Is there any way to do this? I have been diagnosed professionally, but don't want on-the-record treatment for job prospects.
>>17202502
no job prospects can look at your prescriptions mate.
>>17203051
Depression is a permanent disqualifier from all military branches. Sure you can try to lie on your way in but they'll find out.
>>17203093
No, they won't. If you don't tell them and they don't have a reason to look for your medical records, they won't find out.
I lied and I know many people that have lied and have top secret clearances.
There is no centralized database for medical records. For them to find out they'd have to actively go look for them. And if you don't give them the name of your hospital, if they don't even know you have insurance (by default your recruiter should mark on the forms that you dont have insurance. This is normal and investigators dont bat an eye at this), then they don't even know where to look.
tl;dr: shut your fucking mouth and make sure your references and family keep their mouths shut and you'll be fine. I cannot stress enough how important it is that no one say anything.
Hey bros, so basically im trying to stop watching porn for good. ive just had enough with it and i feel like its only made things worse for me, so, any advice on quitting it and staying off of it?
Pic unrelated too
>>17202499
>so, any advice on quitting it and staying off of it?
Don't browse /b/.
>dont fap. get a girlfriend to make you cum
>find girl to flirt with
>fap to her pics
i can fap to pics of my ex because i imagine fucking that good pussy and cumming inside it.
>>17202499
>so, any advice on quitting it and staying off of it?
Cut off your internet, leaving 4chan isn't going to do shit.
Masturbation has been proven to benefit the body, why stop? How often are you masturbating?
Honestly,Im thinking of killing myself. Before I do that though , I plan on doing something really awful to someone that Ive always wanted to do. Would anyone e be willing to offer advice on how to minimize the amount of trauma I will cause the person?
You could always not be a shitty person.
Why do you care? You're going to be dead afterwards. Suicide is inherently a self-centered act, so if you're going to go through with it you can't have hangups (ha!) about causing guilt to other people.
>>17202494
>I plan on doing something really awful to someone that Ive always wanted to do
>how to minimize the amount of trauma I will cause the person?
You can't tell us you plan on doing something awful to someone then ask how to ease the blow. If you want to be a fucking asshole, own up to it. Be awful or don't and accept the consequences of either.
So as I'm maturing more I'm starting to understand and see the true way people feel. And throughout my journey I've discovered just how selfish and unloyal their motives can be. It's truly a terrible thing, you can never 100% trust anybody. I've tried my hardest to be real with all of my peers but even the most seemingly kind of people can end up doing you wrong: best friends, role models, significant others. I feel like social media somehow has part of the blame for this, but before I come off as one of those "social media is bad" people I need to know if it has always been this bad or if it has just become worse during this generation. Everybody just seems so self absorbed
it's human nature
btw you being more honest doesn't actually make you much different
you can see this best when you think about how you would react to certain bad stuff happening to someone else or you / something like that
normal humans just have better social skills
and they also have different instincts/ everyone lives for themselves
every gpod thing you do is actually just for yourself (feeling good about something "good" you did is an example)
Man I know how you feel. It's weird knowing that no matter who you meet, what you do, or who you think you know, no one is completely honest all the time. Even if you try to be. It's kinda scary actually. But yeah all you can do is just roll with it. When someone does something shitty with shitty motives then call them out on it, or let it roll off your back.
>tfw found out earlier today that gf slept with 8 guys
Idk how to cope with this feel, brehs. If I knew about this from the beginning, I wouldve never got with her
I've been in the gym for two hours now avoiding her. Idk what to do.
>>17202306
stop being an insecure faggot
>>17202306
Break up with her if it bothers you that much. Nothing you can do to make her un-fuck those guys.
>>17202306
STALE PASTA, WITNESSED
I need help identifying the feeling known as love.
I am one of the unfortunate millenials fucked in the head by watching too much porn.
I have never had a legitimate girlfriend that I have had feelings for and loved. My only dates have been with girls I've known just as acquaintances before. I've known them both for a year at least btw.
I'm not sure what the problem was, but I felt nothing during the dates. I just felt as though they were friendly outings. The girls liked me, but I didn't like them, and I feel bad for messing with their feelings.
