So I recently got on Accutane to get rid of my acne.
Any tips on how to deal with possible side effects or anything else?
>inb4 your liver will rot away and you will die
If you're in the Northern Hemisphere, then it's coming on summertime, so the biggest thing is to use sunscreen. Lots of sunscreen. Strongest stuff you can get.
If you're in the Southern Hemisphere, then winter is coming, and God help you. I recommend Carmex for the chapped lips, and Jergens Extra Healing (or the suspiciously similar looking generic versions) for the dry skin.
stay out of the sun
stop physical activity in case of sore joints
don't go insane (like some people do, in case of bad side effects)
Stay away from alcohol, get moisturizing lip balm, get occasional blood tests and other stuff doctor tells you.
I took a road trip to visit a friend in a neighboring state, I got back yesterday. Something that influenced my decision to go was my friend said she would set me up with her friend to fuck around for a night because apparently she'll fuck anyone who shows interest. I saw pictures of her, thought she was really cute and decided why not. Being into fat chicks, finding cute big girls is 1 in a million so I was all for it.
Got there, and didn't really ask about her until the night before I left to which my friend said that I could meet her that day. I'm convinced I've got either erectile dysfunction or performance anxiety as I've nearly had sex on at least 3 occasions but failed to get erect for whatever reason and I'm still a virgin because of it (20 years old). So I just told them to forget it because I was too scared to forego that kind of embarrassement again. Now I'm sitting here fucking depressed as fuck because I'll probably never get another opportunity for a girl of my degenerate tastes to throw themselves at me even if I get over my dick problems and feeling like a coward because I didn't go for it regardless.
Having said dick problems prevents me from even wanting to date considering that always ends up in fucking anyway and I dunno if I could make it through another embarrassing experience.
I dunno what I want people to tell me, I just feel like shit and guess I want other people's opinions
>>17204229
Stop fapping.
I know it sounds silly but there's a good chance that's your problem. Stop touching your dick for a few days and see how easily you can pop a boner with just the thought of sex. I speak from experience.
>>17204289
I'm a little skeptical because that sounds way too simple. Plus every time I try nofap I end up breaking down on the third or fourth day so I dunno if I could manage that for very long
>>17204433
>can't make it past 3 or 4 days
Yeah, I can guarantee that's your problem. Either lrn2willpower or enjoy your pseudo-ED and depression
How do you fuck your boss?
I know it's usually advised against, but it's just a temporary gig while I finish school.
She is 30, divorced, a little chubby, but sexy as hell (at least to me)
She smiles and laughs at all my hilarious jokes, which I realize doesn't necessarily mean she wants to jump my bones. She touches me a lot. We'll be be talking and she'll touch my arms and hands. She's complemented hair and my muscles and says my name in a sexy way.
I'm pretty sure she's into me, but I realize it could be a little messy in the unlikely event I cannot seal the deal.
Also have any of you gotten in bed with one of your bosses?
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>>17204104
First, you post pics.
Then you give her the dick, since she's clearly into you.
Fucking your boss is pretty great. The taboo makes the sex steamy, and the benefits are endless.
If I were you, be patient and subtly let her know you're interested, but don't be the one who initiates.
There's nothing she's done that is evidence that she wants to fuck you. She's just being very friendly
Is she married?
Bumping for interest. 1 month left at my internship and would do morally reprehensible things for a chance.
I need adivce on how to get over wanting to be a stay at home mum and wife. I'm only 20 years old but I'm craving a family and I would honestly love being a stay at home mother with a husband, cooking and cleaning for him and taking the childs to dance practice.
I'm torn between wanting that and feeling that its being a total moocher, which is basically what it is.
How do I get over my desire for a family and wanting to be a stay at home mum.
Some men want a woman like that, why not just go with it?
Why do you need to "get over" it? If it's how you live and it's not hurting someone (i.e. it's someone who wants a relationship like that, which is pretty common among men), there's literally nothing wrong with it.
