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Keep working yourself.

I was in the exact position you were in. I went to the gym and worked on myself when it came to social interactions.

All it did was get me into an abusive relationship and a ltr where I am miserable. My grades dropped and the little bit of drive I had in my hobbies are gone.

Instead of thinking that getting into a relationship will provide your happiness, find it by yourself.

>>17260280
I've been working myself all my life. I don't know how some people can say relationships won't provide happiness to someone who's lonely and wants to be in a relationship.

I'm actually envious of you that you got into a relationship despite being abusive. I'd rather have that experience of being in a relationship, even if it's crappy, than not having one at all. At least I know in myself that I'm desirable to someone, not a completely hideous loser.

Your post doesn't really provide anything meaningful. "Find happiness by yourself." Okay, how? That's what I'm asking.

Learn to get over your animal desires and just focus on your own improvement.

Find a hobbie and direct your energy towards it. Playing music, a sport, traveling, learning languages, reading. There is more to life than breeding, and hobbies like those will allow you to meet many wonderful people.

Acceptance is the key

Grant me he serenity to accept what i can't change, the courage to change what i can and the wisdom to know the difference.

>>17260198
But how do they accept it? They all told me they just did it some day, and that If I don't do it soon, it'll be too late to mean anything?

yes its normal

the secret is college is terrible but the ultimate buyers' remorse so no one will tell you that

>>17260189
Best rule is to not do anything you will regret.

You might not desire parties but you should at least experience one. You can always leave.

Only say this because I had a friend, didn't want to party or anything fun until he was 27 now we're all to old to party with him.

>>17260189
Yes.
Doing things because everyone else do them is fucking stupid.

>I like buying gifts.

That's your problem.

>>17260183
yeah I think you must be right

I had so many ideas and couldn't choose so I got 'em all

If you can afford it, it's all good. If not, make a budget and stick to it next time

Why do you say relationships don't work for you?

>>17260171
Why not ?
I just want something that won't make me feel lonely is all
I dunno , it's not possible for me to get a gf or get laid , I'm sorta hoping I can ride this waifu thing out for awhile then getting a relationship when I'm older . Girls then will basically take anyone with a stable job at that point

>>17260174
Can't get them . Probably ugly and boring

People who have sex are still miserable

>>17260116
But its not the lack of sex that makes me miserable, its having to talk about it with everyone everywhere at any given time and the subject being completely foreign and irrelevant to me.

Gee, I wish I were you. I hate it when I'm bored and the thought always comes around of jacking off and then after that, I feel unmotivated to do anything. You should turn this around into a good thing because now arousal can't distract you. Plus just because you can't have sex doesn't mean you can't have a girlfriend/get married. There are some girls like you who claim to be asexual. Just let life be. People are gonna talk about sex for a long time in their young years but it will phase out with time. Stop worrying about it like it's the end of the world.

>>17260104
>Damn why does it hurt that much?
Two reasons. The first is that when she says those words, what you actually hear is "You're not good enough. You didn't make the cut". Then there's the dissapointment. Don't know if it's the same for most guys, but I've never asked a girl out unless I was reasonably confident she'd say yes. Particularly when you're younger it's easy to get over invested in it. By the time you're asking her out you've already imagined the white wedding, pickett fence, what the kids will be called and how you'll grow old together. When she says no you feel like you've had your whole future ripped out from underneath you - whereas in reality it just means you'll be dwn the pub with your mates on friday night instead of sitting in the cinema spending a fortune on overpriced popcorn for some bird with bad breath who talks about her grandmothers STD's all night.

Attachment is the enemy.

>>17260140
That's actually true, I've really thought about us being together and came to the conclusion that she's one of the few people who actually matches with me.
Doesn't help that we've known each other for a year now.

He's your ex and also, he sounds like an edgyelord and attentionwhore. Move on and let him wallow in his "misery"

If you're concerned about him, I'm sure it's fine to reach out and let him know you support him. The key, defining trait of people who commit suicide is social isolation. When people have friends, they do better. The vast majority of people who commit suicide are socially isolated.

Sounds just like a huge faggot indeed, don't try to help him.

>>17260087
no idea about at that age but in general, women's reactions to sexual assault depend on the individual. some have trauma, some don't, some people's trauma manifests differently than others'.

I can remember that there was one guy who would touch girls asses when walking by their chairs. It was annoying, but not traumatic. We just told him to fuck off. The other guys where too shy to actually grope girls. There was some fondling, sure. But more in a "pretend fight" and "mutual flirty" way. It's not traumatic at all if you feel like you are still in controle. I could imagine that very shy girls might feel harassed if a guy thought it would be fun to do that whole "play fight/flirty"- stuff they do with the bolder girls, with them. What's your protagonist like and what scenario do you have in mind?

OP here.

There's a pic in my mind from age 11 or 12 (i'm a guy btw, was very introvert at the time, a "coward") but I remember this girl from a messed up family we had in our class. During break between classes, three or four guys would pin her in a corner and grope her crotch and breasts. She would go insane. Purple red, screaming, but it was like they were feeding on this. Teachers never payed any attentions.

Also we had cases when teachers would escort girls to bus station because schoolmates would be throwing snowballs at them. Well it practice it was more "show as many pounds of snow as you can under her winter jacket". IMO it had rather brutal and sexual connotations.

>>17260068
make friends with people online
not through 4chan, of course, unless you're careful. i've found social media to be helpful in that respect, if you follow interesting people in your city of choice>>17260068
make friends with people online
not through 4chan, of course, unless you're careful. i've found social media to be helpful in that respect, if you follow interesting people in your city of choice

>>17260098
i hate this godforsaken website

>>17260098
Any way to accomplish without social media. I don't really use twitter and that stuff because I don't find it interesting and it is kinda antisocial sitting on social media all day

>>17259998
OP the girl wants to wait and you want to nut. Find a girl that wants to fuck. Problem solved

>>17259998
losing interest from no sex means u dont like her, stop lying to your self, you just thpught she was easy

>>17259998
boy, I much prefer a girl that doesn't fuck right away cause I know she probably doesn't just fuck right away any set of balls and dick

>>17259964

>>17259964

>For two years ive had an extremely bad panic disorder.

>Im not open to trying other meds or increasing my dosage

So you have a disorder that causes severe chemical imbalances in your brain and you aren't open to changing or increasing any medication that fixes the chemical imbalances in your brain?

Nice.

Definitely be a shrink but like, also, don't be a fucking idiot.

>>17259976
sometimes there's only one thing out of dozens & dozens that even begins to work. there are perfectly rational reasons to not want to change one's dosage

>>17259976
what did i say, dipfuck? dont ask about it. i have my reasons, now go suck a cock kid. thanks for your useless input.

Is there something wrong with the concept of taking a photo of what you want done or something?

>>17259965
I guess. It's just I always ask for a trim and don't know what to do for something more.

Say you wanna look like one of those hipster kids from williamsburg, they'll know what you mean

i'm pretty high & would appreciate advice so i don't do anything i might regret
in the meantime i'll distract myself with other threads on here i guess?

>>17259949
Do they treat you right?
Do you treat them right?
If so, then who gives a fuck about age gaps.

>>17259992
i mean, i care about people judging me or them for it. i don't want to deal with stigma from people i respect. i suppose i should ask about their exact age, huh

>>17259940
>look at me guys, I'm such a special snowflake, I can't even comprehend being normal!

>what's it like without ADHD
You know that feeling when you take the medication?

>>17260022

It only helps me focus some, so I have 10 things I want to do, instead of 50. So still don't really know what its like to only have one or two things to focus on.

>>17259955

Easy there cap'n
>>17259955
>>17259955