Did I just wait too long to date them, or what?
Also how do identify early on that I like someone?
Is dating someone a test of compatibility?
I'm just a fucking mess. Help?
You think too much/over analyze too much. Your brain is just immature it will get better as you get older usually
>>17202270
Came here to post this.
>>17202259
im older than you so i know stuff. you havent found the one for you yet. she will make you feel like you have never felt before about anyone....
>use condom AND VCF spermicide together every time
>the one time where for some reason there wasn't any payload in the condom (was on, fitting, no holes) we took plan B
>2 days late for her period, she's taking a home test tomorrow
Did everything right but I'm still frightened. Now I got to go to sleep and wait to see how it turns out. What do you think?
>>17202236
Let it play out, deal with things as they happen. Make sure you think things over and make the decision you both want.
Above all, chill, deal with things with a fresh mind.
>>17202236
1: You guys are doing everything in your power to make sure she doesn't get pregnant, even though you really only need one of the three things you used.
2. She's only fertile for a short period of time, so if she knows her own cycle you guys could use the rhythm method with less protection.
3. Girls who get fucked regularly sometimes have their periods change to adjust - my ex girlfriend's period was like clockwork, but sometimes a good dicking would start her period early, which would change up the rhythm some.
Wait a few more days, you gave her plan B, you'll be more than fine. Just both of you relax.
>>17202236
Assess your options.
Can you realistically support a child?
If not unfortunately your best option is to abort or give it up for adoption.
This is assuming she's actually pregnant and you're not being paranoid...
Get some tests- get her in to see a doctor and take things day by day.
For those of you still reading after the next sentence clause, I haven't spoken with my ex in 6 months (CUE THE SOUND of 100s of "thread hidden" buttons being clicked), but she just emailed me a simple:
>"Friends?
>
>Best Regards,
>Her full name
>Candidate for X degree at Y college"
Semesters before I graduated, I lost my virginity to this girl, and before that we had gone on a few dates. I spent $1,000s on her, used my college connections to get her two separate jobs, purchased metrocards for her (NYC, so we use subways more than cars), took her shopping and on dates, stayed on the phone for hours until she fell asleep, and helped raise her GPA from a 1.9 to 3.9 or so. It fell back to 2.0 after we split up and I stopped talking to her. I was frustrated that no matter how much I gave her, in spite of the fact that she fucked me, she did not love me.
She was disloyal and slept with other men and just like she cheated on her ex, she cheated on me. I blocked her December 2015, got a new number, and we hadn't talked since. Today I randomly thought about how she hurt me, but I hurt her too, and how for the first time in a long time I recognize what I could have done to make the relationship better. Then comes this, her message.
But I don't want to be her friend. If I'm not her partner, I'd rather continue without her. Your thoughts?
>>17202191
Not sure about the fine details in your past relationship but it sounds like she tooks advantage of you and will in the future if you let her.
Ultimately it's up to you to decide who you want in your life. If you can't handle being just friends- go on without her.
>>17202191
Sounds like she's just trying to show off and that she improved her life. She will always be a whore no matter what fancy education she has.
>>17202191
You are a provider, atleast that is how she probably sees you. I feel that she is trying to be your friend again in order for you to keep providing her with things, trying to draw you back in, a feeling of rekindling of sorts or a "change" in behaviour. From your perspective, you cut out somebody who has poor values and provides little value to you. I do not see how reconnecting with this person could possibly be beneficial to you. But you would know that better than I would.
How do I tell my girlfriend she should start looking for another boyfriend?
...In addition to me, I mean.
>>17202161
You uhh. . . wanna get cucked? Like, really?
Just here that, that's what i did.
>>17202170
"Get cucked"? What are you, 12?
And yeah, I'd love my girl to have a second guy. I've never really placed much value in monogamy, but while I obviously wouldn't cheat on her (unless she wants me to branch out too), I think that knowing she had another guy in her life would make me feel a lot better. I'm busy and I have a lot of hobbies, and she complains a lot that I'm not there for her when she needs me. She's a bit... clingy. It makes me feel secure, but it also makes me feel like a cult leader, or one of those fucking steroid monkeys who breaks a girl's leg if she even looks at another dude - I want her to feel wanted, but I'm okay with sharing her affection.