>>17204106
Ive tried looking for them but have come up short. Noone that is interested in me could support a pregnant wife for 9 months let alone permanently
4chan
>>17204078
Leave.
Pepeland
I just got back from my first rave (SMF) and I wanted to know how I can recover and get back to feeling normal, I took a good amount of molly and felt the happiest I felt in years but now I feel empty, depressed and shity, physically I feel drained and have barely any balance with an incredible lack of energy or passion for anything. Is there anything I can do to recover or is this just me being depressed and fucked over from the drugs?
Molly shouldn't give you such feels. X would.
You sure you knew what you were taking?
Get some rest, eat some light, healthy food (fresh salad stuff works best for me). Sometimes you'll get an afterglow from molly, more often you'll feel worn out and down as you do now. Like a hangover, it's normal and will pass.
>>17204035
Molly does the same thing man. Anything that dumps all your seratonin is going to give you the molly blues.
First off, I feel like I 'know what to do,' but would like another's opinion..
>my fiance and I have been together for almost four years
>within the last two, he opened up to me about liking loli and the idea of younger girls in general
>he also opened up to me about something he did when he was 14;
>>he had grown up in a sexually repressed (understatement) household, in which he was homeschooled
>>never received sexual education, as his mother was highly Christian and closed-minded
>>>she would harp on his brothers and him for looking at other females
>>>she wouldn't allow movies with kissing in them (but would allow violence)
>>at 14, he waited until his sister (5 at the time) to fall asleep, and went to her room
>>he felt her 'privates' (idk what the fuck to call them) with his hand, and licked her twice with his tongue
>>he then left and jacked-off to this
>>he later denied all of this had happened when confronted by both his mother, and the police
Now, I am under the belief that male sexuality is greatly influenced by events in their youth (8~14). I understand that he may never get over his fetish of younger girls. This is something he and I have talked about at great-length, and I have come to accept as a reality.
The situation gets more complicated when you throw my past into the mix;
Ctd.
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>I grew up in a house full of women (my mother & three elder sisters)
>my father was an ass, cheated on my mother, and sort of exited our lives when I was 2~3 (tl;dr)
>my mother constantly bashed on the character of Men (in general), often stating they are worthless scum
>she met a man whom she became intimate with when I was ~3
>he had moved in after ~3 months of them being together--they stayed together for ~9 years
>he molested me and one other sister of mine (we were the youngest) for years (~8 years for me, idk for how long for her)
>>this had started when I was 3~4
>>he too was sexually abused--at the age of 8, his babysitter (14, female) took advantage of him (idk for how long)
This whole subject had been somewhat of an open wound until about 3 years ago. A year later, when my fiance opened up to me, I fetishized the idea. This became somewhat of a healing process for some time (kind of like exposure-therapy).
I continue to get off to the idea here and there, when I think he's thinking about such things, or when I (annoyingly enough) have suspected he's gone looking for loli/gotten off to it, or suspect he's thinking of such while we're having sex.
Ctd...
Sounds like you'd probably both enjoy some roleplay games in the bedroom.
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This is something we've talked about in bed. We'd play around with the idea here and there (for ~2 weeks at a time or so), which would eventually end in my freaking out about it becoming 'too real' and causing the death of said stints (each and every time).
I'm unsure what to do. If I stay with him, this will always be a subject for us. If I find another man, I'll have to start the whole process over again (gaining trust, hoping he's honest, etc). If I live alone, then that's not the end of the world...but I don't want my sexual frustration/wounds to bind me in such a way.
I want the mental strength to live a life in which this doesn't constrict me so, but I have difficulty handling this mentally. My ultimate fear is that this fantasy will manifest itself in the real world, and I'll have let myself down (again, by trusting).
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I would like to think I'm compassionate enough to care for the man I'm with, and not let this get in the way of that. I would like to believe I'm mentally strong enough to handle this situation. At the same time, I fear I have a tendency to put up with too much shit, and live life at the expense of my own peace.
I have difficulty balancing self-respect & empathy.
