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I'm not sure OP.
I'm not going to share mine, but I'll bump this for you.

>>17261295
Yes, I have had a few and my family members that live in a rural community have had a lot, I believe in the supernatural but the majority of things people experience are not real occurrences.

>>17261295

mehh, ive had weird things occur but I just think its usually my imagination or just has some explanation but I don't kniow what it is. I just brush stuff off like that

alfa/beta is myth perpetrated by undereducated fools with too many hormones

>hey I really had fun talking to you the other day
>how would you feel about grabbing a cup of coffee come time?
>how about getting frozen yogurt sometime?

>asking a girl out via text like a shy little insecure coward
>appear alpha while doing so
Good luck with that.

>>17261127
Second this one.
Talk to qt3.14 for effect.

For the past week I have been doing my best to clench my teeth and try to forget about it, but I can't. The way she moaned, the way she grabbed him, the way she looked at him. I cannot get it out of my head. Knowing that I actually let another man, let alone a guy who's much more masculine and attractive than myself, fuck my wife makes me sick to my stomach.. I honestly want to kill myself and it seems like the best solution right now. I genuinely can't look at myself in the mirror without feeling disgusted. The worst part is that it's completely my fault. I don't know what to do. I really really need some advice. I've never felt this hopeless before.

>>17261101
You let your memes be your dreams, and now you're living the dream.

How does it feel to take advice from the internet?

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That fucking blows, honestly man you might have to get a divorce if you can't get past it. But maybe you can talk your wife into letting you have sex with another woman in front of her to bring some kind of balance to the relationship.

Something like that happened to me a long time ago, I got drunk with my best friend and gf at the time and we ended up trying to have a threesome.I couldn't get hard because I wasn't into it at all and basically got cucked. Luckily I'm much more attractive than my friend and have a much bigger dick so knowing that softened the hurt a bit. After a while though I couldn't stop thinking about it and hated myself and my gf, I ended up cheating on her and deliberately getting caught to try to get some sort of reconciliation. After that we broke up and I haven't spoken to my best friend since then. Still feels bad man. Sorry you're going through that shit.

>>17260804
I chose the 13" Air. The Pro is too heavy and the battery is drained faster.
Personally, I went for an upgraded Air. Better CPU and more RAM. That's mostly so it'll last for a few more years, though.
Resolution was never really an issue, for me.

>>17260804
Yes the 13 air is ok, did webdev on it for a couple months before switching to an iMac. The screen is kinda shitty cause it's a TN panel and it has bad viewing angle.
The 13 macbook pro retina is good too and the screen is godly. Don't even consider the non-retina one.

In both cases just don't jew out on the SSD, don't get the 128GB, 256GB ones are way faster.

I really really don't recommend a macbook of any kind if you are:

a) going to code on it
and
b) going to UPLOAD the code you have on it from a mac to elsewhere.

I am not saying it's impossible, but in the case of the tech companies that allow you to do this, they practically give you a mac designated station fitted for this purpose precisely because it's such a pita.

>work on it comfortably for an hour or two
This is going to be impossible on any laptop, just so you know. The most you can do is probably a bit of review and syntax editing. You won't be able to code-code or any heavy refactoring kind of stuff.

You're a beta

>>17260222
Have you considered that you are going after this a little too aggressively? The more you pressure her the worse she feels about it. (This kind of empathy can be a little hard to employ when you are suffering from blue balls, but I suggest you try.)

Also, she might be wanting a "special" first time. So think of some way to up the special factor - and don't let on that you are trying to seduce her. Let the evening progress as normal, and just have protection and lube handy for if/when she is ready. If it turns out she isn't ready, wait a few days and try again.

First times are much bigger for girls than they are for guys so bear with her.

>>17260229
>You're a beta

How so?

>>17260164
It's gamer slang. It's thoughtless, stupid, and immature, but they aren't actually trying to be malicious.

Take it from a guy who was initially very uncomfortable hearing the phrase - these guys are usually huge nerds who couldn't bring themselves to actually hurt someone else.

It doesn't make the use of the word ok by any means, but they are not actually using the word in a way with intent - it's like a replacement for the word "owned" or "powned" or many other words nerdy people tend to use to describe a devastating event in a competitive game.

I can totally understand your choice to stop watching, but maybe you can suggest that your bf uses a different word a lot and see if it rubs off on his friends.

>>17260207
Yeah, he said he would talk to his good friends - the regulars - about it. But I don't think it's fair for him to constantly have this discussion with randos during pub matches either. But it's also hard to watch. Urgh. I might only watch when he plays single player, sad as that is.

He won't achieve anything meaningful by telling them to not use that word.
Even if he convinces some of them, he will inevitably stumble on other players who also use it.


However there must be ways that he could mute the chat so that you only listen what he says.

Vibrate your fretting hand just a little bit. Not quite a bend. Just add some vibrato to that.

>But the open string!
Don't worry my child. That string will vibrate ever so slightly as well.

>>17259166
https://youtu.be/2YZ_lIpG1XQ?t=30s

That's the part of the song that this bar is from. It might be me, but I don't hear any vibrato.

the squiggle stands for arpeggio.

>>17258957
Man here. Fiance and i have been together for 9 years and engaged for 5 have 2 kids. We have not gotten married due to our daughter having and fighting cancer. My wife seems to really want to get married, but keeps flip flopping about whether we should elope at this point or try for a ceremony. She clearly wants me to make the call, but i always figured that this was a big deal to women and it does seem like a big deal to her sometimes. ITs a magical time for a woman and she wants it, but after 2 years of living in the hospital she also wants things simple.

