>the argument
Started off with me saying its bad to have a society so far away from the starter structure of a basic society because we'll be fucked at any hint of catastrophe. So we should have women that arent too far detatched from doing womanly things just like we should have everyone not too far detatched from being able to spell their names. Then it got into the blacks and her saying they are only in their situation because of white people and I said everything you see is literally a first hand example of organic dominance we are not nearly as aware of it as we think and that groups of people behave like bacteria. Then she slapped me and walked out of the room.
Did I fuck up? Was it too much red pill? How am I wrong?
You hold different points of view. Both are possible. Once a civilization is significantly better structured and thriving all around, it would be hard for others to compete. You can argue that this is due to organic dominance, but it could be because of chance as well. Chance is a big element in Darwinism, there is a randomness to it all. The very idea of survival of the fittest is fairly random - it is about a good match between environment and organism, not about which organism is objectively the strongest or healthiest.
Either way, it's less that you are logically wrong and more that you made it clear that you regard other races as innately inferior. That is more than some people can handle. It means you are incompatible and have found that out now.
>>17264244
History was not made by dice rolls. Not to throw your words to the side but these people simply were more organized then than they are now. These were intelligent and highly sophisticated people. Could you organize an entire army and ship fleet with carrier pigeons and random peasants to spread messages?
There is no reason to understate the achievement we've made. Overhead cost being an "issue" is quite a new concept. We used to shoot for the stars.
Your views are extreme by many peoples' standards. Better that both of you found out now that you have opposing views than down the line.
I really don't know why I should keep going.
I know I shouldn't feel this need for affection and validation from others, but I do. I've tried to get rid of it for the past two years with no success. Life just doesn't seem worth living just for myself.
But I'll never have anyone. It's just the truth. Even I wouldn't date myself, let alone go anywhere further. I'm a mess of disability and sickness with absolutely no social skills due to near-isolation in my childhood, and I have to actively force myself to care about the feelings of others.
Not to mention I'd be a burden for anyone I'd get involved in, not even just because of my physical state. I just can't seem to handle life beyond the most basic of fucking requirements. I mean, no surprise, I guess, until I was an adult everyone just did everything for me, then they suddenly expected me to just figure it out. I did, except not really, because while I'm not starving or homeless, anything beyond ensuring my survival gives me a near panic attack. I can't even force myself to see a shrink about it.
There's no one I can ask to help, because I have literally no friends, and my family is stuck in the attitude of "just man the fuck up". Thanks I guess.
The only time I even feel happiness is when indulging in intense escapism. Every time I go back to reality, I want to die.
When I think of where I see myself in a decade, it's either exactly where I am, or a fucking cemetery.
If no one would truly care if I died, not for more than a month or two, is there really a reason to stick around?
You have a choice:
Wallow in self-pity and self-hatred, accepting your fate as a social pariah
or
Ask yourself how you can change the things you don't like about yourself, set goals, and make every effort to achieve them
If you're not willing to take option number 2, then expect more of the same. Just know that you have a choice, and right now you are choosing to be miserable and pathetic. You aren't an unsavable victim of society
>>17264205
>victim of society
Of course I'm not. Aside from the independence issues, which may very well be me trying to subconsciously shift blame, every single one of my problems has its source in myself. I'd have to be retarded to fail to realize it. But that's really the problem.
I don't know, maybe I'm just too weak. It all seems insurmountable, just straight up impossible to deal with alone. Every time I tried, it got overwhelming and I retreated back to where I am.
All goes to prove my point. My death would be no loss whatsoever. Just natural selection, or some shit.
>>17264227
It sounds like you've already given up. Why bother coming here for advice? You know what needs to be done, yet you refuse to do it. Nobody is going to pity you or care about you if you refuse to help yourself.
Hey /adv/ I need your help
So I'm going out to a movie with a girl. The thing is I don't know if it's a date or not. I want it to be but I don't want to fuck up trying to kiss her or hold her hand and look like a fucking idiot when she's not interested. How do I test the waters before I go in during the movie?
TL;DR - how can I test to see if a girl is ok to kiss during a movie
We need a little more context than that man. How do you know her? Since when? How did you ask her to go? What is your history together? Does she ever talk to you about relationship stuff - guys she likes or anything like that?