Compared to my uni, people at my high school were fairly open about watching porn. Was that normal?
Yes, teenagers like to discuss sex and masturbation more than young adults do.
>>17203991
Seriously? Thought it would be the opposite.
Remember that when I was in high school, this girl from our clique had a bf and both of them would discuss porn and some of the other girls would join in and nobody was embarrassed.
At my uni, I've never heard of anyone discussing porn like this and it seems like other people on 4chan like to talk about porn lol.
You've got several things going on. Your school was at an age range where people lacked the judgement to maybe be less frank about such topics, maybe making mistakes.
Also a massive part of growing up is basically acting like you are growing up faster than those around you, maybe admitting porn habits plays into that at school age, the opposite at university age.
Also you've got people who haven't grown up together who are sounding each other out. Admitting porn consumption isn't exactly socially endearing.
Also you've got people who will actually be getting laid and trying to get laid. University is going to be abound with first year experts on social justice and theories around the objectification of women as well as women looking to exert an intellectual authority maybe overtly due to being told previously they've been unable to. Maybe being 'the porn guy' isn't socially wise.
Also why the fuck do you want to talk about porn? Just compare notes, rank your favourite actors and scenes? Discuss the finer details of spunk burping out of an ass hole into the face of a chick in too much oil based make up? Do you want to work in the porn industry?
Hi /adv/, I'm a regular lurker and while I don't post often I'm here today seeking some advice and opinions on this situation, because I'm a little confused... I will green text for you.
>period came April 30-May 6
>had sex with my fiancé May 9th
>literally, I have been bloated ever since, and I know it's not PMS bloating because I don't get that till 2-3 before my period
>backaches galore no matter how much I stretch!
>period like cramps for 3 days now
>my period was due yesterday
>also having craving for ranch and pickles, I like those anyway but they sound amazing
>oh and my period is generally a 30 day cycle
So... What does /adv/ think? Am I pregnant? I will take a test in two more days.. I have thought I was pregnant before when it turned out I was just really stressed, but right now I'm not.
What am I, a pregnancy test? Get thee to a pharmacy.
Relax, it's probably nothing
>>17203980
I've just read so much online about pregnancy before and my fiancé is studying nursing, maybe it's not coming because I'm thinking about it?
Hey /adv/, 23 year old here. The past few years it seems like all my greatest friends are either drifting away out are long gone. I just want to meet some people I can sit around with and have a beer by the grill, throw some frisbee, play video games, etc. Etc. I only have a few friends and it seems like our interests are drifting out there just don't have the time anymore. How do I go about making me friends now that I'm not in school/college?
Pubs, sport or hobby clubs, night classes in dancing or whatever. Community theatre? Take up archery, join a spin class, start playing warhammer, learn the flamenco or italian cookery, there's all sorts of shit you can do to meet people.
>>17203984
This. It's a wide world with more hobbies and subcultures than you can imagine. Go find one, don't be afraid to stick your hand out and say "I'm new"
>>17203984
I write novels/novellas/short stories/screenplays, though it's all Action Adventure Fantasy. I play guitar, bass, drums, keyboard. My musical interest is Psychedelic, Hip-Hop, and Folk. I'm not too into sports but I've been getting into drawing. I just can't seem to find people with the same interests, especially that are my age. I'm beginning to think I'm the problem.
Hey /adv/
I'm sad with my life
I can't get off the PC because i'm lacking social skills from all the years of bullying from when i was still at school
I dream everyday of getting fit and/or doing things that i want to do (i can't because i'm poor) or becoming a normal person.
But my social live is empty, everyone in a 20+ km radius around me remember me as the weird creepy kid at school, even now they reject me.
More than lacking willpower, it's how much i fear other people are gonna react if i get my ass off the PC to do something useful
I'm weak, both mentally and physically
I was raised by a single mother, which never made me like sports and i had no dad to teach me life
As time pass, i like my country less and less, everything is illegal, and it is full of weak nu mâles like me.