So women. After 5 year of being engaged should we just elope or go full ceremony?

>>17258985
Elope, them throw a party where you invite friends & family and tell them you're married then.

>Double digit EQ/IQ anons keep posting answered in FAQ questions
If you crave attention or are incapable of understanding FAQ use social media

>I don't understand my feelings/how to change them
Use briggs-meyers test/google mental symptoms/engage in regular sports/professional activity

>I can't communicate/make important life choices with my partner
/adv/ doesn't have the context or the ability to read your partner's mind (bis)
proceed to communicating w/ said partner about said dilema

>>17252870
This thread is relevant to my interests seeing as I'm 28 and still a virgin. Considering driving to Nevada and hiring a whore or trying to convince a stripper to sleep with me. Normal girls are simply out of my league.

>>17252870
It's possible to lose your virginity at almost any age without the use of hired help.

>>17252881
>how would I go about it?

I forgot to add. Put yourself out there.

finally back into austin where we snuck into mount bonnell after hours with a bottle of wine and some weed and just sat together, talking, touching, just feeling each others chemistry - it was so overwhelming and powerful. Of course the cops found us and kicked us out, we laughed it off and continued into the night. she had totally abandoned her travel partner at this point and the rest of this trip was about us. we end the night around 4am and get ready for the next day together. She greets me with the sweetest smile and touch at 9am and makes me breakfast, coffee and rolls up some cigarettes for us to smoke.
This person was everything i have ever needed in a woman and she just showed up in my life by pure chance. We make our way downtown to go look through a couple of bookstores and art shops and eat some pizza, then decide to spend the rest of our day in the water with some weed and wine. fuck it doesnt get any better, the dread was setting in though unfortunately.
We both knew what was happening between us and we both knew the outcome. Our day was perfect, we sat side by side and she played the guitar and sang for me for a few hours, we swam, made out, drank, and really lived.

i decide one last spot that i needed her to see, so we go to an overlook to see the bridge over the lake and spend the rest of the day past sunset sitting on a cliff drinking wine and talking to each other, shes so beautiful - i couldnt take my eyes off of her. I knew it was almost over. Our night was magical once again and we make our way back home to have one last dinner together. She made me an amazing meal and we got another bottle of wine to celebrate our time with. we listened to our favorite music until about 3am, danced, laughed and fucked around until it was finally time to end our time together.

our friends were in teh garage and i went and layed on the hood of my car outside and smoked a cigarette - she came and layed next to me and smoked one as well. we said nothing to each other but the silence between us said everything. I took her home, we shared our last goodbye, and it was over. her flight was the next day and their road trip continued.

I have never felt so alive from a woman, i was married at one time and never even felt like this for my wife. We promised that we would see each other soon. Life is too unpredictable to tell whether or not we ever will, but i miss her so much now. Its the worst. I am also really happy to have experience such an intimate time together with a woman who ive never met, who totally changed my outlook and who made me realize what feeling i need from a woman to be my match. Maybe one day, we will meet again.

i feel like i need to go after this woman, i dont know what to do.

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Take her out again to a club or something, do some grinding then take her to a more private place and fuck her senseless. This is very important, you need to make her cum until she goes numb so she will have more reasons to stick with you.

>drop degree because fuck that shit
start where you went wrong

Go get that degree. Take classes somewhere

No one expects a 19 year old to have a degree

>>17261839
>My wife will be extremely unhappy if I do not get a very specific job
The fuck does she care? All she should be concerned about is whether you can provide and take care of your family. If you can get an alternative position in a different field that pays the same or more, why shouldn't she be satisfied?

>>17261839
>Getting kids
>without economic stability
u went full retard

>>17261839
>My wife will be extremely unhappy if I do not get a very specific job, which I am unlikely to get.
Would she rather you had no job than any job you can get?

If you're asking this, you probably have suspicions towards the fact. The question then being what makes you unsure whether you're good or bad?

>>17261811
Mean or bad? Your friends even knowing depends on how you act around them. Mean doesn't necessarily mean bad and bad doesn't necessarily mean you're mean.

It's hard to say whether someone is a good person or is a bad person. You have to know everything about someone and then vaguely decide whether their actions in average are generally good or bad. It's a flawed process since some people only focus on positive things and other people give more weight to negative things. You might be terrible and consider yourself a saint or you might be a saint and consider yourself terrible, for all I know.

How about this: if you met yourself, do you think you would befriend yourself? A friend is someone who generally has a positive impact on your life. If you met a carbon copy of yourself, would you have a positive impact on your life?

Never heard of Maslov's hierarchy bruh?

>>17261772
Go to a bar every friday and saterday night, if you see a female thats alone, buy her a drink, if she accepts talk, after some time, ask her to go to your appartment, have sex.

Well it's a little more complicated than that. It's not the lack of sex that's affecting you, but the lack of accomplishment. Basically you see sex as a necessity and you don't get it, so you're depressed. It's not only sex either, it's also the need to interact with people, to have a social and romantic life.

Obviously you can fix this in 2 ways: get a social/romantic/sex life or convince yourself you don't need one. The former is easier and there are tons of books/guides/videos on how to do it. It is doable as long as you put in the effort, no matter what state you're in right now.

>>17261666
Stop trying to bait me you sad sack of desu.

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I dare
Y'ALL

Now pardon me while I put on my special ceremonial sache and cap and other marvellous clobber and parade the streets to inspect the progress.

>>17261675

you are bait. you're a stone on my marvellous marble staircase the fields of dreams. Oops, is that m'lady's manure I stepped in?