>>17264155
I've known her since 8th grade (12th grade now) I got her to go the movie when she went to a concert and said I wish you would've came with me and I said "pay me back with a movie?" And she said "I'm down" and the only really other guy talk she told me about is about how cute Ed Sheeren is like once
compliments > flirting > touching (hand, arm, shoulder) > and then maybe AT THE END a kiss
don't rush it champ it's your first date
So I'm a kissless virgin and I recently met a girl that wants to hook up. She's also a kissless virgin.
The problem is, I have no idea what to do. I don't know how to kiss, I don't know what to do with my hands, and I don't know how to move things forward.
So how would you describe to me, a kissless virgin, the right way to kiss?
Like you kiss your pillow
>>17264158
That doesn't really help. Never kissed a pillow before.
>>17264114
Sadly OP this is one of things you learn yourself.
We've all been there and we've all got through it.
I think I need some help...
I'm the oldest among my siblings, yesterday I came beck from work to find that my younger brother, have moved some stuff into my room, in order to move in, and in doing so he ruined my "comfy" place.
Eventually an argument raised and my mother ended up crying.
Did I over react?
>>17264103
I hate when people mess with my shit too, and they never think they did anything wrong.
Your mother crying means that there is some other thing bothering her and this was the last straw.
>>17264119
>Your mother crying means that there is some other thing bothering her and this was the last straw.
I believe so too, her health isn't that well.
I try to be sensitive to her, but somehow I end up the bad guy.
>argument over comfy place
yes, you overreacted, you autist.
Ok guys special matter here.
Gotta go to a birthday party. Yay.
I come from /fa/.
They told me "Dress elegant. But look like a communist. Put on a tie."
Also it's hot as fuck.
Would you consider this a proper outfit? I'm posintg here since i need a more social point of view than the exquisites on /fa/.
No I wouldn't. What the fuck? First off, is it a formal occasion? If so, tuck your shirt in, ditch the weird wide brimmed flat tie for a skinnier one. Are those dress pants? I hope so. Make sure your shoes match your belt. Ditch the jacket for one that fits better
Did you cut the tie yourself? Also, unless it's a birthday party for the Fuhrer I'm not going to wear a tie. I would get rid of the tie and unbutton the top button. That's party mode.
>>17264098
Is it formal?
If it isn't, no tie and no jacket. You can go with a shirt, jeans and nice shoes.
If it is formal, find a fucking fitting jacket and a decent tie. These suck.
found out from my co-worker today that I'm going to loose my job and I feel like such a fool
I was put on at a resteraunt over a busy period, and it seems like after that they are just going to get rid of me when they don't need me
I work my hands to the bone for these people, and I'm stung that they wouldn't even telegraph it to me; rather they would just suddenly say goodby and leave me scrambling to find more work, I feel disgraced tht I was the last person to know it was happening
What advice are you asking for?
Start finding new employment and leave with grace, faggot.
>>17264002
Ah yus, I remeber a time i loosed my job.
it was defiantly won of the werst days ever. Irregardless, I holeheartedly serched 4 another won. All of a sudden, I got won after 2 moths of serching.
"woo hoo" I sed.
Open your own restaurant and run them into the ground by providing better service.
Honestly there isn't much advice we can give you other than what was said by >>17264023
Is it a bad thing to have high standards? My high standards only involve personality, hobbies, job stuff etc. I don't care about looks at all, as long as the guy showers and I'd hope for a small to average penis, not big.
For example, I want a guy who doesn't drink alcohol and doesn't do drugs. Is it too unrealistic to expect that?
>>17263979
What exactly are you searching for though? It sounds like you are just looking for someone that is a male version of yourself?
Your standards are still based on superficial things though. These things don't define someone anymore than what they look like. Searching for the right romantic partner is not about finding someone who exactly fits your mould of what YOU think is perfect. The perfect guy for you might drink and do drugs and might be into entirely different hobbies than you. It comes down to what they can offer you emotionally and how you connect as human beings.
So yes, it is unrealistic to be waiting around for this mystical perfect man. Focus on being the person you want to be yourself and you will attract the right people eventually.
>>17264043
I see. Well I still am going to turn down alcoholics and drug addicts, but if a guy can use them moderately it will be okay.
I've been dumped for having too different hobbies than the guy I was dating so I thought that's just normal to want to have something in common?
>I'm also obnoxiously religious
>I will never make more than $15/hour
>I think we should split the housework even if I don't work anywhere near as hard as my husband
>I don't really know how to cook or keep a clean house
>But I just want a nice, funny guy, y'know?