I'm also confident that I'm good enough to always be the favorite if I want to be.
>>17202171
Last time I even suggested she might find other guys attractive she nearly cried and thought I was accusing her of cheating. So.
Months ago my friend messaged my gf and jokingly invited her to an orgy, ironically suggesting various ways for her to pleasure me in bed. He had never met her, so obviously he didn't know/care how she would react. I told him it was way over the line and he said he understood.
They then chatted on facebook every night.
A week later he messaged her again and said "I'm starting to sober up so this is the perfect time to finally tell you you're really fucking hottt"
I blocked him on all social media with no explanation.
Some people tell me this was an extreme reaction, some people tell me it was the right thing to do. What does /adv/ think?
>>17202132
You was going to cuck you if your gf allowed it. You can't trust him so he was never a friend to begin with.
>>17202143
I came to the definite conclusion that I can't trust him with any future gf, so I HAD to cut him out of my life.
But it's the fact that I didn't even send him so much as a 'fuck you' note or anything. Just realized I was done with him, and so I left his life.
That's the part I'm struggling with. At the time I felt that I had already communicated where my limits were, so it should come as no surprise to him, and I didn't feel like getting involved in some kind of argument.
Now some people tell me that I owe him an explanation. Do I?
>>17202154
You don't owe him anything. I am sure he knows he crossed a line. Now if you want to give him an explanation go for it, otherwise he made his bed.
I am a 19 soon to be 20 year old girl and I have never had a relationship in my life. I don't know if I am unattractive or boring or if it is a combination of both but I don't seem to attract guys. I don't know what to do. I can't be around my best friend and her boyfriend anymore because it reminds me of my own loneliness and they are together all the time. I'm sick of people taking pity on me and saying "there is time". Time feels like nails against a chalkboard. Newsflash, no guy wants a 20 something year old virgin girlfriend with no experience who doesn't even know how to behave in a relationship.
The only boys I know but am not really friends with are my best friend boyfriend's friends and the only one I sort of liked has a girlfriend (she is ~3 years younger, wonderful). It just made things worse because he flirted with me when we first met very recently when his girlfriend wasn't in town and while I was finally so happy in the moment I know there is no chance to be with him.
I just want to die. No other girl my age in this city is this lonely or inexperienced. I'm at the point where I realise that I am truly depressed. Before I was sad and restless, now I don't feel anything. I'm just so disappointed with myself and my life that the only comforting thought I have is killing myself.
What's your #?
>>17202115
she's not looking for ANY kind of boyfriend obviously, you some kind of freak?
all the good boys are taken OP, you should kill yourself
>>17202115
There is zero chance that you live in my country.
Hello /adv/! To be frank this is my first time posting here so I don't know what to except but here it goes.
I have been thinking for a long time to start practicing Buddhism since as I figured a lot of people who are satisfied with themselves have some sort of religion in thier life. What sort of steps do I need to take to, for the lack of better terms, understand it better?
>>17202089
First step is not to be frank, be yourself.
>>17202089
Just google shit. Mindfulness in Plain English is a good starting marterial, even for people who aren't into Buddhism but want to get into meditation.
Thich Nhat Hanh's books are great and are easy to read. They are short too. They are all pretty similar.
Other than that, read any books on meditation and mindfulness that grab you
How do I make them stop.
>>17202040
Walk away from the screen
Just close your eyes
>>17202040
Is this faerie lol
kys
How do I stop being jealous of other women's appearence?
Be more attractive than them
>>17202022
And how do I do that
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4nBSPHe1RCc
>start dating new girl
>qt
>great taste in vidya
>really smart and funny
>into bondage and sub
>mfw she tells me she's interested in the idea of an open relationship
What do I do /adv/ I have literally no interest in being a cuck but I really like this girl
Be honest. If she likes you back enough, she will decide monogomy beats a breakup. If not, she wasn't right for you.
If you're not open to the idea of an open relationship, don't do it. Or do, just don't say you weren't warned.
>>17201997
>into vidya
>into bondage and sub
>dating fat chicks
>kek