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>>17204142

epic

Grow a pair.

Bit of background:

Was a totally clean breakup, both still friends. Things got stale after a while and we both agreed it would be best to break up.
She's within my extended group of friends (that's how we met) so I'm inevitably going to see her out so I'm glad it's still pleasant, but have no interest in being in a relationship with her.
I work 9-6 but used to see her 2/3 times during the week in the evening and used to be together all weekend (unless either of us went out with work/friends.)
I'm going from being with someone all weekend to being alone. Am I over reacting a tad?
I've got friends and shit and play video games but is been so long since I've been single I genuinely can't remember what is like...

>>17204094
>clean breakup, aka still friends.
have fun with this. imo the worst method to break up. in a few days/weeks/months you will want to have her back b/c the reason why you broke up will be forgotten by you, but not the female partner. at this time she will already have a new dick (bigger then yours).

try to get her back until you or she break up in a big fight (unloyalty is a good reason). you will hate her and get over it much sooner and easier.

or try to find as soon as possible someone else. maybe a fuckfriend if you are good with communications.

sry for you.
good luck surviving this shit..

>>17204267
I'm good with people and my job keeps me busy enough but this was my biggest fear...
We totally lost interest in eachother and desu the only reason I didn't break it off earlier is I was scared of being single.
Is it really that bad?

>>17204069
How fucking hard can it be to get up at 9:30 you lazy cunt? Just tell him to get his shit sorted before he has a go at you for sleeping in.

>>17204092
This.
Not exactly hard you lazy bastard

>>17204069
Your boyfriend sounds like a douche.

Whatever board is about something you're interested in.

>>17203929
right now im mostly on /r9k/

Much appreciated anons.

i need help
bump

>am hard during foreplay
You don't have ED, you have minor performance anxiety problems.

and how the fuck do I solve them? My mind is indeed fucked up

Go to the police. Death threats are significant and it's clear that this person has psychological issues.

Somewhat OT, but why the fuck is she still living with her ex?

>Is it possible to rape yourself?
No.

>Can you make yourself like sex if you don't?
That depends on why you don't like sex.

>>17203524
It fills me with irrational rage.

>>17203501

>Is it possible to rape yourself?

No.

>It fills me with irrational rage.

You need therapy.

>>17203446
Chances are overwhelming that it won't happen, because everyone will chicken out.

>>17203762
I mean, everyone else is pretty open to it and this isn't the first time they've done this shit. I'm the only one new to it and the only one who's kinda shy when it comes to this kind of shit.

Don't be a bitch

Girls usually say this if they are not interested. Don't be surprised if she goes out with someone next week.

>>17203428
Hmm
That's what I thought at first but like
She really seemed to like me and she liked kissing me and stuff I think....and she send me selfies here and there so...?

I'm still new to dating other girls so I'm terribly confused honestly

She straight up told me she has anxiety and depression but not to what extent so I'm not sure if I'm being hopeful or stupid
I like her so if I just need to be more patient I can so idk

>>17203437
Why don't you date guys? They are much more simple to be honest.

Depends how long.

>>17203314
Like longer than chest-long. To the waist or hips.

what is a phase about it? hair grows, cutting it is the strange thing to do.

>>17203264
I hate to just pass it off, but if you can't identify a reason, you might want to consider seeing someone to help you pinpoint what is causing these feelings and thoughts. It's definitely not nothing, you just aren't aware of it, and a professional can help you figure out what it might be, then you can work on it from there.

Do you jerk off a lot?

Toke up bro

My advice is don't have a dating profile tbhfam. But if ya really want to, here's what I think:

>Most people see "currently trying to improve my life for the better" as "I was an asshole once, but I'm better now, I promise!" The way you wrote it seems kind of deceptive, even though you probably didn't intend it. Just cut it out.
>You don't want to say right out the door that you have a bunch of insecurities & that you aren't confident enough to do this anywhere else. Basically cut that part out too.
>When you've done both of those things, start doing something with your life that's worthy of note. Then write that down.

