If I think about killing myself, and I am depressed, should I get help, or should I just wait and see what happens?
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>>17264626
Get help. You've pretty much hit the rock bottom, so no reason to keep waiting anymore.
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Get help, you were never meant to go it alone. Go to a hospital and tell them about your thoughts of suicide, they'll help you.
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>>17264671
help or 'help'?
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how to microwave sweet pie without it going soggy and crap?
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Oven, microwave makes soggy.
A microwave that makes crispy would be good invenshun
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>>17264627
my microwave has a crispy top setting but i'm pretty sure it's like a program to cook leftover lasagna or something.
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Relationship Chemistry? 2016-06-17 17:32:30 Post No.17264608
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Girls often seem to refer to multiple traits they are looking for in a boyfriend:
>funny
>driven
>patient/attentive
>loyal
>...
Although they say this, the fact that they often fall for relationships which are (to an outsider) abusive / bound to fail / not following the above guidelines, shows that they are intrinsically very irrational. Possibly even more so than men.
So if these guidelines are often empty expressions, the reality of what girls want from a relationship is
>chemistry
Even if girls bring this term up it is almost never clear or in the least concrete:
>I am looking for chemistry
>We need to click
>He didn't have that 'special something', you know.
But if chemistry is by its very nature so illusive that even the people looking for it, cannot define it:
>What are they even looking for?
Or is it really just a numbers game, where one hangs out at the venues where there is the highest probability of meeting your 'type of girl' (which is much more concrete imo) and just engage with as many as possible until there is a match based on the arbitrary nature of 'chemistry' the girl sees in you?
>What is 'chemistry'?
>Why do girls keep on using a term they don't understand themselves?
>How do guys 'improve chemistry' and is it even possible?
>What are your experiences with 'chemistry'?
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97% of women really just want a man who will step in and tell them what to do. 90% of the men who understand this, and know how to do it, are selfish jerks who know they can get more than one woman.
Most women don't really know what they want, or at least they won't honestly express it in a conversation with a man. Stop trying to appeal to their logical, sensible side. Aim for her emotional, impulsive side and you'll do a lot better. Women want to be thrilled. The checklists are meaningless
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>bound to fail
all relationships are bound to fail, stop acting like you could make a life long commitment work.
>chemistry is not clear or concrete
have you ever had chemistry? if you had you know thats as clear as it gets. there are people you are naturally interested in, for reasons you cant explain. sometimes they arent even your type or you might find them ugly in a way. often times their good looks help push that chemistry.
you do need to 'click'. stop acting like romance should be a simple mathetmatic equation.
>what are they even looking for?
someone that makes them feel special. no, going out of your way to make someone feel special isnt the same thing. there are natural reactions between two people that cant be explained. thats the whole point of love.
are you aying you've never had a crush on someone before? you never knew someone and couldnt really say why they were the special one, but you knew it was them?
you can walk into a room filled with pretty girls, but only one might give you the butterflies.
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Chemistry has to do with both how you are alike and how you are different, as well as some subconscious stuff that may have to do with your parents and upbringing, nationality, and even a little bit of genetic influence
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Need advice on moving out 2016-06-17 17:10:01 Post No.17264572
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Need advice on moving out
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I'm 24/m/usa, I graduated art school a year and a half ago and am currently living with my parents. They always told me growing up they'd pay my way to school, and I always knew I wanted to be an artist, and that finding a way to make money off it after graduation would take time, so here I am a year and a half later living in their house. I expected this to happen, and I was prepared to deal with it.
I just had a job interview go really well for a full time job at an autobody repair shop, and I could start working there in a month or so once the owner gets back to me. I'd be making easily enough money to move out of my house and live in an apartment somewhere, and spend all my free time drawing, looking for better jobs, and just generally living independently.
But here's the thing: My sister is a fucking maniac and my parents can't deal with her or control her. Without going into details, she's got three kids with one wannabe rapper boyfriend whos been in and out of jail, and those three kids spend six days a week at my parents house, sometimes seven. My dad works during the day so my brother and I help my mom watch the kids when they're not at preschool/kindergarden. During the school year I drive them to school and my brother picks them up. Maybe twice a week I'll spend half a day having to watch the kids, usually any day they're home I'll spend a minimum of an hour around them.
They're great kids, but they're not mine and they're not my responsibility. I don't want to spend the rest of my life as a college graduate who moved back in with his parents, or helping mop up my sisters mistakes while she continues to fuck up her life further and further. I want to move out and do my own things. But my mom keeps trying to convince me to stay at home. She says she wants to help me raise money, but I know its because she needs help with her grandkids. (1/2)
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I don't know what to do. On the one hand, I really, really love the idea of living independently and being responsible for myself and so on. Every older person I know has always told me to take my younger years and be as selfish as possible, only focusing on bettering myself and my career. To never bother with getting married until I'm at least thirty, if then. Work hard now, get a good job, then relax and settle down later, etc. But on the other hand, I'd feel guilty leaving my parents to deal with my sister and their grandkids all on their own, especially when they so graciously paid my way through something as volatile as art school without asking me to pay them any money in return.
