I am just uncomfortable feeling anything in myself. Like I'm numb to emotional feeling and physical sensation as well. Except I'm physically tense.
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Smoke some weed and chill out. Go out with some friends for drinks. Or, more importantly, learn how to enjoy being with yourself. Read, study, or teach yourself something new.
Reasons I want to send:
>It's the truth, I'm really thinking about her
>I want to see her pretty face
>also her rockin tits
Reasons I don't:
>don't wanna be weird or overbearing
>texted each other a few times asking where to find pot, kinda flirting for a couple hrs after that
>this will explicitly say "I'm still into you"
>idk about her but I can find pot without having to ask someone I haven't heard from in forever. Obvs just wanted to talk to her
I'd say since meeting her it's been a consistent balance of me seeking her out and vice versa
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>>17205348
That just looks really needy, unless that's a reply to a message she just sent just don't
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These never end well anon. It always spirals into a feels trip right down nostalgia lane.
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yeah, that text is fine