>>17203226
dude you sound like a blithering mess of emotions and insecurity, girls want a stable stoic reliable man to date, you're such a mess most girls won't even fuck you

just keep it real brief, mention that you're a low key dude looking for something serious, I enjoy etc etc etc (this is the part for honesty, not I have a huge harry wart on my torso)

Updated a bit, still need to work on it probably

INTJ

>Currently trying to improve my life for the better; part of which involves me putting myself out their and trying get into a relationship for the first time.

>Not that my life is mess or I was some kind of asshole in the past, I am just getting older and everyone around me seems either be married with kids or in a committed relationship so I thought it was time to make a real attempt at dating

First of all, can you afford seven kids?

Jesus just think of the grocery bill.

>>17203119
We did the math. This is the first time we are able to accommodate everything. We also took into consideration potential risks and disasters. Barring total tragedy, we're more than equipped to raise them.

>>17203107
Exercise as much as safe and practical while pregnant. Swim, do yoga and anything low impact.

Avoid sucking his penis. That will make it difficult to have kids.

Are you sure having seven kids is safe for your body?

>>17202720

Over time we've had on and off arguments and there are periods of time, like 24-48 hours where we won't talk to each other. But now, she's decided she has to move on because she's given me this ultimatum. Now my heart fucking hurts and all I want is to be with her. It's a shame it takes losing something to realize how precious it is to you.

I need advice on whether to try and make this work and win her back or to thank my lucky stars I didn't get her pregnant and move on with my life.

Pros:
She's a beautiful woman. She's smart and funny and likes me for me. Never met anyone like her.
I love being around her.
She's very supportive of my career and has a lot of knowledge.
Seriously the best looking breasts and the most perfect looking vagina I've ever seen.
She loves sex and she's very open minded in that way.
We work at court together, so I see her pretty much every day.

Cons:
Relationship came from an affair. If she was capable of cheating on her husband with me, what's to stop her from doing it to me?
She's been caught snooping in my iPhone on more than one occasion and was not sorry at all for doing it. Always has a justification for sneaky shit.
Two kids, still not sure if I can handle being a step dad.
Less time with her and the kids is more time spent at work or networking or growing my business.
Other, younger girls out there with less baggage.

Not sure what to do!?

Help.

Don't let the chemical in your head fuck you. This woman has a lot of baggage. Much more than you sound like you can handle.

Would you really want to raise another man's child and the fact that she cheated with him means she can cheat on you. You can't even hope to amend these things, even 10 or 20 years down the line these things will be in your mind.

Dodge the bullet, there are better women out there.

>>17202727
I am going to give you a serious answer because I've been there and know just what you're going through.

Although you've listed pros and cons there is just one answer that counts.

"Do you want to live with her for the rest of your life?" Ignore all the other factors, they're relevant but not the one big factor above all else.

>Pros:
Some people are gems in a pile of rocks. Is she really unique or weren't you noticing other women that way before?

>Seriously the best looking breasts and the most perfect looking vagina I've ever seen.
>She loves sex and she's very open minded in that way.

Don't underestimate these factors. You want to be able to look at her years from now and still think "I love those tits and that pussy" and be attracted without trying to be.

>Cons:
>Relationship came from an affair. If she was capable of cheating on her husband with me, what's to stop her from doing it to me?

Nothing. But this means nothing. People have affairs, it's a fact of life. Mostly they're driven by a poor choice in partner and the relationship becomes stale, boring or you grow apart. It's that simple. To avoid it don't be boring, don't be an asshole, treat every day as a new day.

>She's been caught snooping

So..... me thinks her ex-H was having an affair. Does it matter if she does look at your phone?

>Two kids, still not sure if I can handle being a step dad.

They're only part-time and you might find you like it. That age is OK. Babies are fucking hard work.

>Less time with her and the kids is more time spent at work or networking or growing my business.

Boring. Does it substitute for a great woman who give you everything you want plus has perfect tits and pussy and likes you enjoying them.

>Other, younger girls out there with less baggage.

No such thing. Very soon you'd be in the same situation... wanting to move in and have kids.

Wat. Shes fucking retarded

>>17202713
Maybe she meant to say celibate

>>17202715
I've been googling around and this is apparently a thing, at least in some circles, but I still can't quite understand how it works.