I really wouldn't mind sending them some of the money I make for a babysitter, or daycare, or for someone to come by once a week and clean the house or something. But living here in the house I grew up in is just making me listless and tired. Every day I get less and less work done, and every day these toddlers and their reckless mother grate on me more and more. I don't know what to do. Staying here is just going to slowly make my life awful, but moving could end up making my parent's lives worse.
What do you guys think I should do?
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You know you can move out and still lend a hand at home when they need it. Just get a place in the same town.
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Yeah, thats what the original plan is. The job is only a 10-15 minute drive from their house, and whatever nearby apartment I can get (I've scouted a few cheap ones) will hopefully be reachable on bike, so if they really need me I'd be like 20 minutes away absolute max. I think my mom knows that, but she's still apprehensive.
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Should I live in a big city with little to no friends and support? Or move back to a small town with a lot of friends and family?
Big city has a lot of opportunities for me, but my life is in shambles right now due to ending a serious LTR.
Feeling really alone. Starting a temporary job in big city, living with roommates I don't know who don't speak English and are just generally fucking gross and annoying.
What do?
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Why not?
Try it.
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>>17264573
Try what? Looking to make a decision one way or the other.
I've lived in the big city for around two years now. Feeling really burned out and wondering if it's worth it to stay here right now.
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Big city with no support will test your fucking soul. If you are ambitious and don't let anything get in the way of your goals, you will prosper.
If not, you will just become one of the sad and lonely souls trawling the dark corners of the Internet until 3am every night wondering why you don't just put a bullet in your skull because no one loves you and it wouldn't make a difference.
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>Cute co-worker gets moved to my shift
>I've always seen her around, but never really had the guts to talk to her before
>Notice she's reading some manga, strike up a conversation
>We get along for a few days
>Eventually the topic about good places to eat is brought up
>She finds out I don't go out much because I don't know the best eateries
>She insists on taking me around town all this weekend for food, drinking, and anime
>Watching Willow right now at her place, we're getting ramen later
How can I ask her out on an actual date without risking our friendship? She's really cool, and I don't want to make things awkward if she's not intrested.
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>>17264463
Do not ask her out!!! Don't you realise strongest relationships start as a friendship? Be cool and be patient. Play her game, go places she wants you to take. Find out what type of person she is, what she wants in guys. Be the guy she wants to date but dont show her toyr attraction. At one point she will fall for you but that comes with time. As long as you're not showing even the slightest sign that you want to date her.
She must fall for you and only then you can go for the kill
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>>17264502
How to become a beta orbiter: the post
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>>17264534
I've infiltrated vagina's by being her friend for a good while. I've fucked girls who were friends before.
Just don't let the moment pass you.
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How do I get a traditional wife?
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>>17264454
Cosplay conventions.
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>>17264454
Go to an agriculture school in the middle of nowhere.
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>>17264471
Those are the opposite you faggot.
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>brother's a cunt
>mom's a cunt that always takes brother's side
>"Anon you should totally come on a vacation with us!"
>turns into a shitstorm, fights and a gigantic headache, basically a repetition of every time I've been with these faggots on vacations before
Feels bad not having a decent family you can rely on and actually respect.
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Oh yeah I forgot to mention how my shitheel brother cancels plans last minute after I already took time off for his dumb ass and paid for the hotel. I know you're supposed to "love your family" and all that but mine are truly cucks and horrible beings.
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>>17264451
You sound like fun
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Op, you missed that you're a cunt too. Must be genetic.
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How to get the 9-10/10 2016-06-17 16:02:14 Post No.17264380
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Seriously, someone tell me an example of an interaction that landed them smashing that perfect girl. I can pull 7's without issue, and even 8's on occasion, but elite-tier girls are not something I've experimented with yet.
Is the style of conversation almost the same, or do you have to play your words in a different manner? Please give any success stories you lads have had or general advice!
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You can't tame a 9-10/10 its just plain impossible. You need to wait until they turn 30 to actually try to get her as your gf. They know they have the upper hand in rhe game and are going out for as many dicks as possible. I had one and she was one out of million but she had to go back to Cyprus so the only chance I had to tame a 10/10 faded away. Shit happens man, just date 7-8/10's for now...
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>>17264380
They're just girls--as insecure, self-doubting, and desperate for validation as any others.
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>>17264415
This, kind of. They're people too - they just get treated differently because of how they look. If you treat them exactly the same way as you treat the "7's and 8's" you'll eventually see success
t. someone who seduced and dated one using the method described
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I have a girlfriend from Japan and she is very strict against smoking weed. I'm not a stoner, I do it like three or four times a year. However, she suggests to stop because it "changes my brain" and what not. Everytime I try to tell her that it is not that bad if you don't smoke everyday or every week she just blocks away and changes the topic. How can I convince her that weed is not a hell of a drug and less dangerous than alcohol?
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Mate I smoke weeds occasionally and nothing's wrong with me
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why do you care to convince her?
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Why not just stop smoking weed?
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Ever ruined your life? 2016-06-17 15:23:35 Post No.17264278
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No, I mean really ruined.
5 years ago I was in a car with some friends who were smoking weed, no big deal. Naturally, we were pulled over and all charged, it's just the way of things.