For a few years now I can't really experience any emotions other than the occasional anger or satisfaction. I don't remember being happy, enthusiastic or sad in a long time and I can't really connect with other people.
When my grandma who raised me for a few years died I was bothered only by the fact that I have to travel to her town and attend the funeral. Someone there even asked me how I can be so detached at the funeral. Even if I imagine one of my friends or parents dying I can only see myself being bothered by the implications and not by their actual death. I also am not interested in meeting new people or even spending too much time with my friends. I only go out once every 2 weeks or so and I spend most of my free time in solitude. This also means I haven't have a girlfriend or even sex since I was a teenager because I lost almost all my interest in these things, I'm fine with masturbating once a couple of days.
According to google this may be a sign of depression, but I really don't feel depressed. I actually feel quite good about life overall, but I can't say I'm exactly happy and I feel like I'm missing out on something. When I was a child and even as a teenager (I'm 23 now) I was very emotional, I was the kind of kid who cried at a sad movie or story and I would let anything affect me, be it positive or negative. I kind of miss being so happy and enthusiastic for little reason, even though some things are much better now.
So has anyone experienced this? Any guesses as to what the cause might be? Can it be reversed?
>Can it be reversed?
Why would you do that? You can think completely clearly now without distractions.
Either you have a rollercoaster of emotions or you have a steady level of contentedness at best. I'd rather have the latter.
Let's all love Lain.
I managed to get married though despite having snake-like levels of feelings. I can appreciate physical comforts at least.
Sex is not really happening admittedly.
What does this mean?
So I met this girl about four months ago. I absolutely adore her, the time we spent together are absolutely the best in my life and I'm looking forward to see her everytime I'm without her. We are just friends though. She feels the same way about me, we are both kinda on the silent side though. After a few months of friendship we decided that we're gonna drop some acid for the first time in our lives because we were both inclined towards this.
That was two months ago when we dropped it for the first time. This week we dropped another. We were at her place watching a film in her bed and in the middle of it we dropped two tabs. It was beautiful, it was her birthday and we spent it together. What I noticed though was that we don't really talk much. When the acid hit it was really hard to find words. We were at her room just enjoying the trip until like 11 p.m. and then we hit off to a bar.
Then again, most of the times we didn't really talked much. I told her about that why are we spending so much time willingly together when we don't really talk and she said that it's okay that she just enjoys my company.
What do you do when you are on acid? We just spent everytime totally lost in our minds it seems to me, I love it though but it gets me confused as fuck everytime.
>>17263927
It seems like pure enjoyment. Just enjoy these moments
fucking crackhead
>>17263998
kek
So it´s practically impossible to be suicidal and longing for sweet release without offending someone, family or loved one or even therapist. But I can't take it anymore. How do I make my death seem accidental? Should seem genuine, they have their eye on me.
>>17263926
>without offending someone
Why? You'll be fucking dead dude.
>>17263931
I know, but I don't want them to suffer more than they would and this thought makes me uneasy while still alive. Maybe even clumsy, I don't want that
>>17263926
enroll in an american high school
I'm currently an 18 year old, Chinese Australian working at McDonald's and hoping to become a teacher in the future. My passion lies in teaching and I plan on taking up a degree very soon.
The problem is this: I want to teach English but since Australia is still a racist shithole, I can't reasonably expect to teach English being an Asian and whatnot. And each university having 1,000 graduates for bachelor of education each year means it's very much competitive to get any teaching job in the first place.
Now moving to Japan didn't sound like a bad idea at first, but I understand the cultural differences would mean less interaction between the student and the teacher unlike in the schools I've studied in which fosters a very whimsical learning environment.
I understand that teaching in the two countries would be very different, but this is probably my only option, since I can't expect a reasonable pay in other countries, what should I do?
Should I just stay in Australia and take up another degree?
Is NZ an option?
>>17263900
I don't really consider western countries an option for teaching English since they're most likely to not hire me due to my ethnicity, although I am considering middle-eastern countries, since I heard they pay just as well as Japan.
Given my oriental looks, I'd be more likely to fit in in Japan than a middle-eastern country.
>>17263905
Maybe you should work on your victim complex first.
This will be longer story, just saying.