I want to get fit, to do sports, to get off the PC, to have friends yet still having hobbies
Sometimes i wish i could escape to another country.
New people, new job opportunities, new life, more liberty
What should i do ?
Find a second-hand book on exercises you can do on your own without any exercise equipment. Go for a jog, a run. Do some press-ups. Stop blaming your failings on your past and start making a present and future you feel good about and responsible for.
>>17203963
Could you ask a more specific question? BTW you aren't a nu male, you seem to be the typical /r9k/ browser, though, you'll have to work on that.
First off you better be from a country that isn't the USA talking all that shit about your country. Second, you aren't the only person raised by a single mother and no father figures. Plenty of us were in that situation. You have to teach yourself these things to help your mother. Stop looking for excuses for the way you are. You're completely in control of your life. Don't let your mother down, she didn't struggle raising you just for you to be a useless letdown. Make her proud.
How do I find what I want to do in life? I'm 26 and I've wasted the last ten years of my life being a neet shitter and I need to fix this. It gnaws my mind and drives me mad.
The main thought running through my head is filmmaker but I haven't lived so I have nothing to say. I'm also unsure if I really want to be one or if it is a manifestation of my frustration and desire for acceptance.
How did you discover it?
>>17203939
>filmmaker
Nah give up on that shit.
If you want to be like Michael Bay or Zak Snyder or some shit: that's a fucking fallacy at your age, my dude.
Just go to work and be a wageslave.
>>17203956
Why though? I don't want to be like Bay or Snyder...
>>17203939
Don't follow the 'be passionate about your work' meme. You get you a job boy, if you've spent 10 years doing nothing you certainly don't have a passion to convert into a career, and likely never will. Become a welder and work in oil, or a machinist and head to the rustbelt, or an industrial machinery mechanic and go pretty much anywhere.
I have two cats from the same litter. About a year old. The male is a lot bigger and more energetic than the female. He picks on her playfully but she can't handle his speed and strength.
I know he isn't meaning to hurt her, and she just gets annoyed. They get along other wise and lick each other, play with toys together (very good at taking turns) He just needs someone to be a little rough with.
Is there anything I can do to intervene?
Has he been neutered?
Maybe she should stop being a whiny little bit h and report him for abuse
>>17203909
Yes both are spayed and neutered.
Can you comment on this situation?
>I moved to Asia. Found GF. She had habit of borrowing money quite often. Talked her out of it.
>3 years went by. Everything AWESOME. Except problem with my Visa. Can't stay here as a tourist anymore.
PLAN: We will get married. I will get Visa for rest of my life. With my saved 500 000 I will buy nice land and house
> this sunday, 3 weeks before wedding I found out, that couple of months ago she borrowed 15 000 from loan shark
> just so "she can have and spend little bit more money", didn't buy anything specific, just burned it on daily basis
I backed out of wedding (I'm scared where this could go in future, if we had joint assets). My only way of staying in country is buying "VIP visa" - 500 000 for 5 years visa
> I could have visa for rest of my life + house (in her name) = everything for 500 000
> now I will probably have to pay 500 000 every 5 years
And she doesn't even see the big picture. Her answer is "I will sell everything I have (everything I bought her), borrow money from somebody else, so I can pay that loan. And everything will be OK. Where's the problem?"
Last 2 days I'm questioning my sanity. If this is really what is happening....
Bail the fuck out
>my saved 500 000
>house (in her name)
lol what
That is the sketchiest shit I've heard in a long time.
Which Asian country?
I got a new job and made some friends who like to bar hop and gamble. Theyre cool, but they also are into hookup culture and fuck buddys. Im practically a virgin, but so far ive been able to keep my cool and make them believe im similar. Is this a good or a bad idea?
>>17203845
Do you want to be like them?
>>17203845
You don't have to have just one group of friends, you can make others too.
>>17203848
Agree with this. Good rule on choosing who to hang with.
I kind of want to. I want more experience, i feel im missing out