I went on a STET docket, which essentially means the judge thinks it's a waste of time to sentence me, I don't plead guilty, he just says "don't get in trouble."
And for 5 years, I haven't, but, to this day, that black mark still costs me job interviews.
How the fuck can I ever fix this?
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>>17264278
How the fuck does a misdeameanor stop you from getting jobs? It literally can't. There's something else stopping you
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>>17264413
This. Also, even if that was the reason you aren't getting a job, you're being melodramatic as fuck. People have come back from wayyy worse than that. You didn't "ruin your life" - at worst you just caused yourself an inconvenience
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>>17264278
I once got plastered and sexually assaulted my sister because I hated myself and wanted to die but I wanted to get laid before I died.
But I ended up I felt bad as she screamed when I tried to pull her pants off so I stopped.
I got kicked out of my house.
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Worried about a mental evaluation coming up. 2016-06-17 15:10:58 Post No.17264245
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Worried about a mental evaluation coming up.
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I have a mental evaluation in a few hours to determine if I should still be receiving SSI. I'm worried they won't think I'm mentally ill "enough" because I'm "smart" and "well-spoken".
The problem is, I spend most of my days pulling myself together as much as possible and trying to seem as normal as possible. I get deeply embarrassed and ashamed of my depression, anxiety, inability to focus and think, and OCD. I haven't been on medication for years because I went to a psychiatrist who made consistent rude comments about my appearance and would accuse me of not taking my meds when I told her I felt worse and I didn't think something was working for me.
Most days I struggle to get out of bed, clean myself, or avoid constant intrusive thoughts. I pick at my skin on my hip (I stopped cutting years ago), I pull out my eyelashes (I haven't had any for most of my life and pull them when I'm stressed out, I was completely bald on my head at one point but I somehow ended up only doing it a little on the back of my head now), and I can't call myself agoraphobic since I do go outside but I've missed four weddings in the past ten years because I can't make myself go outside. I lost my last job because I got so nervous I'd sit in the bathroom crying even if logically I could tell myself it was fine. I didn't show up a few days because I couldn't make myself leave the house, either, but you can't tell your boss that. The job I had before that I lost during a manic phase. I didn't realize how much I was talking and how fast I was going and I ended up screwing up the math and being under by $10, which was grounds for instant firing.
A few days ago I spilled some soup and basically had a nervous breakdown and started sobbing and I don't know why, I just felt intensely sad.
I'm not on meds and can't lie and I don't know what to say or not say. Any advice would be appreciated so I'm not denied.
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Take some meds and be a productive member of society, holy shit.
Or if you're so "smart" work from home or something.
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you should be on meds. take your meds, they help
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>>17264256
I didn't say I was smart, I said people cal me that.
I already know I'm mentally ill and need to be on medication. I'm asking for advice, not for someone to state the obvious.
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My girlfriend found porn on my phone 2016-06-17 14:51:12 Post No.17264191
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My girlfriend found porn on my phone
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So /adv/ I was showing my gf a meme and when I went to my memes folder on my phone I forgot I had just moved some random pic of this blonde chick with her tits out last night. Deleted now so don't ask. What do?
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>>17264191
What exactly is the problem?
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>>17264191
Think nothing of it, because clearly it seems like she don't give a shit.
Case closed.
>showing memes to anyone outside of here
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>>17264195
OP here, so essentially she saw it and left my house to go pick up her sister, as she got into her car I said "something is up", and she said "yeah it is, I need time to think about it"
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My girlfriend is making me choose between she and my best friend who is a girl, we broke up recently and I started making out with my best friend and now my (ex) girlfriend wants to come back and so do I but ahe told me to stop talking to her
Wat to do m8s
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Don't go for your girlfriend. You broke up for a reason and there's a risk she wants to come crawling back now that she's heard you're messing around with your friend.
Make your friend into a girlfriend or friend with benefits or stop hanging out with her if you want another relationship. No sane person is going to be cool with you being friends with a girl you fooled around with - would you be cool dating a girl with a good male friend she kissed?
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>>17264148
>someone you broke up with once already
>your best friend
Sounds like a no-brainer to me. Personally, I'd take an ultimatum like that as an insult.
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>>17264198
I mean I know but she was my best friend too and I know her for 4 years
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Is online dating a waste of time if you are male? 2016-06-17 13:59:50 Post No.17264049
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Is online dating a waste of time if you are male?
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Is online dating a waste of time? Been messaging for weeks now. Got a single message back. Go to message average girls abd sometimes their inbox is full.. FULL!
Why is online dating so shitty if you are a guy? I can't even get that confidence boost that women get knowing dudes are after them.
Is online dating even worth it if you are a guy?
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No it isn't worth it
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>Spend zero time learning how to talk to girls
>Wonder why you suck at a medium where that's all you can do
Gee whiz
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A friend of mine in his 30's got several matches, though he was using like 10 sites. I believe he met a few irl. Crazy bithces according to him.
I'll definitely try online dating when I can be fucked to take a selfie etc.
Be aware though that 95%+ of the users are men. Don't pay for the sites