So my gf has some kind of neurosis that, when she's just a little bit stressed over something, causes her to think only about the worst scenarios of what would happen in certain situation (i. e. she has exams on uni now, and of course she assumes she will fail them, even though for me it doesn't seem very probable as I know she's one of the best students in her group), or see problems and unpleasant situations as more serious, hard to deal with and generaly more stressfull than they are. As these situations don't happen that often, usually I was able to deal with it and somehow managed to help her calm down. But now, she had really bad luck recently. First she got very sick in April (for almost two weeks) so she was absent on uni, and then after a week she had to stay another month at home because she got so mentally destabilized by that previous sickness, and on the top of that she got anemic due to her poor diet and hectic lifestyle and was feeling like she was going to pass out any moment. So after this when she got back on uni she obviously is stressed as fuck about her exams and what not. Of course she talked to the dean and he granted her extended exam session so she could somehow make it on exams. But still she's totally unstable now.
(Tbc in next posts.)
The worst thing about it is that I'm unable to cheer her up. She's crying over all this shit every day. That she will have to repeat the year, that she shouldn't have stayed home for that long (which was necessary though, she got medicine from psychiatrist which started working over the time, and it took a while until she was over her anemy as well). That every day problems (like her dad having some problems with work or car breaking down) are going to have tragic consequences. That every one is fed up with her since she's annoying them with her behavior. Sad thing is it's actualy kinda true. Her parents aren't realy that empathic, and as for me, well, I also have hard time with my exams and work, so dealing with her is sometimes a little too much for me. Especially that nothing is working on her. I tried everything: calming her down by assuring her everything is going to turn out well; convinving her logically that her fears are irrational (she won't fail exams since she's well prepared for them even though she was absent for such a long time, for example); I even tried to be harsh on her and told her to get her shit together and stop acting so selfish, like only she's having problems, Nothing seems to work.
Because of this situation I'm also starting to feel like shit. First because I can't help her. Second because I really get annoyed by her even though she has no control over it and I should rather stay with her and help her no matter what. Third because some of her fears are just way too irrational, yet she treats her deadly seriously, and some of them are pretty problematic for me as well. We don't have have "real" sex since she's too afraid of getting pregnant, so we just play together from time to time, but it's always safe (even though I don't penetrate her, I use condoms and such, and never ever any fluids - be it sperm or this pre-cum shit - got in contact with her pussy in any way. Even though, when her period's late, she always assumes she must have got pregnant, and NOTHING will convince her that's not possible. It's happening now as well - just before her exam session we were playing with each other, so she assumes her late period is not due her extreme stress, but rather she somehow got pregnant. This lead me to conclusion that we should stop doing it at all, but I'm not sure if it won't have a negative impact on our relation. Truth be told this intimacy got us really close, since her period isn't always late, just these few situations when it was made her stressed. But then, how could I know if her next period will be on time or not?
Not sure what should I tell more. We don't live together, we study in different cities and see each other usually twice per month (on weekends when she comes over to my place or I come to hers). We're together for two years now and we really love each other. I would do anything that would make her feel better, even though I feel more and more irritated by her nowadays. She's going to start some therapy in the following months so maybe it will help her a bit (since medicines don't work on her that much, as it seems).
So... any advices on what should I be doing now?
>>17263885
>So... any advices on what should I be doing now?
Yeah, cut your losses and break up with this psycho. You just wrote a wall of text telling me how stressful and high maintenance she is. You even said she acknowledges what she's doing isn't fair to you but keeps doing it.
So tell me, why are you in a relationship with her. Dont just say because I'm in love, make a list of her positive qualities and reasons why she makes you happy. Try to write 3 of each for starters and then see if you feel this outweighs the bad. If you struggle doing this then you may need to reevaluate your relationship.
>gf's going away in a couple weeks
>been with her for 10 months
>she'll be gone for either 5 months or 4 years, depending
>if the latter we will be able to see each other a couple times a year
>Recently been finding it hard to stay faithful and she hasn't left yet
>not sure I want to be monogamous for the next 5 years even if she wasn't going
>I'm going to korea soon and it would be dope to be single when I'm there
Should I just end it before she goes?
>>17263850
Yes LD can work, but both people have to be pretty committed to making it work. If you're not ready to make that commitment or to settle down then obviously there's a much lower chance of it working out. Obviously if you're having a hard time remaining faithful and she hasn't even left yet it sounds like this relationship would be destined for failure even if she weren't leaving.
You pretty much answered your own question. Yeah, you should break up, it won't work for you because you don't want it.
Long distance is for idealists, romanticists and soldiers. It doesn't work.
How do I stop jacking off to 2D anime grills
>>17263848
Why would you?
>>17263852
because I feel disgusted with myself ):
>>17263848
Try connecting with real people again.